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Gevuros – Divine Might and Strength

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אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם אֲדֹנָי מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ: מוֹרִיד הַטָּל / מַשִּׁיב הָרוּחַ וּמוֹרִיד הַגֶּשֶׁם: מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד מְחַיֵּה מֵתִים בְּרַחֲמִים רַבִּים סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים וְרוֹפֵא חוֹלִים וּמַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים וּמְקַיֵּם אֱמוּנָתוֹ לִישֵׁנֵי עָפָר, מִי כָמוֹךָ בַּעַל גְּבוּרוֹת וּמִי דּוֹמֶה לָּךְ מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה וּמַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה: וְנֶאֱמָן אַתָּה לְהַחֲיוֹת מֵתִים: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ מְחַיֵּה הַמֵּתִים – You are mighty forever, my Master; You are the Resurrector of the dead the Powerful One to deliver us.
He causes the dew to descend / Causer of the wind to blow and of the rain to fall.
Sustainer of the living with kindliness, Resurrector of the dead with great mercy, Supporter of the fallen, and Healer of the sick, and Releaser of the imprisoned, and Fulfiller of His faithfulness to those who sleep in the dust. Who is like You, Master of mighty deeds, and who can be compared to You? King Who causes death and restores life, and causes deliverance to sprout forth.
And You are faithful to restore the dead to life. Blessed are You, Hashem, Resurrector of the dead.

Might and Strength

This blessing invites us to consider the capacity of divine might and its relevance to our lived experience. It speaks of God’s eternal strength, the power to bring dew and rain, the resurrection of the dead, the cyclical journey of life and death, and all kinds of revival, challenging us to find relatability in difficult concepts.

The perspective this blessing takes is that omnipotence is not abstract; it manifests in the very fabric of creation and life. Intimately connected to Yitzchak, the avatar of might and severity, Yitzchak’s narrative is also associated with strength and the resurrection of the dead. Our sages teach that allowing Avraham to stand over him with the knife was an act of strength and that his soul departed that moment but was restored to life and, in that moment, perfected the archetype of strength for his descendants.
yitzchsak is ketz chai
and vayiketz

Strength not kindness

This raises an intriguing question, though. We would naturally assume that life-giving is more associated with kindness than strength; why does the power of life feature so prominently in a blessing praising God’s strength?

Perhaps the answer lies in the notion that a life worth living is won through strength, sacrifice, and willingness to give of oneself. Yitzchak earns resurrection and eternity through his demonstration of ultimate strength: not with physical power but with deep courage and determination, spiritual steel, and a mentality of unshakeable resolve that made him ready to give his life for a higher purpose. In this reading, strength is a force that brings life and defies the finality of death; divine might is life-affirming.

Might is seen in the world.

God’s might can be experienced but in the foundational principles that govern existence; it is in the world that God’s strength is made evident in the ability to imbue creation with life, order, and purpose – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Strength is most commonly perceived as physical prowess. However, our sages teach a more nuanced understanding of strength, emphasizing strength as mastery over oneself, over one’s impulses and desires. Especially in the context of the Creator, divine might is not about overpowering adversaries, for none exist, but is about the inherent sovereignty and self-sufficiency of the Divine will.

In giving life and blessings to the wicked, we see God’s boundless capacity, might at play, the attribute of overcoming or prevailing, the source of our fundamental belief in the potential for transformation and redemption irrespective of past actions. In sharing the righteous with us, the people who make our world better, we see God’s might in sharing them with us.

With no counterpart, God can not do anything for another. Humans fail and make mistakes in a world that operates within the framework of free will and moral choice. Against the limitations and imperfections inherent in creation itself, we experience the Creator’s might in commitment to sustaining creation, guiding it towards fulfillment, and perfecting it from within – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Forever

We live in a temporal universe with laws of thermodynamics, where energy and power wane. As this blessing states, God’s strength is not subject to time or decay, something entirely outside our frame of reference. Eternal might is not a function of enduring strength but an expression of God’s immutable essence.

Even a magical fountain of youth or elixir of life would still only represent a weak attempt to escape the ravages of time; God’s might is eternal, not because it lasts forever in a temporal sense, but because it transcends time itself – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

 לְעוֹלָם אֲדֹנָי – Eternal Master

This phrase captures the concept of God as Master and First Cause, predating all existence. This idea delves deep into the philosophical and mystical dimensions of Jewish thought, particularly exploring the significance of the Hebrew alphabet in articulating the nature of the Divine.

The first letter of the Hebrew alphabet, Aleph, symbolizes the primordial aspect of the Divine, indicating that God precedes all creation, which starts with Beis – Bereishis. Aleph before Beisunderscores the concept of God as the ultimate origin, the Alpha or First Cause that exists beyond the confines of time and space, the unity behind the universe. More cryptically, the composition of the letter Aleph is a diagonal Vav and two Yuds, totaling 26, the numerical value of the name emphasizing God’s eternal nature as what is, was, and will be.

Yud is the first letter that combines all preceding elements in the divine hierarchy and signifies the concentration of Divine energy and potential. It represents the principle that the entirety of creation, with all its complexity and diversity, originates from a singular, unified source. This underscores the belief that all existence flows from a small thing or singular point. This concept resonates with the Kabbalistic understanding of the emanation of the divine light and the Big Bang theory of creation.

The name of God as Master further enriches our understanding of God’s relationship with the world. The combination of the letters Aleph, Yud, and the Hebrew word for judgment encapsulates the dual aspects of God’s mastery over creation: as both the compassionate sustainer and the righteous judge. This duality reflects the complex nature of Divine governance, which encompasses mercy and judgment, guiding the unfolding of creation according to the principles of justice and benevolence.

Judge the long-term

The Divine role as Master and Judge of all creation entails making hard choices, balancing kindness with strength, and navigating the intricacies of justice in a world characterized by moral and existential challenges; it is difficult when people suffer. This Divine balancing act is not predicated on the moment’s immediacy but is oriented toward the long-term fulfillment of creation’s potential.

We praise God for taking the long-term view, guided by an eternal perspective and transcending the limitations of the present – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם

God’s actions are guided by an eternal perspective, transcending the limitations of the present and envisioning the ultimate good that emerges from the divine plan.

The next world

Taking the long view and extrapolating it further, when considered in a spiritual and eschatological context, God acts not just for eternity, and not just in the world of here and now, but also the next world – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם

This teaching suggests God’s might transcends linear time as an expression of the Divine promise and presence that encompasses all realms of existence and suggests continuity between this world and the next.

Our sages teach that this world, this plane of existence, is the arena for action, challenge, and growth, where human beings can exercise free will, with Torah and mitzvos as our guiding stars. The next world, or the World to come, is understood as the realm of ultimate reward, spiritual fulfillment, and the realization of the Divine plan in its most complete form.

This blessing affirms that the two are linked and that our lives and spiritual endeavors are not isolated or ephemeral but deeply interconnected with the eternal flow of Divine purpose; we are being guided – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Understanding God’s might as encompassing both this world and the next enriches our appreciation of the Divine attributes of justice, mercy, and redemption. It assures us that this world’s complexities and apparent injustices are part of a larger, divine narrative that will find resolution in the world to come.

Power in silence

The Roman general Titus, a military commander serving in the Land of Israel, besieged and captured Jerusalem and destroyed the city and the Second Beis Hamikdash. Our sages teach that Titus blasphemed and desecrated the hallowed place, taking a prostitute over a Torah scroll, then drawing his sword and piercing the veil that separated the sanctuary from the Holy of Holies, and miraculously, blood appeared. Seeing the blood, he took it as a sign that he had succeeded in killing God.

In response to this outrageous, shocking offense, the sages reinterpreted praise from the famous Song of the Sea: not who is like you among the mighty, Hashem? But instead, who is like you among mute and silent? מִי כָמֹֽכָה בָּאֵלִם/ בָּאלמִם.

This reinterpretation suggests that might can also manifest as silence, a concept that challenges conventional understandings of power and response. R’ Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld suggests that this is precisely why our sages used the victory song at the Red Sea as their proof text. People can be silent in the face of degradation for many reasons: fear, inability, weakness, or counterintuitively, a deliberate choice rooted in strength. There are few better historical examples of God’s strength on display than the Red Sea when God destroyed the military power of the greatest empire in the world with a gust of wind.

God’s power is not in question; silence in the face of Titus’s blasphemy was an act of strength, not an absence of power.

Silence is a form of might; restraint can be more powerful than action or retaliation. When someone insults your loved ones or takes a cheap shot, it’s easy to respond with violence, and, especially if you’re capable, very hard not to; choosing not to act can require greater strength – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Hidden

Moreover, as finite beings bound by time, our existence is limited from one moment to the next; everyone worries about the future. We believe that the Creator acts for eternity, for the future, and for the world to come – לְעוֹלָם.

But fundamentally, while we can grapple with the grander picture, those are things we cannot see, know, or hope to understand. By definition, those things are not here; they are obscured from us definitionally—he’elam.

God is informed by a perspective that transcends our temporal limitations, a view we cannot access and could never hope to share; the prophets could never hope to understand. Human comprehension is inherently incapable of adopting the God’s eye view on things. Some frustrating books suggest that you negate yourself; you only feel bad because you have thoughts and feelings and want things, and if you could be objective, you would let go of those attachments and be happy. However, our subjective experience is as humans living in bodies; it makes no sense to invalidate the entire lived experience for a perspective we cannot have.

The conceptual gap is exemplified in this prayer, which traditionally consists of 49 words, symbolizing the levels of purity, impurity, understanding, and elements of creation, reflecting the complexity and depth of Divine governance over the universe.

Knowledge

For humans, knowledge of something is distinct from the thing itself. A computer, for instance, operates based on instructions; it possesses instructions but is separate from the knowledge embedded within those instructions. In contrast, to know something for God is to be one with that knowledge. This unity suggests that, from the Divine perspective, everything exists as pure information; the distinction between the knower and the known collapses, illustrating a profound level of omniscience and omnipotence.

Fascinatingly, in the hierarchy of what explains the universe, there is a small but growing voice among cutting-edge physicists arguing that causality in the universe doesn’t start with matter but with information, that the universe is a physical system that contains and processes information, that all changes in the universe are computations of different variables.

Imagine a child seeing a plane in the sky; the child can certainly understand aspects of their experience. Both simple and magical, the child sees the shape of the aircraft, its impressive size diminished by distance, and hears the distant roar of its engines. The child understands this machine flies, carrying people across vast distances faster than a car or train.

The child is oblivious to the intricate physics of aerodynamics, the principles of lift, drag, thrust, and weight that allow the plane to soar. The child has no clue about the sophisticated engineering behind the aircraft’s design, the advanced mathematical calculations that ensure its structural integrity, or the materials science that goes into its construction. The child does not see the complexities of piloting the aircraft, the vast array of instruments and lights in the cockpit, the training and skill required to navigate and communicate, or the global air traffic control network that coordinates the safe passage of flights worldwide. The child has no concept of the logistics involved in commercial aviation, route planning, flight scheduling, fleet management, and ground services support and maintenance, let alone the knock-on effects like economic and environmental considerations that influence the aviation industry, from fuel efficiency and emissions to market demand and regulatory compliance.

The child’s experience is valid. Look! There’s a plane in the sky.

Knowledge is power

Our sages teach that the Torah is the blueprint for Creation and all existence. This analogy suggests a deep relationship between the Torah and the world. At a basic level, one might differentiate between the instructions and the creation, perceiving them as distinct entities where the Torah might guide our navigation in the world. However, a deeper insight reveals that reality itself is an expression of the Torah, where the utterance “Let there be light” is not just a command that has a separate existence from reality but is the emanation of Divine wisdom that materializes and is experienced as light. Because in the realm of the Divine, there is no distinction between access to and control of information; they merge into a single reality, where the deepest knowledge of a thing is the thing itself.

The most profound understanding dissolves the separation between knowledge and existence, where the deepest knowledge of something is to be that thing. In this perspective, God’s knowledge of the universe is not external or additional to the universe; rather, the universe exists as a direct manifestation of God’s knowledge. This understanding challenges our conventional distinctions between creator and creation, suggesting an intrinsic unity where Divine will and the fabric of reality are one and the same.

Thought experiment

If you imagine a child in the park, the child is a construct or idea that exists purely within the four corners of your mind, intangible, invisible to others, yet vivid and clear to you. If you want to manipulate the environment, the weather, hair color, or anything, it’s as simple as thinking about it; access to and control of the information are the same, merged into a single reality.

When God creates, it is akin to divine imagination manifesting into reality. For God, to imagine is to create; the knowledge of the thing is the thing itself, highlighting a fundamental aspect of Divine omniscience and omnipotence – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

The unfolding of the world, and by extension, the trajectory of our individual lives, can be understood as a direct manifestation of God’s knowledge. Every challenge and obstacle we encounter, every moment that shapes our existence, is part of a divine projection of how the universe unfolds, meticulously aligned with God’s profound understanding and purpose – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Everything in our lives, from the seemingly mundane to the profoundly significant, are not random occurrences but are intricately designed within the context of the depth and longevity of God’s eternal plan, taking the long-term view, taking into account the world to come and everything concealed and hidden, extending far beyond our immediate perception and understanding – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

Acknowledging that every occurrence in our lives requires an enormous amount of God’s might to configure, align, and arrange the universe accordingly offers a humbling perspective on our place within creation. It invites us to recognize the intricate web of causality and divine will that underpins every aspect of existence. This recognition not only deepens our appreciation for the complexity and beauty of the world but also encourages us to trust in the divine process, understanding that our lives are guided by a wisdom far more significant than our own – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

In this context, navigating life’s challenges and embracing opportunities become acts of faith and alignment with the divine will. We are called to engage with our lives and the world around us with purpose and trust, knowing that our paths are part of a larger, divine tapestry. This perspective fosters a profound sense of connection to the Divine, empowering us to face the uncertainties of life with courage and confidence, secure in the knowledge that we are part of God’s eternal and mightful unfolding of the universe.

The complexities of health and illness, well-being and suffering, reflect a nuanced aspect of Divine orchestration in the world. When we consider the multifaceted factors leading to someone’s illness — the intricate interplay of genetics, environment, lifestyle, and beyond — it becomes evident that many conditions and events must align for health to be disrupted. This perspective invites us to recognize not only the Divine might inherent in the process of healing but also the might involved in the unfolding of illness itself.

Life happens. People get sick and have all sorts of issues. But taking a step back, a lot has to happen for someone to get sick, considering the intricate interplay of genetics, environment, lifestyle, and beyond. There is a might inherent in the process of healing, but also recognize the might involved in the unfolding of the illness itself, on both sides of the equation, a reoccurrence of the concept of supreme power – אֵל עֶלְיוֹן.

As the supreme power with sovereignty over all aspects of creation, the Creator’s might is manifest in the very fabric of existence, in the ordering of the cosmos, and the detailed specifics of our lives, encompassing both the positive and negative experiences we encounter, whatever the outcome – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם

Reflecting on the Creator’s track record as reflected in the Torah and stories of our sages and ancestors amid the broader tapestry of Jewish history, we encounter a recurring theme of Divine intervention that reveals profound lessons about justice, strength, and purpose. From the Exodus through today, it is a safe bet that the Creator has a plan; it might not be the path that suits us best in the short run, and it might be a path that ends well for any particular person, but it always goes somewhere constructive – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם

In the early years of the Soviet Union, the regime was brutalizing and suppressing religious activity. The Lubavitcher Rebbe was arrested and interrogated at gunpoint with a smirk. “This toy has a way of making people cooperate.” The rebbe heroically replied: “That toy is persuasive to one who has many gods and only one world; I have One G‑d and two worlds.”

In a variant form, it has been said that someone who fears One fears none, but one who fears many fears any.

A person with moral clarity navigates life with an unwavering sense of purpose and direction. This clarity is not merely an intellectual understanding of right and wrong but a deep, internalized conviction that shapes every decision and action. Such individuals are characterized by their resolve and courage, standing firm in their principles even in the face of adversity or danger. Even the fear of death shrinks in the light of their convictions; there is no confusion when confronting matters of moral significance.

Yitzchak is the archetype of this conviction, the epitome of might and strength. He fearlessly faces off with death out of perfect moral clarity and faith. He freely walks with his father and allows himself to be bound and offered as a sacrifice, highlighting his deep understanding and acceptance of what is right according to his faith.

His readiness to walk towards what might have been his death without fear stems not just from obedience but from a profound belief in the continuity of existence beyond this world. Yitzchak’s conduct reveals his acknowledgment of a reality more significant than this life, anchored in the belief in something beyond and in his absolute certainty in the existence of one God, which provided him with a clear moral compass.

Forever

If these perspectives of God’s might are meaningful, then they might be particularly profound in the context of creation and free will. When we imagine something, that creation depends entirely on our will; it has no autonomy and cannot defy our intentions. The creatures of your imagination are slaves to your thoughts; they cannot hurt you and will never disappoint you. However, God’s creation of human beings is fundamentally different. By granting humans free will, God imbues creation with the capacity for independence for choice, which includes the possibility of rejecting or failing to recognize the Creator.

There is supreme might and power in creating beings capable of choosing or denying their creator. Humans can choose to trust or distrust, follow or reject God. This potential for rebellion or disbelief is what makes the gift of life and free will so profound. It underscores a might that is willing to risk vulnerability for the sake of genuine relationship and love – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם

The allowance for this choice, the possibility of turning away from God, underscores the eternal aspect of God’s might. If God had not provided this option, all creation would operate on a short-term, deterministic basis, lacking the depth and potential for growth, relationship, and moral development. The opportunity to choose God, align one’s will with the Divine, emulate God’s attributes, and participate in the ongoing act of creation and redemption gives life its ultimate meaning and purpose.

Divine might and strength are more than the power to create and sustain; they are also the freedom of creation to choose. Strength is not just about control or dominance but also about the capacity to love, to grant autonomy, and to invite relationship despite the inherent risks – אַתָּה גִבּוֹר לְעוֹלָם.

מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ – You are the Resurrector of the dead the Powerful One to deliver us.

One of Judaism’s articles of faith is that God has ultimate power over life and death and that one day, God will resurrect the dead; people who are long dead and gone will be reanimated to live and breathe once again.

Beyond the obvious and distinct idea focused solely on the miraculous restoration of life to the deceased, this phrase also serves as a nexus for a variety of themes within Judaism that affirm God as Creator, Sustainer, and Renewer of life, demonstrating how multiple ideas merge into an integrated understanding of Divine might and purpose.

What is it

In the mainstream consensus view, the arrival of Mashiach will herald an age of ultimate redemption and transformation, including supernatural events culminating in the resurrection of the dead. In this view, this period will see the revival of all Jews who have lived throughout history and who did not squander the merit to be resurrected. This belief in resurrection is more than a miraculous reversal of death; it represents a profound rectification of the world’s imperfections. It signifies the ultimate vindication of faith and virtue, a time when humanity’s spiritual and moral development reaches its culmination. The resurrection of the dead is seen as the terminal fulfillment of God’s promises to His people, a testament to His unwavering commitment and the eternal covenant between God and the Jewish people.

The waking of the deceased and their return to life is not merely a restoration of what was but a leap into a profoundly redeemed existence. In this redeemed world, the spiritual and material realms are harmonized, and the physical bodies of the resurrected are said to be free from the limitations and sufferings that characterize mortal life. This era is characterized by a direct and unmediated relationship between humanity and the Divine, with knowledge of God permeating every aspect of existence.

The resurrection thus serves as a powerful symbol of hope and faith, emphasizing that the trials and tribulations of this world are but a prelude to a future of perfect justice, peace, and spiritual fulfillment. It encourages individuals to live lives of righteousness, holding onto the belief that their actions contribute to the unfolding of this ultimate redemption. The promise of resurrection inspires a vision of the world as it could be, aligned with the will and wisdom of the Creator, where the bonds of death are broken, and life in its most exalted form is reclaimed.

Simple examples

Some examples are straightforward. The prophet Elijah prays and raises a young boy from death; his student Elisha resurrects another boy after prophesying his birth to a woman who had been kind to him. Years later, a funeral procession was interrupted by a band of raiders, and they dropped the dead man’s body into the dead Elisha’s tomb and ran for safety; when the dead man’s body touched Elisha’s grave, he came to life once again.

Our sages teach that the Jewish People at Sinai experienced revelation so intense and profound that it transcended human capacity to endure. Their souls left their bodies and had to be revived.

These resurrections preserve everything intact: the same people, in the same bodies, with the same souls, without any addition or subtraction.

Reincarnation

Jewish mysticism suggests an esoteric notion of reincarnation, the idea of souls cycling and recycling through lives or incarnations, being attached to or associated with different bodies over time, depending on their particular task in the physical world.

The notion of reincarnation introduces complex nuances to understanding the soul and its ultimate destiny in the context of resurrection and the World to Come. Some aspects of the literature and discourse seem to focus more on the soulful aspect of the World to Come, whereas Resurrection of the Dead appears to be grounded very much in the embodied existence of this world, this body. Mystical teachings suggest that there are no new souls; all souls are pre-owned or pre-loved and return to the world in different bodies across generations, raising intriguing questions about the resurrection of the dead and which incarnation of a soul would be revived.

Would you come back as yourself from the lifetime you consciously know? Or as the woodcutter from the Middle Ages?

This question touches on whether our soul is synonymous with our consciousness, especially in the context of reincarnation and resurrection, and delves into profound philosophical and theological territories. The distinction between soul and consciousness becomes particularly pronounced when considering the concept of reincarnation, where a soul may inhabit multiple bodies across different lifetimes without a continuous memory of its past incarnations.

The lack of memory from one life to the next suggests a lack of continuity of identity; if you do not remember past lives, the notion of “you” in the context of subsequent incarnations becomes complex and perhaps meaningless. This suggests that the soul may be constant, traversing through time and bodies. Still, the consciousness, what we experience as personal identity, memories, and experiences, is specific to each lifetime and not the same.

Mysticism teaches that the soul has an anatomy, each with its unique role and function. The root of the soul, or its most essential part, experiences various lifetimes, gathering experiences and fulfilling its corrections – Tikkunim.

A reincarnation is not a copy and paste of the soul’s experiences across lifetimes, but rather that each incarnation, each iteration consciousness associated with a soul’s fragment, root, source, or spark, has its own unique significance and merit. Perhaps it’s something like another instance of software running on standard hardware; it’s not the same program but runs on similar tooling. Everybody, every consciousness, every individual, is still unique from person to person, even within a framework of reincarnation, and a simple yet profound explanation is that all expressions of the soul’s journey are acknowledged and resurrected. Revival of the dead is the restoration of all lifetimes of the soul without pretending to understand how the transfer or restoration of consciousness might work – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

Example

Within the parameters of reincarnation, particularly through the lens of fixing specific aspects of the soul across lifetimes, each lifetime is viewed as an opportunity for the soul to address and rectify different facets of its imperfections or to fulfill its unique mission.

If Reuven lives a wholesome and high-quality life filled with good deeds but neglects one specific spiritual task or fails to correct the one misdeed he was supposed to, an aspect of Reuven’s soul returns as Shimon. If Shimon also lives a wholesome and high-quality life filled with good deeds but, like Reuven, misses that one particular aspect, the soul is still incomplete and imperfect, illustrating reincarnation’s complexity.

Reuven and Shimon’s lifetimes are not worthless; they are not write-offs. On the contrary, they are wholesome and high-quality, precious and essential. The association and overlap between them are remote; their identities branch off early on in what constitutes the individual self and identity, moving beyond the idea of the soul as a singular, unchanging entity across lifetimes. They may share a root or spark, a common foundation that overlaps, but little else; each lifetime is an independent and separate manifesting of the soul’s essence with its own unique identity expressed by personality, circumstances, and challenges faced specific to each incarnation.

Practical

The idea that each individual has a unique mission in life sounds good, but there are a limited amount of virtues, so at face value, at least, they would appear to be commoditized. Everyone has to work on their anger and patience, after all.

While the mission may be shared, the objectives are unique; only you can achieve what is expected within the parameters of your life. The context in which we are called to develop these virtues and how we achieve them are deeply individual.

The uniqueness of one’s mission in life is not merely about the end goal but the journey and the methods employed to reach that goal. For one person, cultivating patience might involve learning to navigate the challenges of a demanding career without losing composure. For another, it might mean facing personal adversity or illness with grace and resilience.

Each individual’s mission unfolds within the unique parameters of life they are given. This includes their specific circumstances, challenges, personality, and the particular set of relationships and roles they occupy. The way one person is expected to exhibit patience will differ from another, not because the virtue itself is different but because the life situations calling for patience are unique to each person.

What this means, then, is that every person’s life is specific and non-fungible, meaning it cannot be exchanged or replicated in the life of another. The combination of soul, situation, and circumstances creates a unique path that only that individual can walk. This perspective emphasizes the intrinsic value and irreplaceability of each person’s contributions to the world.

You alone can do it; no one can do it for you.

Do-overs

Our sages suggest that Moshe was a reincarnation of an aspect of Noah. God warned Noah about the Flood, and Noah didn’t take the opportunity to argue with God. He didn’t try to save his world or give humanity a chance; he just left them to their fates without taking responsibility for anyone other than his family; everyone else wasn’t his problem.

Moshe grew up in the palace; he was a prince of Egypt, and a life of luxury and pleasure was his if he wanted. To distance himself from their struggles and remain in the comfort of Pharaoh’s palace, all he had to do was do nothing, but that was too difficult. He walked away from it all, chose to engage deeply with the Jewish People, and permanently tied his fate to theirs.

Moshe did Noach’s job, fixing what Noach could not.

Making amends perfectly, as described by Maimonides, occurs when an individual is confronted with the same scenario, circumstances, outlook, and condition as a previous failure but makes a different, positive choice. With the same building blocks and inputs, a person generates a different outcome; this concept emphasizes the power of free will and the capacity for human beings to change their course, embodying the essence of repentance and spiritual growth.

The function of reincarnation is to make amends on a particular element; souls are given opportunities across lifetimes to encounter similar challenges and make different choices, making amends for past misdeeds or failures, encompassing the collective destiny of the people and the world. It provides a mechanism for addressing and rectifying the spiritual shortcomings of the past.

Strong and mighty

Reviving the dead transcends the natural order, confronting and overcoming the most immutable law of the natural world: the finality of death. Reversing the ultimate limitation of the most irresistible force breaks the natural orders and showcases Divine might.

But it can also be understood metaphorically, extending the concept of reviving the dead to encompass a broader spectrum of human experiences of renewal and recovery.

Particularly for people who have worked in a medical setting, people can return to life from a state of cardiac arrest or cessation of breathing, literal and dramatic manifestations of a resurrection of the dead. Athletes have died on the field of globally televised sporting events, to be brought back from the brink of death through medical intervention, serving as powerful, tangible examples of life being renewed in the face of seemingly irreversible cessation – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ

In the context of individuals and families incapacitated by illness, people unable to lead a fulfilling life due to their physical conditions, there are instances of complete and miraculous recoveries, the return to a life of activity and engagement, often against all odds. This interpretation celebrates the Divine might in facilitating healing and restoration from a life of living, not only from the brink of death but also from conditions that severely limit one’s ability to live fully – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ

Moreover, there are moments in life when a person can be alive and breathing but feels spiritually or emotionally dead, empty, and hollow. The capacity exists for these people to find strength and life once again, and in particular, through the power of prayer, discovering renewed life they thought was lost; realizing the transformative power of faith and divine assistance in reviving one’s spirit, providing a path out of despair and into a renewed sense of purpose and vitality – a resurrection from the dead.

Even more broadly, the morning prayers thank God for returning our souls upon waking because sleeping is a little bit like death, or perhaps death is a little bit like sleeping. This suggests death extends beyond a physical state and encompasses the spiritual and existential dimensions. It suggests that life is characterized not merely by physical signs of life, such as breathing and brain activity, but by the presence of a soul fully engaged in purposeful action and choice.

It is possible to be in a form of waking death, meaninglessly existing without engaging in purposeful action, choice, or exercising one’s freedom of choice, even if biologically alive; the person’s soul is not engaging in its potential through action, growth, and decision-making.

As the Torah encourages us, we must choose life; a life without freedom is a form of death – ובחרת בחיים. Without making a choice, we have denied ourselves life. This principle suggests that the essence of life is found in our capacity to make choices that reflect our values, aspirations, and commitments. The act of choosing is what differentiates a life fully lived from mere existence. Through choice, we exercise our freedom, shape our destiny, and express the divine spark within us.

If sleeping and not doing anything is a form of death, then not choosing is also a form of death, highlighting the existential consequence of inaction and passivity. A life devoid of choice and active engagement is presented as a diminished form of existence, lacking the vitality and purpose that define true life. This perspective challenges us to consider how we might be living passively without making conscious choices that align with our deepest values and purpose.

Every moment in life must be intentional and implies a conscious engagement with our lives, where we are not merely drifting along with the flow of events but are actively shaping our journey according to our values and aspirations. It suggests a life lived with purpose, where each decision reflects a deliberate choice toward a desired future rather than being a passive reaction to circumstances.

The stagnation that comes from allowing yesterday’s decisions to dictate today’s actions without reflection or reassessment can be a circular path that leads nowhere new, stifling growth and preventing meaningful progress. It is essential to choose, to break free from the inertia of past choices, and to forge a new path reflective of our current understanding and aspirations.

Axis of choice

While free will is granted, it isn’t equal between people. The point of choice, the axis of our decision-making, varies from person to person. How many choices do we make from habit, convenience, or genuine reflection and discernment?

Not taking action can also be an incredible choice as well; restraint and submission are also forms of exercising free will, such as when Yitzchak cooperates with his father at Mount Moriah, and when Ahron remains silent when his two eldest sons die in a tragic accident. Both are examples of supreme acceptance and trust in God’s judgment in the face of profound challenges.

If you choose to do something a million times, it becomes the default; the true test of free will lies in decisions that push us beyond our comfort zones. In Jewish thought, reward is often associated with this struggle, with choosing to do good, especially when it is difficult or counterintuitive.

Actions that become automatic or are performed without conscious engagement rarely represent the pinnacle of spiritual achievement. For instance, choosing not to assault or rob the elderly today does not reflect a significant exercise of free will for most people, as these actions fall well outside the acceptable moral framework for society, that is not a point of choice or axis of decision-making for decent people.

Making different choices

Our sages teach that the righteous are still considered alive even in death, while the wicked are considered dead even during their lifetimes. This teaching suggests a more nuanced understanding of what it means to be alive based on spiritual vitality, ethical conduct, and the capacity for choice.

According to this perspective, true life is characterized not merely by biological functions but by the quality of one’s choices and their alignment with one’s higher self and divine will. In this context, the capacity to make choices rooted in awareness, morality, and spirituality is what imbues an individual’s existence with life; life and death are not binary but exist on a spectrum.

A newborn baby has never made a choice, and Jewish life cycle events celebrate the attainment of milestones along this spectrum, a fuller sense of life and maturity at Bar and Bas Mitzvah, emphasizing the role of conscious choice in defining spiritual vitality. As individuals mature and navigate the moral landscape of their lives, their series of choices can either enhance their alignment with their spiritual essence or lead them away from it.

When people make negative choices repeatedly until such actions become second nature, the capacity to choose differently gets smaller and smaller until it vanishes, and vice versa. Habitual actions can create spiritual inertia, distancing individuals from their ability to choose freely and align with their true nature.

A person smoking a pack of cigarettes a day for fifty years will need a cigarette in the morning. They can decide to quit and throw them all away, but will suffer severe withdrawal and will need help and interventions; the further away a person gets from natural choices where body and soul are aligned and in sync, the less alive a person is. Entrenched habits can dominate the ability to make free choices, reflecting a state of existence that is increasingly dead in the spiritual sense.

This dissonance between one’s actions and essence leads to a diminished state of being, where the capacity for meaningful choice and spiritual growth is compromised. Conversely, striving to make choices that reflect our higher selves, even in the face of difficulty or temptation, represents a movement towards greater spiritual vitality and life.

Connection is life

In Moshe’s parting speech to the Jewish People, he taught the concept that life is defined by the connection between the body and the soul and, more fundamentally, by the soul’s connection to God – Atem Hadveikim B’Hashem Elokeichem Chaim Kulchem Hayom (Devarim 4:4).

This teaching emphasizes the importance of nurturing the soul’s connection to its Divine source as the essence of true life. This connection sustains us, providing strength, guidance, and purpose. Through this divine attachment, individuals can experience a life that is fully alive and imbued with spiritual vitality and meaning.

In light of this teaching, death is the disintegration of the connection between body, soul, and God; the body returns to the earth, and the soul returns to the ether.

In our lives

Life occasionally presents us with wake-up calls, intense, pivotal experiences or realizations that reveal who we are, where we see ourselves truly for a moment, the course our lives are taking, all the things we have done, and the people we have hurt.

These can be near-death experiences or some other trigger for deep introspection that strips away the superficial layers of our existence, compelling us to face the core of who we are and what we value most. These moments can be jarring, exposing our shortcomings and misdirections with objective clarity. Yet, within this discomfort lies a powerful opportunity for growth, personal awakening, and transformation.

These moments of stark vulnerability can be a breath of life, with the power to bring profound self-realization and change into our lives, fixing our shortcomings and righting our wrongs, paving the way for true healing and renewal.

That is deliverance, a moment of resurrection of the dead – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ

The universe is a big place; the Creator saves lots of people all the time.

Life is just a series of moments, each offering the possibility for change, growth, and revival; Divine grace extends to us continuously, providing opportunities for awakening and transformation at every turn – רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

Life and death, and everything in between, happen in a moment. It happens to others, and it happens to everyone; it will happen to you. Every second of life is another renewal, another chance, highlighting the constant presence of Divine might in the world, in the subtle, everyday moments where we shift from disconnection or despair towards vitality and purpose. In this way, God’s power is manifest in every point along the spectrum of life and death, inviting us to recognize and embrace the potential for transformation inherent in our existence.

There are times most people have been depressed, dead, and buried; times people have been ill; times people have been paralyzed physically or metaphorically; and sleeping, including spiritually. Each of these has its own continuum as well: severely depressed, melancholy, feeling blue, and just a little sad. The moments we’ve felt energized, eager, switched, and excited, looking forward with anticipation, and everything in between.

These are the forces of life and death at play in our lives, manifest in our lives every moment, and it’s in God’s hands entirely. They serve as a reminder of the ever-present opportunity for renewal and the potential for transformation – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

Acting on it

Recognizing the potential for transformation is essential, especially during periods when we need it most, moments of anxiety, depression, and frustration, and moments when we find ourselves retreating from the realm of active choice. Periods characterized by emotional or spiritual stagnation can feel like a form of living death, where the vibrancy of life seems dimmed, and our capacity to engage with the world and make choices feels severely limited.

Acknowledging these transformative moments within ourselves involves a deep awareness and acceptance of our fluctuating states. Emerging from these depths, turning around from states of depression and frustration, embodies the essence of renewal and resurrecting the dead – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

When the darkness ends, when that phase turns around, bringing life to what once seemed lifeless, these turning points are often marked by a renewed sense of energy, clarity, and the re-emergence of choices that previously felt unattainable – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

Frequently, this resurgence is not just a return to a baseline mode of existence but often involves a profound breakthrough, a leap into a more engaged, vibrant, and purposeful way of living, breaking through a glass ceiling and reaching heights of personal development, and engagement with life that were once unimaginable.

It’s unilateral

One of the most profound aspects of the resurrection of the dead is that the act is unilateral and occurs independently of human effort, driven solely by divine initiative. This emphasizes the Divine might and omnipotence, capable of reviving the dead without any prerequisites such as human action, desire, or preparation.

This power showcases the Divine might like little else because even with nothing to work with, the Jewish souls that were burnt at the stake and whose bodies were desecrated in crematoria will also be reanimated.

God unilaterally brings life to the dead, to people who don’t want it, aren’t trying hard enough, or aren’t trying at all. God gives second, third, and fourth chances and brings us around, bringing us back to life at full strength; it is a comforting thought that even in our passivity or moments of spiritual lethargy, there is hope for renewal and revival.

At this point, the blessing references God’s power to bring dew and rain – מוֹרִיד הַטָּל

Our sages suggest that dew is the tool that contains the latent power to resurrect the dead at the End of Days. Dew is ordinary and unremarkable, abundant and ubiquitous. The simple function of a cold object in a warm environment is everywhere. As the object’s exposed surface cools by radiating heat, atmospheric moisture condenses faster than it evaporates, forming water droplets on the surface.

Things can look up once again; when we’re running cold, God saves us, bringing the dew everywhere, masterfully – רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

Like bringing the dew, God has been doing this for a long time and is the master of it. There are no surprises; everyone makes mistakes, and some people make many mistakes. There’s room for complete sinners to make amends, and everyone else, too.

Death is not the end.

As scientists continue to search for life in the universe, it seems like life is more of an exception than the norm. In this regard, death is not a departure but a return from a spiritual and philosophical perspective. The ultimate journey of the soul is not toward something unknown or alien but rather a return to its origin, to a state of unity with the Divine.

Death as a return rather than a departure shifts the focus from loss and finality to continuity and reunion, implying that our time in this world is temporary, a passage through which we gather experiences, learn, and grow, with the ultimate goal of returning enriched to our spiritual home. This perspective aligns with the belief that the soul pre-exists in its physical embodiment and that its earthly journey is a phase in its broader, eternal existence.

The ultimate closeness to the Divine, which is earned in this world through good deeds, finds its complete expression in Olam Haba, envisioned as a realm of reward, a state of existence where the soul experiences the fullness of its return to the Divine. It is here that the true purpose of creation is fulfilled in the soul’s reunion with its source. This eschatological belief underscores the idea that life in this world serves as a preparation, a series of choices and actions through which we strive to align ourselves with divine will and draw closer to God.

Our sages explain that it would be a degrading handout for souls to remain in Heaven basking in the ethereal light for eternity—the bread of shame. Unearned rewards can be inherently empty and meaningless, unsatisfying and even humiliating for the soul; our souls are placed into bodies so we can earn our piece of Heaven.

The Ramchal posits that real Divine might is manifested not in the mere act of creation or in bestowing blessings upon creations but in the intentional forcing of distance between God and humanity. This separation is a profound act of kindness, providing us with the space and opportunity to overcome challenges, make moral choices, and grow spiritually, thereby earning our closeness to the Divine. This journey, filled with trials and opportunities for growth, allows us to achieve a sense of accomplishment and worthiness that could never be attained through gifts alone.

Our souls can make mistakes across countless lifetimes without draining the infinite patience and kindness of the Divine. Our spiritual development is not confined to a single lifetime but spans numerous incarnations; reincarnated across time, learning to be a better human being as another human being, and another, and another, one more act of kindness, one less hurtful remark.

We are supported not only by the tangible presence of our ancestors but also by the collective experiences and hopes of past lives on deeply interconnected spiritual journeys across generations and lifetimes. Each iteration of our soul’s journey contributes to a larger tapestry of growth, learning, and aspiration towards fulfillment.

That chain of ancestors, spiritual forebears, souls, and reincarnations is cheering and rooting for you. We celebrate and welcome a baby into the world before it understands its own existence; we are perceived and supported by the Divine and our spiritual predecessors at every step of our journey, and our growth and efforts are acknowledged and valued, even when we might not fully comprehend their significance.

God gives us another go each lifetime, each day, and each second, speaking to the infinite patience and generosity of the Divine. Each moment is a series of opportunities for renewal and redemption, a chance to align more closely with our spiritual purpose.

The Creator continuously breathes life into situations and souls that might seem lost or lifeless, a cause for celebration, highlighting the endless capacity for revival and transformation and the boundless compassion of the Divine, highlighting continual presence and support in our lives, offering us countless chances to return, improve, and progress – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד מְחַיֵּה מֵתִים בְּרַחֲמִים רַבִּים

This blessing is frequently associated with might and severity within the context of Yitzchak, but God’s might is characterized by a quality that differentiates it from human expressions of might. One crucial aspect of this difference is that God’s might manifests in kindness מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד.

In the Darwinian view, the natural world is a competitive place where every creature is in an existential struggle to survive that operates largely on the principle of survival of the fittest, where the strong survive at the expense of the weak. This framework values might and dominance, often leading to a cycle of competition and exploitation.

In contrast, the Divine approach is rooted in loving-kindness, not superiority. Where there might have been the ultimate vulnerability of death and nothingness, instead, we find the most profound expressions of kindness in life and existence – מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד.

This suggests a leadership, strength, and power model that prioritizes care, support, and the promotion of life and well-being over the exploitation of others.

מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד מְחַיֵּה מֵתִים בְּרַחֲמִים רַבִּים

Kindness and compassion are benevolent emotions but are distinct and manifest differently with separate underlying motivations.

The phrase opens with kindness, just as the Amida and Creation do, highlighting the intrinsic nature of God’s kindness as proactive and unconditional. Kindness is God’s predominant aspect, the mode through which God initiates everything else, and is inherent and flows from the Divine essence, independent of any external stimulus or precondition. God’s sustaining of life with kindness underscores a fundamental generosity and benevolence that seeks to give, nurture, and maintain the universe out of sheer goodness. It is an expression of love that does not await recognition or need but exists as a constant, underlining the nature of the Divine as eternally giving.

In contrast, compassion is somewhat more responsive and conditional and implies a reaction to a situation of lack, suffering, vulnerability, or need; you cannot feel bad for someone who doesn’t need help.

This distinction is crucial in understanding the dynamics of divine benevolence; while compassion addresses the gaps and heals the wounds within creation, kindness is the force that brings creation into being and sustains it, independent of its state.

Why is life kindness and revival compassion

This blessing attributes sustaining life to kindness and reviving the dead to compassion.

The act of sustaining life can be seen as an extension of Divine kindness because it is part of the ongoing process of the proactive act of Creation that nurtures and supports existence without prerequisite conditions. This continuous provision for all living beings, from the most basic needs to the complexities of growth and development, is considered an expression of kindness because it is given freely and generously, independent of the recipients’ merits or actions.

A child is born unable to learn or understand much about the world but possesses all the biological adaptations and instincts required for the rest of its life. Creation has instilled the child with the innate knowledge and capabilities to nurse, and the skills to learn how to walk and talk, and everything else. These capabilities are hardcoded into the human being, preceding our conscious efforts and achievements, underscoring proactive Divine kindness in all the unconditional aspects of care and preparation that go into our basic reality, without our having done anything to earn anything – מְכַלְכֵּל חַיִּים בְּחֶסֶד.

מְחַיֵּה מֵתִים בְּרַחֲמִים רַבִּים

Resurrecting the dead isn’t like that; it’s not for everyone, and it’s not freely given. It is contingent on certain merits, introducing a dimension of selectivity and conditionality, in contrast to kindness, which is proactive and unconditional benevolence. If the resurrection of the dead is based on the divine judgment of an individual’s merits, then it aligns more closely with the concept of compassion, which is inherently responsive and contingent.

Our sages record a profound exchange between the Egyptian Queen Cleopatra and Rabbi Meir. Sharing a belief in the resurrection of the dead, she asked Rabbi Meir whether individuals are resurrected, clothed, or naked.

Rabbi Meir responded with an allegory. A kernel of wheat grain is buried bare, and when it sprouts into its new phase of life, it emerges covered with leaves and stalks; it follows that a human being buried clothed in shrouds will be resurrected with clothes.

This exchange initially seems to concern the superficial aspects of resurrection but captures considerations about human dignity and a powerful blend of deep wisdom and insight.

What’s a body

There is a view that if a person dies ill or with their body broken, they will be resurrected in that exact way for a split second, after which their body transforms, instantly healed and rejuvenated to maximum strength and capacity, with a perfect, celestial, mythological body.

The Torah’s origin story of humanity describes the relationship between Noah’s sons; Noah blesses Japheth and asks him to associate with Shem. This understood to be a blessing that the world of aesthetics, physical and intellectual beauty are the domain of Yefet, traditionally associated with Greek culture; and for that to be associated with the spiritual legacy of Shem, from whom the Jewish People are descended.

In this reading, the world of physical and intellectual beauty are good things, not bad. The remarkable contributions of Greek civilization to art, philosophy, and science have shaped the world we know. Greek culture celebrated the human form and mind, laying the foundations for Western aesthetics, philosophy, and scientific inquiry.

However, the shortcoming in the world of beauty is when it severed from its association with spirituality; the Greeks emphasized beauty and intellect as ends in themselves. When beauty and intellect are pursued in isolation from moral and spiritual values, they can lead to a hollowing of the human experience, where depth of purpose and meaning is lost.

The holistic approach taken by the Torah integrates the domains of beauty, intellect, and spirituality. A healthy attitude to human development recognizes the value of each of these dimensions, seeking to harmonize them in a way that enhances personal and collective well-being. Beauty and intellect, when aligned with ethical and spiritual principles, have the potential to enrich human life and contribute to the flourishing of society.

BIG IDEA (dualism)
We often miscategorize the human body as a mundane physical thing, but spirituality is relative. Compared to the soul, sure, it’s true, the body is a low, physical thing; the second floor is lower than the third floor.

When the body is manipulated or treated as an end in itself, detached from its spiritual context and purpose. This approach reduces the body to a mere object of physical enhancement or pleasure, divorced from its deeper significance and potential for spiritual expression. When physicality is prioritized to the exclusion of spiritual values, we risk losing sight of the holistic nature of our existence and the interdependence of body and soul.

But in reality, the physicality of our bodies does not preclude their spiritual significance but, rather, is an integral aspect of our spiritual being, challening our conventional hierarchies and dichotomies.

While the body is often contrasted with the soul, categorizing the former as physical and the latter as spiritual, this dichotomy oversimplifies the complex nature of human beings. The body, rather than being merely a vessel or counterpoint to the soul, is an expression of our spiritual essence in the physical world. It is through our bodies that we interact with our environment, engage in acts of kindness and creativity, and experience growth and transformation. In this sense, the body can be viewed as a bridge between the physical and spiritual, capable of manifesting spiritual truths in tangible forms.

A Chassidic rebbe and his student were sitting together outside one day, and they both took an apple. Each said the blessing, answered the other, and began to eat. When they were finished, the teacher said to his student: “Do you know what just happened? You were hungry, so you made a blessing to eat the fruit. I was admiring the view and enjoying this beautiful day, and I picked up the apple so I could say a blessing.”

There is a way to live and move in the physical world that is completely spiritual.

The conventional understanding of blessings as a prerequisite or permission to engage with the physical world. In this view, the bracha serves as a spiritual gateway that sanctifies the act of consumption, making it permissible and meaningful within a religious framework. The primary objective is to enjoy the fruit, with the blessing facilitating this enjoyment in a manner aligned with Jewish law and tradition.

In the advanced perspective, the act of blessing is the primary goal of the interaction with the physical world. This approach suggests a life lived in devotion to fulfilling spiritual obligations and expressing gratitude to the Divine, with physical pleasures and needs serving as opportunities to fulfill these higher purposes. Here, the physical act of eating becomes a means to a spiritual end, transforming even mundane activities into acts of worship and connection with God.

Clothes

Our sages teach that our innermost being, our true essence, and spiritual identity, is the soul, which is encased in an outer layer in the form of a body, physical manifestation, which enables the soul to interact with the material world. In this sense, the body can be seen as clothing for the soul, a necessary layer that both protects and expresses the soul’s intangible qualities in a tangible form, a metaphor our sages use prominently – beged / levush

Expanding outward, our bodies also need clothes, which serve several functions: they offer physical protection and comfort, adhere to societal norms and expectations, and significantly act as a form of communication. Our sages view clothing as a form of dignity and honor, underscoring the idea that what we wear can elevate our respect for ourselves and others and signal aspects of our identity and status.

Clothing reveals something about the individual within; how we dress is more than superficial. It’s a selective unveiling of our personality, values, or mood. Properly dressed up, an individual is seen more completely by others. Conversely, when a person undresses in a public setting, people don’t see a person at all, just a body. Clothing, in this context, becomes a bridge between the inner self and the external world, offering cues to the character and essence of the person beneath.

The Hebrew word for nakedness is the same word the Torah uses to describe the archetypal snake in Eden in the sense of cunning deception – AROM CITE. This linguistic duality captures the complex interplay between appearance and essence, highlighting how outward manifestations can reveal or conceal the inner realities of an individual.

Being naked suggests being honest, exposed, and unadorned. Nakedness, in this sense, symbolizes vulnerability and authenticity, where nothing is hidden from view, and the individual stands bare, both physically and metaphorically.

However, this interpretation recognizes the idea of deceptive transparency, where the appearance of openness and honesty is employed as the tactic for manipulation or concealment. In this context, cunning is the strategic use of apparent vulnerability or honesty to achieve hidden aims, tricking others into believing they are seeing their true self when, in reality, they are being misled.

Are we resurrected in clothes?

Cleopatra wondered if resurrected bodies would be wearing clothes; beyond the literal and immediate concerns about the state of the body, this is a question about the nature of the resurrected body and its similarities and differences compared to our current physical forms.

On a deeper level, the question poses a broader inquiry about the nature of post-resurrection existence and whether it retains physical aspects that necessitate covering. Will a post-resurrection world retain some physical elements and social conventions?

Rabbi Meir’s answer was that when you plan a seed, a whole plant emerges; there is something fundamentally integral to Creation that generates clothing and covering. The soul is unable to operate in the physical world without a body; the body serves a critical role as the vehicle and interface for the soul’s expression and fulfillment of the divine in this world. Clothing extends this concept further, serving as a protective and dignifying extension of the body, which, by extension, honors the soul within.

As the proverb states, God’s honor is in being somewhat hidden; there is value in concealment and subtlety in revealing divine wisdom and presence. Just as the wheat kernel grows coverings to protect itself, symbolizing the natural order’s alignment with divine wisdom, the human body and the clothing it necessitates serve similar protective and dignifying functions, beautifully illustrating the balance between revelation and concealment inherent in creation and divine interaction with the world.

Humans are born naked; that is an act of kindness. When the dead are resurrected, their bodies will also be restored, healed, and covered, capturing God’s profound compassion and mercy for Creation, acknowledging human vulnerability and the intrinsic dignity and honor of the individual.

The question of how a spiritual God could create a physical world has intrigued theologians, philosophers, and believers across the ages. One answer propounded by Kabbala is the concept of Divine contraction or retraction, the space or vacuum God separates from God’s fullness so that the finite, physical world could have an independent existence and reality – Tzimtzum. This act of divine self-limitation is seen as a necessary precondition for creation, allowing for the emergence of a reality distinct from God’s all-encompassing Presence. Without Tzimtzum, the intensity of Divine Infinity would leave no room for the existence of a world of matter, evil, and free will.

The universe is clothing; an exterior of physicality that cloaks an inner soul and spirit, a manifestation of divine wisdom and intention. Clothing conceals and protects the body while also expressing aspects of an individual’s identity and status; the physical universe conceals the underlying spiritual realities while simultaneously expressing the Divine will. The material world is not devoid of spirituality at all but is imbued with deep purpose and meaning.

There is a sanctity and interconnectedness to all Creation; everything in the world, from the grandest cosmic phenomena to the smallest particles, reflects a spark of Divine light. The physical world is a place for reverence and curiosity, a place we can uncover the spiritual dimensions underlying our existence.

Making a blessing before using physical items is a key practice in Judaism that encapsulates the idea of engaging spiritual energy in the material world. By reciting a blessing, one acknowledges the Divine source of the item and its spiritual significance, transforming the act of consumption or use from a mundane activity into a religious activity that serves as a conduit for spiritual elevation and connection with God.

Kindness
(!ed Shlomo I don’t understand this)
More than we need oxygen, we need the kindness that sustains all existence.
god sustains life with chessed
hashem allows existence with kindness
our essence is fuled by kindness, powered by kindness
but resuscitation of the dead will be with mercy

more than we need oxygen, we need chessed
god acts mida kneged mida
if we get chessed, we must act with chessed
his chessed is because of ours
(shlomo – we said chessed is non reactive)

מְחַיֵּה מֵתִים בְּרַחֲמִים רַבִּים
god compassion will mirror ours
we need to practice compassion

the person comes back with a broken body that gets fixed
for whatever reason, the body had the sickness will carry over to revival
and will then be erased

if you cant run but go to the moon and can run, the place is different
(shlomo – i don’t understand this, needs work)

Later

The age of Mashiach is a time of redemption, characterized by unprecedented peace, understanding, and divine closeness. Central to this period is the profound expression of Divine compassion that permeates all aspects of existence, transforming not only the world’s spiritual and physical state but also the hearts and minds of its inhabitants.

If individuals were to be instantly restored to a state of health and wholeness without witnessing the transition from brokenness to healing, the profound depth of Divine compassion might be overlooked or taken for granted.

Understanding the extent of God’s kindness and compassion toward humanity should encourage a reciprocal awakening within ourselves. Recognizing our own profound need for compassion and kindness in every aspect of life should serve as a powerful catalyst for cultivating similar qualities toward others, with a deep sense of empathy, humility, and compassion for others in the same spirit with which it has been extended to us.

We are built to depend on God, to be attuned to others, and to recognize other people’s needs for kindness and compassion. Knowing how badly we need God’s kindness, the power of empathy helps us recognize the needs of others in a mirror fashion and respond with support.

Empathy is a mitzvah; the Torah commands the Jewish People to remember our collective experience as slaves in Egypt, reminding us of our own vulnerability and suffering and redirecting that memory into action by extending kindness to the convert, the stranger, and anyone else who might be marginalized or vulnerable. If kindness and compassion are the fabric of Creation and key tools to observe the Torah, it only follows that the formative experience of the Jewish People is a masterpiece in empathy.

Fragile

The realization that life is fragile and inherently dependent on kindness should lead to a profound awareness of our responsibility to be kind to ourselves and to others. It starts at home, what our sages called the local needy; it is essential to prioritize the needs of those closest to us before extending our efforts outward, beginning with immediate relationships, spouses, children, parents, siblings, extended family, and so on.

Our families serve as one of the primary arenas for practicing and refining our capacity for kindness. These intimate relationships, given to us, present unique challenges and opportunities for growth, teaching us the nuances of empathy, sacrifice, and unconditional love.

Sustainer – everything

The idea that God is the Provider or Sustainer captures the essence of God’s all-encompassing kindness – KOL KOL. It extends far beyond a simple material sense and captures the concept that the Creator sees to all our needs, both physical and spiritual; everything within everything, layers deep.

There is so much life and detail in Creation, far in excess of the basic functionality of life in either a physical or spiritual sense; the canvas is too big, with goodness, beauty, richness, and diversity of the world from the vast array of foods to the sensory experiences of aesthetics, taste, and smell. All point towards a Creator who delights in providing a tapestry of experiences that enrich life beyond the basic needs for survival.

The act of creation originates in a desire to give comprehensively. This desire is not limited to fulfilling basic needs but extends to offering a fullness of existence that allows for the appreciation of beauty, the experience of pleasure, and the possibility of personal and relational depth. The creation is not a utilitarian exercise but an expression of Divine generosity, seeking to share the boundless goodness inherent in the Divine essence.

It’s tailor-made: our families, health, finances, relationships, and what have you. Everything within everything is made just for us.

There is a phrase in Grace After Meals that is deeply intertwined with the blessings given to the Patriarchs and encapsulates profound themes of gratitude, Divine provision, and the acknowledgment of a holistic perfection in life – BAKOL MIKOL KOL. It reflects a comprehensive appreciation for the blessings received, attributing them to the Divine generosity that sustains all aspects of existence.

Their lives weren’t perfect; nothing is, and no one is. But there is an element of perfection in everything; our ancestors felt like they had everything, even with the trials they faced. The challenge is in being able to see it.

The body and soul are fundamentally different; plenty of things are far from perfect. Life is nowhere near as enjoyable as it could be; it’s nowhere near as meaningful as it could be. But in the union of body and soul, that’s as perfect as it gets; they are not separate entities but components of a unified whole. What once appeared as imperfections can be understood as parts of a perfect fit for the individual’s journey.

If you try on a pair of shoes without socks, they might fit great, but when you wear them with socks, they’re not going to fit. Life’s difficulties, seen through the lens of the body-soul union, can enable us to see these challenges as perfect opportunities for growth, precisely tailored to the unique combination of our physical and spiritual selves.

Broadening the lens

There is room in this prayer for a broader and more compassionate view of the range of existential and spiritual afflictions that individuals experience in the course of life. It includes those experiencing chronic illness, depression, and grief. Our sages also consider that certain categories of people have what might be considered a living death: people in poverty, the blind, the childless, and individuals with a skin condition called tzaraas.

When a person is officially diagnosed with tzaraas, the Torah imposes a mandatory seven-day quarantine; the person must leave town and live in solitary isolation. Anyone who lived through COVID has primary experience of isolation and quarantine. However difficult and unpleasant, it has the valuable function of attempting to stop contagion and transmission, saving lives in the aggregate.

Our sages tell of Choni HaMagel, who fell asleep for seventy years and woke to a world that no longer recognized him. He prayed for death in the absence of a friend. People need connection and belonging; ostracism from the community is one of the very worst tools in our sages’ arsenal. People aren’t meant to be alone; we need healthy relationships and community for a fulfilling life.

Prayers for revival include all these categories, including the couples desperate for a child, the poor who do not know how they will get by tomorrow, and it includes lonely people who lack social skills and annoy you.

When Yakov was on the run from Esau with nothing at all, he prayed for God to save him and provide him with clothing; he prayed for dignity, and a means to engage with the world confidently, and that was Rabbi Meir’s answer to Cleopatra. We live in a world of clothes, where our souls have an avatar in our body, and where socially awkward people need some help, and the divine promise of resurrection is seen as providing whatever is necessary for individuals to fully participate in and contribute to the life of the community.

R’ Moshe Cordovero teaches that, in fact, the soul prays for the body, suggesting a symbiotic connection where the soul, even in a state of separation from the physical form, hopes for and wishes the best for its future counterpart, illustrating the interdependence of body and soul, rather than viewing them as independent or antagonistic elements.

The Vilna Gaon was on his deathbed, and he began to cry. His students asked why he crying; he had lived well and had nothing to fear. The Gaon of Vilna weakly gathered his Tzitzis and gently kissed them. He explained that in this world, he could purchase Tzitzis for a few pennies and do the mitzvah every moment he wore them. But in death, he would not be able to serve his Creator with all the time and money in the world!

At all times and places, people have complained about young people wasting time; but it’s a universal truth applicable to all. Time is irreplaceable, as R’ Ahron of Karlin points out, each moment of existence is incomparably unique, never existing before in the history of Creation, and never to be repeated before becoming irretrievably lost forever.

Seize every moment, grab every second. Recognize the great kindnesses and aspects of perfection in your life that exist alongside and sometimes perhaps even within challenges, difficulties, and problems.

(!ed shlomo how does this link?
The concept of modesty in Judaism encompasses much more than the superficial aspects of dress and appearance; it is a profound expression of dignity, self-respect, and an understanding of one’s inherent value. Judaism does not advocate for self-negation, it encourages a harmonious balance where one can express beauty and elegance in ways that align with refined values, presenting oneself respectfully and thoughtfully.

There is no mitzvah or stringency in being unattractive; modesty is not antithetical to beauty or aesthetics and is fully compatible. It’s not about prohibitions or restrictions but an approach to life that elevates the ordinary. It is about cultivating elevated normalcy where everyday living without necessitating a departure from normal social interactions and personal expression in dress, speech, and behavior reflects a deep-seated respect for the sanctity of the individual and the relationships between people.

The principle of balance is essential for life and all things. An imbalance, whether excess or deficiency, can lead to a physical, spiritual, or moral tipping point, undermining integrity and stability.

Wrap up

BIG IDEA MAYBE
The Ramchal teaches that the World to Come is a reality similar to our current world but with no evil inclination, presenting a vision of perfected physicality, where every aspect of the world serves as a conduit for spirituality. The absence of evil fundamentally transforms the nature of existence. Without the impulse towards evil, the world no longer harbors malice, suffering, or moral failings. This change doesn’t merely imply a world devoid of negative experiences but signifies a reality where the physical and the spiritual are harmoniously integrated, allowing for a perfected form of physical existence that fully reflects and embodies spiritual values.

The eradication of sickness, aging, and exhaustion in the World to Come underscores the notion of a perfected physicality. In this state, the limitations and vulnerabilities that characterize our current existence are removed, not for the sake of mere physical perfection but to enable the fullest expression of the soul’s potential. The soul’s influence over the body is complete, leading to a newly spiritualized form of existence where the material world no longer constrains spiritual growth but enhances and facilitates it.

The age of Mashiach will close with the eventual return of souls to the Garden of Eden, representing the culmination of the redemptive process and the conclusion of the creation cycle, a return to the original state of harmony between humanity and the Divine, yet at a higher level of spiritual and moral development. It is a return not to the naiveté of the first humans but to a state of enlightened unity with God, achieved through the history of struggle, choice, and growth, a second naivete.

God could have created happy robots; God couldn’t create happy, free-willed humans. Our capacity for choice, including the potential to make bad choices, is essential to the concept of moral and spiritual growth. Paradoxically, bad choices or no choices are the system working as intended; it is through the exercise of choice, with all its risks and possibilities for error, that we engage in the process of refinement and elevation, the process that allows for genuine growth, transformation, and the eventual realization of a perfected world.

סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים וְרוֹפֵא חוֹלִים וּמַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים – Supporter of the fallen, and Healer of the sick, and Releaser of the trapped

Supporter of the fallen, Healer of the sick, and Releaser of the trapped; these capture the different stages and aspects of divine benevolence and intervention in the types of struggles we face in life. These titles emphasize Divine responsiveness to human vulnerability and also offer a framework for understanding the nature of our trials and the avenues through which assistance and redemption are provided.

To fall or to have fallen symbolizes moments of vulnerability, whether due to external circumstances or internal struggles. Falling represents the process of losing or having lost balance in life—be it emotional, spiritual, or moral equilibrium, a moment where we are about to or have already given up. This can manifest in moments of doubt, temptation, or when facing obstacles that seem to push us beyond our limits. During these precarious times, we can turn to the Creator for strength and stability to regain balance and stand firm in the face of adversity. It’s an acknowledgment that before the full impact of a fall, there is divine support ready to catch and uphold us – סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים.

Illness and sickness, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual, represent conditions that have manifested after a fall—after an imbalance has taken its toll on our well-being and is defined by reality. We affirm the restorative power that mends what has been broken and heals what has been afflicted that encompasses not only the physical healing of diseases but also the mending of a spirit wearied by trials and the soothing of a heart wounded by life’s hardships – וְרוֹפֵא חוֹלִים

Unlike healing or releasing, which denote decisive actions directed towards changing a condition, support suggests providing assistance or backing that allows individuals to find their own feet; supporting is very different from lifting or picking up.

The Amida isn’t about other people; it’s about all people, including all parts of ourselves. Everyone has experienced falling, illness, and feeling tied up; these are universal aspects of human struggle.

Sanctify yourself in what is permitted

Beyond the Torah’s explicit laws, one of our sages’ great ethical teachings emphasizes the importance of elevating our moral and spiritual conduct beyond mere adherence to the letter of the law; as the Ramban memorably notes, you can be a Torah-sanctioned glutton!

There is no shortage of technically permitted exploits, but don’t lose sight of the bigger picture. Living within the bounds of what is technically permitted yet striving for a higher moral standard speaks to the heart of ethical and spiritual growth. It acknowledges that while certain actions may not be forbidden, indulging in them without restraint or sensitivity can lead to a degradation of one’s character and spiritual state.

Spending all your money on sports cars is not forbidden anywhere, but it may reflect and reinforce values that conflict with the ideals of modesty, stewardship, and concern for the well-being of others.

There is more to Judaism than avoiding prohibition. There is a flavor, tone, and style to Jewish law and tradition, one that encourages a lifestyle and mindset that honor the Divine and the inherent dignity of life with restraint, moderation, and sensitivity even in lawful pursuits; most respectable people in our communities tend to look and act a certain way for a reason.

An attitude that seeks to justify actions based solely on their technical permissibility can lead to a lowering of moral and spiritual boundaries and standards. It leads to compromising in ways that diminish and restrict one’s aspirations to the bare minimum or less rather than striving for excellence; it represents a form of falling סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים.

Having that kind of attitude, or any bad attitude or poor outlook, is a form of sickness, a bodily malfunction. Cynicism, insensitivity, and a predisposition to see the worst in people and situations are forms of spiritual and ethical malaise, expecting relationships to fail and sabotaging them so they do is a sickness. When your mind or body isn’t right, it won’t work the way it’s supposed to, obstructing the ability to form healthy relationships, appreciate goodness, and contribute positively to the world – רוֹפֵא חוֹלִים.

The state of being bound reflects a condition where one’s freedom and ability to act are severely restricted, literally or metaphorically locked up, their spiritual or emotional capacity for growth, action, and prayer can feel entirely constrained. This state represents a deep level of helplessness and limitation, where divine intervention seems the only avenue for liberation.

Falling captures the moments of vulnerability and imbalance before, where one is in danger of succumbing to spiritual, moral, or physical decline but has not yet reached a point of complete failure or collapse. It is a critical juncture where the potential for recovery and steadying oneself still exists, perhaps with divine support, yet without necessitating total divine rescue.

God can pick us up, God can support us, reflecting different levels of divine intervention and human agency. God can fully rectify our fallen state, essentially doing the work for us, but we’d rather have some more subtle support earlier on, the necessary encouragement or push that helps us regain our balance and stand tall. This type of support honors human autonomy and the value of overcoming challenges through personal effort.

(melech ozer umoshia umagen – we dont want god to do the work given to us)
We have a spiritual and ethical preference for engaging with life’s challenges using our capacities, with God’s help seen as a form of empowerment rather than a substitute for personal action. It reflects a commitment to growth, resilience, and the development of spiritual and moral strength, recognizing that the journey, with its trials and victories, is integral to our development.

Better to ask for a helping hand, something to hold on to, a stick for support, a push for momentum; if you fall down, God will have to do it all for you,

BIG IDEA

The Proverb teaches that the righteous stumble multiple times and rise, and wicked people stumble just once and are done for. This captures how falling, both literally and metaphorically, is an integral part of the human experience, particularly on the path to righteousness and spiritual maturity. This concept underscores the intrinsic value in the act of rising after a fall, highlighting the importance of growth and resilience to a life of righteousness.

Gravity is a thing; everybody falls down. That’s not an obstacle to growth but the source of it. As R’ Hutner teaches, only fools believe that the righteous rise is in spite of the fall; the truth is that the rise is because of the fall.

If someone lifted them up every time they fell, they’d learn and gain nothing, never growing into anything more, never becoming righteous at all! Support is what we need, the best of God’s might, the best of God’s kindness.

When a father is teaching his kid to ride a bicycle, there comes a moment when he lets go of the bike, and the kid falls; that’s part of it. But a great dad watches the child and leaps into action as they start to fall, catching and steadying the bike before anything else happens.

The experience of feeling down, inadequate, incompetent, unimportant, unhappy, or not enough is a universal human condition that can deeply affect one’s sense of self-worth and purpose. These feelings often stem from a perceived lack of clarity or certainty in one’s abilities, direction, or the meaningfulness of one’s endeavors.

If you’re an Egyptologist, you might think it’s really important for you to know if Tutankhamen was before Ramses; everyone needs clarity and competence in their professional and personal lives, and lack of clarity makes people feel depressed because it makes them feel incapable of doing what they’re supposed to be doing.

A lack of clarity, whether in understanding one’s role, goals, or the path to achieving them, can lead to feelings of being overwhelmed and inadequate. This confusion can be paralyzing, making individuals feel incapable of fulfilling their responsibilities or achieving their aspirations. It’s not merely the absence of information that distresses the spirit but the implications of that absence for one’s ability to function effectively and find fulfillment in one’s actions.

In those moments of self-doubt, uncertainty, and fear of inadequacy, it feels like falling, like you need something to lean on just so you can stand – סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים.

It’s good to admit that we are the kind of people who fall; it’s a design feature, not a personal failing. A corresponding feature of Creation is that there is a power that gives us confidence and proficiency, and to rediscover it in times it feels like it’s missing: the support we need amidst life’s uncertainties and our own limitations – סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים.

Sometimes, people are incapacitated, but sometimes, they are self-imposed limitations we often place on ourselves. Our abilities are vast, yet frequently undermined by our doubts and fears; highlighting the importance of self-awareness and the need for a supportive framework that enables us to realize our potential. we knock ourselves down; and anything unsteady needs support – סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים.

Wallowing in the unsteadiness of doubt and uncertainty soon becomes sickness; which gradually but directly leads to a sense of feeling stuck. The progression from an initial failure to address our needs or challenges to a state of feeling bound highlights a critical dynamic in human psychology and spiritual well-being; neglecting our emotional, mental, or spiritual health can lead to more profound issues. This cascades into other things in life, with a severe risk of contagion. When you’re frustrated or annoyed about something in your life, and then you snap at someone you care about, that negative feeling has spread from one area to another, from one person to another.

The Sukkos prayers ask for the restoration of the fallen line of David; falling isn’t just something that happens physically to individuals; it happens spiritually to the world as well. A world of spiritual zombies, plagued by disconnection and disorientation, meaninglessness, and nihilism, is a world that is incapacitated and incapable, a world that is falling, sick, and bound. We pray for a restoration and renewal that touches every aspect of existence on personal, spiritual, and global levels and expresses a profound hope for healing and renewal – סוֹמֵךְ נוֹפְלִים וְרוֹפֵא חוֹלִים וּמַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים

In the context of addiction, substance use disorders statistics suggest that more and more people are turning to substances to fill a void. The transformation of desire, the natural human emotion to want something, into addiction, where the object of desire exerts control, highlights a critical shift from autonomy to compulsion; a sickness is disrupting the intended harmony and function of human beings – רוֹפֵא חוֹלִים.

Moreover, unlike diseases that can be treated with conventional medicines, mental illness or addiction are treated under a more holistic framework; the professional consensus suggests that recovery involves the whole person, engaging with the spiritual, emotional, and psychological dimensions – רופא כל בשר ומפליא לעשות.

Not all people

Sometimes, there isn’t a happy ending. Sometimes, there isn’t the complete and speedy recovery that everyone hopes and prays for. It’s brutal, and there is nothing to say in those moments, but it happens sometimes.

But even in those times, there are fleeting moments to ask for and receive healing, even if a happy ending is off the table. Whether it’s stealing some last precious quality time with loved ones, the comfort found in final moments of pure connection and love, and the relief from pain and suffering, however temporary, there are moments of healing there, however far that entire scenario is from what anyone would ever dream of choosing.

In the moments when we find ourselves on the edge, wobbling between stability and the void of uncertainty or despair, the presence of people who stand by us becomes not just a comfort but a necessity. Be it a friend, sibling, child, parent, partner, or teacher; our prayers have been answered in the form of support that keeps us from falling too far, a testament to the incredible power of human connection that provides healing in our sickness and release us when we feel stuck.

There are people who are stuck in jail. The justice system is necessary but human, and so, like all things, it is not perfect and makes mistakes. There are people in jail who should not be there or are there for far longer than they deserve. There are soldiers who don’t come home; depending on when you’re reading this, there are hostages we need to bring home מַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים.

If that’s a little remote, everyone can feel trapped by circumstances, past mistakes, or societal expectations, and they deserve empathy and understanding. There are times people lose their money, that’s just something that happens. But in the aftermath, there are people who find themselves unable to make peace with the present reality; they are trapped by the remnants of their pasts. We can become prisoners of our own making, allowing the mistakes everyone makes to define us forever, a life sentence in a personal prison of our own creation from which escape seems impossible – מַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים.

Whatever element is trapped and incapable of seeing itself outside of artificial confines can be free from self-imposed limits based on societal expectations, personal insecurities, or the inability to forgive oneself.

The key is in your pocket – מַתִּיר אֲסוּרִים.

וּמְקַיֵּם אֱמוּנָתוֹ לִישֵׁנֵי עָפָר – Fulfiller of His faithfulness to those who sleep in the dust

In a certain sense, this mirrors the morning blessing upon waking that thanks God for faithfully returning our souls from sleep; our sages teach that sleep is a small taste of death, in which case resurrection would be like waking up.

This phrase is a restatement in variant form of what was plainly said moments ago, that God is the resurrector of the dead – מְחַיֶּה מֵתִים אַתָּה רַב לְהוֹשִׁיעַ.

It introduces an element of allegory: which sleepers in the dust?

The prophet Daniel predicts the resurrection of the dead with a similar comment: Many of those that sleep in the dust of the earth will awake – וְרַבִּים מִיְּשֵׁנֵי אַדְמַת־עָפָר יָקִיצוּ. Like many things Daniel wrote, this is difficult to understand and reinforces the question: Many will wake up, but not all, so who, then?

When our sages could not resolve difficult questions, the section concludes that the question stands – תיקו. It has been suggested that this is an acronym and that Eliyahu the Tishbi will answer all questions and inquiries – תשבי יתרץ קושיות ובעיות. Although there is a principle that one person is insufficient to establish the truth of a matter, Eliyahu isn’t one person, he is multiple reincarnations, including Pinchas.
(!ed Shlomo – al pi shnayim eidim yakum davar is din of eidus not psak, nevua is something else, also maybe this whole section is redundant)

Our sages teach that the bodies of completely righteous people are incorruptible after death; that they avoid the normal process of decomposition whole or in part. And yet, our sages also teach that the moment before the resurrection, their bodies will turn to dust, fulfilling God’s promise to the first man that from dust he came and to dust he would return – וּמְקַיֵּם אֱמוּנָתוֹ לִישֵׁנֵי עָפָר.

god restores dead
righteous in death are still called alive
Torah definition of life is accomplishment
secular definition sees sleep as an accomplishment – rest is functional
eg hibernation is not death
(!ed Shlomo – i dont understand this)

When you contemplate your self-identity, what you are made of, the source of your existence, the essence of what makes us truly ourselves, there is no room for pride or self-righteousness; what can we take credit for? Our body and intellect are gifts; our outcomes are influenced by forces far beyond us.

The philosopher René Descartes showed that consciousness is self-generative; I think, therefore I am. Your ability to think is what lets you know you exist and perhaps what makes you actually exist and have an independent existence. What truly defines an individual, then, is the exercise of free will; the capacity to make choices is where the essence of a person is most authentically expressed. Unlike our predispositions or instincts, which are inherited or conditioned, the choices we make reflect our moral and spiritual autonomy. Someone operating on instinct is barely alive, but a righteous person’s choices make a lasting impact, and people choose differently as a result even after they’re long gone; their actions live on, and as our sages teach, even in death, they are considered living, or perhaps, sleeping – ישֵׁנֵי עָפָר.

The blessing states that God is trustworthy to fulfill a promise; when we say someone is trustworthy, it means you can believe them in the abstract and count on them in the realm of action. When people die, their bodies reduce to nothing; at Majdanek concentration camp, there is an eerie monument with a huge mound of dust and ashes gathered from heaps found on the premises. It is impossible to imagine quite how, but we trust and believe that from the tiniest particles or less, God will restore them.

In another interpretation, it’s not really about us at all but our ancestors. Our sages suggest that the sleepers in the dust refer to Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yakov; God made many promises to them, and God will uphold those commitments to them – ישֵׁנֵי עָפָר.

In another teaching, Avraham self-described as the dust of the earth, and our sages note that the Jewish People are alternately compared to the dust of the earth and the stars in the sky, capturing a profound duality within Jewish identity and destiny. In this metaphor, the Jewish experience is characterized by low moments of humility and suffering and high times of shining bright in soaring heights with divine closeness. In this reading, then, God can be trusted to fulfill commitments to those who are humble, the ancestors known for their humility, and all those who are downtrodden – ישֵׁנֵי עָפָר.

God keeps His word

The concept that God can be counted on to faithfully fulfill His promises, reviving those who sleep in the dust, either literally, in death, or metaphorically, in despair, appears in similar blessings. As we pray every morning Baruch omer v’oseh, baruch gozer umekayem CITE. As we sing on Seder night, God even protects His word, ensuring the realization of His word when we don’t deserve it – בָּרוּךְ שׁוֹמֵר הַבְטָחָתוֹ. These reassurances are verbs, and they are causative; God revives and picks up those who are down, who feel down, and who put themselves down.

Our sages teach that arrogance, an inflated sense of self-importance and a disregard for others, is depicted as repulsive to the divine presence. In stark contrast, humility, marked by a genuine recognition of one’s limitations and a respectful acknowledgment of others’ value, is shown as creating a welcoming space for the Divine.

Humility is not merely a lack of pride but an accurate self-perception that does not place oneself at the center; instead, one recognizes and honors the central place of the Divine in the world. Moshe was the most humble of all men and merited unparalleled proximity to God as a direct result.

Humble people recognize their origin and destiny within the grand scheme of creation; those who lower themselves for the sake of Heaven are elevated by God, who stands them up and grants them a distinguished place in the world

Elemental
(!ed Shlomo – this whole section is super arcane)

In another reading, the blessing is not about those who sleep in the dust but those who cause the dust to sleep. In classical philosophy and certain aspects of Jewish thought, everything is a combination of earth, water, air, and fire. Water is understood to embody sexual desire and libidinal energy, the water of life.
yesheini – yesheinim
those that cause their dust to sleep
chaim vittal
Earth, fire, water, wind
four elements
all characteristics come from combinations
water is sexual desire – the water of life
water is also Torah – passion for torah
imbalances in character result from imbalance in elements, shore up other elements
one quality of earth is laziness, inaction, standstill, inanimate
the others are in motion
primordial snake fancies chava
convinces her to eat the apple
derived from water
should have invoked Earth and done nothing
punished with earth, tastes nothing
misplaced desire
punished by removing of desire
if a person takes their earth and puts it to bed
they are proactive
god pays back those who push themselves
god rewards them mida kneged mida
reanimates the earth
mirror

מִי כָמוֹךָ בַּעַל גְּבוּרוֹת וּמִי דּוֹמֶה לָּךְ – who is like you, in mighty deeds and who compares

In the realm of fiction, Superman is the archetypal superhero with superhuman strength, speed, stamina, agility, reflexes, longevity, senses, and durability, with heat vision, wind and frost breath, solar energy absorption, X-ray vision, and flight abilities. Even within fiction, these abilities are almost peerless to the extent that Superman as a character has been considered overpowered by fans at times; the usual roster of villains doesn’t cut it. Who compares to Superman?

Imagine Superman was real and kept the world safe; the statue would never begin to reflect Superman’s power in any way whatsoever. Any attempt to be like Superman in any way beyond a symbol will fail. What compares to Superman?

Some of our greats perform incredible and mighty deeds; Moshe splits the Red Sea, and Elisha resurrects the dead Shunamite boy whose birth he predicted. But they were borrowers of might, not masters of it; there is only one Master of might, and all power ultimately originates with God – בַּעַל גְּבוּרוֹת

Despite their elevated spiritual status and their ability to perform miraculous deeds, the prophets do not possess inherent power; it is not their might at all. Instead, they operate through the might granted to them by God, serving His purposes as vessels through which God’s power is manifested in the world.

There is one Master of might, reinforcing the principle at the heart of Jewish faith that there is One God, the singular source of all power, wisdom, and creation, demystifying all human accomplishment, even including the wonders performed by prophets, attributing all to divine providence; even the greatest acts of strength, intelligence, or talent are not pure products of human endeavor but reflections of the divine shared with individuals for a higher purpose.

When people are blessed with riches, smarts, power, talent, or some combination, they are not masters; they are borrowers. Our ownership of these personal attributes and accomplishments is transient; these are ultimately bestowed by a higher power and should be utilized with humility and responsibility. The pursuit and possession of such gifts are full of potential pitfalls and are regularly people’s undoing, especially when people fail to acknowledge the inherent limitations of human effort. When you are blessed with any of these, don’t claim ownership; acknowledge the divine origin of your gifts and utilize them in service of others and the betterment of humanity.

The sheer scale of the universe and its components, from the vastness of galaxies and the intricate systems of solar systems to the dynamic beauty of individual planets, fosters a profound sense of awe that transcends human understanding. Such cosmic magnificence invites us to admire the power in the universe, underscoring the omnipotent presence that not only orchestrates the grandeur of the cosmos but also maintains intimate governance over the laws that dictate its order.

From the macroscopic movements of galaxies to the microscopic interactions within subatomic structures, the power to command the cosmos with precision and care is awe-inspiring, reminding us of the delicate balance and immense complexity that governs our existence.

It’s impossible to understand what the Creator is, and with what we can understand, it’s impossible to adequately describe how thankful we ought to be. But, standing at the precipice, we have peered into the endless void, the boundless vastness, the sheer magnitude of everything. We may not understand it as it is, but we know that we have confronted the Infinite and hopefully come away having grasped the faintest flicker of the incomprehensible power of God. With deep reverence and humility, we have recognized the limitless scope of divine might and acknowledged that we stand before a force that orchestrates the universe’s complexities with precision and grace – בַּעַל גְּבוּרוֹת.

After internalizing the magnitude of this power and the extent of the forces at God’s disposal that influence our lives, we can begin to frame our requests in prayer. The realization of God’s omnipotence transforms the nature of our petitions, grounding them in profound trust and confidence. To imagine and believe in God’s boundless capability is to understand that no request is too small, no concern too trivial, and no plea beyond the realm of possibility. This belief empowers the faithful to approach God with their needs, hopes, and desires, secure in the knowledge that the Master of all Powers listens and has the capacity to respond. The act of prayer becomes not just a petition but a communion with the infinite, a dialogue rooted in awe, respect, and unshakeable faith in the divine will and wisdom – בַּעַל גְּבוּרוֹת.

A common conception people have is that prayer is like going to the local and buying a lottery scratch card; if someone is sick, say a prayer and put it out there because it might work. From this perspective, prayer is a long shot with bad odds, a passive, almost resigned approach without genuine conviction in the outcome.

But in actuality, no request is too big or small. If you ask your mother to cook a five-course feast on a regular Tuesday, that is an outrageous and unreasonable request. But if you’re at the Seder table and ask her to pass a dish, no one thinks that’s an imposition. It’s so easy, it’s expected, why wouldn’t they?

The blessing of Might and Strength illustrates that prayer is not a lottery ticket; it is not a last-ditch effort to sway an uncertain fate but an active engagement with a personal God who is deeply interested in the intricacies of each individual’s life. Prayer, in this light, is not a gamble but a dialogue built on trust and relationship. When no concern is too trivial for God’s attention, it transforms the act of prayer into an act of profound faith and openness; the same power that governs the vast mechanics of the universe is attentive to the personal pleas of every heart. It elevates prayer from a mere shot in the dark to a meaningful exchange with the divine, where every word is heard, and every request is considered with infinite compassion and wisdom.

Our prayers do not hinge on the odds at all, and we can shift the focus from the size or nature of our requests. God’s capacity to intervene, assist, or transform situations is limitless. Our requests, no matter how small or significant they may seem in human eyes, are tiny compared to the infinite scope of God’s power. God might have reasons to act or not act, unrelated to the size of the request, but we can pray with confidence and sincerity and liberate our prayers from our logic or limitations.

God is omnipotent. God can resurrect the dead and reverse the finality of death, create something out of nothing, and create life where there was none. Is it so hard to ask for healing? For some money? For some good luck and happiness?

When Queen Esther approached King Achashverosh, who loved her and was taken by her charm and charisma, she still spoke with grace and respect: “If possible, if it pleases you, if it’s acceptable and favorable, grant my wish and accept my request, and come to my tea party.” A similar stance in prayer is essential; it is not a matter of deserving what we ask for, but simply recognizing and believing in God’s compassionate nature, that God cares deeply for His creation, that God listens, cares, and is actively involved in the minutiae of our lives.

It is essential to recognize that for God, wish fulfillment is trivial, as easy as it gets; to whatever extent you think it’s hard or difficult, it reflects a lack of understanding of the praise and appreciation for the Creator’s unmatched ability to affect change. The difficulty we perceive in our requests often reflects our limitations rather than God’s, highlighting the importance of faith in recognizing God’s sovereignty and generosity.

מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה וּמַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה – King Who causes death and restores life, and causes deliverance to sprout forth

Although we live in a mostly post-monarchy world, human monarchs are symbols of power, and particularly in a historical context, they actually wield immense power. As the sovereign, their power was perceived as absolute within their territories; they could dictate laws, levy taxes, wage wars, and make decisions that significantly impacted the lives of their subjects.

God as a king is a metaphor; God isn’t human, and humans aren’t God. A human king can execute and save people but can’t create life or revive the dead.

But God is the king in these of being sovereign over domains, the supreme power – מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה

People get sick; people die; that’s not particularly remarkable; it happens every day. Illness leading to death is a natural progression that aligns with our limited human perception of cause and effect. In such cases, death may not surprise us or challenge our understanding of the world. But when otherwise healthy people drop dead from one moment to the next, it presents a stark contrast to our expectations, highlighting the unpredictable and sovereign nature of divine will, and we must acknowledge that life and death are ultimately under God’s command – מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה

If you ever visit a neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) at the hospital, the fragility of life is palpable with newborns fighting for survival. The dedicated medical professionals work tirelessly, employing their knowledge and skills to preserve and enhance life, but a baby that can fit in the palm of your hand is a powerful reminder that ultimately it is God who reigns supreme over life and death, health and illness, and decides the course of each life – מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

Chana’s grandmother was diagnosed with cancer when Chana was a little girl, but she always said she wanted to live to see Chana’s wedding. She lived with cancer for eighteen years and died a few months after Chana and I got married.

Prayer and faith are not substitutes for doctors and medicine, but there are many stories of people who live far longer than their medical prognoses predict. There is a reality where God decides a person will live against the odds, against a stacked deck, whatever the situation seems like, and regardless of what the doctors say; and someone with months to live somehow steals years and years powered by the will to live, supported by prayer and hope, and of course, the divine will that transcends the limitations of human understanding and medical statistics.

Because God isn’t a doctor; God is the king Who causes death and restores life – מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

As the Chozeh of Lublin quipped, the Torah gives doctors permission to heal; it doesn’t give permission to give up.

Death before life

In this phrasing, death precedes life, suggesting a more interesting relationship than linear birth and death; death serves the purposes of life – מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

At Creation, every day and its aspects are labeled as good, with one exception, death, which is very good. Death teaches us the value of life and is the source of the intrinsic relationship between life’s finite nature and our capacity to find meaning and connection within it. Our mortality compels us to contemplate their existence, priorities, and the legacy we wish to leave behind to make a difference and make our lives matter. This urgency is born out of the awareness of life’s impermanence and encourages intentional living, cherishing each moment and fostering connections that transcend the material; and it’s what makes us reach out to the Divine – מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

If you plucked an indigenous person from China, transported them to the USA, and left them in the middle of Florida, the communication and language barrier would pose a formidable limitation on his ability to navigate the environment extended to the spiritual realm. Just as language and culture shape our ability to connect and communicate, the physical body and its limitations shape our capacity to fully realize our spiritual potential; our bodies are fully capable of spirituality but in a different language to our souls.

In an earlier teaching, our sages highlighted Moshe’s comment defining life as the soul’s connection to God—Atem Hadveikim B’Hashem Elokeichem Chaim Kulchem Hayom (Devarim 4:4). To be fully alive within that definition, life as an attachment to God would counterintuitively mean that life begins at death – מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

Imagine twins gestating during pregnancy, and everything is going fine until one day, one of them suddenly disappears, leaving the remaining twin upset due to the loss. Where’s my twin?!

Everyone outside understands that the baby was born, and he’s next – מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

The world we inhabit is like a womb or nest; it is a place of growth, development, and preparation, where the soul is nurtured and readied for what comes next. Today, we understand better than ever the impact of a poor environment or health issues on a pregnancy; spiritual condition and moral growth are equally influenced by the quality of our environments – מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה.

Death enables life and unlocks eternity; the experiences, growth, and development we undergo in the temporal realm imbue eternity with significance.

Our sages teach that when a child is in the womb, an angel teaches the soul the entire Torah, which is subsequently forgotten at birth. This act symbolizes the transition from a state of passive receptivity to active acquisition and personal achievement, the reason life exists at all. Forgetting underscores the fundamental principle that our spiritual and moral achievements, all our knowledge and learning, are valuable when they are the result of personal effort and struggle.

The sequence of death before life in this blessing reflects the reality that life, death, and salvation do not conform to our expectations. It illustrates both the complexity of divine intervention and the nuanced nature of what constitutes salvation.

 מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה וּמַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה

The Torah’s early narratives about the origins of humanity tell us of Chanoch, one of the very first saints, so perfectly righteous that the Torah attests that he walked with God and then he vanished. Our sages teach that he had a perfect record but was vulnerable to sin, so he was taken to Heaven before his time; he died, and it saved him from blotting his spiritual record.

In a later story, Yitzchak and Rivka had been married for some time, and after years of grappling with the challenge of infertility, they begged, cried, and prayed, and the Creator relented, and they became pregnant with twins. The Torah narrates this story with intensely emotive language connoting earnest desperation and similar language to indicate God’s almost reluctant acquiescence. Rashi notes this friction and explains that it simply wasn’t time for them to have children yet because now Avraham would die five years sooner than he might have, as a kindness to spare him from watching his grandson Esau become a murderer. The sooner Esau was to be born, the sooner Avraham would die. They wanted the right thing at the wrong time.

Sometimes, salvation means not living, and sometimes, salvation kills and has a cascade of second-order effects. Flourishing and saving for one can mean pain and suffering for another; the Divine plan defies simplistic interpretations and does not always align with human expectations.

מַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה – causes salvation to flourish

Extending our time in this world or ending it, with what we experience as a good outcome or perhaps not, we believe that it’s leading somewhere, always aimed to an ultimate good – מַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה.

The average life expectancy is around seventy years, perhaps a little more. What’s what compared to a thousand, a million, a billion, or infinity? Compared to the vast stretches of eternity, the fleeting nature of our existence is short. And yet, our little flicker of existence is pivotal, the site in which our eternal destiny is shaped and molded. Our actions, choices, and spiritual growth during this short span have lasting implications, influencing the quality and nature of our existence in the eternal realm.

The verb utilized here means growing in the agricultural sense, like planting a seed. Organic growth is slow and cyclical; plants lose their leaves in the winter and go dormant, experiencing a form of death, but before long, spring will come, and they will blossom once again.

Death, destruction, and decay are necessary parts of life and are prerequisites to a life that matters, as well as the resurrection of the dead; the Angel of Death is not a villain but a valued team member with good standing in Heaven. The experience of death dissolves the limitations imposed by physical existence and allows for spiritual rebirth.

As Rabbeinu Tam teaches, every setback plants the seeds of a comeback; every descent coils the spring of a descent – yerida ltzorech aliya. In the moments of darkness and isolation, of deepest difficulty, despair, and failure, wishing for death, feeling dead and buried, God is planting something –  וּמַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה.

Our challenges and low points are not final destinations but orchestrated opportunities for significant growth and transformation, preparatory stages for a higher state of being. The moments of darkness and isolation, when we are at our lowest when we are overwhelmed when the desire to give up is most compelling, can paradoxically become the fertile ground for profound personal development.

Every challenge is measured, and every person has the tools to endure and overcome it, even if it seems insurmountable. These tools appear in the form of loved ones, friends, mentors, educational materials, support networks, or internal qualities like independence, optimism, persistence, and resilience.

The effectiveness of our tools is significantly influenced by our perspective and how we utilize them. A positive outlook is generally beneficial but can lead to negative outcomes if applied without mindfulness; I’m so happy with my rickety old house, even though all my neighbors live in gorgeous mansions! Positivity, detached from a framework of gratitude and awareness of others’ circumstances, can morph into ingratitude.

The proverb says that when all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail; there is a common human tendency to approach diverse problems with a fixed mindset and a single, familiar solution. But what if you used the hammer as a paperweight or bookend? The value and utility of a tool are not fixed but can be expanded or transformed based on the context and the needs at hand; our internal tools must be guided by a balanced perspective of their effectiveness, applied with creativity, flexibility, and imagination.

There is a delicately balanced recipe for life and death in the world, just the right combination of both in our lives to craft the conditions necessary to stimulate spiritual growth. The interplay between life’s ending and beginning, its challenges and triumphs, is designed to cultivate an environment conducive to ultimate salvation – מֶלֶךְ מֵמִית וּמְחַיֶּה וּמַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה.

There are certain aspects of ourselves that we must allow to die so that we can live: parts of the ego, certain desires, and past mistakes to make way for a more genuine, spiritually aligned existence. The spiritual stagnation of unawakened existence that precedes a conscious life of meaning and purpose can be a kind of living death; the process of death and rebirth is often a prerequisite for true spiritual awakening and growth, death preceding birth.

Despite our efforts and aspirations, ultimate control and the power to save or change circumstances lie solely with the supreme power in the universe, the source of might that controls the forces in the universe. Only God can save us or make anything work; only God has power. All humans can do is what is given to us, our output.

You can try as hard as you can outcome is not tied to our output.
(big idea, talk about effective hishtadlus, base rates)

If you are a fisherman, you have a bunch of rods with lines in the water. If one bends, that’s great! You have a fish hooked; you need to put in some effort and work hard to reel it in. But the line might snap, and the fish might break free. Also, you need to reel the right rod!

Your job is to fish, to go where the fish are supposed to be and do what professional fishermen do. Will the fish come? Will you have supper, be profitable, hire a crew, build a fleet, and build a public company? That’s not up to you – מַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה.

You must make a genuine attempt and effort to exert yourself in pursuit of your goals. Your efforts must be effective and strategic. If you work a hundred hours a week going door to door trying to sell used disposable cutlery, you have worked very hard but very ineffectively, which undermines the hard work you have done.

If outcomes are supposed to happen, they come with a certain price tag of physical and spiritual inputs. If a person is fated to have a hard time with relationships, there is a universe where he might be the right person and have an on-off relationship for ten years before realizing she was the one all along, or he could date for ten years before meeting her, and the outcome is the same.

The requisite price in effort and sweat must be paid, and our attempts don’t have to be at the thing that ends up happening; success stories rarely come from the places people expect them to and are frequently marked by twists, turns, and serendipities that could not have been anticipated at the outset, highlighting the unpredictable nature of achieving goals.

Life is not linear, with inherent uncertainty and a complex interplay of factors that contribute to achieving goals; therefore, part of the effort includes flexibility, openness to new opportunities, and the ability to adapt to changing circumstances. While focused effort is essential, so too is the capacity to pivot and embrace unexpected pathways that may lead to success.

(meilich biderman yeshiva story)

BIG IDEA

What that means, then, is that there is no such thing as a waste of time. The way we typically view the world, when a person works on a big deal for years, if it closes, then it is worthwhile. If it doesn’t, everyone wasted time and money and should’ve spent that time and money doing anything else, or even nothing!

In the perspective of our prayer, every effort, every challenge, and even every apparent setback is a meaningful component of a larger divine plan. The effort invested in pursuing a goal, regardless of its immediate outcome, serves as the foundation upon which future successes are built. When something good happens that comes easy, it is paid for by failures and doors closed; the experiences of each failure contribute to the eventual achievement in ways that may not be obvious or quantifiable. God is constantly planting – מַצְמִיחַ יְשׁוּעָה.

In times of struggle, when the outcomes of our efforts are not what we hoped for, whether with family, health, finances, or unfulfilled prayers, God is planting something that will grow. Our sages teach that even the frustration you feel when you pull the wrong thing out of your pocket counts and has a redemptive quality; something is growing.

Humanity begins in a state of relative ease in the Garden of Eden, which shifts dramatically after the sin. After that, humans earn their way in the world with sweat and effort. All that is given to us is effort, and we must try. But we cannot control outcomes; God did not tell Adam he must accomplish, and so there is no such thing as wasted effort. We must push ourselves purposefully, intentionally, with thoughtful purpose and direction, but the outcome is God’s alone.

In a world that is fixated on productivity and results, that measures success by outcomes and achievements, this spiritual perspective is alien and offers a profound reorientation towards effort and intention. But it is God’s might and kindness at play; the sincerity and dedication of our efforts define us, not our outcomes. Every act of trying, the exertion of the effort itself, sows the seeds for redemption and salvation, liberating us from the burden of outcome-based validation and encouraging us to focus on the quality and intentionality of our actions. In this framework, the ultimate measure of lacking is not a failure to achieve a specific goal but a failure to try, and even that perceived lack is offset by Divine kindness, where a person doesn’t do enough, and God treats it as sufficient anyway.

If we could truly internalize this, there would be no place for disappointment and getting upset; we’d never give up and be endlessly persistent and resilient. We experience pain and difficulty; those are very real, but there is no death or failure that does not serve the purposes of life, growth, meaning, and purpose.

We still have to do things that make sense. God is the cause of success, not business, but you still have to learn how a business works so you can work in one. Education is not the cause of success, but you still need an education; it’s part of our baseline effort.

Bad things have their place

In a radical teaching, R’ Tzadok Hakohen teaches that punishment is a fulfillment of God’s will as well and that there are consequences for evil. When bad people suffer, it serves the ultimate good, and it’s even good for that person, too. In R’ Tzadok’s analogy, you can serve the king as the minister, butler, or firewood.

In every life, death is the worst thing that can happen, the final ending and ultimate loss. In a moment of grief and pain, It is important to have sensitivity, empathy, and timing in conveying spiritual truths, and it would be completely inappropriate to share, but this prayer affirms that death is also part of the divine cycle of existence, leading to renewal and continued life.

As the legendary psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankel showed, people with a why to live for can bear almost any how; people become depressed when their pain is meaningless. Much of the anguish in suffering stems not only from the pain itself but from a sense of meaninglessness or existential despair that can accompany it.

וְנֶאֱמָן אַתָּה

We fundamentally trust in God’s power and benevolence, particularly in His ability to bring life from death, both literally and metaphorically. We see revival in our world and in our lives every day; we regularly experience the cycles of revival and renewal in the natural world, historical and personal experiences of overcoming, and the transformations that emerge from periods of hardship וְנֶאֱמָן אַתָּה לְהַחֲיוֹת מֵתִים.

We know from the stories of our ancestors, from Yitzchak, Pinchas, Yechezkel, and Elisha, the daily miracle of waking up every morning, the miracle of birth, and the origin of life in the universe that the Creator delivers – וְנֶאֱמָן אַתָּה לְהַחֲיוֹת מֵתִים.

Living for a time of Mashiach and an existence in a World to Come that we cannot comprehend, we can question if it’s worthwhile. As this blessing concludes, our people have trusted God, and Creation can trust the Creator. King Louis XIV of France once asked the great philosopher Blaise Pascal to prove the existence of God; Pascal pointed to the existence of the Jews. I am alive, and I choose to believe in life’s value and potential for meaning and that it leads somewhere good – וְנֶאֱמָן אַתָּה לְהַחֲיוֹת מֵתִים.

Mysticism

Jewish mysticism teaches that, like the body, the soul has an anatomy, a spiritual structure with different parts and functions. Deeply complex and nuanced, the familiar ones are Nefesh, Ruach, and Neshama, which we mostly use interchangeably; there are also more esoteric parts called Chaya and Yechida.

Moments of spiritual awakening are moments involving each level of the soul leveling up, reaching higher, and achieving a milestone of spiritual growth and deeper connection with the divine, firing and switching on, an aspect of revival.

Avos – Patriarchs, Fathers, Ancestors

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בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ אֱלֹקינוּ וֵאלֹקי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ אֱלֹקי אַבְרָהָם אֱלֹהֵי יִצְחָק וֵאלֹקי יַעֲקֹב הָקל הַגָּדוֹל הַגִּבּוֹר וְהַנּוֹרָא קל עֶלְיוֹן גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה: מֶלֶךְ עוֹזֵר וּמוֹשִׁיעַ וּמָגֵן: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה מָגֵן אַבְרָהָם – Blessed are You, Hashem, our God, and God of our fathers, God of Avraham, God of Yitzchak, and God of Yakov, the Almighty, the Great, the Powerful, the Awesome, most high Almighty, Who bestows beneficent kindness, Who possesses everything, Who remembers the piety of the Patriarchs, and Who brings a redeemer to their children’s children, for the sake of His Name, with love. King, Helper, and Deliverer and Shield. Blessed are You, Hashem, Shield of Avraham.

Blessing – בָּרוּךְ

A blessing is typically a prayer for God’s favor and protection. When we bless people, it is understood that we wish well upon those we love. When we say a blessing over food, it is understood that we are expressing our thanks to the Creator over fruit. The Hebrew word for blessing doesn’t translate to an analog familiar outside of a religious setting, but you might say that a child or spouse has been a blessing to you, meaning a source of joy and goodness.

In the context of prayer that is both directed to and about the Creator, what it might mean to bless the Creator is unclear. It would be tautological, entirely circular, to bless the Creator; we cannot bless the Creator, and we cannot affect the Creator at all. There is nothing we can say or do to bestow, invoke, or grant any change to the Creator.

And yet, our sages record a vision of R’ Yishmael Kohen Gadol, who entered the Holy of Holies to perform the Yom Kippur service and had a vision, imagining God asking for a blessing, the source of the teaching that even regular people’s blessing hold power. This anecdote sharply illustrates the Creator’s interest in a personal and intimate relationship with creation.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה

The Rokeach explains that this formula, which appears in almost if not every single blessing, is not humans blessing the Creator. Noting that the root of the Hebrew word for blessing is cognate to the word for wellspring, this form acknowledges the Creator as the Source of all blessing – BRACHA / BREICHA.

אַתָּה

Most, if not all, languages distinguish between the first, second, and third-person perspectives. The first person is the I/we perspective; the second person is your perspective; and the third person is the he/she/it/they perspective.

In old and early modern English, it was common to speak to superiors in the third person as a form of courtesy, deference, and respect with titles like “sir” or “ma’am.” Today, it is nearly universal to use the second person “you” as you speak to them – “How are you?”, “What would you like?”

In such cultures and settings, speaking directly to someone senior, such as an elder, could be considered disrespectful. Instead, it is expected to use a modified and respectful pronoun, and this practice continues to this day in specific settings such as the military – “Sir, yes sir!”

Navigating the spiritual landscape, we encounter the deep-seated tension between divine immanence and transcendence, a duality that underpins our relationship with the sacred. On one hand, we cherish a profound personal bond and closeness with the Divine, a connection so intimate that addressing God with the familiar “You” feels inherently right, symbolizing our inherited proximity. Yet, this familiarity is juxtaposed with the instinct to approach the Divine with the utmost reverence, acknowledging God’s unfathomable grandeur and mystery through more abstract and respectful references, such as “God.” This distinction encapsulates the paradox of trying to merge our understanding of a God both imminently close yet infinitely beyond our comprehension.

In the final analysis, the essence of our spiritual journey lies in embracing this tension rather than resolving it. God’s presence is a palpable reality in our daily lives, and a source of comfort in times of need; the sacred is not far away. At the same time, God eludes our grasp, existing in unfathomable mystery, distant and indescribable, challenging us to maintain our reverence and awe. Referring to God in the second and third person in our dialogue holds these contradictory truths together; our spirituality is not diminished by complexity and is enriched by learning to live with it, allowing it to guide us toward deeper understanding and connection – ‘אַתָּה ה.

YHVH – ה

God’s name is known as the Shem Havaya, the Tetragrammaton. It refers to timeless and eternal being, a construct of the words for was, is and shall be – היה, הווה, ויהיה. It is related to the way in which God introduced Himself to Moshe for the first time with the idea that God’s being transcends any fixed state that time imposes – אֶהְיֶה אֲשֶׁר אֶהְיֶה.

As an absolute and universal rule, God’s name is never pronounced as written, and instead, we substitute the name that describes mastery and control, and is universally relatable as the master of the forces that govern our lives – ADNY.

While we don’t pronounce the name; we can scan it, think about it, or just understand the concept as we say something else. Perhaps this mirrors the idea expressed by the name itself—that God is beyond physical space and time—so His name doesn’t need to be articulated in space and time. Or perhaps it’s enough to think it, which alone brings it into existence.

It’s not as esoteric as it sounds. In literature, you can always tell the difference between when the characters are talking and when they are thinking. Writing will have “speech marks” and a speech or thought bubble in comics and illustrated books. But while other characters can’t respond to thought, there is no distinction between thought and speech to you, the reader. But that’s exactly how God sees us; our speech and thoughts are identical to God. Citation here that God knows our thoughts.

(!ed pull this and put in intro? couple with r’ chaim brisker that lack of kavanna is lack of tefila see r berkowitz episode 1)

A recurring theme in this series is the emphasis on avoda she’blev; it’s the thought and feeling you invest in the words that transform words into prayers. So, while we don’t pronounce it how it’s written, what we think ultimately determines what it means.

To underscore how central this point is, speaking during the Amida is a prohibited interruption. But as obvious as that may be, the Rashba rules that even thinking off-topic and letting your mind wander constitutes a prohibited interruption. Our thought is the battleground of where prayer is – or is not – taking place. The continuum of each prayer is different, fueled by varying thoughts, even from the same person and even on the same day. There is a common form but a hyper-individualized substance; the thoughts and feelings we inject into the words are what turbocharge words into prayers – tochen / tzura.

The name YHVH represents a timeless being, and it’s the first of the 13 Attributes of Mercy, the prayer God taught Moshe after the Golden Calf. But in some sense, mercy is incompatible with timelessness; mercy is responsive. When you see a homeless person or a child crying, it moves and stirs an emotional response within you, driving you to act in a way you would not have without the stimulus – your compassion is reactive, wholly caused, and constrained by time and change.

Since God is beyond any particular moment, God cannot moved by our need of the moment. Yet ultimately, we can be sure that God is compassionate and merciful, even though nothing motivates God to give, because if we cannot stir God’s mercy, then by necessity, it must exist independently. You cannot be kind in a world with only yourself because there is no one to give to, nothing to react to. If any of us exist, God was kind and merciful to create us.

In the opening of our prayers, it’s essential to understand that God is the Source of blessing, lovingly bringing forth a creation that wasn’t there before. It’s the ultimate act of kindness because we could not deserve it. Before you exist, you cannot do anything to earn any merit! Nahama d’kisufa?

It also ties in with the opening verse and David’s feeling of unworthiness – תִּפְתָּח וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶךָ. We aren’t worthy, can’t be, and don’t need to be. Maybe we don’t have any merit; perhaps humans have no claim on God. But there was a time when humans didn’t exist, and before the notion of “deserving” entered the equation, God created humans out of love and kindness. Our moment of prayer is no worse than that moment. We acknowledge our relative position in Creation and humbly bow, but when we say Hashem’s name, we can stand again, lifted by God’s compassionate mercy.

אֱלֹקינוּ

The word that frequently opens the formula for blessings and prayers is Our God – אֱלֹקינוּ.

This word suggests at least two elements: first, there is a God, and second, He is ours. Fascinatingly, this language suggests a possible third element as well, not just that we have chosen to identify with this deity but also that there is possessive ownership – that literally, this God belongs to us.

וֵאלֹקי אֲבוֹתֵֽינוּ אֱלֹקי אַבְרָהָם אֱלֹהֵי יִצְחָק וֵאלֹקי יַעֲקֹב

In a world struggling with an existential lack of identity and purpose, it is deeply meaningful to open our prayers by acknowledging our long history with the Creator; this isn’t a new relationship we have started on our own. We have inherited a deep and rich relationship with roots that go far back and cast wide, the polar opposite of alienation and nihilism.

I am a part of something that has been here since long ago, that has been tested and approved by generation upon generation, something culturally sufficient that I can call my own, something that touches the eternal and transcendent – אֱלֹקינוּ וֵאלֹקי אֲבוֹתֵֽינוּ

Instead of stopping there, our sages specified each patriarch – Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yakov.

Archetypes BIG IDEA

As explained (See Core Idea: Talking about God is hard), God’s qualities are unlike human attributes. While human qualities merge and combine to form individual personalities, they exist in God as pure archetypes, paradoxically separate yet united. It’s impossible to completely grasp because it is conceptually outside our frame of reference, like trying to exist above time.

When a father has a favorite sports team, and his son takes an interest and starts cheering them on, it adds a unique element to the relationship that strengthens the bond; every time the team plays is a touchpoint for a new contact, forever.

That’s a little like what the Patriarchs did, establishing individual access points to these pure archetypes.

The first blessing of the Amida praises God’s kindness, God’s predominant mode of interacting with the universe. When God explains his attributes to Moshe, only one of them is “abundant,” kindness – וְרַב־חֶסֶד.

Avraham was the first prototype of perfection, the avatar of kindness, who embodied the archetype of kindness to all who would follow – חסד. His tent was famously open in all directions, welcoming all the tired and hungry, always ready to share a cold drink, a warm meal, and a kind word. His gentle way influenced a generation; his kindness may even have been excessive to some extent. He prays for Sodom, an evil and immoral city who don’t deserve pity; he is reluctant to send away his son Yishmael, even though he is a negative influence on Yitzchak and despite Sarah’s observations.

Avraham tapped into the archetype of distilled and undiluted kindness even to excess.

3 is stability

As the Maharal notes, there are three Patriarchs; three is significant because it is the minimum amount of support a structure needs to stand independently. Missing any one of Avraham, Yitzchak, or Yakov would erode the stability of the Jewish People.

We pray to our God, the God of our ancestors, the God of our stability. We are here today in their merit, honoring and practicing their qualities. We pray to the God of each ancestor, the embodiment of each archetype –  אֱלֹקי אַבְרָהָם אֱלֹהֵי יִצְחָק וֵאלֹקי יַעֲקֹב

We affirm our heritage, that we will continue the legacy, take up the mantle, and live up to it.

Forces

The Torah uses the word ELKM as a title of divinity that comprehends and unifies all the forces of eternity and infinity, the Master of forces. When we call God our God, it’s not a claim that God is ours by right, but that we are tasked with representing the fulfillment of the Divine will in the world to live in goodness, morality, and sanctity; the forces of the universe are at our disposal, and even manipulated for the Jewish People where necessary.

kol bishvil yisrael

(Shlomo – sounds like we’re saying Hashem needs us)

https://images.shulcloud.com/618/uploads/PDFs/Divrei_Torah/doesgodneedus.pdf

See, getting involved with God

Theirs – and ours

We affirm that God is our God, the God of our Fathers collectively, and then each specifically – Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov. Each alone is sufficient; we are the product of all three, so we, too, get to call God ours.

Our roots anchor and ground us; we are descendants of the heroes of old who walked and talked with the Creator, who would argue and sometimes even win. We open our prayers by affirming who we are and where we come from; remembering is the catalyst of redemption.

HAKEL

This is the most straightforward word for a deity or God and is the root of the earlier word in the blessing – EL / ELKM. It has connotations of might and power and is associated with love and kindness, embodied by Avraham.

In a certain sense, what made the Patriarchs unique and the stuff of legend was that they tapped into pure archetypes, forming human conduits through which God interacts with the world. Bridged once is bridged forever, and we are the inheritors of those pipelines.

From a certain point of view, the basic function and order of the universe is an incredible gift and blessing. From the vast cosmic scale of galaxies to the micro-scale of cells and molecules, every natural process works, and life goes on. The sun rose today and will probably rise tomorrow as well. Every day, people get by despite all their difficulties. There is kindness everywhere you look.

It’s important to relate to our prayers. When you flatter someone and ask for something afterward, everyone sees through the act; it is empty and insincere. Take a moment and imagine God’s greatest kindness to you, something significant that happened to you, something you shouldn’t or couldn’t be, shouldn’t or couldn’t have. That’s kindness.

הַגָּדוֹל הַגִּבּוֹר

We understand that when a person is small, it doesn’t mean they are short; it means they are petty and argumentative. So when we say someone is a big or great person, it means they don’t get caught up in petty things and trivial nonsense – גָּדוֹל.

The Thirteen Attributes prayer on Yom Kippur affirms that God is the definition of bigness, slow to anger and quick to forgive – גָּדוֹל.

When discussing strength, we usually think about functional strength in a competitive setting. Strong enough to lift what, strong enough to beat who? Our sages teach that strength isn’t found in the body but in the mind – אֵיזֶהוּ גִבּוֹר הַכּוֹבֵשׁ אֶת יִצְרוֹ.

Camped at Sinai, having just witnessed the Exodus, the Jewish People dance around a Golden Calf. God tells Moshe that the Jewish People have lost their way and face destruction, which Moshe recognizes as an invitation to pray on their behalf, and God teaches him the Thirteen Attributes. God does not react impulsively; God is mighty and gives us a way out – גִּבּוֹר.

וְהַנּוֹרָא

odd one out

we can participate in הָקל הַגָּדוֹל הַגִּבּוֹר, in kindness severity and balance

we cannot participate in God’s וְהַנּוֹרָא

קל עֶלְיוֹן

God is the supreme power and, more fundamentally, the only power. Whatever kind of power we can conceive of, God’s power is of a higher order. Military power, economic power, political power, nuclear power; any force or power in the universe is the faintest shadow, a borrowed reflection of God’s power – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

Our sages designated these four titles as acceptable references to God, with the express presumption that any other adjective is excluded by definition.

gemara story of brave and bold

adding further limiting

Moshe said these

Tachli hayedia shelo neida

https://www.hashkafacircle.com/journal/R1_RS_Silence.pdf

The word supreme is a preposition that expresses the spatial or temporal relations to something else; it usually means above, on, or over, in the way we might speak of God as lofty or high. It suggests a particular perspective and detachment, as well as control – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

But fundamentally, God is not above us in a geometric sense. Like God’s strength, we understand that the concepts of high and low regarding God are artificial constructs, just ways to speak about things in human terminology.

More than above, perhaps it means beyond, beyond explanation and imagination, incomprehensible; our language is finite, so the language does not exist.

We can invoke the titles spoken by our ancestors, but past that, we run out of words and go into the beyond – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

There are different ways of speaking about something. The engineer who builds it describes the mechanics differently than the salesman who pitches what it can do. The salesman will learn the engineer’s explanation of how it works to incorporate it into his scripts.

But it’s worth asking what the point might be in attempting the impossible. If our words are meaningless and don’t make a dent, per the anecdote with our sages about adding titles and descriptors, why bother with anything?

Some philosophers and sages have taken that position to a certain extent: that the highest praise of God is silence, the acknowledgment that our praise is entirely inadequate. But most, if not all, reject that position as a starting point; R’ Akiva Tatz teaches that some topics are difficult to explain directly, but you can still speak about the topic indirectly. In a roundabout way, without being able to pinpoint the target directly, you can fall right into a kind of understanding by inferring the concept.

If we take it as axiomatic, a fixed presumption, that it is correct and proper to show gratitude and thanks to the Creator, it is also axiomatic that we cannot know the Creator’s true essence; At the same time, there is a large, perhaps unbridgeable gap between the two, that doesn’t absolve us from trying.

While we cannot know the Creator, there is plenty we can know, and the Creator’s unknowability does not reduce that. I may not know the ultimate truth and reality of God’s kindness, but I don’t need anything near that level of knowledge to recognize the goodness and kindness in my life. I have enough awareness and information to understand that the Creator needed nothing and gave us everything and that God’s kindness animates all of Creation.

The extent of it may be beyond me; the depth and definition may be unfathomable, but the fact of it is plain as day. Words may fail ultimately, but that cannot stop us from acknowledging the simple reality that the universe has been good to us.

As one writer put it, two young fish swim along and meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says, “Morning, boys. How’s the water?” The two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually, one of them turns to the other and goes, “What’s water?”

It is pretty much impossible for a child to fully appreciate the depth and breadth of a parent’s love and sacrifices. They live and thrive within the love, warmth, safety, and security the parent provides, often wholly oblivious and unaware of the comprehensive care and protection surrounding them. It’s the water the fish swim in, the air we breathe; without conscious effort, we may not see the most obvious and important realities around us. But as a child grows more conscientious, sensitive, and thoughtful, they will at least try to thank their parents to a reasonable extent where possible. It would be insulting not to at birthdays, graduations, life cycle events, and happy moments here and there.

As the beautiful Shabbos prayer puts it, if our bodies were loaded with all the energy and power in the universe, it would never be close to enough to adequately thank the Creator – וְאִלּוּ פִינוּ מָלֵא שִׁירָה כַּיָּם. וּלְשׁוֹנֵנוּ רִנָּה כַּהֲמוֹן גַּלָּיו. וְשִׂפְתוֹתֵינוּ שֶׁבַח כְּמֶרְחֲבֵי רָקִיעַ. וְעֵינֵינוּ מְאִירוֹת כַּשֶּׁמֶשׁ וְכַיָּרֵחַ. וְיָדֵינוּ פְרוּשׂוֹת כְּנִשְׁרֵי שָׁמָיִם. וְרַגְלֵינוּ קַלּוֹת כָּאַיָּלוֹת. אֵין אֲנַחְנוּ מַסְפִּיקִים לְהוֹדוֹת לְךָ יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ וֵאלֹהֵי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ. וּלְבָרֵךְ אֶת שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. עַל אַחַת מֵאָלֶף אֶלֶף אַלְפֵי אֲלָפִים וְרִבֵּי רְבָבוֹת פְּעָמִים. הַטּוֹבוֹת נִסִּים וְנִפְלָאוֹת שֶׁעָשִׂיתָ עִם אֲבוֹתֵינוּ וְעִמָּנוּ

Imagine a speech where someone acknowledges their spouse or parents’ support and says they can’t thank them enough, so they won’t bother – it’s a cop-out! But just because we can’t finish the task doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.

This is the spirit and title that the whole Amida encompasses, the supreme power – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

(BIG IDEA)

Some literature advocates taking an objective God’s eye view on life and your problems, your subjective experiences, wants, and needs; if you negate your thoughts and feelings, you wouldn’t have wants and needs and wouldn’t feel bad about your problems. You’d be carefree and happy! This view has a significant shortcoming: our whole lived experience is embodied in our subjective experience, the only reality we have ever known. What would life be like not being me or not being human? I am not God, and I cannot be objective. The whole question arises from the human experience within the parameters of subjectivity. For ordinary people, it’s an unhelpful exercise to negate their existence.

As the prophets teach us, God’s thoughts are not just different from ours; they are fundamentally unlike ours; it is impossible to take a God’s eye view of things – KI LO CITE.

Everyone needs things; everyone wants things, including impossible things. But in acknowledging an unfathomable supreme power exists, possibility goes out the window; anything is possible.

Words (!ed could this section belong in Hashem Sefasai or intro?)

Language is a form of technology, perhaps the most powerful in the human arsenal.

We share this planet with thousands of species and trillions of organisms, and none but humans carry a lasting multi-generational record of knowledge of any obvious consequence. And yet, a feral human being left alone in the woods from birth to death, kept separate and alive, would be not much more than an ape; our knowledge isn’t because humans are smart. It’s because we speak.

We communicate and cooperate with others through language, giving us a formidable advantage in forming groups, sharing information, and pooling workloads and specializations. Language is the mechanism by which the aggregated knowledge of human culture is transmitted, actualizing our intelligence and self-awareness, transcending separate biological organisms, and becoming one informational organism. With language, we have formed societies, built civilizations and developed science and medicine, literature, and philosophy.

With language, knowledge does not fade; we can learn from the experiences of others. Without learning everything from scratch, we can use an existing knowledge base built by others to learn new things and make incrementally progressive discoveries. As one writer put it, a reader lives a thousand lives before he dies; the man who never reads lives only once.

Language doesn’t just affect how we relate to each other; it affects how we relate to ourselves. We make important decisions based on thoughts and feelings influenced by words on a page or conversations with others. It has been said that with one glance at a book, you can hear the voice of another person – perhaps someone gone for millennia – speaking across the ages clearly and directly in your mind.

Considering the formidable power of communication, it follows that the Torah holds it in the highest esteem because language is magical. Indeed, it is a building block of Jewish belief that the fabric of Creation is woven with words; in the beginning, the Creator says let there be light, and there is light. בדבר ה שמים נעשו tehilim 33:6

Although speech and language are distinctly human things, the concept of language inherently means communication with a counterpart or an other. The function of a word is to be heard; words that go unheard cannot be said to truly exist. A famous philosophical thought experiment asks us to consider if a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? In this interpretation, sound can only be said to be sound if a person hears it. The notion of the Creator speaking Creation into existence with primordial speech is the ultimate act of communication with a counterpart.

If thought is abstract and action is reality, speech is the bridge from the inside to the outside, from metaphysical to tangible – תִּפְתָּח וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶךָ. It follows from this that although the Amida is recited silently, the words must be whispered just loud enough so you can hear yourself but quiet enough so people standing nearby cannot.

We say words of our own to manifest appreciation in the world; those words must be audible. If words are the bridge between worlds and the bridge goes nowhere, the words have failed.

Elyon

The Creator is supreme, unknowable, elevated, and removed, with perspective and power above all. More than power in terms of magnitude or order, the Creator’s strength originates in that detachment, in being able to take a long-term view and perspective. We all get caught up in the moment from time to time; God never does, an expression of supreme power – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

The supreme power that makes galaxies spin and holds planets and particles together is also making you have a bad day; the supreme power that shuts this door arranges for you to meet that person, to be in the right place at the right time – or not. The supreme power that we label fortune, luck, or mazel, is pervasive, at all times, in all places, across all scales – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

When a kid gets hurt, they know to run to their dad to make it better. Prayer isn’t about words; it’s about ideas; this idea is about connecting to the supreme power that manipulates all things in the universe. Whatever challenge or problem is front and center, whatever is bothering or plaguing you may be based on a correct analysis, but is a function of limited perspective, tunnel vision, and singular focus with a one-track mind. It would be easy to take the overview; it’s just that that’s impossible for us.

BIG IDEA (!ed needs work and sensitive treatment)

Perhaps from the God’s eye view, you aren’t stuck or lost at all; you just need to go somewhere else, and are being redirected. Here, not there, like this, not like that.

Bias, desires, and predispositions burden our hearts; that’s how we were made. Sometimes, that can make us feel like there’s no way out, no alternative, that the situation is untenable. This prayer reminds us that the supreme power in the universe is not immersed in our troubles, with a perspective that is not limited to relinquishing our understanding of the issue – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

As a surgeon prepares to operate, balancing emotional detachment and empathy is crucial. The surgeon cannot treat the patient casually like a stranger or a piece of meat; they must care deeply yet not be overwhelmed by emotions to the point where it impedes their ability to perform surgery. If a surgeon refused to operate on a child because the child was afraid and crying, it would be a failure to maintain professional detachment for the child’s benefit; the child would suffer the consequences of not having the necessary procedure.

That’s quite similar to how we might understand God’s detachment when interacting with us; it’s bad because it hurts, but not bad in the bigger picture. Especially in difficult times, recognizing that God is the supreme power suggests that sometimes, what seems harmful to us might be for our good, much like a surgical procedure that causes immediate pain but ultimately heals, that God can hurt us for our good.

From a divine perspective, what we experience as suffering might be necessary interventions for our long-term well-being. If God were not somewhat removed, possessing a greater perspective, God might not be able to act in our best interest; God’s strength lies in the ability to be removed, to allow us to go through challenges while still being omnipresent, even in our impurity and pain.

The Torah anticipates periods of intense difficulty and distance, moments where God will hide – Anochi Astir Astir CITE. But quite paradoxically, God’s apparent absence is actually an expression of presence. You can only hide when you’re nearby; there would be no need to hide if you’re not there at all. This can be seen as the greatest expression of closeness, a divine surgeon who operates out of love, knowing when to appear distant to facilitate our growth, yet always being intimately close, guiding us through our pain towards a greater good.

Few people welcome the kinds of challenges that shake our world; they come all the same. When the business fails, someone is sick, the relationship is struggling, the thing doesn’t happen, whatever the case may be, it hurts, and nothing else matters. It’s hard to see past the moment.

But years later, on the other side, after the fact, some people are fortunate to have navigated through life’s challenges and emerged stronger, more enlightened, or changed for the better; the trials we encounter are often the cuts necessary for our personal development. For these people, their path is an embodiment of the supreme power influencing our lives, with surgical incisions that truly hurt yet are intended to heal – קל עֶלְיוֹן.

Facing adversity isn’t merely about enduring hardship; it’s about recognizing these moments as opportunities for growth and transformation, divinely designed for our ultimate good.

(!ed important not to sanctify or glorify pain here, talk about local why not global why)

גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים

Not all kindness is good; not every kindness is equal. You can do a favor for someone, and they get annoyed, or you give someone advice, and the tip ends up backfiring or being a dead end. Some kindnesses stifle and stop people from ever figuring things out for themselves, and some kindnesses are embarrassing to receive.

The Creator’s kindness isn’t like that; God’s kindness doesn’t hamstring us; it always works and is never embarrassing; it is objectively good – גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים.

(see Arthur green, monism)

God is throughout all of being, and all of being contains the divine self; God is in and of all, eternal all-encompassing being. God is part of all things – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל – and the entire tapestry comes together in cohesive goodness – גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים.

That perspective is distant and hard to recognize in many moments, if not utterly alien. Some things feel bad, some hurt a lot, sometimes for a long time, sometimes forever. That’s true, that’s valid, but there is also a bigger picture, the supreme power that sees the fullness of all things in goodness – קל עֶלְיוֹן גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים.

When we consider the simple act of giving, especially in contexts like offering money to a homeless person without concern for whether it goes towards a hot meal or something less wholesome. The prayer is precise; the verb here suggests more than simple action and has connotations of reciprocity, in the sense of bestowing, paying back, or redeeming – גּוֹמֵל / oseh.

The essence of true loving-kindness is rooted in consideration of the recipient’s needs over their wants. It’s about providing not what they desire but what truly benefits them, ensuring that the gift is appropriate and meaningful. We believe that God gives the right gifts at the right times, and they are right because God bestows them with an emphasis on interaction.

This teaching is a paradigm shift; it encourages us to see divine benevolence not just in what the Creator provides but also in what the Creator withholds. For instance, a person experiencing poverty might find gratitude, recognizing that their situation, however challenging, may be shielding them from greater harm or leading them to grow in ways they hadn’t anticipated. It suggests that sometimes, the answer to our prayers isn’t to fulfill our current desires but to evolve into individuals for whom those desires would no longer pose a detriment.

This approach shifts the focus from a simplistic petition for needs to a more profound dialogue with the divine, recognizing that God’s wisdom might see that certain things we need might not be suitable for us in our current state. It suggests that we not simply seek the fulfillment of our desires, but aspire to become the kind of person for whom those desires would be appropriate and beneficial.

The answer to your prayers isn’t the answer to all your prayers. Getting everything you ever wanted, as if that were even possible, doesn’t necessarily mean that all our requests, needs, or desires will be fulfilled in the way we expect or desire. Receiving a positive response or a specific outcome, we’ve prayed for highlights the complexity of divine wisdom and the limitations of human understanding because, while some prayers may be answered tangibly and immediately, the broader scope of our wishes and needs might be addressed in ways that are not immediately apparent or in forms we did not anticipate. Making all that money creates a lot of stress and tax headaches. The person you were dying to marry has a difficult family. The dream house has a lot of maintenance issues.

Nothing is perfect, but that also means that it’s not wrong to ask for anything you want, and anything is possible. One mathematician wrote of the butterfly effect, the idea that small things can have non-linear impacts on complex systems; prayer is fundamentally about understanding the status quo and asking for it to change, with all the cascading effects on everything else that follows.

When you overcome a challenge or when you ask for help and succeed, you can be thankful for the failure and stress. With context and clarity, the problems that hold us back can eventually be the trials that level us up, some of the best things that have ever happened. In praying to solve a problem, you might find the strength to work through and overcome it completely.

The Ben Ish Chai highlights how the Torah uses a similar word to describe how Ahron’s staff suddenly bursts with almond blossoms, signifying not just a miraculous event but a revelation of deeper truths and blessings – bigmol shkeidim / גּוֹמֵל CITE. This association suggests that God’s kindnesses reveal and unfolds to help us understand and navigate our challenges. It’s about the unfolding of circumstances in such a way that what initially frustrates us eventually reveals its hidden goodness. Like stubbing your toe only to discover, through the ensuing hospital visit, that an undiagnosed health issue can now be treated, the hidden blessings become apparent, allowing us to see divine providence in ways we previously couldn’t.

It’s okay to be authentic about what you’re experiencing; it might even be ideal, however trivial; you’re glad you caught the train, found a good parking spot, the line was short, paid a reasonable price, got a promotion. If you’re thankful for silly things, say thank you! If you’re not thankful that the poor children in some far corner of the world aren’t hungry today, it serves no purpose to maintain any illusion. It’s perfectly okay to be thankful for having all we need to be the people we are, and nothing is too shallow or small. If the Creator is the supreme power at the smallest scale, the promotion is trivial, but you are not, and the promotion was sent to you, and now you are happy!

Prayer isn’t theatre; it’s not a performance for anybody; no one else is listening. There is no right way to feel other than genuine; it’s about opening up to the Creator. It’s worth more than the empty platitudes we wish people in our morning greetings. How are you? Good, thanks; how are you? All good.

Take those few minutes to recognize the goodness in your life and that they’re things you want and need and things that are ultimately and objectively good. For all the things that make you uniquely you, who you are, and all the things that are leading you to who you need to become, who you are still becoming

Another word linked to this root is camel – גּוֹמֵל / GAMAL. The camel’s defining features are endurance and resilience, renowned for its ability to travel long distances across arid landscapes with limited resources, bearing heavy burdens. In this way, the camel represents the ability to withstand challenging conditions and to continue moving forward despite scarcity or hardship.

In the way a camel’s hump is a biological adaptation specific to its needs and provides required energy in lean times, it is worth considering which features and kindnesses and their functionality and purpose in your environment define and sustain you.

Recognize that the supreme power that guides the universe has shaped you into what makes you uniquely you, not just in external things that happen to people like money and health, but kindness specific to you on the level of intimate and integral parts – גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים.

There can be no more authentic, genuine, and unique appreciation than recognizing that the Creator has made you authentically you, with all the constituent parts of your inner life. By definition, no one ever has or will be able to sing that song; they will have theirs, but that one is yours alone.

Take a moment each time you pray, identify some of the things that make you the person you are, and be thankful for those. Your recipe is unique; no one has possessed it before; none will possess it again – גּוֹמֵל חֲסָדִים טוֹבִים.

וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל

Creates, owns, acquires, possesses. While there are different words for “create” in Hebrew, this one has connotations of acquiring and possessing that others do not – borei, yotzeir, osei CITE.

The first blessing of the Amida praises the Creator’s mastery and power over the universe; any desires and requests that follow tie directly into that. We ask for health because of God’s power over our bodies; we ask for prosperity because God controls the forces that move financial markets; we ask for wisdom from the Source of all understanding. God controls and manages all those things; God made them all – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

Present not Past

This blessing doesn’t contemplate God as the Creator in the past tense – KANA. It speaks of God as the Creator in the present tense, in an ongoing manner – קוֹנֵה. Our morning prayers affirm that God renews Creation every day, every moment; if there were ever an instant God didn’t continue to will Creation into existence, it would cease to be.

We can mistakenly relate to the universe as static; this is what it is. God said let there be light, and there was light, and ever since then, that’s how it is. But in this teaching, every infinitesimal second is a renewal of Creation at the speed of light.

A movie reel is twenty-four to sixty frames per second; children draw flip books that show motion as you flick it. It looks seamless, but if you hit pause or get to the end, everything stops; our lives are like that. God didn’t simply create everything long ago; everything is continually developed and recreated by God every moment of every day – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

From our perspective, everything can seem hopeless, and there is no way out. A terminal diagnosis, a dead relationship, irredeemable sin, innocence lost, fortune ruined, foundations rotten.

These constraints are genuine within the parameters of our universe; they bind us, but just us. If you draw a building, you can draw the ceiling before the floor; it won’t fall. To the Creator, there are no constraints, no limits. The family components can change, the sickness can vanish, and the market can turn. Everything is created anew, without due regard to order or structure; the ceiling can float before the floor, because they have a separate existence – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

That means we can pray for anything, anything at all! Anything is just as possible as anything else. Praying for a dollar is the same as praying for a billion, and a billion is the same as one – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל

Reasonableness isn’t a relevant consideration; it is axiomatic that God can do anything without breaking a sweat. But there is a practical difference between making a forest grow and praying to grow two feet overnight; that’s not how the world works, so don’t count on it. It’s a waste of breath, the kind of empty prayer our sages warn against – tefilas shav CITE.

(!ed Shlomo – so should people pray for realistic things or wildest dreams)

We don’t live in a magical world or even in a linear world. If good things happen to good people and bad things happen to bad people, free will would be functionally destroyed because everybody would always be good. Who would do wrong if you knew every time you steal, you’d get cancer? If the world worked that way, any challenge and difficulty in life would vanish instantly, and the whole exercise of Creation would fall apart.

To promote the facade of nature and life, God actively interferes with the natural order of the universe only in a limited and regulated manner. There is a cost-benefit analysis to meddling with the system; when we count on the illogical or impossible, the cost is too high, and we will be disappointed if we remain unrealistic. But on the flip side, it’s perfectly fair and reasonable to pray and perhaps even expect God to do the logical and reasonable; probability and statistics are fundamental building blocks of the natural order of the universe’s design specifications.

On the way out of Egypt, the Jewish People are hungry, and out of necessity, food falls out of the sky. They’re thirsty, and water bursts out of a rock. They live in an artificial shelter of clouds with clothes that grow and are clean. They knew they could count on God; they doubted themselves, and at the first sign of having to put in some effort, the Jewish People panicked at the spy’s report.

God can do anything and doesn’t need much to work with; it’s just that God regulates when to upend the natural order. As the author and administrator of those rules, God can suspend and reconfigure them at will – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

(!ed Shlomo job interview story)

What this means, then, is that God isn’t just saturated in the greater cosmos but in every aspect of your life, on both sides of the equation: the problem and the solution. Whatever force or severity is animating the problem, an equal and opposite corresponds to the solution if you can access it. There comes a stage in life where the mind fails, and we can no longer remember; we forget things. The inverse of that is that the ability exists to retain far more information than we think possible – if we only put in the effort. The same force that governs forgetfulness governs remembering; there is one force of memory – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

There is a fantastic quote:

“I asked for strength, and God gave me difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for wisdom, and God gave me problems to solve.

I asked for courage, and God gave me dangers to overcome.

I asked for love, and God gave me troubled people to help.

My prayers were answered.”

(!ed Shlomo, what about those who don’t rise to the challenge and stumble?)

Make it personal

BIG IDEA

(!ed this may belong in 00 intro)

Once upon a time, prayer wasn’t a duty or obligation; the thinking was that a relationship is meant to be unique, not fungible, spontaneous, or routine. People used to freestyle their spirituality until they lost touch with that ability, which is the point at which the Men of the Great Assembly formalized the Amida prayers.

But although the language is fixed, the feelings are not; we talk about releasing the bound, the people who walk out of Egypt, but most people haven’t been to jail and lack personal experience – matir assurim CITE. The solution is to broaden and expand the definition to all forms of stuckness, any sense of being bound or tied down, whether to definitions, identities, limitations, narratives, or other paradigms.

The work of prayer is to put ] heart into prayer; the battleground of prayer is the heart, not the head – avoda shebalev. Think of interpretations that are relevant and meaningful

put yourself into the prayer – vaani tefilasi es ratzon i am my prayer

Whatever is happening in your life, whatever is relevant, whatever happened today.

Debt

One of the Ten Commandments is honoring our parents. They brought us into the world, fed, clothed, raised, and loved us; parents do so much, and they are owed a debt of respect as a consequence. Foster parents don’t bring the child into the world, but they are also owed the debt of respect a parent is due; the logic it is based on holds true. In some tragic circumstances, parents can bring a child into the world, and it stops there, but even that is not trivial and is still deserving of a modicum of respect.

The Creator, our third parent, made everything and brought everything into existence and also brought us into the world; the Creator is due everything as a result – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

Nest

In a more profound interpretation, the word in this phrase is linked to the word for nest – shiluach haken. Nests are an archetype and symbol of nurturing, a place to secure the future. It’s an environment where eggs and chicks can be warm and safe at a time when they cannot survive outside the boundaries of the nest.

Our world is a nest; God has nested us in this world – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

We must value the world and not waste things or opportunities, not squander our skills and abilities. Imagine a mother paying for her son’s violin lessons for ten years, at which point he throws the violin in the trash and says he wants to play video games. It hurts God when we waste our potential and fall short of the greatness that might have been ours.

Everything is nested – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל. You are nesting, and every single challenge, difficulty, issue, problem, and thing about the universe is your nest.

Growing up, there was a young man in the community with acute substance use disorders for many years. Eventually, he hit rock bottom, pulled himself together, and went to yeshiva. He went on to become a leader, a pillar in the community who saved many kids with substance-related issues. His substance use disorder had been nesting.

our issues nest us – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל

BIG IDEA

A problematic relationship, health issue, finance issue, or whatever the case may be, is the nest in which we can become our truest selves. Perhaps a way to neutralize a little bit of bitterness or sting is to recognize it in the moment. Knowing there is a surprise before the reveal, knowing that our journey is leading somewhere, building towards something, makes it matter. This isn’t necessarily true of all things in particular; a cup may be a cup without any cosmic significance to your life, but your life story as a whole has a direction.

Everything is a nest; the universe is a nest. The little birds fly away when ready and find the nest’s structure confining. Outside the nest is the great beyond, the World to Come, the place we go when the time comes for our souls to leave the nest.

Renewing, fixing, cleansing

A further profound interpretation of this phrase is that it is associated with fixing – קוֹנֵה / tikkun CITE.

God fixes things, fixes what is broken, and makes them whole – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

קוֹנֵה is an anagram of cleansing, one of the 13 Attribute – venakeh CITE

The Exodus is an orienting event for the Jewish People, a founding moment in our history, with a daily duty to recall it. It’s the first thing God has to say to humans at Sinai; God introduces Himself as the God who took us out of Egypt. It is a perpetual mitzvah, and an astounding amount of our daily blessings, mitzvos, and prayers commemorate the Exodus – זֵכֶר לִיצִיאַת מִצְרָיִם.

As the Hagadda recounts, the Jewish People in Egypt were naked and bare, with no faith and merit in their favor – וְאַתְּ עֵרֹם וְעֶרְיָה. The Zohar goes so far as to say that the Jews were on the 49th level of spiritual malaise, just one notch off rock bottom, the point of no return, and imagines the angels arguing whether or not God should save the Jewish People and the argument was that “this lot are just a bunch of idol-worshippers, and so are those!”

The Jewish People weren’t in good shape; we didn’t deserve anything, and God saved us. We were broken beyond fixing, and God fixed us – tikkun. We were a mess, and God cleaned us up – venakeh. With nothing to earn that freedom with, we repay with our lives – וְקוֹנֵה הַכֹּל.

Whose iPod is it

Our sages teach that before Creation, there was Torah, and there was Teshuva, the ability to fix – Tikkun CITE. Through Teshuva, we surrender to the supreme power of Creation, the Creator that acquires, cleanses, creates, fixes, and nests our existence.

Shlomo had an iPod, and one of his kids was playing with it when he asked for it back. The kid got annoyed and angrily yelled, “Fine!” and scowled like she was doing him a favor. But it was Shlomo’s iPod.

If we have correctly understood the extent of God’s power and influence, God owns us anyway, whether we decide to live in service of that knowledge or not. But what we do have is one thing, and one thing only, whether we give ourselves willingly or not.

It follows that if there is a Creator, the Creator has sovereignty and dominion over the entire world, not just the Jewish People; the only difference is whether we graciously welcome the kingdom – כִּי לַה’ הַמְּלוּכָה וּמֹשֵׁל בַּגּוֹיִם

We only have one thing: free will, the ability to choose. The range of choices we have in life is relatively narrow, small, and limited; in actuality, the only thing we get to choose is how we do things.

And whatever you do, if you’re doing it anyway, you might as well choose to do it with a smile.

 וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת – God remembers the kindness of the Patriarchs

Memory is a faculty of the mind by which information is stored and retrieved; it is the retention of information over time for the purpose of influencing future action. God is timeless; it doesn’t make sense to speak of God’s sense of memory because God cannot remember or forget.

This is another example of anthropomorphization, a way of speaking in human terms about something that is not human. It’s a metaphor, a figure of speech that describes something by saying it’s something else.

Humans can remember something they’ve forgotten; God can’t do that. But when we remember that someone has hurt us, we mean that the memory will influence our actions and behavior toward that person differently as a consequence of that memory. God remembers Noach, Sarah, and the Jewish People in Egypt. He hadn’t forgotten; God remembers in the sense that God takes a different course of action than might otherwise be expected in light of a previous act or behavior.

The great acts of our ancestors influence the Creator to act differently towards us. God can’t daydream, lose focus, or space out; God’s memory is an active, focused consideration, constantly and ever presently focussed on recalling their greatness –  וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת.

Similar to the law to eradicate the memory of Amalek, memory is inextricably linked to action, demonstrating how remembering past events compels us to act in the present.

In classic Jewish thought, the concept of male and female transcends biological distinctions, symbolizing the interplay of form and matter, initiative and receptivity. In this framework, the male principle introduces form or initiative, while the female principle transforms and sustains it into a lasting presence.

Linking memory to the male principle suggests that memory is proactively creative, not passive; a generative force that not only recalls but also propels forward, highlighting a Divine memory that is not dormant but vibrantly active and generative. It underscores a view of a Creator intimately involved in the world, constantly creating and recreating in response to human actions.

Our sages speculate whether ancestral merit is infinite; does it run out or expire? They conclude with a verse from Isaiah, that even after all the mountains and hills crumbled, the Creator’s love and kindness will never fade – הֶהָרִים יָמוּשׁוּ וְהַגְּבָעוֹת תְּמוּטֶינָה וְחַסְדִּי מֵאִתֵּךְ לֹא־יָמוּשׁ. This passage suggests that even if the ancestors’ merit seems exhausted, God’s kindness remains unwavering. One sage takes a different view; R’ Berachiah inverts the interpretation, reading it not as the kindness humans receive from God towards us but the kindness God receives from humans – וְחַסְדִּי מֵאִתֵּךְ; that if ancestral merit runs out, the remedy lies in our acts of kindness.

What might have led R’ Berachiach to shift the focus from divine to human kindness is that while ancestral merit might not run out, we can act in ways that effectively exclude ourselves from it.

If someone gives you a loan, you will be thankful and repay it honorably. Years later, if his son came to you for a loan, you might feel obligated because his father was there for you. But if the son doesn’t repay the loan, the analysis changes. And if he returns for a second loan, he can no longer say you owe him because his father lent you money once!

God remembers the ancestors – וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת

They left us with bottomless reserves of merit, but we need at least attempt to resemble them in thought and deed to have a claim to their sphere of merit. The further we stray, the greater the risk of severing that connection; as R’ Berachiah teaches, we can reforge that bond through acts of kindness, reattuning ourselves to their legacy.

Kindness in this context is understood as not merely a benevolent act, but as extending oneself beyond what is required or expected, an act of giving that transcends self-interest and routine generosity. It’s about contributing something of value that you wouldn’t have given otherwise, truly impacting the other’s life. Giving away a sandwich you would’ve thrown out isn’t kind; it’s just an efficient use of resources.

The patriarchs exemplified this through their actions and decisions, prioritizing others and embodying values beyond their immediate self-interest. Avraham’s mode of being, Yitzchak’s acts of self-sacrifice, Yaakov’s fairness towards Lavan despite deception, and the overarching choice of the patriarchs to stand for God in a self-centered world—these are seen as acts of kindness towards God, a devotion that God reciprocates by eternally remembering – וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת.

Come what may, God swears to remember, never to forget them, and will not abandon them or their legacy, to focus on our good, even though we do some bad stuff, and God anticipates all those bad things.

This eternal remembrance is the covenant, the enduring and unmovable relationship between God and the Jewish People. With reciprocal obligations of both parties, it affirms commitment to a set of values, principles, and beliefs that shape one’s identity and guide one’s actions, symbolized through the acts of the patriarchs and later through us.

It’s not about them

In another interpretation, this phrase might not be about the ancestors Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov; but about the ancestors who trusted God to walk out of Egypt and into the desert, which the prophets call a kindness – zacharti lach chessed neurayich.

Despite the fact God supernaturally exfiltrated them from Egypt and pampered and sustained them throughout, this teaching considered that God identifies and highlights the small things we do and remembers them as kindnesses – וְזוֹכֵר חַסְדֵי אָבוֹת.

(!ed not sure what to do with this, if anything)

hakol bishvil Yisrael – moral superiority, not racial superiority

God wants people to act a certain way

If we are, or more modestly, are trying our best, then the world is for us

וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם

This blessing is about the greatness and kindness of our ancestors; as their descendants, there is an element of them in us, and this phrase ties our redemption to them.

It contemplates a present redemption that is continuous and ongoing, not a far-off redemption one day in a distant future – וּמֵבִיא.

The concept of redemption in Jewish thought offers a fascinating lens through which to view the unfolding of history and the evolution of generations. It posits that every generation holds the potential for redemption, a promise not uniform across time but tailored to each era’s unique challenges and spiritual landscape. This potential, however, is not always fully realized, which might seem like a shortfall but, on a deeper level, reflects the divine attribute of patience and perseverance. The recurring opportunities for redemption are less about repeated failures and more about the generosity of chances, underscoring the belief that the Creator does not give up on humanity but offers more opportunities for growth and improvement.

This adaptability of redemption, making it suitable for its recipients, echoes the Torah’s assertion that a leader’s greatness is measured by their relevance and ability to resonate with their people at their time. God sent Moshe away from Sinai because his people had become unworthy, suggesting that leadership and redemption are profoundly connected to the condition and needs of the people at that moment.

A leader is only as good as he is relevant; one of our greatest praises is our belief that redemption is not a one-size-fits-all solution but is dynamic and matches what people need – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל.

Judaism originated the idea of Mashiach, the savior or liberator who ushers in a Messianic Age of global universal peace and utopia and the end of history. That era didn’t come in the age of our ancestors, and it hasn’t happened in our time, not yet at least, and it’s the big goal on the horizon we work towards.

When we anchor God in the profound and unique relationship with our ancestors, it seems to set an impossibly high bar for future generations. There might be an underlying expectation that since this relationship was established in a state of near perfection, the continuation of this legacy must uphold the same standards.

As this blessing tells us, God redeems their children’s children, too, suggesting recognition of the evolving nature of this relationship across generations, that redemption is promised not just directly but to the next generation and descendants many steps removed, that the spiritual legacy of our ancestors is robust enough to withstand the dilution that time and distance impose – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

God brings it closer

Another interpretation is that God facilitates redemption by constantly bringing it closer. On a superficial level, each day that goes by, we are one step closer, but more profoundly, God brings the concept and goal of redemption closer to our hearts and minds. As the goal becomes more imminent, it becomes more comprehensible and integrated into our collective consciousness. It’s something we think about and talk about today, part of the zeitgeist; that’s not always been the case.

God recognizes our abilities and shortcomings; we are who we are, we are not our ancestors. God moves the goalposts closer to accommodate our capabilities and circumstances, appreciating the small things we do and acknowledging our efforts and contributions, no matter how modest they may seem in comparison to the monumental achievements of our forebears. The incremental progress we make toward a redeemed world, every act of kindness, every moment of learning, and every mitzvah is an essential step on the path to redemption – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל.

It reassures us that our efforts are not in vain and that every positive action contributes to bringing the concept and reality of Mashiach closer to fruition. In this way, the journey toward redemption is a collective endeavor that honors our ancestors’ legacy while recognizing each generation’s unique contributions and challenges.

We’re not them

In reflecting on our journey towards Mashiach, we must recognize a fundamental difference between the spiritual heroism of our ancestors and the nature of our standing. We are not Avraham, who faced the fiery furnace with absolute faith. We are not Moshe, who faced off with an empire and didn’t flinch. We are not Nachshon, who stepped into the ocean he couldn’t swim in.

What, then, are our great deeds? In our mundane and ordinary lives, what can we hope to contribute to the grand narrative of redemption?

That’s precisely why redemption must evolve to accommodate the principle of the decline of the generations. This notion isn’t a moral judgment but a factual acknowledgment of the spiritual distance that separates us from the soaring heights reached by our forebears. It’s a recognition that holding us to the standards of past generations would not only be unfair but would ignore the context of our struggles and achievements. Therefore, divine kindness does not hold this decline against us. Instead, it reassures us of a steadfast promise made to Avraham – God chose his descendants because Avraham would teach his household to follow in his ways.

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No matter how small our deeds may seem or how modest our contributions are, they are recognized by God as significant steps that contribute towards bringing perfection into the world.

That’s actually what Mashiach represents – the world coming to its perfected state, characterized by peace and the permanent end of all conflict. The greatest expression of kindness, then, is God’s ability to look upon our flawed efforts and see them as integral to the world’s perfection – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

In comparison to the Creator’s infinite greatness, even the Avot were small, and so our own sense of smallness is put into perspective. We can rely on God’s kindness to see the quality in our deeds, recognizing that our efforts, no matter how minor they may seem, contribute to the collective march toward redemption.

Wrinkle

It’s well and good that God’s expectations are proportionate to each generation’s capabilities, but the fact that the great deeds of our ancestors did not bring about Mashiach isn’t a good sign. It suggests that their maximal efforts, grand as they were, were not enough to usher in the era of Mashiach, prompting a reassessment of what is expected from us. If their best wasn’t sufficient, why would ours be good enough?

Perhaps, then, every generation is equidistant from Mashiach, with our small deeds holding as much significance in the divine calculus as the monumental acts of Avraham and his descendants. In this light, our efforts towards kindness, justice, and faithfulness are as vital to the process of redemption as the most heroic deeds of our forefathers. This equivalence underscores a profound hope and responsibility—that in doing our part, no matter how modest it may seem, we actively participate in the collective endeavor to bring the world closer to its ultimate perfection.

But we sort of are them

Avraham binding his son, and Yitzchak willing allowing him to, brought the world closer to perfection. The great acts of our ancestors are not merely historical; they are our legacy, inherent in us, having shaped the moral and spiritual DNA of the Jewish People ever since. This profound connection suggests that each act of righteousness and each moment of sacrifice throughout our history brings the world incrementally closer to perfection and lives on in us. Our task is not to start from scratch but to build upon the extensive foundations laid by generation after generation of our ancestors. The Akeidah, the pinnacle of faith and sacrifice, lives on in us, suggesting that God’s kindness extends to seeing the goodness of our forebears in all our actions and intentions. In us, God sees them – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

Taking this teaching to its furthest conclusion, we can have ultimate redemption, because redeeming us is redeeming the ancestors.

We might not look or act anything like Avraham. Even many steps removed even heavily watered down from what was once great and admirable, we can draw on three and a half thousand years’ worth of spiritual credit reserves that have been accruing interest, a testament to the enduring covenant between God and the Jewish people, a covenant that transcends appearances, time, and the physical realm – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

Imagine holding a check signed by Dad with the family name but without identification; how does the teller know the check is authentic? Your clothes and car don’t help, but your face might; if the branch manager knows your family and says you look just like Dad did, you might be in luck.

The divine teller recognizes us not by our external trappings but by an inherent familial resemblance, a spiritual lineage, and a soul bond that traces back to Avraham. This recognition is not based on physical attributes but on a deeper, soulful connection to our forebears.

We can cash in on that only through God’s kindness, which we must praise – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

It is essential to understand that redemption and Mashiach are not rewards for accumulating a certain number of mitzvah points; they are the culmination of a profound connection and intrinsic bond between Creator and Creation. Kind words and good deeds are what ultimately draw the world closer to its perfected state; Mashiach is merely a consequence of that.

In today’s landscape, many of our people do not embody the ideals of Avraham or even the traditional markers of Jewish identity, yet God’s promise remains unwavering. Every Jew, regardless of their appearance or observance, irrespective of how far they may have strayed from the path of their ancestors, is still considered a descendant of Avraham, the progeny of the person who dedicated his life to sharing God with the world. This is the essence of divine kindness: recognizing and valuing each individual’s connection to a shared spiritual heritage, regardless of their external circumstances – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם.

This teaching suggests that our most minor acts of kindness, our everyday struggles and achievements, are seen as valuable contributions to the greater narrative of redemption. Standing here with little or nothing, we are invited to see ourselves as part of a royal lineage, heirs to a spiritual kingdom built by giants, in a state of humility and openness to divine grace.

It is a recognition that, in the grand scheme of redemption, our inherent worth and our contributions, no matter how small, are recognized and cherished by God. This is the ultimate kindness, the assurance that each of us has a role in bringing the world closer to its perfected state, guided by the legacy of our ancestors and the boundless chesed of the Creator.

But actually, we want to do it ourselves

But while all that’s true, we might feel a certain frustration. We don’t want to rely on ancestral merit; we want to earn our place in the redemption narrative through our own merits. While we deeply value the foundation laid by our forefathers, we seek to make a meaningful contribution with our actions and deeds. We don’t just want to inherit a spiritual legacy but to proactively participate in its continuation and growth. We want to fight our battles and win victories, not finish someone else’s fights!

This perspective does not diminish the significance of heritage; instead, it highlights our dynamic relationship with it. God allows us to utilize the merit of our ancestors as a support for our challenges, recognizing that while we stand on the shoulders of giants, the battles we face are uniquely ours. We can compete in our own competition in full; the challenges adapted to our generation are tailored for us, affirming that we have the capacity to meet them and victory will be ours. In this way, our victories are genuinely ours, even as they contribute to the broader narrative of Jewish history and destiny.

Avraham does everything to earn God’s commitment and undertaking, and God recognizes Avraham in us. This recognition is not a passive inheritance but an active engagement with our spiritual identity and mission. The fact that our endeavors can be seen as worthy and deserving is a testament to our direct lineage from those who first earned God’s commitment. Our deeds are considered redemptive because our forebears earned the right for their descendants’ efforts to be valued that way. This unique dynamic illustrates a divine kindness that views our contributions as both significant in their own right and as a continuation of the legacy of our ancestors.

In this context, our efforts and contributions are measured not against a universal standard but against our personal capacities and circumstances. Just as an overweight asthmatic may not be expected to perform to the standards of an Olympic runner, we are not expected to replicate the exact deeds of our ancestors. Instead, our objective is to strive towards our version of perfection, to do the utmost within our abilities and circumstances. The divine kindness in this process is the recognition of our efforts as complete and worthy, seeing perfection in our earnest attempts to fulfill our spiritual and moral responsibilities.

Your job is to do 100% of what you can, and everyone is tasked with the same. In every single context, however close or far, and no matter who else is involved, you are always as far as everyone else, whether one step or two miles.

God’s consideration of our deeds as 100% effort towards the ultimate goal of Mashiach — a world of perfection and divine harmony — expresses the deepest divine kindness. It underscores a fundamental belief in the value of every individual’s attempt to contribute to the world’s betterment, regardless of how far we might feel from the ideal. In this view, our every effort, no matter how small, is part of a divine plan that moves us closer to redemption, honoring the legacy of our ancestors while acknowledging our unique contributions to this enduring quest.

The journey towards Mashiach is fundamentally a quest for perfection in the world and within ourselves. For God to see perfection in our efforts towards improvement and betterment in our actions, thoughts, and spiritual practices is an expression of profound kindness, recognizing and valuing our efforts towards this goal, even when we fall short – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל.

Commitments and resolutions don’t need to be hard to do; they just need to be something you keep. In that regard, it’s actually better to start small. R’ Yisrael Salanter recommends a strategic approach; rather than a complete overhaul in a given undertaking, surgically target the smallest element consistently. For example, instead of hoping never to gossip again, set a goal of two specific hours a day that are gossip-free.

That being said, there are stories of great people who underwent an instant transformation, in particular quitting smoking in the twentieth century when smoking was considered fashionable and not yet understood to be harmful.

stories

r Elchanan Wasserman – vnishmartem meod

r Aron Belzer – cigar in the waiting room, the doctor said bad, didn’t pick up, and said he quit

r Ezriel Hildesheimer – shabbos police intervention, offered smoke, said he quit, kept his word

Farhi, Yehuda Geberer

The concept of bringing redemption is integral to understanding the cyclical nature of exile and redemption. Exile is characterized by alienation and disconnection from home, whereas redemption signifies a return to a state of belonging, comfort, and natural alignment with our true selves and our Creator.

Coming home is not just about the physical return but also about the personal and spiritual return to a state of grace and alignment with divine will. God is constantly bringing us home, guiding us toward redemption from the exile of our mistakes and missteps. Every moment of guilt or remorse for wrongdoing you’ve ever felt is a chance for God to bring us closer to our spiritual home, an expression of God bringing the world and its people back to where they should be, one step at a time, a reminder that we can always make our way back, step by step, regardless of how far we might have strayed.

The divine reminders that guide us back—through messages, inspirations, and coincidences—are tailored to our level of awareness, respecting our autonomy while gently nudging us toward growth. They are loud enough for us to hear but quiet enough that we can miss them, respecting our autonomy.

In this way, the journey towards Mashiach and the pursuit of spiritual perfection becomes a deeply personal and communal endeavor, one that honors our efforts and celebrates every step we take towards coming back home.

לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה – for the sake of His name, with love

God brings redemption as a fulfillment of a covenantal relationship established with our ancestors, who stood up for God in a world often indifferent or hostile to divine ideals and forged a legacy of faith and commitment.

As their descendants, we are tasked with carrying on this legacy; even if the connection may seem diluted or distant due to the passage of time and spiritual decline, God ensures that the covenant remains active and relevant and promises ultimate redemption – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

As the gap between ancestors and descendants grows, we might not be inherently worthy of redemption due to our spiritual shortcomings; ancestral merit might be inaccessible or insufficient. All the same, God promises redemption, transcending individual or collective merit, because that is something the ancestors permanently established through their great acts – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

What’s in a name

A name is not the same as the thing itself; a name is functional. If you were the only thing in existence, without any other being to communicate with or differentiate from, there would be no practical need for a name because you know who you are, and there is no one to call you. There is simply no purpose for external identification.

God does not need a name, but God’s name is not the same as God’s essence, which is absolute and self-sufficient, requiring no external recognition or identification to affirm its reality. The names of God are a profound kindness towards humanity that offers us a means to bridge the infinite and the finite, allowing us a limited ability to know and relate to the Creator in some respect in a humanly understandable manner – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

Reputation management

Certain actions and entities in the world challenge the completeness of God’s name. For instance, the existence of Amalek and the perpetuation of doubt are perceived as diminishing the wholeness of God’s name. These forces introduce chaos, fragmentation, and a departure from divine ideals, directly opposing the unity and perfection associated with God’s presence in the world.

It is in response to these forces that the Jewish People pray and quest daily towards redemption and perfection; our prayers encapsulate the longing for a time when the world reflects the unbroken and harmonious nature of God’s will – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל, teka bshoifar, vleyerusrashaltyim, retzeh

Our sages teach that the presence of exile and antisemitism in the world can be understood as a microcosm of the state of the Jewish People, a manifestation of spiritual fragmentation within the Jewish community itself. If we live in a time where Jews are threatened or driven from Israel with division and war, we can be sure division and war lives among ourselves. This perspective posits that antisemitism acts like an immune response to disharmony and divisions within the Jewish People, reflecting a broader spiritual and ethical imbalance in the world.

Redemption, in its ideal form, represents an idealized state of perfected existence where Creation is whole, without any broken parts—a world that aligns perfectly with God’s vision. In this redeemed world, the Jewish people are united and free from fragmentation or division, and the relationship between the world and the Jewish people is characterized by understanding and respect, marked by the absence of antisemitism. This vision of redemption is not just for the benefit of the Jewish people but serves to manifest God’s glory and sanctity in the world, thereby making His name complete – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

Our experience of the name changes

Our engagement and perception of God’s name are deeply influenced by the historical and personal contexts in which we find ourselves. Before our sages fixed the text of the Amida, Jeremiah, witnessing the destruction of the First Beis HaMikdash and watching pagans messing around in God’s sanctuary, found himself struggling with the notion of divine awesomeness and refused to invoke that title – nora

Similarly, Daniel, enduring the trials of life as a prisoner in Babylon under Nebuchadnezzar and in the face of the Babylonian dominance, struggled to recognize divine might and would not praise it – גִּבּוֹר.

These historical reflections highlight the obvious and intuitive reality that our perception of God is not static but evolves in response to our subjective lived realities. The omission of specific divine attributes by Jeremiah and Daniel does not suggest a limitation of the Divine but is a human response to the incongruence between their experiences of suffering and the traditional expressions of God’s omnipotence and majesty. God was still those things, but it didn’t ring true in the moment, and it felt hollow and empty.

The name lives in us

Our ancestors established the name of God, deeply intertwining with their legacy with it, embodying their struggles, victories, and enduring faith. The Jewish People were named for Yisrael, who struggled with God and with men and prevailed; the struggle reflects the ongoing endeavor of the Jewish people to uphold and fight for divine ideals, even in the face of seemingly insurmountable challenges, and, more profoundly, even if we fail. R’ Tzvi Meir Silberberg highlights that herald the dust that was kicked up and went to Heaven; the dust, not the victory. The dust, the energy expended on the struggle, is what matters. Our victories are personal, and although we don’t always get to choose whether we win, we always control whether we go down without a fight.

As Moshe successfully argued after the Golden Calf, when we fail, it looks a lot like God has failed, too. Even if we don’t achieve ultimate victory, even if they couldn’t, our lot is tied with God’s, and God’s is tied with us; God promises redemption to us because, in the divine narrative, the fate of God and the fate of our ancestors are collectively intertwined with our own – וּמֵבִיא גוֹאֵל לִבְנֵי בְנֵיהֶם לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

(I don’t understand this)

our limited version of God isn’t real

god isn’t limited

Arizal, Chaim Vital

why didn’t they use all the descriptions back in the day

they would use the language that felt right in the moment

Love is real

Reward and punishment aren’t results of our actions that have an independent reality; they are something like karma, measure for measure, the consequences of how those actions unfold and manifest in the world – midda knegged midda cite. When you repeat your patterns of flaws and virtues on a long enough time scale, what you get is usually a pretty good reflection of what you deserve. Good deeds and loving kindness bring healing and redemption to the world, while anger and hatred bring destruction.

When a Jew harbors hatred towards another Jew, it’s not just a breach of human connection but a rift in the divine fabric itself, contradicting the essence of the image of God, the divine spark in every person; it is imperative to distinguish between hating the sin, not the sinner. True love and harmony among Jews unify God’s name, reflecting the divine presence in the world.

If the name of God is how humans relate to the eternal in this world, then the Jewish people coming together unites the divine sparks and brings completeness to God’s Name. It follows that the single time the Jewish People did this perfectly resulted in the revelation of the Torah at Mount Sinai.

The Patriarchs are identified as Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov, along with their spouses; the generation of the tribes is not included in this category, the point at which they introduced internal division. The name of God is the ability to know God, and the Torah is the way to know God’s will, the way to call out and connect to the other; this teaching underscores the power of communal unity in opening the pathways to revelation and connection. Coming together opens the door to heaven.

In this light, God brings redemption not just for the sake of God’s name but for the sake of love itself; God shares names with us out of kindness and then also allows us to reunite the name when we fracture it – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

If you are in charge of arranging the royal banquet, you don’t need to pull out your wallet and count your change; you have a royal credit card. God shares His name with us, a piece of eternity, and offers us the promise of redemption with it – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

God made it possible to love every single Jew, even the wicked. The irreducible spark, the pintele yid, is a fragment of divinity divided among Jewish People to share with each other and unite.

There was a family that was a band of robbers. One brother lacked the strength and skill t for their nightly exploits. Recognizing his limitations, the group assigned him the role of cook, allowing him to contribute in his own way. However, his efforts went unappreciated, and his culinary contributions went unnoticed and unthanked by the rest of the band.

Feeling overlooked and undervalued, he decided to cook only for himself one night, leaving his comrades to fend for themselves. Seeing what had happened, the father of the group intervened and threw out all the existing kitchenware, replacing it exclusively with industrial-sized pots and pans, far too large to prepare a meal for just one person. The next day, in the kitchen, due to the sheer size of the new equipment, the cook found himself unable to cook for one without also feeding the entire band.

The Creator designed humans to need each other; it is a design specification. We can’t make it alone, and we’re not supposed to – לֹא־טוֹב הֱיוֹת הָאָדָם לְבַדּוֹ. Going it alone can never work; righteous people need help, and even the best depends on the most ordinary folks. The only way to truly take care of oneself is by caring for others. When we work together, redemption follows – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

R’ Shlomo Karliner wished to love the greatest saint as much as God loves the greatest sinner.

There can be no greater showing of divine love for humanity than bringing redemption. Our sages note a discrepancy in the prophets on whether Mashiach comes early or in its time, and it’s not clear which is good or bad. The Exodus was early because it was an emergency; it wasn’t on time. But perhaps Mashiach could come early because we deserve it.

But in actuality, whichever it is will be the best one. If Mashiach is the process by which the world opens its eyes and finds redemption, whatever form that takes is the right one, and we can discard any preconceived notions – לְמַעַן שְׁמוֹ בְּאַהֲבָה.

If the world is a bad and ugly place, and humanity has utterly failed, wouldn’t that mean we defeated the purpose of Creation and ruined it, much like the generation of the Flood? As this blessing teaches, God reveals Himself in many ways, and if God sends redemption to a world that doesn’t deserve it, could there ever exist any greater praise or revelation than that?

מֶלֶךְ עוֹזֵר וּמוֹשִׁיעַ וּמָגֵן – King who helps, saves, and shields

This phrase captures the complex and multifaceted nature of divine intervention and protection. While similar, each term carries subtle distinctions that reflect nuanced dimensions of God’s engagement with us and the world.

Helper

Helper signifies a partnership between the divine and the human; it is only helping when people are at least trying to help themselves; otherwise, that’s called enabling, not helping. When God helps us, it implies our active participation in overcoming challenges. This is similar to the Torah’s principle of helping someone who has fallen down, and its variants; the law implies they are also making an effort. This level of divine assistance celebrates human agency and effort, recognizing that we are called to be active participants in our own lives.

Savior

Savior represents a more passive form of divine intervention. Here, the individual does not contribute to their salvation but is entirely dependent on God’s grace. This reflects situations where our own efforts are insufficient, and we rely wholly on divine deliverance.

Shield

Shielding extends beyond passivity to preemption, where dangers are averted even before we are aware of them. This form of divine protection acts without our knowledge, safeguarding us from threats we might never encounter or recognize.

(I don’t understand this)

Elyashiv

Gmalani Kol tov – but you could been saved from being in the dangerous situation?

We don’t hold that way

The best includes the rest

Considering that there is clearly an ascending order to the hierarchy of these praises, why wouldn’t we simply praise God for shielding us, the highest form of protection? The answer lies in our orientation to the nature of challenges and the role they play in our development.

If a child gets into a school fight and the parents permanently pull the child out of school, the child will be safe but will also not learn to fend for himself and may never learn resilience or self-reliance. While there are rarely universal rules, it tends to be true that escapism and running away are developmentally unhealthy; a life devoid of challenges would prevent us from achieving our full potential – those specific problems and challenges to help us become who we need to be. In the Exodus story, for example, the Jewish People are passive recipients of God’s salvation – they do not deserve it, and their spiritual immaturity plays out for the rest of their lives. We praise God for the adversity and challenges at certain times in life and pray that when those times come, God will be there to help and save us from danger – מֶלֶךְ עוֹזֵר וּמוֹשִׁיעַ.

This underscores a deeper principle. We seek ease and comfort in life, a nice livelihood, good health, a happy marriage, great kids, or what have you, but God tailors our challenges to influence our spiritual and personal growth. Some things will be easy; some won’t. Some things won’t come at all. In what quantities, at what times? What’s the recipe? We praise God for the varying aspects and degrees of divine intervention and influence, helping, saving, and shielding, which is how this plays out in our lives – מֶלֶךְ עוֹזֵר וּמוֹשִׁיעַ וּמָגֵן.

Don’t get spoiled

Healthy parents find joy in giving to their children; it can be challenging for parents to not give their children what they want, in understanding that not giving can sometimes be the greatest gift of all. But if you give everything always, if you don’t establish any boundaries or rules, the child becomes spoiled. What this reveal then, is that restraint can be an act of kindness; it’s not actually good to let the kid eat sweets before bed or snacks til they throw up.

This principle is mirrored in the way we conclude this blessing, recognizing and praising the times God holds back blessings and does not grant every wish.

Not the main character

Although the concept of shielding represents the highest form of protection, it presents an interesting dilemma, like the example of the Exodus. If God always shields us from challenges, the world would stagnate, devoid of growth and achievement. In fact, the paradigm of helping represents the world in its ideal form, where humans act as partners in Creation. If saving is for people who stumble and falter, shielding is for the helpless people who can’t do anything for themselves, who gain and learn nothing because they are not engaged participants in the ordeal.

(I don’t understand this)

And yet, shielding is still the highest form of protection because although the subject has been protected in a way they cannot learn from, it is now possible for others to learn the lesson.

In the episode where Moshe hits the rock instead of speaking to it to generate water in the desert, God punishes Moshe and bars him from ever stepping foot in the Land of Israel. The punishment seems exceptionally harsh, but if the lesson isn’t for Moshe but to all audiences for posterity that leaders in public service are held to the highest standards, it makes more sense; there is no better example than Moshe to use that nobody is above the law, nothing is overlooked.

This exchange was not just about Moshe or the immediate context but was an enduring lesson for all time: things can happen to us and to other people.

(BIG IDEA) not the main character

In our lives

In the fullness of time, we experience the spectrum of divine intervention in our lives.

Every time we have grappled with a challenge and eventually broken through, that’s what divine help looks like – עוֹזֵר.

Every time we were overwhelmed with a problem but somehow managed, that was God’s salvation – וּמוֹשִׁיעַ.

For all the devastating things we hear about that could never possibly happen to us… we have been shielded from unthinkable dangers – מָגֵן.

In modern times, we are mostly shielded from the daily threat of physical violence that our ancestors lived with. Today, the nature of threats has evolved into a cultural and spiritual battle, and the role of shielding takes on a whole new shape and significance.

We do not face the pogroms of Crusades or Cossacks; we do not have an Inquisition or a Holocaust, but the digital age challenges and confronts our faith and identity in a formidable way that has swallowed generations like our greatest enemies could only dream of. We need to be shielded from its harmful influence – מָגֵן.

And yet, the most excellent tool for defending and propagating our beliefs is in the same technology. The media that threatens to dilute us can be the most powerful ally, resource, and weapon in spreading Torah knowledge, connecting communities, and reinforcing our spiritual defenses.

In the contemporary landscape of challenges and threats, it may seem as though we are ill-equipped. In a deeply cryptic narrative, Moshe asked for greater understanding, but God answered that humans can only see God in hindsight. Full comprehension eludes us in the moment, revealing itself only as we look back.

The modern era has been marked by a shift in the nature of the challenges we face. Apart from the occasional war or skirmish in Israel, the battleground for Judaism has shifted from physical confrontations with oppressors like Pharaoh, Haman, and the Nazis to a far more subtle fight for the soul of Judaism. The threats are no longer just physical but ideological, infiltrating through screens, cereal boxes, and school curriculums. The assault on Jewish identity and values is relentless, calling for a defense that adapts to the changing nature of warfare.

The essence of divine protection, God as the Shield, remains unchanged. God’s shielding adapts to the context of each era’s unique battles. In our time, this protection extends into the digital realm, where the very technology that poses risks also offers unprecedented opportunities for learning, connection, and spiritual growth. The internet has become a double-edged sword, capable of both endangering and enriching our spiritual lives.

We are using technology to learn Torah right now. This ephemeral message can be accessed by anyone on the planet for as long as they have an internet connection and access this site. Instant torah classes from anyone. Tehilim and refua shleima’s. Someone can read this a century from now. We can harness the technology to fight back in the same way it endangers us.

Elokai Netzor – Concluding Passage

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יִהְיוּ לְרָצוֹן אִמְרֵי פִי וְהֶגְיוֹן לִבִּי לְפָנֶיךָ ה’ צוּרִי וְגוֹאֲלִי

אֱלֹהַי נְצוֹר לְשׁוֹנִי מֵרָע וּשְׂפָתַי מִדַּבֵּר מִרְמָה וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה פְּתַח לִבִּי

בְּתוֹרָתֶךָ וְאַחֲרֵי מִצְוֹתֶיךָ תִּרְדּוֹף נַפְשִׁי וְכָל הַקָמִים וְהַחוֹשְׁבִים עָלַי רָעָה מְהֵרָה הָפֵר עֲצָתָם וְקַלְקֵל מַחֲשַׁבְתָּם

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן יְמִינֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן תּוֹרָתֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן קְדֻשָּׁתֶךָ. לְמַעַן יֵחָלְצוּן יְדִידֶיךָ הוֹשִׁיעָה יְמִינְךָ וַעֲנֵנִי: יִהְיוּ לְרָצוֹן אִמְרֵי פִי וְהֶגְיוֹן לִבִּי לְפָנֶיךָ ה’ צוּרִי וְגוֹאֲלִי

עֹשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו  הוּא יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל־יִשְׂרָאֵל וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן

May they be acceptable the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart, before You Hashem, my Rock and my Redeemer.

My God, guard my tongue from evil and my lips from speaking deceitfully. To those who curse me, may my soul be still; and let my soul be like dust to all. Open my heart to Your Torah and let my soul pursue Your commandments. And all who plan evil against me, quickly annul their counsel and frustrate their intention.

Act for the sake of Your Name. Act for the sake of Your right hand. Act for the sake of Your Torah. Act for the sake of Your holiness. In order that Your loved ones be released, deliver with Your right hand and answer me. May they be acceptable the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart before You Hashem, my Rock and my Redeemer.

He Who makes peace in His high heavens – may He make peace upon us and upon all Israel and say – Amen!

History

When the Men of the Great Assembly drafted the Amida, there were several proposed submissions for the concluding prayer. This version was authored by Mar Bar Rav Ashi and was ultimately selected for inclusion.

The other sages had written prayers upon finishing the Amida, but this was chosen as a natural continuation of the last prayer. My lips have been engaged in prayer; please protect me from doing the things that will foul or harm their suitability for prayer.

More than words

We have said what there is to say other than some short closing remarks, but we ask God to see past our words and voice; sometimes, our deepest desires are things we’re not even consciously aware of, things we cannot express or understand.

If I am unworthy of having my prayers answered, that’s on me; at the end of my prayers, I acknowledge that which is why the concluding prayer is personal. Hopefully, at this point in our prayers, there is something more than words to our prayers, and something has stirred in our hearts – וְהֶגְיוֹן לִבִּי.

We ask God to accept our prayer holistically, from our outer words to the innermost thoughts of the heart – אִמְרֵי פִי וְהֶגְיוֹן לִבִּי

Guard my tongue

In a sense, this closing prayer mirrors the opening prayer for God to open our lips for prayer – אֲדֹנָי שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶֽךָ.

It also complements the previous prayer for our words to be desirable – יִהְיוּ לְרָצוֹן אִמְרֵי פִי.

On Yom Kippur and Tisha b’Av, we recall the Ten Martyrs, legendary sages executed by the Roman Empire. One of them, Rabbi Hutzpit, was dismembered and dragged through the streets after his murder. Another sage, Elisha ben Avuya, witnessed Rabbi Hutzpit’s tongue rolling on the floor and was horrified; the experience radically undermined his belief that dedication to the Torah would, by definition, be rewarded, exclaiming in shock, “Should a mouth which produced such pearls of Torah, now lick the dust? In a tragic turn, he sadly became a heretic. But his point stands; it is unbecoming to profane our mouths.

R’ Shimon Bar Yochai suggested that since God wanted to give the Torah to humans, God might have created humans with two mouths: one for words of Torah and holiness and one for talking and eating. The implied premise of the question is that perhaps dualism is the correct view, and we ought to protect good from being tainted by evil. Yet we know we only have one mouth for all the good and evil because dualism is the wrong way to look at the world; that’s just not how things work.

Like the boy who cries wolf, when a person erodes and undermines their credibility and integrity, no one believes them even when it’s true. This prayer is a commitment to using your mouth, tongue, and speech for truth and honesty.

All we can do is be careful to guard our tongues and pray for assistance

Unlike every other prayer in the Amida, this prayer takes personal responsibility. The rest of the Amida is in the plural, in the community’s name; there is no hiding in the crowd here. This is about my speech, my tongue, my responsibility – נְצוֹר לְשׁוֹנִי.

There is evil and trickery; evil things are usually true, and trickery is usually not. But I also want to avoid trickery, even if it’s not evil! Fun and jokes can still be problematic when the pranks and tricks are mean or nasty.

I don’t want to lie or say anything deceitful or hurtful – נְצוֹר לְשׁוֹנִי מֵרָע וּשְׂפָתַי מִדַּבֵּר מִרְמָה

וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם

The word in the prayer has two roots: curse and lightness – KAL / MEKALEL. More than a reference to people who openly curse you, it includes those who make you feel light and small, whether it’s others or even things you say to yourself: don’t listen, let my soul be still – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם

This is a prayer to overcome the feelings of self-doubt and personal incompetence that baselessly hold you back from doing things that could transform your life because you’re not ready to face the reality of your own potential greatness; help me not be moved by my own thoughts – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם.

The Mishkan’s inauguration was accompanied by a seven-day festival. Right in the middle of the celebrations, Nadav and Avihu, Ahron’s oldest sons, great men who might have been leaders to the next generation, behaved inappropriately and died instantly in mysterious circumstances. When Ahron was informed, he was silent – vayidom ahron CITE.

In the face of disturbance, when people try to rock you, and the world shakes around you, may my soul remain still, silent, unmoved, and unphased – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם

You’d never entertain the thought that you should never have murdered puppies and pushed over the elderly. Those are easy thoughts to reject because they have no basis in reality. It’s when we’re not sure if they’re true, or worse, when we’re sure they’re true, that we get thrown off balance.

We pray to resist the forces of instability; even if we have done things wrong – here and now, we’re trying to move forward and do better, and we ask for help – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם

In a world that’s constantly moving, help me maintain balance and equilibrium – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם.

Obsessive thoughts can plague us, wishing that we’d done something different, hoping that we were different, or worse, that we weren’t here at all.

In the face of unrest, with a mind that’s constantly swirling, we pray for stillness, for breath – וְלִמְקַלְלַי נַפְשִׁי תִדּוֹם.

   וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה

Haters rarely hate you; far more often, they hate themselves because you’re showing them a reflection of what they wish they could be, and they don’t like feeling inadequate.

When people belittle or put you down, it’s because they think they gain social status by doing so. Far better for them to not be jealous, to think little or nothing of you, or not think of you at all; let them think of you as dirt – וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה.

The Ramban recommends that we take the view that you’re not better than anyone, and anyone can be better than you; get off your high horse and don’t think so highly of yourself, be humble and think of the battles everyone else is fighting – וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה.

Beyond that, dirt isn’t just something low that you step on; it is the source of life that all things grow from, where creatures find their food and is of central importance.

There are times you help people, and they are thankful; other times, they are ungrateful, and others still are angry and resentful. The Shabbos prayers include a blessing for the people who serve the public with faith – chol mi sheoskim btzarchei tzibbur bemunah CITE. Most people who bother wading into communal issues do it on faith and out of a desire to make things better rather than for recognition or honor; there is usually little to be had.

Perhaps this prayer is to be the kind of dirt that things grow from; even if people are ungrateful and tread on me, I want to produce for them – וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה.

This is a natural continuation of the Amida: to keep my tongue clean,  let my heart express my innermost desire, let my heart be still, and answer even if I’m unworthy, to help me be helpful to others even when I am unworthy – וְנַפְשִׁי כֶּעָפָר לַכֹּל תִּהְיֶה.

psach libi btorasecha ubmitzvosech tirdof nafshi

The Sfas Emes teaches that the heart is naturally locked; if the heart is the seat of emotion, people are born selfish – the only thing in a locked heart is yourself, incapable of understanding truth. Torah unlocks the heart, opening the full range of feeling and proper sensitivity toward others.

Our sages teach that if the evil inclination is poison, the Torah is the antidote. In the absence of the Torah, chaos has free rein, but as our sages teach, stuck in the grips of the evil inclination, drag yourself to the study hall, and all will be well.

Before wisdom, a person is self-centered, but with wisdom, the heart can be consumed with a love and desire for mitzvos can see past itself – psach libi btorasecha ubmitzvosech tirdof nafshi

One of the things that happens when people visit the the concentration camps of Poland is that it puts problems into perspective, and you learn to see something differently. We pray for the clarity that comes from opening up our hearts – psach libi btorasecha ubmitzvosech tirdof nafshi

toarasecha

We want God’s Torah; there’s a Torah that isn’t. There’s a way of studying that is hollow and empty, a mirror of what you want it to say, finding what you want to believe.

(Shlomo)

Torah is designed to unlock our hearts; most people have experienced learning something that moved them, something real. Our sages encourage us to seek out the kind of learning that speaks to us – libi chefetz CITE

But as ever, prayer must paired with action and effort. You can pray a lifetime for God to open your heart to the Torah; do you have a regular learning schedule? You can wish all you want for your soul to pursue mitzvos; are you pursuing opportunities to help people?

The letters that precede the root of the Hebrew word for effort spell out the word for desire, which is emotive; what comes before effort is desire – SHTADL / RIGSHCA CITE. The letters that follow the word for effort spell out the word for truth – HAEMES.

(this is a big idea and deserves more treatment)

The heart starts locked in untruth, seeing only itself. The desire to see past oneself leads to an attempt for more, a push to do the right thing that, even if unsuccessful, leads to the truth. Desire and effort in the world of the spirit are always successful.

In the journey of our spirit, it is impossible that someone has tried and gotten nowhere because trying is all we can do. In spiritual terms, what sense would it make for God to put someone in a place they cannot understand, try as they might?

Our sages warn against believing someone who says they have searched for answers but found nothing. As the Kotzker put it, the searching is the finding.

We ask God for a little boost,  a headstart to give us some momentum and we will try harder from there  – psach libi btorasecha ubmitzvosech tirdof nafshi

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן יְמִינֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן תּוֹרָתֶךָ, עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן קְדֻשָּׁתֶךָ. לְמַעַן יֵחָלְצוּן יְדִידֶיךָ

The Tur suggests that whoever recites this formulation merits to perceive the Divine Presence. (consider cutting, this adds nothing)

were not instructing god to act

were advocating a good reason

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

As we’ve frequently seen, God has many names, each being a different characterization of how God relates to us through varying modes of interaction. Here, we ask God to answer us for the sake of God’s name; not any individual name in particular, but all of them, the very notion of what God’s name represents, God’s reputation, for the sake of people who know there is a name. As the people who know there is a Creator and that there are expectations humanity must rise to meet, give us the things we need and help us do what needs to be done so that people recognize there is a Creator – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

There are many ways not to know God

Since the Enlightenment, there has been a long trend of secularisation, which, although bringing many advancements in the scientific, cultural, and intellectual arenas, has also caused some serious harm to the world, with the focus on rationality and empiricism sometimes leading to a dismissal of other ways of knowing and understanding the world, marginalizing the role of faith, morality, and spirituality ought to play in the healthy discourse of public life – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

A byproduct of enlightenment thinking is the colonialism and imperialism that has mostly died out, but also the inequality and exclusion that is still prominent in the world today. In a hypercapitalist world, the rich get richer, and society descends into a cutthroat competition of survival of the fittest to get ahead, a vile manifestation of social Darwinism.

In the Exodus story, the Pharoah of Ancient Egypt doesn’t know the God of Moses; he has never heard of Him before. Pharoah doesn’t recognize God’s authority to criticize his tyranny and oppression. He has the power and crown, so he gets to enslave and murder.

Centuries later, Titus, the Roman general who tore down Jerusalem, acknowledged God and openly challenged the Creator.

(Consider Yonah’s story – sailors know God but don’t practice til they are in mortal danger)

There are sadly some major public disgraces and scandals from time to time by people who look and appear to act extremely religious and observant – apart from and until the disgraceful and scandalous thing. That’s true, and it’s always been true. While Jewish organizations are working admirably to put safeguards in place against the kind of patterns that lead to scandals, you can’t fix human nature, and some people are going to drag God’s name through the mud.

So we pray for help balancing that out – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

We want so many things; hopefully, we want most of them for the right reasons! But for the ones we don’t, and especially those we do, isn’t it the most incredible sanctification when our prayers are answered? When that child is healed, when the woman gets married when that man gets back on his feet. When you pray for that, and it happens, doesn’t that make God look good? Doesn’t that make everyone feel good?

We want more of that – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

When things happen, we have all sorts of different attribution mechanisms. How did he make his money? Real Estate. Where? Office building in Manhattan. How? Interest rates, the lease terms, whatever it is. Substitute the event and the cause, and it’s the same; how did he lose the money? Market crashed. What’s wrong? A breakup, a test, finances, health.

These are all correct but are also misattributions. If there is a Creator with whom we are at the end of a lengthy interaction, it follows that the Creator is in control.

Tie everything back to God; the proximate cause may be whatever you say, but the ultimate cause is the Creator!

Smarts don’t equate to outcomes; confidence doesn’t equate to outcomes. Two hypothetical equal people with equal inputs would still have different outcomes; no given inputs can lead to any given outcomes, which is precisely the point. This is not a religious claim; it’s a statistical fact of mathematics. The difference between an atheist and a religious person is whether they label the deciding factor as chance, luck, and probability, or providence, mazel, and siyata dismaya; these are just different ways of saying the same thing.

We ask for God’s help seeing through all the labels; luck, charisma, charm, brains, confidence – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן יְמִינֶךָ

As we’ve frequently encountered, we talk about parts of God in ways the human imagination can relate to, so God’s right arm is a way of speaking about God’s strength and power. Our sages teach that Jewish People left Egypt with God’s power, almost with a swagger, as if to say, somebody try and stop us!

There are times when God’s characteristics are more manifest or perhaps muted; more kindness or more judgment, other times less.

But there are times when God’s power is suppressed, pulled back, and diminished; this is a prayer to unshackle the right hand, to mute judgment, and for kindness to dominate with power – עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן יְמִינֶךָ.

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן קְדֻשָּׁתֶךָ

We ask God to answer us for the sake of what is holy, separate, and distinct. In a world where the well-beaten path, the norm, and what is natural are not aligned with God’s vision for the world, answer our prayer.

Help us bring distinction to this world –  עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן קְדֻשָּׁתֶךָ

(shlomo)

עֲשֵׂה לְמַעַן תּוֹרָתֶךָ

(shlomo)

When Yakov was on his deathbed, he blessed his sons, and he gave Yosef the land of Shechem, which he says he acquired with his sword and bow, the plain reading of the Genesis story – בְּחַרְבִּי וּבְקַשְׁתִּי. Onkelos translates this as prayers and requests; Yakov’s weapons are his prayers – BAKASHOS. Fascinatingly, the initial letters of the four things for whose sake we ask God to act form the same word – קַשְׁתִּי / קְדֻשָּׁתֶךָ שְׁמֶךָ תּוֹרָתֶךָ יְמִינֶךָ

lmaan yecholatzun yediach hosia yemimncha vaneini

When righteous people die, it atones the sins of a generation. The Yaavetz notes that it is intuitive that righteous people bear the sins of their time because they are in charge, so it’s on them; it’s their fault if people don’t mend their ways.

This line is an acknowledgment of personal responsibility. For the part that’s on me, don’t blame anyone else; release anyone else from fault.

vaaneini

With one of the most important and powerful words, we close the Amida.

And answer me too – vaaneini.

The righteous deserve it, but what about me? What about my voice, my prayer, me with my sins, my mistakes, my flaws?

Please answer my prayer, too – vaaneini

However inadequate, I said my prayers with the Jewish People; this is me on my own, the very last word. Answer me too – vaaneini

Verse with names

Some have a custom of saying verses containing the letters of your name. As Rokeach teaches, praying three times a day parallels three meals daily: soul food and nourishment. The repetition of these verses carves your name into your soul in some way that lingers hereafter and reflects your efforts positively.

יִהְיוּ לְרָצוֹן אִמְרֵי פִי וְהֶגְיוֹן לִבִּי לְפָנֶיךָ ה’ צוּרִי וְגוֹאֲלִי

This verse contains ten words; the tenth letter appears ten times – י x י.

(Shlomo)

something about 10 to the power of 10 I didn’t follow

secret name

42 letters in the verse

many permutations

Three steps back

Our sages teach that early in Nebuchadnezzar’s career, he served as secretary and scribe to the Babylonian emperor. Nebuchadnezzar was out of the office one day, and another of the royal scribes dispatched a letter to Hizkiyahu, the Jewish king. Returning to work and reviewing correspondence, Nebuchadnezzar read the letter: “Greetings to King Hizkiyahu! Greetings to the city of Jerusalem! Greetings to the great God!”

Nebuchadnezzar objected, saying it was insulting to say the great God yet mention Him last and insisted the letter be redrafted. The only trouble was that the letter had been sealed and the messenger had already been dispatched to Jerusalem, so Nebuchadnezzar ran out to call the messenger back and redo the letter, running three steps to catch the messenger before he was restrained by the angel Gabriel because one step further would have granted his merit and ability to inflict harm immeasurably. Our sages credit those three steps for his rise to power.

Taking three steps back at the conclusion of the Amida can be seen as a form of rectification, neutralizing the negative impact of Nebuchadnezzar’s merit, a gesture of undoing or correcting potential spiritual harm, and adapting his method for ourselves.

We open the Amida taking three steps backward in recognition that the momentum in our lives isn’t truly ours; we surrender to the faith that God will lead us where we need to go and that, ultimately, our successes, failures, and outcomes are dictated by external forces.

Having concluded our prayers, we take three steps forward, back into the the profane domain of the real world, coming full circle, right back to where you started, only things are different now. Having stepped back to reflect on our place in the divine scheme, we can now step back into our lives, hopefully with newfound perspective and insight.

Returning to daily life with a new perspective, with new clarity and consciousness, you can face up to your challenges in a new way, and maybe something different will happen this time. Or perhaps next time!

(this is same as hashem sefasai)

By returning to where we were before, perhaps we are acting out what we hope to get from our prayer, seeing that God was right where I was, only I wasn’t where He was. I had to step away for a bit to see God was always there. The Mona Lisa is heralded as the greatest artwork a human has produced; if you stuck your nose to the canvas, you wouldn’t really be able to see the masterpiece for what it is. It’s cordoned off to the optimal vantage point, twenty or so feet away. Sometimes, you need to step back for a moment to gain perspective on where we were.

Prayer Isn’t Enough

The crescendo of the Exodus came with the decisive miracle at the Red Sea. The ocean parted, giving the desperate Jewish People safe passage while simultaneously obliterating their great tormentors in one fell swoop. The Splitting of the Red Sea is one of the most captivating and magical moments in the entire Torah, and prayer plays a prominent role in the build-up:

וּפַרְעֹה הִקְרִיב וַיִּשְׂאוּ בְנֵי־יִשְׂרָאֵל אֶת־עֵינֵיהֶם וְהִנֵּה מִצְרַיִם  נֹסֵעַ אַחֲרֵיהֶם וַיִּירְאוּ מְאֹד וַיִּצְעֲקוּ בְנֵי־יִשְׂרָאֵל אֶל־ה – As Pharaoh drew near, the Jewish People caught sight of the Egyptians advancing upon them. Greatly frightened, the Jewish People cried out to the Lord. (14:10)

But surprisingly, and quite unlike how we might expect, this prayer is not well received:

וַיֹּאמֶר ה’ אֶל־מֹשֶׁה מַה־תִּצְעַק אֵלָי דַּבֵּר אֶל־בְּנֵי־יִשְׂרָאֵל וְיִסָּעוּ – Then the Lord said to Moshe, “Why are you crying out to Me!? Tell the Jewish People to get going!!” (14:15)

With righteous outrage, we might wonder why God gets annoyed that the people cry out. The Jewish People have made it to the beaches with their children and everything they own. They have no boats and cannot swim to safety; just over the horizon, there is a hostile force in hot pursuit. By any reasonable standards, they are out of time and out of options. They are desperate, so they cry out to God for help; we cannot doubt that their fears and tears are genuine.

If crying to God for help is what you are supposed to do, why did God get annoyed at their prayer?

At the Red Sea, God urges Moshe to have his people quickly get a move on. The Midrash expands this discussion; God rebuked Moshe that it was an inappropriate moment for lengthy prayers – there was danger close, and it was time for decisive action.

They cried out to God as the last resort of their ancestors, a weak effort that betrayed deep fear and insecurity and the cynical despair of helplessness that all was lost. It was an inferior, or at least suboptimal, immature prayer that betrayed a lack of belief, both in God and in themselves, that there was nothing they could do! Only they were wrong to think there was nothing else they could do, and we’d be equally wrong for thinking prayer could ever work in a vacuum.

They should have believed enough in their prayer to stop praying and get moving, but they were frozen and paralyzed.

Maybe that’s what our efforts have to look like to give our prayers a hook to latch on to – even when God promises.

God didn’t want their prayers at the Red Sea because it wasn’t time to pray; it was time to act! But they couldn’t because they had given up and were consumed with fear. Perhaps that lends enduring power to the legacy of Nachson ben Aminadav, whom our sages herald for clambering into the water when he could not yet know what would happen because just maybe there was one last thing to try before giving up, finding room for a ray of hope amid the clouds of despair – a hope that drove action.

The biggest challenge to our faith and belief is time; that we give up prematurely.

By wading into the water, Nachshon showed people who thought they had reached the outer limit of what they could do and revealed that the boundary was just a little further than they’d thought. They’d stopped at the shore, but he boldly and bravely stepped into the impossible and waded up to his neck without waiting for instructions, leading by example in the face of uncertainty, the quality of his tribe, Yehuda. And when he did that, he sparked salvation, upending the natural order, and the ocean split for all.

Perhaps that underpins God’s irritation at why they cry out – they are parked on the beach, crying, but what exactly do they expect God to do with that?! We can almost hear God begging for something to work with – tell them to get up and get going!

Don’t just hope, don’t just pray. Alongside your hopes and prayers, you must live and act with faith.

You won’t get the dream job you don’t apply to. You won’t get healthy if you don’t diet and exercise. You won’t pass the test if you don’t study the material. You won’t get rich if you don’t invest. Your relationship won’t be meaningful if you don’t give your partner attention. That’s the way the world works; if you expect your prayer to change that fundamental reality, you will likely continue to be disappointed.

עֹשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו הוּא יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל־יִשְׂרָאֵל וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן – He Who makes peace in His high heavens – may He make peace upon us and upon all Israel and say – Amen!

The yearning for ultimate and final peace is the last word of Jewish prayers and has been since antiquity; it is a core Jewish value reflecting the profound dreams of the prophets. Love and the pursuit of peace is one of Judaism’s fundamental ideals and is a near-universal characteristic in our pantheon of heroes – בקש שלום ורדפהו.

Avos d’Rabbi Nosson suggests that the mightiest heroism lies not in defeating your foes but in turning enemies into friends. The Midrash says that the world can only persist with peace, and the Gemara teaches that all of Torah exists to further peace – דְּרָכֶיהָ דַרְכֵי-נֹעַם; וְכָל-נְתִיבוֹתֶיהָ שָׁלוֹם. Peace features prominently in the Priestly Blessing, and the visions of peace and prosperity in the Land of Israel – וְנָתַתִּי שָׁלוֹם בָּאָרֶץ / יִשָּׂא ה פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ, וְיָשֵׂם לְךָ שָׁלוֹם.

Ralph Waldo Emerson quipped that nobody can bring you peace but yourself. When you feel secure, you’ll have security. It takes benevolence, confidence, and unshakeable strength and power; those come from within. If you do not have peace, you are not yet at peace.

There is an excellent reason that envy figures as one of the most important things God has to say to humans – וְלֹא תַחְמֹד. As our Sages guided us, who is wealthy? One who celebrates and takes joy in what he has – אֵיזֶהוּ עָשִׁיר, הַשָּׂמֵחַ בְּחֶלְקוֹ. One interpretation even inverts the plain reading, from celebrating what you have to celebrate what he has – בְּחֶלְקוֹ. Someone else’s prosperity and success don’t make your own any less likely, so be happy when someone else gets a win because yours is no further away. The Ksav Sofer highlights that this is the Torah’s blessing of peace, an internal peace of being satisfied and living with security, happy for both yourself and for others – וַאֲכַלְתֶּם לַחְמְכֶם לָשֹׂבַע וִישַׁבְתֶּם לָבֶטַח.

If we value and desire peace, we must first regulate and then free ourselves from looking at others with grudges, grievances, and jealousy. As one comedian said, the only time you look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure they have enough. When other people’s achievements and success no longer threaten us, we can develop lasting and peaceful co-existence and harmony. The differences are still there, but it’s not the other person that changes at all; it’s how you look at them. Your dream of peace starts with you, and it’s an important step that bridges the world we live in with the ideal world of tomorrow. If you cannot accept others, it’s because you haven’t yet accepted yourself.

What better blessing could there be than to live in balanced harmony with yourself, to be completely secure and at peace? To wholly embrace your differences with your spouse, parents, siblings, relatives, neighbors, community, colleagues, and ultimately, everyone you meet? And if we infused our notion of peace with any momentum, maybe the whole world could experience it, too.

God can make peace between abstract opposites, bringing all the different forces of nature into harmony: light and dark, chaos and order, justice and mercy, life and death. They coexist in their roles as complementary parts of reciprocal interactions.

Peace is possible, and we can achieve it; it is something humans can say Amen to, that what is said is true.

May we live to see the day that it is true, where we can say yes, that happened, that was answered. That sickness is no more, sanctity and purpose are everywhere, and hunger and poverty have been eradicated. That there is abundance for all, that war is a thing of the past, that Mashiach has come, and God will lovingly hold up thousands of years worth of billions of people’s tears and prayers that were answered, and we will all say, Amen!

Sim Shalom – Peace

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שִׂים שָׁלוֹם טוֹבָה וּבְרָכָה חַיִים חֵן וָחֶסֶד וְרַחֲמִים עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל־יִשְׂרָאֵל עַמֶּךָ, בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד בְּאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ כִּי בְאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ נָתַתָּ לָּנוּ ה’ אֱלֹקינוּ תּוֹרַת חַיִּים וְאַהֲבַת חֶסֶד וּצְדָקָה וּבְרָכָה וְרַחֲמִים וְחַיִּים וְשָׁלוֹם, וְטוֹב יִהְיֶה בְּעֵינֶיךָ לְבָרְכֵנוּ וּלְבָרֵךְ אֶת־כָּל־עַמְּךָ יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּכָל־עֵת וּבְכָל־שָׁעָה בִּשְׁלוֹמֶךָ בְּרוֹב עוֹז וְשָׁלוֹם. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ הַמְבָרֵךְ אֶת־עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל בַּשָּׁלוֹם –

Grant peace, goodness, and blessing, life favor, kindness and compassion upon us and upon all Israel, Your people.

Bless us, our Father, all of us as one with the light of Your countenance. For by the light of Your countenance You gave us Adonoy our God, a Torah of life and the love of kindliness, righteousness, blessing, compassion, life, and peace.

And may it be good in Your sight to bless us and to bless Your people Israel, at all times and at every moment with Your peace (with much strength and peace). Blessed are You, Adonoy, Who blesses His people Israel with peace.

Peace is important

Our sages teach that peace is the ultimate container for blessing; without peace, there’s nothing. It’s something we ask for every day, the conclusion of the Amida, every prayer, and even how we greet people – Shalom!

But isn’t that also true of wisdom? Or health?

שִׂים שָׁלוֹם

We ask God to place or grant peace on us, not to make peace for us or give it. The language of placing or granting suggests something done gently – sama bamizbeach

placed by Hashem – bnachas shelo yifaseh.

Sometimes, the absence of conflict is the least difficult option, but that’s hardly peace.

Peace doesn’t mean a lack of conflict; it doesn’t mean turning the other cheek and suffering in silence. Your non-response to conflict contributes to a lack of overt hostility that is superficial and only a negative peace at best. Sure, there is no external conflict, but everyone recognizes that conflict is there, even if it’s unspoken and even if it’s only internal. It’s a position of discomfort and resentment – possibly only unilateral – and it may genuinely be too tricky or not worth the headache to attempt to resolve. Be that as it may, that is not what peace is; it’s not a state of blessing at all. It’s the fragile status quo that lasts only as long as it is sufficiently tolerable, but it’s a lingering poison that slowly suffocates; it’s only a ceasefire or stalemate; it’s certainly not peace.

Peace isn’t the lack of conflict that stems from being weak and harmless. It’s not good morality if you don’t fight when you’re meek and harmless. You haven’t made that choice; you simply have no alternatives. Pirkei Avos is dismissive and disdainful of people who don’t stand up for themselves – אִם אֵין אֲנִי לִי, מִי לִי. In a world of pacifists, a bully with a stick would rule the world. There’s nothing moral about being harmless.

We pray for God to bring peace, yet an imposed peace is not peace at all. There is a straight line from the peace imposed on Germany after World War One to the causes that directly to the sparks that lit World War Two, scarred our history, and burned continents. Peace can’t be forced; peace must be gentle – שִׂים שָׁלוֹם

When Jewish People are threatened, they gather and unite, but that isn’t peace or unity; that’s also forced and simply an alliance of political necessity. After the Exodus and as the Jewish People approached the Land of Israel, bordering nation-states were alarmed, and the tribal chiefs of Moav and Midyan struck an alliance to stop the Jewish People’s so far unstoppable march toward their lands. Moav and Midyan were sworn enemies, but a common thread brought them together; we’d expect that if they had been successful, they’d have resumed hostilities soon after. That’s not peace; that’s just a temporary partnership of convenience.

Siblings that spend time in close proximity bicker and fight; as they grow older and move out of the parental home, they fight less. That’s also not peace. They fight less because there is more distance now.

When you shut out someone you were once close with and don’t fight with them, that’s also not peace; that, too, is distance.

Peace is something specific; as the Ohr HaChaim notes, the word for peace is cognate to wholesomeness and perfection, a holistic and symbiotic harmony of constituent parts – שָּׁלוֹם / שלימות.

Fighting is rooted in falling short of that ideal, fractured and insecure individuals fighting for control, dominance, and superiority.

How does God do something without doing it?

If I want burgers for dinner and you want pizza, we disagree. If we go to the store and they’re all out of pizza, we might agree to have burgers, but that’s not peace. If we pick up pizza and burgers, that’s also not peace; everyone getting what they want doesn’t get to the heart of the issue.

Peace means working through the issues peacefully; God can grant us the environment to create peace. Maybe we can agree that this time I get to choose and next time you choose!

When two kids fight over something, like who gets to sit next to dad, the family might devise a system, taking turns or paper rock scissors. But in reality, the argument isn’t about sitting next to dad; it’s that the kid who loses out feels unloved. If dad pulls the kid aside and gives them some tender love, care, and proper attention, they wouldn’t feel unloved or jealous; they wouldn’t care about sitting next to dad one particular time. If no one feels badly pushed away anymore, each one allows the other to occupy as much space as they need; you can give the other person all they need to resolve the issue.

Think about a conflict you’re involved in or aware of, personally, in the family, in the community, and what the causes are.

When Dayan Fischer was the rav in Zichron Moshe, an unwell man walked to the front of the shul and sat in the rabbi’s seat at the beginning of services. People asked him to move, and he refused. Then they tried to remove him physically, but he got agitated and was too strong for them, and he fought them off. Bemused at this, Rav Fischer walked up to the man, whispered something in his ear, and stepped back; the man promptly stood up and sat in the shul’s back corner. When asked what he had said, Rav Fischer said he’d told the man that the rabbi sits in the back corner on the right; the man just wanted to feel like the rabbi.

People want things, and they’ll fight for what they want. To make peace, you need to find a way to solve problems creatively and let them get what they want and for you to get what you want.

It’s no different from the general approach and orientation to prayer suggested here; it is disingenuous to raise your eyes and heart to heaven and pour your heart out for God to figure it all out for you. A child says give me, give me, give me! Mature adults understand the need to put in the effort to work for the things we want; mature prayers emerge from experienced efforts.

Peace is not simply the absence of conflict; it is the absence of conflict through resolving the issue at the heart of conflict and addressing the deficiency or lack, which results in wholesome perfection – sim shalom – giving inner wholeness and inner peace.

Perfection – שלימות

This blessing is also a prayer for perfection. Regarding character traits, our sages speak of measurements, middos – MIDDOS CITE. Much like ingredients in a recipe, there isn’t one you want in zero or unlimited amounts; you need the right measure of salt, pepper, chili, and garlic, or the recipe is a disaster.

There is such a thing as being too kind; our sages say that when someone is kind to the cruel, they end up being cruel to the kind. In that instance, the kindness isn’t kindness at all but a misguided distortion of morality. Children require a balance of kindness and discipline; children who only get sweets and toys end up spoiled.

There is a place for anger; what if you never got angry, even in the face of the worst crimes imaginable? If an adult beats up a child in front of you, is it something to be proud of that you’ve worked on yourself not to get angry? You absolutely should get angry!

The model of wholesomeness and perfection requires balance – shleimus. When a person is miserable, they are off balance.

It’s important to understand that everyone has their own balance, their recipe with different ingredients and measurements.

One of the great adventures in the story of our life is to figure out how to express those traits in the right way; a person with a natural predisposition towards kindness isn’t supposed to find a way to minimize that kindness; they are supposed to figure out how to channel in the highest and best way.

People with a propensity towards severity don’t serve themselves well by stifling themselves and finding ways to maximize kindness; they’re supposed to exercise balance in a way that requires judgment and discernment.

A person will never feel balance until they understand their personal characteristics, tendencies and predispositions – their middos.

While the post-war era of Jewish education is among the most prolific in terms of output and reach, one severe limitation has been the rigidity of formulaic cookie-cutter systems that take a one-size-fits-all approach. If you fit, you’re great and belong, but if you’re a round peg in a square hole, many individuals have been squeezed out, left behind, or had to fight hard for their piece of wholesomeness – שִׂים שָׁלוֹם

The school might try to say it’s a shortcoming in the student, but it may just as well be a shortcoming in the school. Some schools try to stamp out people with learning differences, and sometimes, these aren’t disabilities; they can be superpowers with negative externalities. There seems to be a movement towards giving these extraordinary people the resources they need to express themselves and giving them space and freedom to grow – שִׂים שָׁלוֹם

But it’s so much easier and better when it’s not forced. We want it granted and placed. Maneuavered, manipulated, gently influeced – שִׂים שָׁלוֹם.

In the form of books, influences, teachers, friends, and people we need to meet when we need them.

שִׂים שָׁלוֹם טוֹבָה

We don’t just wish for peace; we need peace that is good because not all peace is.

As the proverb teaches, there is a time to make a peace and a time for battle – eis shalom eish milchama. Sometimes, a compromise betrays a fundamental value, leaving a lingering sense of loss and regret; those are the battles that must be fought, and conceding is never worthwhile. In the leadup to World War Two, the Allied leaders misguidedly tried to appease Hitler by allowing Nazi Germany to annex the Sudetenland region of Czechoslovakia without the Czechoslovak government’s participation in the talks and effectively sacrificing Czechoslovakia’s sovereignty in the hopes of securing peace. The Munich Agreement was easy; it wasn’t good and didn’t last. It has since become synonymous with the dangers of appeasement when it involves the sacrifice of core principles and the rights of others, highlighting that peace at any price can ultimately lead to far greater costs.

We need peace that is good – שִׂים שָׁלוֹם טוֹבָה

וּבְרָכָה

Blessing is a way is saying abundance, growth, more – ribui CITE. Rashi teaches that Genesis starts with the letter Bet because it starts with the same letter that the word blessing does – bracha / bereishis. The Ibn Ezra questions this teaching, noting that all sorts of plain and ordinary words start with different letters, like the word for animal – beheima CITE.

The Maharal explains that Rashi’s teaching isn’t that the letter Bet starts the word for blessing; the letter Bet is the definition of blessing; it cuts to the heart of how blessing works, the nature of the thing itself. The numerological value of the letters that spell the word for blessing all start with – beis reish caf,  2 20 200 CITE. The numerological quality of the number two is that it signifies multiple, more, and many, amplifying what is present.

There is a legendary story about the prophet Elisha, who stayed in a poor widow’s house while traveling. A creditor was pressuring her, but all she had was a little flask of oil; Elisha told her to collect as many pots and pans and bottles and containers as possible and borrow as many as she could from her neighbors, and he told her to pour the flask of oil into the containers – it didn’t empty until every container was full. She had enough to pay her debt and provide for her family’s needs.

When Yakov blesses his sons on his deathbed, he identifies a quality and identifying characteristic in each child and blesses them with expansiveness, with enlargement and extension of the gifts they already possess.

(like idea of tzemach

like idea of samuch min haayin

like not counting klal yisrael)

חַיִים

We pray for life.

But not just breath and a heartbeat, but a life that goes beyond a lifetime, a life of eternity, through connection to the Torah, a life that goes on.

Beyond that, we want a life of meaning, a life that matters, a life that makes us feel alive, with liveliness and vitality – chiyus CITE. Sometimes, we feel fired up, inspired, motivated, and connected to the universe and everything; other times, we feel alienated and disconnected.

We pray for life – חַיִים.

חֵן

We pray for grace and charm, finding favor in the eyes of God and man.

Far more subtle than physical attractiveness, grace and charm are invisible qualities that are distinct but often overlap, enhancing how an individual is perceived and how they influence the world around them.

Grace embodies elegance, poise, and kindness in behavior or manner, reflecting an inner harmony and balance associated with a certain serenity and thoughtfulness, a gentle strength that enables individuals to navigate complex situations with ease and compassion, an inherent beauty or soul radiance.

Charm is the ability to attract or delight others through one’s personality, involving a magnetic appeal, charisma, energy, or warmth that draws people in, creating connections and fostering relationships.

Esther is described as graceful and charming; there was something about her that was captivating, a twinkle in her eye that captured hearts and minds – חֵן

At Sinai, the Torah describes how the Jewish People camped at the foot of the mountain, waiting for the hallowed moment they would receive the Torah – vayichan shem – camped. Our sages note that the Torah describes the verb for camping in the singular, teaching that the people camped as one person, with one heart and one mind. In a complementary teaching, our sages reread the word with different vowels; they loved each other and saw grace in each other eyes – vyichan vayichein CITE.

Sharing hopes and dreams, people’s hearts can beat together, and they can truly love one another. Without closing my eyes to your flaws and knowing my imperfections, I can recognize that there is something truly beautiful about you. If I can see your quality and you can see mine, we will have peace; if I recognize and see my own, I will know peace.

Grace and charm get you further than you might expect. We pray for grace and charm, finding favor in the eyes of God and man.

וָחֶסֶד וְרַחֲמִים

On its face, kindness and compassion are mutually exclusive sentiments; you can express one or the other, but they can’t coexist. When a wealthy individual expresses distress over what we might consider first-world problems, a common reaction might be dismissal or lack of empathy, perceiving these complaints as unworthy of genuine compassion given their relative prosperity. Yet, from a divine perspective, God can show compassion for their distress, understanding it within the broader context of human experience and extending kindness irrespective of their material wealth. Every individual’s feelings and struggles are valid and deserving of acknowledgment and compassion, regardless of their external circumstances – וָחֶסֶד וְרַחֲמִים.

Conversely, when someone is visibly suffering or in need, human beings are quick to feel compassion, recognizing the immediate need to alleviate their pain. However, this individual might yearn not just for compassion but for genuine human kindness that acknowledges them as a person beyond their current state of need, for interactions that bring love and warmth without the shadow of pity. True support encompasses seeing and treating individuals with dignity and care that transcends their immediate circumstances – וָחֶסֶד וְרַחֲמִים

The divine combination of compassion and kindness transcends human limitations because God’s desire to give is not based on human need or worthiness; it is a fundamental expression of divine love at the root of all existence – Olam Chesed Yibaneh CITE”.

Predating Creation, self-generating and infinite, we ask God to share these with us in peace, and also with those who don’t deserve our peace: the hurtful people in the world who will never learn, will never change, and who will never be the one to make peace. We pray for the kindness of being able to have peace with those people as well – וָחֶסֶד.

Sometimes, kindness isn’t enough to get to a place where we can make peace; other times, a person has done something so awful they don’t deserve kindness. Faced with someone whose actions make them seem undeserving of kindness, the challenge lies in finding the strength to extend compassion. Seeing past the conflict and recognizing the inherent brokenness, emotional fractures, or the depth of another’s flaws can awaken a sense of compassion within us. How bad they must feel, how unhappy they will always be, how they will alienate every bit of goodness out of their life; and if they don’t feel bad at all, how sad that is, how terrible it is to be so irreparable broken and damaged – וְרַחֲמִים.

The coexistence of kindness and compassion challenges us to embody these divine attributes, extending compassion and kindness even in the most challenging circumstances, bringing peace into our lives – וָחֶסֶד וְרַחֲמִים.

עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל־יִשְׂרָאֵל עַמֶּךָ

For most of history, the utopian ideal that most cultures and societies strived for has been domination, subjugation, and victory; the pages of history are written in the blood and tears of conflict. In stark contrast, Judaism’s religious texts overwhelmingly endorse compassion and peace; love and the pursuit of peace is one of Judaism’s fundamental ideals and is a near-universal characteristic in our pantheon of heroes – בקש שלום ורדפהו. R’ Jonathan Sacks notes that the utopian ideal of peace is one of Judaism’s significant original revolutionary contributions.

But this blessing doesn’t fantasize about a dream of world peace, a world where the nation beat swords to plowshares; it doesn’t talk in abstract platitudes.

It is a prayer for peace for ourselves and the entire Jewish People.

Human relationships form in concentric circles. I am at the center, then perhaps my spouse and children, then parents and siblings, then friends and extended family, then community and acquaintances, then my city, my country, continent, species, and planet.

This blessing acknowledges a more localized version of the Jewish People – ourselves; this brings an abstract ideal of loving an idea into something tangible and practical, the humans around you. World peace is a lovely idea, but in the real world, it starts with individuals, human to human. A full half of the Ten Commandments are grounded in interpersonal regulations – בין אדם לחברו. It’s not enough to love humanity in the abstract; you have to love people in particular – your annoying neighbor and the guy who never stops talking – עָלֵינוּ.

The Torah and this blessing expect us to expand our consciousness so that the circles around us matter enough to impact our well-being – עָלֵינוּ.

Every time there is some kind of local, national, or global crisis, leaders inevitably get up and speak about the need to make peace between our community and their community, our people and their people, our ways and their ways, as if peace already existed between the people sitting in the same room! Peace is complex, and it doesn’t happen by itself; it’s not something you do with others; it’s something we need to do with and among ourselves, here and now – עָלֵינוּ.

בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד

We pray for many things: happiness, health, children, wealth, and spirituality. But we want those blessings to be rooted in unity, not division –  בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד

While it’s good to try to be a better human than you used to be, it’s never good to act better than your friends; we don’t want our blessings to come between us. When someone becomes successful and wealthy, if they become snobby and stop hanging out with their old friends, their success isn’t a blessing.

It doesn’t have to be contentious or divisive when someone becomes more observant or religious. There are ways of being with and around people in your life who want different things and respect each other’s differences; blessings rooted in unity, not division –  בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד

I am blessed; I don’t want people to be threatened by my personal, professional, or spiritual attainments. I don’t want them to be insecure or jealous of what I have; I don’t want my parents, friends, or siblings to feel like they’re not good enough. I also want to celebrate and be happy for the blessings other people receive – בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד

Zooming out beyond the Jewish People as part of ourselves is ourselves as part of the Jewish People.

The Kol Nidrei Prayer on Yom Kippur includes a line that grants the congregation permission to pray with sinners and wrongdoers together as one people. God asks us to be one people; we ask God to pray as one people. There are things we can’t get on our own, things we don’t deserve on our own; we ask God for a blessing as part of the Jewish People – בָּרְכֵנוּ אָבִינוּ כֻּלָּנוּ כְּאֶחָד.

בְּאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ כִּי בְאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ

This prayer asks for blessing with the light on God’s face.

When we speak of light, it’s a way of describing an effect; light feels warm and good; it’s something nice that we associate with smiling and feeling happy.

Asking for blessings with the light on God’s face is the metaphor we use for the mechanism of things that are nice and good.

As we’ve frequently encountered, this is a complex metaphor. God doesn’t have a face, and faces don’t generate light. But when we talk about parts of God, it’s in ways the human imagination can relate to, so God’s arm is a way of speaking about power. In this instance, the face is seen as the mirror of the soul, a space that reveals the inner world; we may conceal our true thoughts and feelings by hiding our natural expressions, but

sometimes, we distort our face so it doesn’t, but its natural state is to display our inner feelings.

Our sages teach that this blessing is an extension of the Priestly Blessing, which this blessing follows in the public repetition. That blessing speaks of God’s face shining us with grace – yaer hashem panav eilecha vichuneka.

When we speak of a blessing with God’s face lit up, it’s a request for blessing from a place of happiness and joy, where the outer and inner worlds align with light and joy.

Our sages teach that God created the universe with no cause other than the quality of kindness – olam chesed yibaneh CITE.

And yet, we don’t live in a world of rainbows and butterflies, lollipops and unicorns. We live in a world of pain and suffering, too. Pleasure can theoretically be reduced to two chemicals in the brain, dopamine, and serotonin; if God truly wanted to show kindness, couldn’t God have made a universe of creatures swimming in pleasure chemicals? Psychology teaches that we only feel good if we earn that reward by accomplishing a goal, but the question remains: why couldn’t God give us the feeling of satisfaction of achieving a goal?

The Ramchal explains that any manner of these variant forms of Creation falls short because they would fail to create the mutual relationship God desires. God’s greatest gift isn’t pleasure or happiness; it’s a connection and relationship with the Creator; that’s what the World to Come us, and that’s why free will exists and is at the heart of humanity, Judaism, and spirituality.

Although God shapes the universe out of kindness, our sages teach that God shrouds kindness in judgment; it must be so for humans to earn their keep. Embedded in this teaching is an inner and outer desire, an inner desire of abundant kindness and an outer wrapping of judgment, pain, and problems. What we subjectively experience as real and painful can be something else entirely at the root of existence.

When there’s a disconnect, that’s never a good thing. No one ever wants to hear their suffering is redemptive or glorious. So we ask for blessings from the light on God’s face, where the outer and inner worlds align with light and joy.

Not bor panecha

Some blessings are missing some light.

Our sages understand the Exodus story as an emergency measure; it wasn’t yet time, and the people were unworthy, and much of the Exodus story happens in darkness. But God had made a promise to Avraham and was going to keep His word – Baruch shomer havtochaso CITE.

We want our blessings to come with light, clarity, and illumination. We want to see and understand how all the parts of the puzzle come together.

נָתַתָּ לָּנוּ יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ תּוֹרַת חַיִּים

In giving the Jewish People the Torah, the blueprint of existence, God shared an instruction manual for proper living him, the way to manifest and participate in some small way in God’s qualities and bring light into Creation –  נָתַתָּ לָּנוּ יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ תּוֹרַת חַיִּים

But more than giving us those things, once upon a time, God gave us Himself –  נָתַתָּ לָּנוּ יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ.

When a young couple gets married, the groom gives the bride a ring, and the bride might give the groom a watch, but the greatest gift they can give is themselves to each other.

Many marriage laws and customs are derived from the encounter at Sinai; God gave Himself to the Jewish People through the Living Torah and a love of kindness. Spirituality is not an esoteric thing, not an arcane search, not a boring compendium of information and rules. Spirituality is the gift of learning how to be divine, the secret to unlocking the immortal soul, and how to be fragments of God that never dies; loving and obsessing over kindness is one way.

(gmach stories needed)

תּוֹרַת חַיִּים – The Torah is alive

The Torah is a spark of the Divine; it follows that it possesses some powerful, although sometimes paradoxical, properties. The Maariv prayer eloquently refers to the Torah as the essence of our existence—”ki heim chayeinu.” However, this intrinsic vitality contrasts starkly with the moment at Sinai, where the Jewish People died upon hearing God’s voice, only to be revived by the words themselves, which are restorative to the soul – “toras hashem temima meshivas nafesh”.

Our bodies possess a similar property; when cancer cells develop that can threaten survival, the immune system will send T cells to meticulously identify and hopefully eliminate the cancerous cells – a destruction for healing. Chemotherapy works similarly, poisoning the body in a calculated intervention to heal the body by destroying harmful elements.

The Torah targets parts of the human personality that are less than ideal, breaking them down only to rebuild us in a more refined form. It is through enduring and embracing this process, challenging as it may be, that we find a deeper, more vital existence. Just as our bodies can emerge stronger from the battle against illness, so too can our spirits find rejuvenation and life through the transformative power of the Torah if we commit to its teachings and allow them to guide our renewal.

Torah that comes alive

There are things that are boring, sad, and annoying, and there are things that make us come alive, things that are exciting and fill us with life.

We pray for the Torah to be one of those things.

What kind of person would you be if kindness was one of the things that made you feel most alive?

The bad things in life would be much easier to avoid if they felt like death.

Some people love to help others. They are born to volunteers to visit the sick and the old, feed the poor, and teach the unaffiliated, but it doesn’t come naturally to some people.

The Torah says to love God and your neighbor, but those aren’t laws legislating emotion; they command action. Do what you would have done if you felt that way as if you felt that way and had that emotion. Sticking to a task without motivation often winds up generating motivation later. Once you’re invested in an activity, person, or thing, you care more about it. When you’re paying for a dinner you’re not especially hungry for, you’ll force yourself to eat a bit more; if you’re at a friend’s wedding, you would never because it’s not your problem.

(Joey Rosenfeld as if)

We don’t want to be cruel; we must be invested in kindness. Loving kindness has nothing to do with its visibility or glamour but with loving it for itself, including the kindness no one cares about. It means loving washing the dishes so someone else won’t have to, picking up the tissue on the floor, and taking the trash out. It includes the popular things everyone has a soft spot for, like caring for special needs children, but the point is it doesn’t end there; what about someone not young or old, not poor, sick, or dying? What about someone middle-aged and just a little uncomfortable? Someone who loves kindness is excited to help that person from their innermost being.

Torah isn’t enough.

We pray for a Torah that’s alive, pulsating with life.

The Zohar teaches that at Sinai, all souls were gathered and present, and each soul perceived the Torah to its utmost depth to the absolute capacity each soul is capable of. There are Torah teachings and classes that fill us with life. If the Torah were truly alive to us, loving kindness would follow naturally.

In a vibrant world with so many things vying for our attention, corporate psychologists have determined that marketing campaigns have a maximum of eight minutes to occupy the human attention span. Marketers have optimized what colors catch the eye and which emotions to stir to provoke the desired behaviors.

The Gateshead Rav said that we have to give our children what the world will provide them in a kosher way, or they will go out and get it in the most nonkosher way.

If you had the best teacher or teachings, but they weren’t relatable, who would want to learn? The method matters, the medium matters, and the truth isn’t enough –  toras emes CITE.

We pray for a Torah that’s alive – toras chaim.

One time, Shlomo was on his way to teach a class, and he was running late when an Israeli collector stopped him and asked for a minute. He told Shlomo his story, which was a tale of woe and pain, but ten minutes long or more, and Shlomo felt terrible for him, gave him money, and moved on.

We don’t want kindness that is reluctant, begrudging, or unwilling. We don’t want the watered-down version; we want the real thing.

When Yitzchak prepares to die, he asks Esau to bring the food he loves so he can bless Esau with all his heart and soul, his entire being and essence – lmaan avarchecha nafshi

We pray for Torah and kindness that we are comfortable doing and love to do.

וּצְדָקָה וּבְרָכָה וְרַחֲמִים וְחַיִּים

We translate Tzedaka as charity and righteousness, which seem mutually exclusive; is someone owed something, in which case it is righteous to return, or are they not owed anything, in which case it would be charitable?

The Ibn Ezra translates it as something more like the act of equity; when the rich share with the poor, it equalizes inequity – צְדָקָה.

The Rokeach suggests that these requests aren’t separate; they’re all one. If we could discover a life of Torah and a Torah that is alive, we’d find kindness, charity, blessings, compassion, life, and all the rest; if Torah excited us and felt alive, everything else would follow: kindness, compassion, and charity would be natural.

Charity isn’t just giving money; it’s any leveling of the playing field. If someone lacks anything at all and you can help, that’s charity. Beyond financial means, remember that your time and expertise must be spent charitably as well, whether it’s homework, introductions, business contacts, or tips.

When someone is floundering spiritually, helping them is charity, including someone you perceive as superior, be it a teacher, mentor, or parent. Charity doesn’t make you better than another; there is no hierarchy or verticality in helping – it just means you have some more stability. Not even more objective stability in life; only a little more than they have right now, which is what you can share, and that’s enough. You know who they are, and you can share the place you see them from.

וְרַחֲמִים

Although we have already prayed for grace and mercy, the first was the kind everybody needs; this is another kind, the kind that comes from the light of God’s face – כִּי בְאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ.

Our sages teach that in moments we are stuck, we have a key; God gives us opportunities, and the qualities with which we navigate our challenges feed back into our lives as problems or solutions – nasan lecha rachmim vrichamecha

(Peterson)

Our sages teach that there is a kind of reflexive mirroring to helping others, that when you help someone with their problem, it somehow helps solve yours. If you help someone get married, it enables you to get married or makes your marriage smoother. When you pray for someone else, your prayers get answered as well.

A great rabbi once visited London and took some meetings, and Shlomo spent the night translating for him. People poured out their hearts the entire night and received blessings, but the sob stories shook Shlomo.

A person can experience pain that isn’t directly his; they have still endured pain. When you give someone whose child is sick some money for their care, you are invested in their recovery. When you help a young couple get married, you have bought into the success of their marriage.

Although we carry so much of our lives on our own, there are little fragments that others can share indirectly; we ask for opportunities to be merciful, where we can help someone with a problem. We ask for a heart big enough to include someone else’s problem so I can deserve more, so I can change my nature to be more naturally kind and good, and help more people – וְרַחֲמִים.

וְחַיִּים וְשָׁלוֹם

We take life for granted; there is no prayer or blessing for life.

There is a blessing for healing, but this blessing may be the first mention of life; the life we want is peaceful –  וְחַיִּים וְשָׁלוֹם

Quite arguably, life is the opposite of peace. Life is a war! Do we choose what’s easy or what’s right? Spiritual or mundane? Body or soul?

We pray for a life where we don’t feel torn apart, an extension of a life of Torah, with harmony and serenity, not plagued by doubt and confusion –  וְחַיִּים וְשָׁלוֹם

וְטוֹב יִהְיֶה בְּעֵינֶיךָ לְבָרְכֵנוּ וּלְבָרֵךְ אֶת־כָּל־עַמְּךָ יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּכָל־עֵת וּבְכָל־שָׁעָה בִּשְׁלוֹמֶךָ

A puzzle piece on its own will never be complete; the Jewish People are incomplete without each other, and the soul is incomplete without it’s connection the Creator.

One of the functions of the existence of deficiency and lack in our lives is as a prompt to reach out to the Creator and ask, so we ask the Creator – we know that peace is good in God’s eyes – וְטוֹב יִהְיֶה בְּעֵינֶיךָ.

The Rosh Hashana prayers affirm the utopian vision of the world coming together to acknowledge the Creator and do what is right and good in the world – vyeiasu kulam agudah achas laasos retzoncha.

Following the prompt, we ask God to help bring us together – vtov yihye beinecha

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה יְהֹוָה הַמְבָרֵךְ אֶת־עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל בַּשָּׁלוֹם: –

The Song of Songs refers to the female figure as Shulamis, which our sages understand to be an allegory to the Jewish People. Shulamis is the feminine variant of Solomon or Shlomo, themselves variants of Shalom, peace, or peaceful.

The Jewish People are born as Yakov, clutching at Esau’s heel; he fights with angels and becomes Yisrael. To be Jewish is to be a fighter, to fight for what is right and good. Judaism stands up against selfishness and fights for the sake of peace.

Fighting for peace isn’t contradictory doublespeak; the responsibility to work towards a better world and the ultimate goal of peace sometimes requires a confrontation with ugliness in the world. In a flawed world, the achievement of peace might require using force to defend against aggression or injustice; as one of the great early modern military strategists put it, the aggressor is always peace-loving; he would prefer to take over our country unopposed.

Peace isn’t something that happens by itself. It is not a default or natural state. It almost always requires giving something up, compromising, sacrificing, or investing in lasting peace. It requires fighting yourself; God blesses fighters with peace.

Identify an area in your life that you need peace in; an area between yourself and others; yourself and God; and you and yourself. Ask yourself how you’re willing to fight for peace, and do those things; then you can ask for help.

(shlomo

god promises avraham a son

he and his wife are old, it’s an outlandiish cliam, sarah laugh

vayachsehva lo tzedaka

brisker rav – avraham knew that to believe that was charity god had given him

tzedaka is making things fair

hashem tells avraham after all he’s done he beleives in avrhaam and will give him miracle child

carry banner of God

and avraham believed in hashem vayachsehva lo tzedaka

rokeach says whole sentence is one

toras chaim leads to res

with that we have ahavas chess etc

we forget this

sefardics on rosh hashana say song of gates

gate of chayim amen gates of parnassa amen

people shout loudest for parnassa

not loudest for chaim

take for granted

not thtat we dont appreicate them

we assume they are there)

v’Al Kulam – Totality

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וְעַל כֻּלָּם יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִתְרומַם שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ תָּמִיד לְעולָם וָעֶד: וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה. וִיהַלְלוּ אֶת שִׁמְךָ בֶּאֱמֶת. הָאֵל יְשׁוּעָתֵנוּ וְעֶזְרָתֵנוּ סֶלָה. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, הַטּוב שִׁמְךָ וּלְךָ נָאֶה לְהודות – And for everything may Your Name, our King, constantly be blessed and extolled, always and forever. And all the living shall thank You forever and praise and bless Your great Name with sincerity forever; for You are goodness— the Almighty, Who is our deliverance and our help forever— the benevolent Almighty. Blessed are You, Hashem, The Good is Your Name and to You it is fitting to praise.

וְעַל כֻּלָּם – and for everything

Which “everything”?

If you’re allergic to grammar, shut your eyes now.

It is not especially clear what “everything” is a reference to. It is a dangling modifier, an ambiguous grammatical construct that can be interpreted as being associated with more than one word. It is a participle intended to modify a noun that is not actually present in the text.

A simple answer is that it is understood that the conjunctive “and” attach two things, in this case, this blessing to the preceding blessing; so in this reading, it means that everything that we just said we are thankful for elevate God’s name – וְעַל כֻּלָּם יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִתְרומַם שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ.

וְעַל כֻּלָּם – and for everything everything

Beyond that, everything could be a simple reference to literally everything.

We are concluding the Amida prayers; we have done our best. We have thought about many things, learned many interpretations and meditations, and done our best. But however comprehensive the prayer text is, and however genuinely excellent your efforts may be, you will fall well short of the great big everything the Creator is responsible for. It’s just not possible to keep up – וְעַל כֻּלָּם יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִתְרומַם שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ

There is a fascinating and provocative long-standing display in New York City, an electronic billboard showing the national debt, illustrating the economic legacy passed on between generations. The numbers rise by thousands of dollars per second. If someone showed up with a bag of coins at the Federal Reserve central bank, it wouldn’t even register. When people pay their taxes, it barely registers!

As the beautiful Shabbos prayer puts it, if we had all the powers of the universe, it would never be close to enough to adequately thank the Creator – וְאִלּוּ פִינוּ מָלֵא שִׁירָה כַּיָּם. וּלְשׁוֹנֵנוּ רִנָּה כַּהֲמוֹן גַּלָּיו. וְשִׂפְתוֹתֵינוּ שֶׁבַח כְּמֶרְחֲבֵי רָקִיעַ. וְעֵינֵינוּ מְאִירוֹת כַּשֶּׁמֶשׁ וְכַיָּרֵחַ. וְיָדֵינוּ פְרוּשׂוֹת כְּנִשְׁרֵי שָׁמָיִם. וְרַגְלֵינוּ קַלּוֹת כָּאַיָּלוֹת. אֵין אֲנַחְנוּ מַסְפִּיקִים לְהוֹדוֹת לְךָ יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ וֵאלֹהֵי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ. וּלְבָרֵךְ אֶת שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. עַל אַחַת מֵאָלֶף אֶלֶף אַלְפֵי אֲלָפִים וְרִבֵּי רְבָבוֹת פְּעָמִים. הַטּוֹבוֹת נִסִּים וְנִפְלָאוֹת שֶׁעָשִׂיתָ עִם אֲבוֹתֵינוּ וְעִמָּנוּ

Sometimes, we get to see the excellent and beautiful things in our world that fill us with gratitude, like seeing your loved one at their wedding or when they recover and bounce back. But sometimes, we never even know we were in danger, all the plots and schemes that fail before they get off the ground. On Pesach, we read in the Hagadda how every generation faces mortal danger, even if they never become a clear and present threat – שֶׁבְּכָל דּוֹר וָדוֹר עוֹמְדִים עָלֵינוּ לְכַלוֹתֵנוּ. As we later say in Hallel, the nation of the world will praise God because they know even better what God did for us – הַלְלוּ אֶת ה’ כָּל גּוֹיִם, שַׁבְּחוּהוּ כָּל הָאֻמִּים. כִּי גָבַר עָלֵינוּ חַסְדּוֹ.

For everything we don’t even know about – וְעַל כֻּלָּם יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִתְרומַם שִׁמְךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ

To be sure, everything is a lot and includes many things you might not feel so thankful for. But praise isn’t the same as thanks; in competitive sports, when the other teams score an outrageously skillful goal, you applaud them and say well done. You’re not thankful; your team is down! But you offer your honest praise just the same.

תָּמִיד לְעולָם וָעֶד – always and forever

Every day isn’t the same as forever. If a person drinks coffee every day, that doesn’t mean they drink coffee constantly or forever. It means that they intermittently but daily drink coffee.

God is due continuous praise without pause, not intermittent – תָּמִיד לְעולָם וָעֶד.

Beyond that, we believe God is the Source of everything that happens, good and bad, always and forever, without pause. Whereas other religions might be dualistic, thinking that bad things come from Satan or the devil or demiurge, Judaism rejects any such notion. Everything is from the One God, including the bad things that happen to good people. And in the grand scheme of things, when you zoom out enough, and sometimes you have to zoom out really far, we believe that God’s name is elevated by all things, even the bad things.

We see ugly things in the world; some things are horrid. Part of free will means that there cannot be a forced positive response; God generates a stimulus, and only we choose our response.

The Ramchal has a beautiful teaching that in the age of Mashiach, the Jewish People will be able to look back at every fragment of trauma on a personal and national level in our history. God will show us piece by piece, person by person, tear by tear, what it meant and why it mattered, how every puzzle fit together and always did – תָּמִיד לְעולָם וָעֶד.

We don’t have that perspective now. But one day, we will look back in hindsight and say יִתְבָּרַךְ וְיִתְרומַם.

God’s actions cannot have a coercive effect on free will; this is prominently highlighted in the Exodus story, where God repeatedly hardens Pharoah’s heart. Where the commentators ask, is Pharoah’s free will? The answer there is that God is sending wave after wave of plague upon Egypt, sending a message to Pharoah, Egypt, and the Jewish People. If Pharoah concedes, it will have been because he was forced to, not out of choice. God hardens his heart to give him the strength to exercise his free will.

It happens in our lives, too.

וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה

All living things thank God; it’s simple, it’s true enough.

Beyond that, King David wrote that he refused to die; he would choose to live and praise God; that he would live to praise God – lo amus ki echyeh, vasaper masei ka

The word for man is the name for the first human being – Adam – ADAM CITE. Breaking up the word and spelling each letter in its inner form is the word for prayer; the essence of being a human is to pray – aleph lamed pey daled lamed kaf mem mem mitpalel CITE.

The challenge of being a human is that prayer isn’t found in words on our lips; it exists in the heart and mind, the inner world of the soul – Rachana liba bai. Prayer is found in the inner letters, not the outer letters – guf bli neshama.

It is the animating spirit that recognizes God – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Not even that life may recognize God, but that life itself is a praise of God.

Our sages teach that if someone answers a prayer with all they’ve got, it erases all the sins from their record.

Most of the time, life doesn’t go the way you hope.

Shlomo was on a deluxe Pesach program. Someone at a private seder was unhappy that the service was slow and complained. Shlomo said this man was in luxury, surrounded by healthy loved ones. Is waiting five minutes something to be upset about?

We want so much; we have asked for so much. But even if all we had were the fact we’re alive, that would be worthy, suggesting a universal imperative for all living beings to express gratitude merely for the gift of life itself, regardless of their circumstances. This teaching emphasizes an intrinsic value in life, urging an acknowledgment of existence as a sufficient cause for gratitude, highlighting a broad and encompassing perspective on thankfulness. – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

I might be poor, hungry, tired, sick, and hurting, but I am alive – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Even if you’re just alive, say thank you for that – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

There is a particular blessing, HaGomel, traditionally recited by people who safely pass through significant perils, prison, illness, and the ocean or desert in particular. The Etz Yosef observes that the initial letters of “chavush,” “yissurim,” “yam,” and “midbar” spell the acronym CHAIM CITE.

Each term underscores situations where deliverance is recognized and celebrated, reinforcing the importance of acknowledging one’s vulnerabilities and the miracles of survival, thus compelling all who emerge from such trials to “give thanks.”

Yet, on the other hand, a man once came to Rav Bick with a question. Late at night and approaching a major intersection, the traffic light turned, and he slammed the brakes, but the car didn’t stop, losing traction and skidding across the intersection. There were no cars present, so he was unarmed, but the man was shaken and asked Rav Bick if he had to say the blessing of HaGomel.

Rav Bick answered that he also found himself whimsically contemplating the nature of danger and deliverance. He removes his socks every night, and his wife would wash and dry them. But what if, one day, she washed them and put them in the dryer before he took them off? He would drown in the washing machine and burn in the dryer!

Rav Bick’s story is a symbolic reflection on the necessity of actual peril and genuine risk to life or well-being to meet the technical threshold for the recitation of Birkat HaGomel.

These teachings seem at odds; are you supposed to be thankful even for having nothing or for great salvation?

But the answer is both: everyone should be thankful just to be alive, even when life goes wrong, and actually, you should be extra grateful if you think about things some more.

Many prayers are presented in the negative, like opening the eyes of the blind. Blindness is the lack of sight; until you know what blindness is, you can never truly appreciate the sight and will only take it for granted, like the water the fish swim in. From the contrast, we can better value and appreciate the qualities of what we have.

There are so many things we are missing, that’s true. But some people have been through terrible things; you cannot be thankful until you consider the people who have been most grateful.

When you visit a concentration camp, standing where our ancestors stood, breathing where they took their last breaths, it puts your problems into perspective a little. They still exist, they are still accurate, they matter. But taking that trip teaches you that lesson, and remembering that lesson from time to time stops you from feeling too sorry for yourself.

When we say everyone has to say thank you, it contains a deeper reference to the genuinely thankful people, even those who have experienced incredible difficulty.

Compared to what some people have had to go through, I am thankful for my life.

When a patient is terminally ill and receiving palliative care only, their prayers are different from most people. At that point, the plan of care is about mitigating suffering; their prayers are for their loved ones, and the only person’s prayers are to die in as little pain as possible.

Most humans alive or who have ever lived do not have the abundance, plenty, and privilege we have today. When we say casually thank you for dinner, we never imagine the starving children of the world who haven’t had a meal in days.

We cannot thank God enough; we take speech, sight, and hearing for granted and everything for granted. It’s almost impossible not to!

But subtract any of the things we take for granted, and the contrast reveals that despite whatever we lack, our lives are pretty fantastic. Don’t look at anything you lack in isolation; everyone is born with a lack.

Imagine being attractive, famous, funny, clever, rich, and talented, but there’s someone you know who’s the same except two inches taller, and you’re annoyed about that. Everyone is missing something! For the overwhelming majority of people, the things they lack do not stop them from recognizing the beauty and brilliance of life and that we have been blessed.

(consider Nachum ish gamzu)

(Joey Rosenfeld Poznanski Intro and addiction shiur, enoughness)

Bring your hands as close to your eyes as possible so you can see the contours of your fingerprints without losing focus. Look at your fingerprints, and then between your fingers; you go from seeing the lines in your fingers to seeing nothing at all, just by refocussing your eyes a fraction of a millimeter. What we focus on matters, and focusing on one thing eradicates another: the good or bad things in our lives.

R’ Yehuda Ben Yakar suggests that the living ones imply the ones that were once dead; in the Messianic Age, after the Revival of the Dead, all who ever lived will sing God’s praise – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Moreover, there could be no more lavish praise of God than bringing the final victory of life over death – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Sometimes humans praise God with our mouths; sometimes with our actions; but occasionally, with our very existence, with life itself – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Our sages teach that all living things, animals, plants, and mountains, sing God’s praise – Perek Shira CITE.

They’re not conscious, so perhaps their guardian angel sings it,  or maybe when humans perceive the thing, the thought it inspires generates the praise, but it’s perhaps the thing itself.

When you eat a burger, you scarf it down with a drink, and it sits in your stomach. Without conscious thought, your body processes, digests, separates, and breaks down nutrients and waste.

It just works – asher yatzar es hadam bchochma.

Your lungs move air in and out of the lungs to facilitate gas exchange, inhaling oxygen and exhaling carbon dioxide. Your brain processes and controls all the information and activities in the body. Your heart is a power plant that steadily goes, beat after beat. Your body also has a self-healing and repair factor, heating, and cooling. These are just a few of the profoundly complex systems of our body, each of which is integrated into the others.

Life itself praise the creator – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

וִיהַלְלוּ אֶת שִׁמְךָ בֶּאֱמֶת – and they will praise Your Name with truth

We praise God because it’s correct, not just because we want something. On the merits, taking an objective view of things, and even with no self-interest or personal gain, it is true and correct.

This is the sentiment expressed in the song in the Haggada that goes line by line through all the beautiful things God did in the Exodus story; if God had only done this one thing for us, it would have been enough to say thank you. If only He’d taken us out of Egypt, If only He’d split the Red Sea, If only He’d taken us to Mount Sinai and the rest.

The apparent issue with the song is that none of those things are enough! Without all of the elements taken together, the Jewish People would have died! But the song isn’t about what would have been enough to survive; it’s about what would have been enough to be thankful. You don’t say thank you at the finish line or to generate the next thing; that would be a please!

All living things, all people who come to life will say thank you – וְכל הַחַיִּים יודוּךָ סֶּלָה.

The Messianic Age will be a post-scarcity society; there will be no lack, and we will still say thank you – truthfully – be’emes

הָאֵל יְשׁוּעָתֵנוּ וְעֶזְרָתֵנוּ סֶלָה –

In the opening blessings, we understood that help is when you do something and receive assistance, and saving is when you do nothing and get rescued. Shielding is preemptively stopping a problem before it ever becomes a problem.

Saving preempts helping, and in a given scenario this sentence doesn’t seem to make much sense on it’s face – הָאֵל יְשׁוּעָתֵנוּ וְעֶזְרָתֵנוּ סֶלָה. But over time, we can experience both; we all have moments of salvation and closeness where everything fits and makes sense – יְשׁוּעָתֵנוּ. But inevitably, every moment like that fades and is followed by long moments of distance and alienation, where God lets go and is concealed.

From those moments, we learn that God is present there, too, much like the Purim story. Our job is to remember the flashes of borrowed inspiration, earn it with perspiration, and make it our own.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה – Blessed are You, Hashem

As we say these words, we bow and stand.

We bow when we acknowledge God as the source of all blessing; I am not the source of blessing in my life, and everything I need comes from outside me.

I bend before God, but I stand in the name of God, Who straightens the bent, which allows me to stand up from my helplessness and vulnerability – like kefufim CITE.

הַטּוב שִׁמְךָ וּלְךָ נָאֶה לְהודות – The Good is Your Name and to You it is fitting to praise.

The initial letters of the phrase form the acronym for speech – hey shin vav nun lamed halashon. As we opened the Amida acknowledging, this is what our speech is for – Hashem sefasai tiftach ufi yagid tehilasecha CITE

Appreciation is due to more than just the Creator and not just to humans. In the Torah’s telling of the Exodus story, Moshe does not strike the water that saved his life as an infant or the sand that helped him conceal a crime. In these vignettes, it’s clear that appreciation is a personal sentiment that exists even with an inanimate benefactor.

It is important to be thankful and say thank you, but there can be a pitfall.

Imagine cooking an incredible gourmet Shabbos meal, and a guest goes to the kitchen to help. The food comes out, and everyone sits down to eat. It would be absurd and wildly out of place if someone thanked the guest for the delicious food. Sure, you helped, but what about the host, who did pretty much everything?

We must thank the messengers, especially when they deliberately choose to be kind and do good. But don’t miss the point, don’t thank the mailman more than the sender! Ultimately, all expressions of kindness and goodness are manifestations of God’s goodness and kindness, and that’s the ultimate address of thanks and appreciation – וּלְךָ נָאֶה לְהודו.

We don’t bow anywhere except the opening blessing of praise and the closing blessings of thanksgiving; we recognize the Creator and need the Creator. We are thankful without asking for anything in particular here; we might have asked for a whole lot just a few minutes ago, but God is not like a person, and thanking God is the ultimate recognition of our dependence, wholly inseparable from the definition of our relationship, the Creator. To recognize the Creator is to praise the Creator; to need the Creator is to thank the Creator.

It’s impossible not to need more from the Source of all things, but our need is not why we are thankful. We dream of a day when there will be no lack; if we didn’t need anything, we would still say thank you –

Hoda’a – Thanksgiving

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מוֹדִים אֲנַחְנוּ לָךְ שָׁאַתָּה הוּא ה’ אֱלֹקינוּ וֵאלֹקי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד צוּר חַיֵּינוּ מָגֵן יִשְׁעֵנוּ אַתָּה הוּא לְדוֹר וָדוֹר נוֹדֶה לְּךָ וּנְסַפֵּר תְּהִלָּתֶךָ עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ וְעַל־נִסֶּיךָ שֶׁבְּכָל־יוֹם עִמָּנוּ וְעַל־נִפְלְאוֹתֶיךָ וְטוֹבוֹתֶיךָ שֶׁבְּכָל־עֵת, עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם, הַטּוֹב כִּי לֹא־כָלוּ רַחֲמֶיךָ וְהַמְרַחֵם כִּי לֹא־תַמּוּ חֲסָדֶיךָ, כִּי מֵעוֹלָם קִוִּינוּ לָךְ – We are thankful to You that You Hashem are our God and the God of our fathers forever; Rock of our lives, the Shield of our deliverance, You are in every generation. We will give thanks to You and recount Your praise, for our lives which are committed into Your hand, and for our souls which are entrusted to You, and for Your miracles of every day with us, and for Your wonders and benefactions at all times— evening, morning and noon. (You are) The Beneficent One— for Your compassion is never withheld; And (You are) the Merciful One— for Your kindliness never ceases; for we have always placed our hope in You.

Bowing

A full bow accompanies the opening of the thanksgiving blessing; the technically perfect form is to bend the entire spine forward so the torso is aligned with the ground.

Bowing is a form of body language and communication with significant cultural, social, and religious implications. While precise meanings and nuances vary depending on the cultural context, bowing, in general, is a non-verbal gesture that conveys respect, humility, gratitude, acknowledgment, and submission.

It is the physical embodiment of the act of lowering oneself.

This is one of the four blessings in the Amida that is accompanied by a bow; bowing is the exception, not the rule, and it isn’t even permissible to bow outside these specific blessings.

The laws of prayer specify that if a person cannot concentrate on the entire Amida, then the first blessing is the most important, and to at least focus everything on that one – Avos, Patriarchs, Fathers, Ancestors. The law then stipulates that if one cannot do that, the next best one to concentrate on is Hoda’a: Thanksgiving.

The notion that these two blessings are the ones that require proper intent and are also the ones that you would bow for suggests that these are most important; it also indicates that there is a common denominator between these two blessings that cuts to the heart of prayer.

There are more profound and more superficial expressions when it comes to praying with intent. It’s relatively straightforward to think about the words you’re saying; it’s another thing entirely to mean what you’re saying with passion and enthusiasm.

Not Bowing

Our sages teach that if a person doesn’t bow at this blessing, their spine turns into a snake, a deeply cryptic teaching with layered imagery.

The spine is significant; it links the entire body – a spinal injury cripples the whole body. The spinal cord is the bridge between thoughts and feelings and implementing them with actions in the real world. The mitzvah of tefillin prominently utilizes this model; the head tefillin sits on the forehead over the brain, with the rear knot on the top vertebra of the spine, with straps tracking down the body as though mirroring the spine and nervous system. That arm tefillin is bound to the upper arm opposite the heart, with straps bound down the arm to the hands and fingers. The Tefilin symbolizes binding action, emotion, and thought: hand, heart, and head.

The opening blessings of the Amida were praise; the middle section consists of requests, and this blessing is the beginning of thanksgiving – bow is an action that manifests the knowledge and intellect of the Source of all things.

When the sages say that when a person doesn’t bow, their spine turns into a snake, that doesn’t mean it turns into a scary reptile; it means the snake, the archetypal snake from Eden, the cunning and dangerous deceiver and manipulator.

In the Torah’s telling, the archetypal snake is powerful; it can walk upright, talk, and is far more intelligent than Adam and Eve. It uses these skills and abilities to tempt Eve to defy the Creator, which she initially declines to do. But the snake is clever and persuasive; it suggests that the Creator is not so good, and the rules are merely the Creator acting out of self-interest.

Our sages suggest that when Eve sinned, it was almost as if she had been intimate with the snake, that she had allowed herself to be infected with the snake’s poison by believing that God and God’s rules were self-serving.

When a person doesn’t bow at the blessing of thanksgiving, the acknowledgment and affirmation of God’s goodness, their spine has become the snake, denying God’s good. Our sages also teach the inverse: every time we bow, we heal a bit of the damage of Adam’s original sin.

When a person bows, lowering themselves and demonstrating respect, humility, gratitude, acknowledgment, and submission due to the Creator, it reverses the snake-ification of humanity.

So why not the whole time?

If the case for bowing is so compelling, it naturally follows that perhaps we ought to bow from beginning to end and say the entire prayer prostrate.

But that question misunderstands a fundamental orientation of humans to God.

Bowing physically lowers the human body, evoking the body shape of animals that walk on all fours. Moreover, it conceptually lowers the human body too; humans stand upright, with a physical hierarchy in the way our organs stack – with the conscious mind on top, then the emotional heart, the hungry digestive system, and at the base, the base reproductive system. When a human bows, this hierarchy collapses, with everything at a horizontal level.

Bowing nullifies impurity, but standing reinforces holiness. God doesn’t want us to stay bent; God wants us to stand straight, and the only way to stand is by rising from a bow.

Bowing and standing are functions of the acknowledgment that I am no more than an animal without God, and we say this played out across world history. When people think they are gods, they behave like animals; when they think humans are just animals, they act like animals. But with morality and goodness, we can stand up as humans.

Through thanksgiving and acknowledging our weaknesses and shortcomings, we can do what no animal can – we can consciously recognize God.

Thank you, Hashem, for creating us upright.

Debt of thanks

The Maharal notes that when someone does something good for you, it incurs a debt, not just for the value of the benefit but because they have done anything for you at all. The debt is not cheap; the laws of misleading people and incurring such a debt are serious. A classic example is buying a beautiful birthday cake for someone, and upon realizing it’s not actually their birthday, recycling it for someone else and saying you did it, especially for them.

When you do something nice for someone, they owe you, but if you didn’t do what they think you did, you have stolen their gratitude.

Part of the thanksgiving blessing is paying that debt, giving ourselves over to God; if you owe everything you have to God, you owe everything you are to God. More than mere thanksgiving, it suggests a corresponding obligation and responsibility; it follows that this is why the Jewish People are called Yehudim – YEHUDIM CITE.

Observing the Torah scrupulously is hard. There are so many obligations and restrictions; how could somebody want that? By taking stock of how much we owe the Creator – everything.

Sometimes, some moments make us feel like we don’t owe God that much; some moments feel more like, if anything, God owes us.

But that thought is only coherent if we take everything for granted; it makes no sense to be so selective. You have woken up; you are alive and breathing. The sun has risen once again, and it’s another day in the universe’s vibrant existence; that’s why we start the day with a short thank you prayer – MODEH ANI CITE. That’s not to say things can’t be bad, but those bad things cannot exist in isolation, that is, without an enormous amount of ingratitude. The ability to think and feel sorry for yourself is also a gift – kol haneshama tehalel YA – al kol neshima.

The word we use for thanksgiving suggests a giving over of ourselves, in the plural – MODIM CITE. Almost all prayers are pluralized because they’re for the greater Jewish People, not just ourselves. Bless me and them, too; bless us. Heal me and that person, too; heal us.

It may seem counterintuitive, but we can offer thanks on someone else’s behalf. While there is a personal Modim at the repetition, we can offer thanks for all the people who don’t know to direct their thanks to the Creator; perhaps there isn’t even such a thing as a purely personal blessing, and we can be thankful for all the communal blessings.

I am thankful for that person’s wealth, with which they support the community. I am grateful for that person’s intelligence, which they use to teach so many.

Many people sway during their prayers, rocking to and fro, back and forth, fast or slow. It’s a way of the body articulating its prayer, actively participating – kol atzmosai tomarna.

But there are things I’m not thankful for

I hate school, I hate my job, I hate this personal crisis, I hate my failure. There are things we are not thankful for; does that make you ungrateful?

It’s not fair or honest to suggest that; to do so would be to negate the entire subjective human experience; if you didn’t have thoughts or feelings, then you wouldn’t think or feel that way, obviously.

But instead, a perspective shift is in order; not the universal view that negates your existence, but a longer time horizon.

Some things are uncomfortable but ultimately for the good.

Dieting isn’t as fun as eating, but good health is essential. Saving isn’t as fun as spending; financial well-being is important; homework is boring, but education is everything; your job might be rubbish, but taking care of your family is critical.

While every moment of the process is uncomfortable, it’s directed towards a positive outcome, an end goal that is good; we can be thankful for that. You can be thankful without feeling so happy or excited; you can be grateful and still be hurting or upset.

There are times when people go through great difficulty and say years later that they would choose it again.

A girl’s mother was terminally ill; she was a fantastic mother and woman, and the girl was distraught. But given the choice of an average mother with long life or her incredible mother for the time she was allotted, she would choose her mother for as long as possible every time. Not to detract in any way from the profound loss and pain of that family, but if that’s what she could choose, that was what she already had, a blessing in a certain sense.

שָׁאַתָּה הוּא יְהֹוָה אֱלֹהֵינוּ

Our prayers alternately refer to God in the second and third person – you / Him – ATA / HU ELOKEIN. You speak to someone in the second person when directly interacting with them in their presence; you are speaking directly to them. Speaking in the third person means talking about someone who isn’t there; speaking to someone who is there and about someone who is not doesn’t make much sense usually, but it does about the Creator – there is a part that is revealed and a part that is not, and we are thankful for both.

We are thankful for the mercy we see and the judgment we don’t. There are times we want to see God; on Rosh Hashana, we pray for a happy and sweet new year because not everything sweet is happy, and not everything happy is sweet. It’s a prayer to see God’s plan, for it to make sense and feel good.

But there are times we don’t want to see God’s plan; our sages teach that when Yakov wished to reveal the end of history on his deathbed, God clouded his prophecy clouded over because it would be devastating to learn how distant it would be, and the truth was too heavy – bikesh yakov lgalos es hakeitz CITE.

Life takes place amidst uncertainty, possibility, and probability; knowing everything kills what it is to be human. In the Purim story, Haman’s plot terrifies the Jews into repentance and a religious revival that launches a new era of Torah and rebuilds the Beis Hamikdash; if they had known all along that the plot would fail, the humans never made the changes and take the actions and steps they needed to, and the story could never happen. As R’ Jonathan Sacks said, if we could understand why bad things happen to good people, we would simply accept it.

It’s important that God be concealed at times.

When a child is learning to ride a bike, the father needs to hold the bike, but it’s also essential for the father to let go; that’s how you learn to ride a bike. After successfully learning how to ride a bike, the child is thankful to the father for teaching him, both for holding and also for letting go – the revealed and the hidden.

אֱלֹהֵינוּ וֵאלֹהֵי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד

We are thankful for eternity – לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד.

We’re thankful that God has always stuck with us and will never trade or upgrade us. There are moments we have fallen short, well short, as a nation and as individuals. Thank you Hashem for never leaving us, never abandoning us, for staying our God despite everything – אֱלֹהֵינוּ וֵאלֹהֵי אֲבוֹתֵינוּ לְעוֹלָם וָעֶד

More profoundly, the nature of our relationship with the Creator is one of eternity; God takes a long-term view of things. The babysitter might indulge the screaming child with chocolate, but his mother might not. Hidden or revealed, the relationship is eternal; even when things aren’t super favorable in the short term, we are thankful that God looks out for the long term.

(god of eternity, giant complex wild universe)

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – the one-man army

As one might navigate the challenging journey of a loved one’s illness, hospital visits might become a stage for encounters filled with escalating gratitude for each person, reflecting the significance of their role in the journey toward healing.

A simple yet sincere “thank you” might be offered to the lunch lady who cheerfully delivers. The medical tech who ensures the smooth operation of life-sustaining equipment is met with a grateful “Thank you, your work is crucial.” The nurse, whose care and compassion oversee the general quality of care, receives a heartfelt “I appreciate how much you’re doing.” To the anesthesiologist, whose efforts take the edge off any pain, “Your efforts really made a difference; thank you so much!” And finally, to the surgeon, whose skill, expertise, and decisions are critical from the top down, the deepest expression of profound gratitude must be offered; “Thank you doesn’t begin to cover it; you’ve given us hope and healing. We are eternally grateful.”

What if, three years later, the patient has a relapse and is readmitted, and the staff are all gone? There were budget cuts, and the surgeon was the only one left. He brought the food, managed the equipment, made the beds, kept watch night and day, administered pain management medication, and performed life-saving surgery as well.

A one-man army is a fictional trope, a caricature that could never truly exist; it takes a village. Words fail to acknowledge the extreme level of goodness shared adequately; you would be in awe of the presence of such a person. They would not just be owed the thanks that everyone else would get combined; they are due all the thanks amplified, squared, cubed, and compounded.

Your gratitude is contingent on what you have received; part of the proper way to show appreciation is to recognize the goodness done for you, directly influencing how you would relate to them.

All the goodness we have ever received comes from God – tova kfula umkupeles CITE

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – the rock

The word we use to describe the relationship with God in our lives is multifaceted, with different related, overlapping meanings.

Firstly, it can mean rock. When someone is your rock, it means they are a reliable anchor of stability, an immovable object you can lean on – צוּר חַיֵּינוּ

It can also mean strength or power, our Source of strength and security.

It can also be a variant form of the word for painter – TZIUR CITE. Our sages teach that God is a painter – ein tzur elokeinu, ein tzayer kelokeinu

It can also be a variant form of the word for creator yotzer – CITE

Lastly, it can mean Source, the place from which we are drawn – mekor CITE

Firstly, it can mean rock. When someone is your rock, it means they are a reliable anchor of stability, an immovable object you can lean on – צוּר חַיֵּינוּ

There are times a person can relate to God as something to hold onto, that you can turn to God when you need to. If you understand you can count on God and that God is something solid to hold onto, you turn to God. If people don’t understand God or their prayer, they won’t count on it, and it won’t do much for them.

Imagine climbing an old, rickety staircase; you need a sturdy railing to hold onto. If there’s just an old, rickety railing, you won’t hold tight, and your steps will be uncertain; you will tread lightly, unwilling to commit, and when you can’t commit to something, it can’t support you. But when you have a support that you don’t commit to, it can’t work as a support, not because of its own deficiency, but because of you.

God is the rock of our lives; we can lean on God and God can support us – hasleich al hashem vhu yechalkelecha CITE. But support is useless when you don’t count on it.

In the middle of a war, a child, separated from his family, is caught in a dangerous crossfire. As bullets tear through the air, a figure reaches out and pulls him to the ground and safety. He whispers, “Shh—it’s Dad.” In an instant, surrounded by chaos and with danger close, the child experiences a sudden sense of safety.

In the moments you wish you had something to lean on when you can’t do it alone, remember that God is the rock; utilize it.

(harold kushner about people finding strenght when they had none)

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – the strength of our life

It can also mean strength or power, our Source of strength and security.

Different from rock in the sense of security, God gives us strength. So many times, life can beat a person down with sickness, weakness, failure, loss, or a combination. Empty, with nothing left in the tank, a person can come to life again, energized and revitalized. We know people who find the ability to do something they did not believe they could or honestly could not. It happens all the time, and you can be sure it will continue to occur in the future as well.

If there is something you cannot do, you can pray to find the strength.

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – the artist of our lives

It can also be a variant form of the word for artist or painter – TZIUR CITE. Our sages teach that God is a artist – ein tzur elokeinu, ein tzayer kelokeinu

Wise men have consistently recognized the universe as a masterful artwork, from Maimonides to Einstein.

The brushstrokes of existence that span the cosmos testify to the beauty that resides across the range of infinity. The Galaxies spiral in dances across the void, stars are born in explosive nebulas, and supernovas scatter the seeds of creation. Planets orbit in serene silence, each world a jewel in the celestial crown, their surfaces and atmospheres weaving stories of mystery and possibility. In our world, the mountains reach out to the earth, their peaks brushing the sky, while mighty oceans cover the earth, their depths harboring secrets in the dark embrace of water. The forests breathe life, a symphony of flora and fauna, each leaf and creature a note in the song of the Earth, a melody of interconnected survival and symbiosis. Beyond what the eye can see, cells divide with extreme precision, with the brilliant power of DNA encoding the blueprints of life underpinning the diversity of existence. Beyond that, the atoms and particles dance in the quantum realm, their interactions governed by forces that bind the universe in a delicate balance, crafting matter and energy from the void, a microcosm of creation that mirrors the grandeur of the cosmos.

A masterpiece of complexity, simplicity, chaos, and order, each layer reveals further layers of beauty and sophistication that captivate the mind and stir the soul. On this grand canvas, the design of the fabric of our reality is special, every brush stroke singing to the Creator.

Beyond the beauty of the external world, we are also blessed with subjective beauty, the beauty we can experience. A child’s warm embrace, a picturesque landscape, the miracle of childbirth, a person’s smile.

As much as the universe exists for the Torah and morality, the canvas is too big if that is the only goal. We could exist as flat stick figures in a two-dimensional geometric world, but we don’t because God’s kindness is multi-dimensional, with the rich depth of fall leaves and rainbow sunsets.

The analogy runs deeper still; there’s a big difference between a painting and a drawing. A drawing is relatively easy to identify from the outset; there are outlines, shapes, and shading. A painting is very different because there are coats and layers; you can often only see the outcome when it’s finished or nearly finished.

God paints reality and our lives in shades and layers with deep complexity. Part of living on God’s canvas is that we cannot know what comes next; we live, move, and act within different phases of uncertainty.

It’s not a bug; that’s a feature of the whole assignment. The entire exercise and point of our lives is to put together the pieces and create something worthwhile out of our lives; there is no wrong thing. Work with what you have been given; your best guess must be correct because you cannot know otherwise; you cannot be wrong. Of course, with more information later, you need to adapt, but everything is obvious in hindsight; you must do the best you can with the information you have at the moment.

A judge can rule with smoking gun evidence that a person is guilty, and that would be the correct ruling. If evidence emerges later that the person is innocent, they must be ruled innocent, but the first trial was not wrong; the judge must follow the process with the information available. We are all judges, and we cannot know what new information tomorrow will bring; our sages teach that judges can only be responsible for the information they have and not the information they do not – ein ldaya ela ma sheino roois – CITE

Each new element of information and life adds richness, depth, and complexity to the rest. A stroke of white might be light, and a little red might be anger.

God is a painter; we cannot see the canvas we live within, but we can be sure it is a work of art.

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – creator of our lives

This can also be a variant form of the word for creator yotzer – CITE

While we may speak about artists as creative, an enormous difference exists between artists and creators. What we call creativity isn’t creative; all creative work is derivative, building on something that existed before.

Carl Sagan once quipped that to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first invent the universe. To do anything from scratch, from nothing at all, you need constituent atoms of carbon, hydrogen, oxygen, and the rest, and atoms cannot exist without the creative processes of the Big Bang.

Artists can combine and recombine materials but cannot create; a unicorn merges a horse with a horn, a pegasus is a horse with a bird, and a centaur is a horse with a man. The building blocks of creativity are recycled, not original. It can’t be otherwise; we cannot imagine something we have never seen.

To be clear, combinations can be creative and original. The Mona Lisa or the perfect chicken sandwich are works of art and what we call creative, but the only actual act of creation is Creation itself, ex nihilio, something from nothing – yesh meaiyin – CITE.

God’s creativity is different and unimaginable.

(this anecdote doesn’t illustrate God’s creativity to me; it illustrates human derivative creativity)

In some of our darkest days, the Warsaw Ghetto in 1943 had already seen hundreds of thousands of innocent people transported to the gas chambers. Hundreds of lightly armed Jewish fighters led a resistance effort that was partially successful and spurred an uprising, demonstrating audacity and bravery amid unimaginable horrors. Although ultimately doomed, as they knew they were, they fought for the honor of the Jewish people, a protest against the world’s silence in the face of the Nazi’s unspeakable evils, and they fought harder and held out longer than the Polish army.

For half a century, the Cold War marked decades of geopolitical tension between the United States and the Soviet Union, and their respective allies, with an open struggle for dominance and influence that was felt across the globe, sparking an arms race and nuclear testing that threatened human civilization. World leaders openly and repeatedly threatened each other with nuclear annihilation, which people believed was inevitable. And yet, the Cold War never became a hot war; a generation that had grown up in the shadow of the constant threat of nuclear war turned on the news and saw the Soviet Union collapse without a single shot fired.

You can book a ticket and be in Spain by tomorrow lunchtime for a lovely holiday. You’d never know that the Spanish Inquisition spanned a few centuries and terrorized one of the seats of Jewish culture in exile in the Middle Ages, brutally and publicly executing thousands of Jews, abducting and converting tens of thousands more, and terrorizing all rest. But today, Jews are welcome with open arms!

God’s creativity is not like ours. God’s creativity exceeds our imagination, unlocking vistas of tremendous hope; it means there is no hopeless scenario where a person cannot hope and pray. It means you can never create something you can’t return from; there can be something new.

(but some things are hopeless – warsaw ghetto uprising fighters all died)

God doesn’t just sustain us; God creates us.

There is newness – mechadesh bchol yom btuvo

living with newness torahredux

https://torahredux.com/living-with-newness/

צוּר חַיֵּינוּ – the source of life

https://torahredux.com/soul-sparkles/

A more profound interpretation is that this isn’t a description of what God does for us but that we are a fragment of godliness drawn from God, the Source of all life.

When we speak about the fundamental essence of Jewish identity, the pintele Yid, the incorruptible soul, these are different ways of saying that what animates us is the living force of God, drawn from God – חלק אלוק ממעל

chatzuvim (I don’t know this word)

Taking this imagery to its conclusion, if there is a piece of God in us, then we are a piece of God, the part that animates, motivates, and inspires our consciousness.

God is transcendent, above space and time, and yet deeply imminent, profoundly present,

The piece of immortal eternity and infinity that lives within us here and now. More than just an animating energy or force, this gift bestows consciousness, the ability to perceive the immortal soul within.

The existence of a soul necessarily means that a human is so much more than a physical body; our consciousness loudly proclaims that there is much more than the material world we can see and feel.

Knowing there resides a piece of God within you means you won’t live with the limitations that people who don’t know live with; we believe that death is not the end; there exists a great beyond, a hereafter that goes endlessly on. Knowing there is a beyond, we can beyond our limitations; boundaries and distinctions are artificial, and there is only One, there is only God, the eternal and eternity, of which I am a part – shema yisrael CITE.

This is the sentiment that our ancestors have expressed, with self-sacrifice, dying al kiddush Hashem with mesiras nefesh

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מָגֵן יִשְׁעֵנוּ

God guards our salvation; we can ruin it, God will protect it.

Our autonomy and choice grant us enormous power and capability to shape our world and our lives for better and worse, including the ability to self-sabotage and ruin the things we love. Despite our capacity to make mistakes, God’s protective embrace remains a testament to the enduring promise of divine oversight.

In this delicate balance between divine protection and human agency, our spiritual journey unfolds, guided by the omnipotent hand that both shields and allows us the freedom to navigate our path, affirming that even in moments of misstep, the divine intention to protect our salvation endures.

God is the vigilant guardian of our salvation, a steadfast protector against the tumults of life. Yet, within this divine safeguarding lies a profound truth: our actions hold the power to undermine this protection. It’s a delicate balance where divine providence and human agency intersect, reminding us that while God will unfailingly protect our salvation, the responsibility to honor and preserve this gift through our choices and actions rests squarely upon our shoulders. This dynamic interplay underscores the significance of our role in the divine scheme, where our free will determines the course of our spiritual journey, even as we remain under the watchful eye of a benevolent Creator.

וּנְסַפֵּר תְּהִלָּתֶךָ

We will tell God’s praises.

This phrase is a little unusual because it is a more complex form of something more straightforward. Editing the sentence for brevity and clarity, you wouldn’t tell God’s praise; you would praise God – NEHALEL CITE.

But there is more to it than just praising God with a thank you; this blessing tells us to praise God using one of the most powerful pieces of human culture and technology – stories. Storytelling is one of the fundamental building blocks of human civilization, bringing people together and inspiring belief and behavior on a large scale, ultimately shaping society and history.

When expressing gratitude, don’t just say thank you; tell the story in rich detail. The better the story, the greater the payoff and praise. Don’t just say thank you, talk about it. Beyond prayer, tell your friends the good news, even if it sounds silly sometimes. Live with an orientation of gratitude.

Story

In a Central London train station, a young rabbi, Shlomo Farhi, had a train to catch. He was going to teach a well-attended class in Birmingham, but he was running late characteristically. Scheduled for departure at 3:01, Farhi found himself at the mercy of a ticket machine with seconds to spare. He inserted his debit card to print the ticket he’d reserved, but the machine glitched and spat out a forest’s worth of tickets and receipts. Shlomo snatched them all in a desperate attempt to catch his train, but fate had other plans, and by the time he arrived at the platform, he had missed the 3:01 train.

The next train wasn’t much later but was during peak hours, requiring a different ticket. Without the right ticket, the cash-strapped young rabbi with an empty wallet and matching bank account wouldn’t make it.

In a twist of desperation, Shlomo boarded the peak train, offering the wad of tickets to the conductor at the beginning of the platform. The conductor flicked through the pile, stamped a ticket, and waved Shlomo aboard. Shlomo looked through the pile for the stamped ticket to Birmingham, not for the 301 train he had booked with his name on it, but the ticket he needed at that moment – a first-class ticket peak ticket to Birmingham, not in his name but for a Miss Erica Jones.

It was as if the universe had conspired to place him exactly where he needed to be without him even realizing it, and this was the golden ticket, a stroke of luck that felt like a whisper of divine intervention.

The journey to Birmingham was smooth, filled with the anticipation of teaching the Torah, a purpose that filled Shlomo with warmth and fulfillment. The class was a smash hit and cemented lifelong spiritual gains for the students who attended, who brought all their friends to the next class. Shlomo was on a high.

One of the students drove Shlomo back from Birmingham to London, and the return journey was a stark contrast. Driving back in the dead of night, the car made a tremendous thump, and Shlomo’s hit bounced off the roof. The car lifted into the air, violently swerving off the highway at 80mph. Off the side of the cold, deserted road at 3 am, Shlomo climbed out of the car, disoriented and freezing, and began walking backward.

From the darkness, a truck’s headlights illuminated a wheel on the road – the culprit of the accident. What followed was a domino effect of swerving cars and trucks, one hitting the loose wheel, dragging it with sparks that lit the night and almost caught fire.

This story, a journey from Birmingham and back, encapsulates the duality of life’s experiences – the joy of fulfilling one’s purpose contrasted with the chaos of unforeseen trials. It’s a narrative that teaches the importance of recognizing the moments of ease and grace we are given and the resilience required to face the challenges. For Farhi, the journey wasn’t just about reaching a destination but understanding the more profound lessons embedded in each moment of his trip, the bits of divine intervention we recognize, and the many we don’t, all woven into the fabric of our lives.

There are parts of life we see and make sense of and parts we don’t, hidden and revealed. The journey to Birmingham was incredible, impossible, miraculous; it felt amazing, a thumbs up from Heaven about Shlomo’s importance. The journey back corrects any notions of the importance of the teacher, an exercise in humility that reveals what the less was: the value of teaching Torah classes to students on campus, not the teacher.

Your life story matters, how you tell it, and details matter. Narrate the hand of God in your life, and tell it well –  וּנְסַפֵּר תְּהִלָּתֶךָ.

עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ

God alone decides life and death and everything in between. There are much greater forces at play in the universe that I am not the arbiter of; our lives are in God’s hands;     עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ.

Beyond that, this phrase suggests that our lives are given over to God, that our lives exist to serve God –  עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ.

When we talk about God’s hand or voice, we must remember that God has no form; God does not have arms or a mouth. These are words we use when we talk about people; they are anthropomorphic metaphors. Although not strictly accurate, they are helpful because they are familiar; when we talk about being in someone’s hands, it’s also a metaphor, and we understand that it is in someone’s control.

When we talk about the hand of God specifically, it means the hand that writes history, as the Torah speaks about God’s outstretched mighty arm as the tool that drove the Exodus story. The sweeping flourishes of the Divine paintbrush drive history to people with a discerning eye.

The way our sages talk about the human relationship with Heaven, every nation and race has a guardian angel, a kind of angelic representation of the idealized form. At the Red Sea, the Torah describes how the Jewish People saw Egypt coming after them and were terrified; noting the Torah’s description of Egypt, not Egyptians, our sages suggest they saw nothing less than the angelic form of Egypt itself in pursuit, and their terror was at the thought that Heaven might have sent some kind of spiritual power after them – mitzrim / mitrayim CITE.

However, in this spiritual hierarchy, while Edom may have an angel who does battle, Yakov has no such representative and must do battle himself. The Jewish People do not have a guardian angel and are guided directly by God’s hand – ani vlo malach CITE.

Quite literally then, we are in God’s hands – עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ.

(I don’t recognize this word; more research required)

In the harrowing confines of the Warsaw Ghetto, where Jews faced unimaginable hardship, a group of Chassidim defiantly established underground shuls and shtiebels, carving out sanctuaries of faith amidst the desolation. As the ghetto met its tragic end, the Nazis, armed with flamethrowers, sought to extinguish the last vestiges of Jewish resistance.

Amidst the inferno, the last man standing, surrounded by flames, recalled a story shared by the Chafetz Chaim about a man who, having fled Spain, lost everything—his family, community, home, and wealth. Stripped of all but his spirit, the man declared to God that while everything had been taken from him, his love for the Divine remained untouchable, a treasure beyond the reach of his persecutors.

Facing the abyss, in the valley of the shadow of death, the last man standing closed his eyes and spoke to creation. He had lost everything; all he had left was his love for God. He would not give that up; he would not let God take that from him.

Our lives are God’s; our lives are in God’s hands, deeply committed even to death – עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ.

Generation after generation of our ancestors lived and willingly died because they valued being God’s people and doing what is right and good in this world. And not just righteous scholars, saints, and sages; ordinary folks, regular people died at the stake and the gas chambers and every other horrible way because they understood that our lives are dedicated to the service of something much bigger than ourselves, that this is not the end, that our immortal souls connect to and interface with something far more significant, – עַל חַיֵּינוּ הַמְּסוּרִים בְּיָדֶךָ.

וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ

It’s funny to think about our souls as ours in any real way, as though they belong to us, but that’s how we talk. When we go to sleep, we lose consciousness; consciousness is poorly understood, but our sages teach that when we sleep, our souls depart our bodies and return to Heaven, and they come back every morning, almost like a revival of the dead, one of the sources of the practice to wash hands in the morning.

Our sages teach that every night; the angels question whether we deserve our soul back; are we using it for its highest and best use? Is this the most efficient use of spirituality? Is there a better way to allocate? And every night so far, the angels have lost that debate.

Our sages give an analogy of a hundred-dollar debt someone owes you. You keep asking for it back, and they never pay you back. One day, they come to you and ask you to hold on to a hundred dollars for them for a few days. You might think, jackpot! You can deduct what you are owed from what you have just received, and you are all square, entirely whole. But God never treats our soul that way; it is entrusted to God – pikadon CITE.

God will not violate that trust even if we have other debts, even if we have squandered our gifts –  וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ.

וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ

While laypeople may speak of a head injury, a medical professional may talk about a laceration with irregular edges and debris present. Both are correct, but professionals communicate with greater precision.

Jewish mysticism teaches that just like the body, the soul also has an anatomy, a spiritual structure with different parts and functions. Deeply complex and nuanced, the familiar ones are Nefesh, Ruach, and Neshama, which we mostly use interchangeably; there are also more esoteric parts called Chaya and Yechida.

The Nefesh Hachaim uses glassblowing as the guiding metaphor. This technique involves blowing air through a tube or pipe to inflate molten glass into a bubble, which is then crafted into a utensil. The Neshama is the breath of the Glassblower, the animating force; the Ruach is the airflow through the connective tube; and the Nefesh is the molten glass that becomes a utensil or vessel through this process.

Our bodies contain the Nefesh, but the Neshama, the breath of the Glassblower that animates us, never truly becomes our own. That remains God’s as an entrusted object; not just overnight, but always – וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ.

In the morning prayers, one of the first blessings is about the soul God places in me – elokai neshama shenasata bi. This language is sharp and precise; you are not your body. Your body is a container – levush; you are not just your body, you are a soul, and you are more than this lifetime.

If an older gentleman gave his son a million dollars to invest and the investments go back, the son might be devastated he let his father down. But if the gentleman understands good risk management strategies, he can tell the son he didn’t give the son everything and that he actually held back far more – it’s not the end of the world.

When a person experiences a setback, they can feel ruined. God can open the drawer and say your soul is still in perfect condition, and through that piece God holds back, a person can find new light and holiness, a new vitality that revives his whole spirit.

Precisely for this reason, a person can always do teshuva until the day they die, because that is the part of the soul you could never dirty or destroy; that’s the part God never let go of – וְעַל־נִשְׁמוֹתֵינוּ הַפְּקוּדוֹת לָךְ

וְעַל־נִסֶּיךָ שֶׁבְּכָל־יוֹם עִמָּנוּ וְעַל־נִפְלְאוֹתֶיךָ וְטוֹבוֹתֶיךָ שֶׁבְּכָל־עֵת

נִסֶּיךָ

Miracles and wonders are similar, but they’re not the same. The word for miracles is the same as the word for banner in the blessing for the Gathering of Exiles – נִסֶּיךָ/  נס. That suggests that a miracle is something you recognize God through; we are thankful for the times we see God.

There is an uncomfortable meaning embedded in the words as well, the word for test or challenge – נִסֶּיךָ / NISAYON CITE. It is a form of miracle when people can rise to the challenge; when they rise to the challenge, it is a miracle, and they merit miracles as well and become standard bearers who raise the flag for God to all. This association suggests that the ultimate purpose of every challenge is to raise the flag; it might not be visible in the moment, but it often is after the fact, and we are thankful.

נִפְלְאוֹתֶיךָ

There are wondrous, breathtaking things in our world—landscapes, flowers, life, from big to small. If God is an artist and creates beauty for us, then when we notice and admire, it flatters the Creator. Every component of Creation has elements that can be enjoyed and appreciated; miracles are rare, but wonders surround us every moment of every day, the perfect balance of creation.

– שֶׁבְּכָל־עֵת

In every moment, there is so much to be thankful for, including things you wouldn’t think of.

Before King David was king, he was in the garden and watched a wasp paralyzing a spider. Amazed by the scene, David wondered what the point of useless creatures was. Wasps don’t produce honey; they even kill bees sometimes. And what about spiders? What do spiders or wasps do for people?

After a while, King Saul began to envy David’s military success, and David had to escape and hide in a cave. Shortly after, a spider spun its web around the entrance. Saul arrived at the cave, noticed the cobwebs, and moved on; if someone was inside the cave they’d have broken the webs.

In a later episode, David snuck into Saul’s camp to show him his defenses could be cracked. David crept forward to take Shaul’s water bottle, but one of Saul’s retainers unwittingly stood on David’s cloak, trapping him from leaving. A wasp appeared and stung the guard, who jumped, releasing David.

Later in life, King David had to flee from Absalem, his son, who had launched a revolt. David escaped to enemy territory and was recognized. Fearing for his safety, he pretended to act insane, pounding his head on the city gate and foaming at the mouth, spit dripping from his beard. The foreign king Achish looked at him and said to his servants, “Can’t you see he’s crazy? Why did you let him in here? Don’t you think I have enough crazy people to put up with as it is without adding another? Get him out of here!”

bshanoso taamo lifnei avimelech CITE

In the local context, some things aren’t so great; in the greater tapestry of the big wide world, we can be thankful for everything, even spiders, wasps, and insanity – avarcha es hashem tamid tehilaso befi CITE.

עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם

Conventionally, the classical structure of the Hebrew day is that the day ends at the end of the day, that is, the evening. So a day consists of evening first, then morning and afternoon – עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם.

The Mabit suggests that this is a reference to the seasons of human life; when a person lives with the end in mind, evening first, they will live doing the right thing, and what follows will be mornings full of light – baerev al tanach yadecha CITE

One of the exhibits at the Auschwitz Birkenau memorial is a pile of talleisim, prayer shawls from communities all over Europe. Each one has tears and patches from a lifetime of use. A typical gift at weddings, you could imagine one being worn at the wedding, their son’s bris, bar mitzvah, wedding, and on. These talleisim are silent witnesses to the cycles of life that were extinguished.

In the seasons of our lives, we want completely different things, so our prayers change. Children pray for toys, treats, good grades, friends, and popularity; young adults seek to find their soulmates; newlyweds yearn for fertility and happiness; and parents hope their children enjoy what they had prayed for once: good grades, friendships, and popularity.

The prayers of an child, adult, and the sage – עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם.

These prayers come full circle and are reborn each season of life and in each generation – עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם.

Beyond that, there are morning people, and there are night owls. Some people are early birds, rising quickly and easily active and energetic in the morning. Other people can stay up all night without missing a beat, but their mornings will be miserable even after a good night’s sleep and a coffee.

We are thankful that whichever way we are, there are different times in the day to do the things we need to – עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם.

Beyond that, there is more to a gift than the gift itself. A critical part of the gift is the timing of the gift; you need to be capable of receiving it. Even the right thing at the wrong time is no good and can backfire spectacularly.

What good is it to meet the perfect person before you’re ready? What good is it to land the perfect opportunity before you know what to do with it?

We ask God to send us the things we need in the moments we need them, in a way we can receive them, that can look different at different times – עֶרֶב וָבֹקֶר וְצָהֳרָיִם.

You don’t really want the blessing you’re asking for to be answered in a way that you can’t do anything with; that can hurt and make you bitter.

הַטּוֹב כִּי לֹא־כָלוּ רַחֲמֶיךָ

וְהַמְרַחֵם כִּי לֹא־תַמּוּ חֲסָדֶיךָ, כִּי מֵעוֹלָם קִוִּינוּ לָךְ:

We are thankful for God’s goodness with unending compassion and God’s compassion with unending kindness. This seems transposed, but it’s not; we might have expected to speak about God’s goodness with endless kindness, but that’s not what the blessing is for.

For God to be completely good, it cannot be that God’s kindness never ends because unending kindness isn’t good at all. Unending good means a lack of compassion; there are times when hard things can be good things.

We are thankful that God is God unendingly compassion good.

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כִּי מֵעוֹלָם קִוִּינוּ לָךְ

Straightforwardly, the Jewish People have always counted on God. Who else is there to turn to?

More than that, the word for always also means hidden – מֵעוֹלָם / HEELAM CITE.

The Yaavetz suggests that greater than the wonders of nature or even the Exodus is the miracle of history that the Jewish People exist right now. Against all odds, we are thankful, and we have learned to trust in God – כִּי מֵעוֹלָם קִוִּינוּ לָךְ

In the early days of World War Two, a ship was carrying refugees from Germany to the United Kingdom, guarded by Irish soldiers. In a bitter twist of irony, the people seeking refuge from persecution found themselves victimized once more, and the Irish soldiers robbed them, one by one, out of the fire and into the frying pan.

In a moment of exhausted frustration, some refugees threw their luggage overboard; better to lose it in the ocean than to some thugs.

Years later, historians unearthed a diary belonging to a Nazi U-boat captain. They found the revelation within its pages that his U-boat had once encountered a refugee ship. They had their torpedoes locked, but upon closer inspection, they identified German paraphernalia and decided to call off an impending attack to avoid killing German civilians.

In every moment, good things are happening.

biggest nisayon is time – nachshon ben aminadav torah

Avoda – Service

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רְצֵה ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ בְּעַמְּךָ יִשרָאֵל וְלִתְפִלָּתָם שְׁעֵה. וְהָשֵׁב אֶת הָעֲבודָה לִדְבִיר בֵּיתֶךָ. וְאִשֵּׁי יִשרָאֵל וּתְפִלָּתָם. מְהֵרָה בְּאַהֲבָה תְקַבֵּל בְּרָצון. וּתְהִי לְרָצון תָּמִיד עֲבודַת יִשרָאֵל עַמֶּךָ.  וְתֶחֱזֶינָה עֵינֵינוּ בְּשׁוּבְךָ לְצִיּון בְּרַחֲמִים: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’. הַמַּחֲזִיר שְׁכִינָתו לְצִיּון – Be pleased, Hashem, our God, with Your people Israel and pay need to their prayer; and restore the service to the Holy of Holies in Your abode, and the fire-offerings of Israel; and accept their prayer, lovingly and willingly. And may You always find pleasure with the service of Your people, Israel.

Intro

The opening three blessings of the Amida identify and praise God, the middle section

consists of personal and communal requests, and the Amida concludes with thanksgiving blessings.

And yet, the thanksgiving blessings also contain requests: the blessing for peace and light, and this blessing. Unlike how we might offer thanks to another person, these thanksgiving blessings also combine an element of request.

If a child approaches their father and says what a nice father he is, it might be natural to suspect the child is about to ask for something he wants.

The way to thank the Creator fundamentally differs from how we might thank the average person. When thanking someone who has helped you, it typically means that your need for their help has concluded, and you no longer need their help. If you were to thank someone and then ask for more, it would be interpreted as disingenuous, that you aren’t thankful at all, and your display of gratitude is a pretext to what you actually want – more.

But with the Creator, it’s impossible to say thank you like that or outgrow God’s help.

As R’ Yitzchak Hutner notes, the Hebrew word for thanksgiving doesn’t just mean thanks; it also means to confess – מודה / lhodos CITE. When we thank another, we concede that we need the assistance of another, admitting our frail weakness and showing our vulnerability. We acknowledge that another has shared gifts with us, big and small, to help us achieve goodness in our lives.

God is the source of all we are given, from the greatest to the smallest thing; by definition, we can have nothing, and there can be nothing without God; it follows that thanking God includes asking for more.

רְצֵה ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ בְּעַמְּךָ יִשרָאֵל –

The blessing opens by asking God to want our prayers and service, but like the opening of the previous blessing, it seems circular – you either want something or you don’t.

On Rosh Hashana, the prayers we sing liken us to sons and servants – אבינו מלכינו /  hayom haras olam, im kvanim im kavadim – CITE. There are aspects in which we relate to God as Father and others in which we relate to God as Master; the relationship is fundamentally different. During a period where we serve Hashem properly, we are His sons, and (ch” v) in a time where the Jews do not serve Hashem properly, the Jews are downgraded to the status of servants.

A servant works for reward and is motivated by economics. He does nothing extra and earns nothing extra. A son, however, does as his father tells him out of love. And in turn, the father loves the child. But the child has a further ability. When the son enjoys or loves something, the father ensures his son has access to the thing he loves, and to a large degree, the father then cares for something, not because he values it, but because his son does.

When a child asks his mother for pizza on a good day, she will take her child to the pizza store; she now wants to get him pizza. If they’re closed or sold out, the child might be disappointed, and so will his mother; the child’s desire has created and influenced the mother’s desire. The parent’s desire isn’t intrinsic but responsive to her child. For that to happen, her child has to act like a child and be a good kid. If it’s disobedience and tantrums, there will be no pizza.

Our sages teach that if we do God’s will, God will make His will into ours.

When a mother tells her son to clean his room, he might sigh and complain, and his mother might say she wants him to want to do it. Recognizing how much his mother does for him, he might decide it’s not so bad to cooperate, and his mother will be touched and think her son is amazing for wanting what she wants.

A servant is someone who subordinates their will; they follow the employer’s instructions.

If we act towards God as Father in one context, perhaps it makes what we want elsewhere God’s will in that context.

We ask God to desire something that may not be intrinsically attractive; we want God to want. The word for simple Jews in Hebrew is the people – עַמְּךָ. They’re not righteous, not wicked, just ordinary everyday folks, Jews, and nothing else. We ask God to desire the simple Jews, not just the righteous, and the fighting and trying their best, embodied by the name Yisrael, the title Yakov received after battling an angel.

וְהָשֵׁב אֶת הָעֲבודָה לִדְבִיר בֵּיתֶךָ

We ask God to restore sacrificial order, the conventional translation of service. And yet, there is a broader definition as well, the word for prayer – avoda she b’lev CITE

As long as Jews have prayed, prayers are meant to face Jerusalem and the Beis Hamikdash, the spiritual center. It was the site of one of the most captivating stories in the Torah, Jacob’s Ladder.

The Torah tells how Yakov fled from his enraged murderous brother Esau to the house of his uncle Lavan, in far off Haran. Along the way, and in between places, Yakov put his head down for some rest and had a vivid prophetic dream:

וַיַּחֲלֹם וְהִנֵּה סֻלָּם מֻצָּב אַרְצָה וְרֹאשׁוֹ מַגִּיעַ הַשָּׁמָיְמָה וְהִנֵּה מַלְאֲכֵי אֱלֹהִים עֹלִים וְיֹרְדִים בּוֹ – He had a dream; a ladder was planted on the ground, and its top reached to the sky, and angels of God were going up and down on it. (28:12)

Jacob’s Ladder is a universal motif with many counterparts in mythology. It is known as an axis mundi — also called the cosmic axis, world axis, cosmic bridge, world bridge, cosmic pillar, world pillar, the center of the world, or world tree; and they universally serve as a connection between Heaven and Earth, a bridge between higher and lower realms. The axis mundi is almost always a center point, where blessings from higher realms descend to lower realms and disseminate to all. 

A bridge and ladder function in the same way, except that a bridge is for lateral movement, and a ladder is for vertical movement. There are two separate domains, and there is no way to move from one to the other; they are separated with distinct boundaries that cannot be crossed. A bridge or ladder crosses the gap, linking the domains so the disparate parts can interact.

The cosmic bridge works in the same way, expressing contact and correspondence between higher and lower realms – מֻצָּב אַרְצָה וְרֹאשׁוֹ מַגִּיעַ הַשָּׁמָיְמָה. In Jacob’s Ladder, angels ascend and descend – וְהִנֵּה מַלְאֲכֵי אֱלֹהִים עֹלִים וְיֹרְדִים בּוֹ – overtly symbolizing a kind of transfer, reciprocal interaction, and exchange of energy where Heaven comes to Earth, and Earth is elevated to Heaven.

Our sages identify the location of Yakov’s dream disparately as Mount Sinai, Mount Moriah, the Land of Israel, or imagining a diagonally aligned ladder, some combination of these. Still, the effect is the same – the cosmic bridge is at one of these spiritual centers, a place where Heaven and Earth can meet and blessing comes into the world. Legend has it that beneath the Beis HaMikdash on Mount Moriah, possibly the Dome of the Rock and the site of the Akeida, lies the Foundation Stone – אבן השתיה – the focal point and source of creation, itself tying intimately into the imagery of a source of blessing, connection, and expansiveness. 

The motif of a world bridge is recursive – once you know how to spot it, you see it everywhere. Our sages note how Sinai has the same numerical value as Jacob’s ladder – סלם / סיני – suggesting that the Torah is a kind of world bridge. The Midrash indicates that the sacrificial offerings were a world bridge; the altar is described as “of the earth” – מִזְבַּח אֲדָמָה – and legend has it that the smokestack wouldn’t diffuse into the air; it rose in a straight line, straight up to the sky – a world bridge. Many have noted that the expression for prayer and voice also has the same numerical value as Jacob’s ladder – סולם / קול.

Our sages suggest that our homes and marriages are reflections of the Beis HaMikdash – both are called בית, and both are a spiritual center and foundation – and so, like the Beis HaMikdash, are themselves reflections of a world bridge.

The prophets called the Beis Hanmikdash beisi beis tefila

interface between physical and spiritual

Wherever we are, we steer our prayers to one place: the Jewish People’s and perhaps the world’s spiritual focal point and gateway. They centralize and pool; our prayers are not isolated in whatever exile we may be in.

We ask God to beat the system He created.

You can apply for a job; if you know the hiring manager, they might steer you to the finish line. Although the application process has a fixed process, the people who fix it have the discretion to modify it.

We ask God to make our prayer more beautiful than it is, to find some way to make it work for us.

Part of our appreciation of God is acknowledging that we can’t do anything without God; that’s what gives the prayer beauty and potency.

God can listen to a broken heart without words and hear us saying it as praise. This is how God does it, even if the prayer is mediocre or nonexistent from a simple Jew – just because they are a Jew. That’s enough and worthy of appreciation.

When you ask for an iPad, you ask for an iPad, but you don’t talk about the process of buying it. But when you thank someone for buying you an iPad, an elevated thank you will thank the process, for going out your way, shopping, ordering, trying, wrapping, etc.

Prayer or animals

Although prayer does appear obliquely or sporadically in the Torah, it is not the predominant mode of worship in the Torah or the ancient world the Torah appeared in, an era where animal sacrifice was a near cultural universal. Our sages went out of their way to teach that prayer doesn’t just appear in the Torah; prayer stands in as a direct replacement or substitute for the lapsed sacrifices of long ago.

Our prayers are replete with requests to restore Jerusalem and rebuild the Beis HaMikdash. However, authorities are divided on whether the future we yearn for heralds a restoration or replacement of animal sacrifice. While that remains speculative until we find out, it is probably fair to say that it is hard for people in the modern world to wrap their heads around animal sacrifice.

Today’s near cultural universal is that animal sacrifice is alien and weird, perhaps even disgusting and nasty. Most people don’t want to watch an animal get slaughtered; any arcane mysticism is hard to imagine over the blood and gore.

That leaves prayer in a bit of a void; prayer is a stand-in or substitute for animal sacrifice, and yet an animal sacrifice is hard to relate to in almost every conceivable way, so far removed as it is from our primary experience. Moreover, the Torah has long sections devoted to the different categories and kinds of sacrifice and their details and nuances; sacrifice is clearly the primary mode of worship in the Torah’s conception, so prayer seems second-rate.

Either way, prayer is hard to understand. If prayer and sacrifice aren’t connected, why bother with something the Torah doesn’t validate as having much significance? And if prayer is connected to sacrifice, what element of sacrifice do we even relate to?

The Torah opens the section on sacrifices by outlining a scenario where someone wants to bring an offering:

‘אָדָם כִּי־יַקְרִיב מִכֶּם קרְבָּן לַהֹ – When one of you presents an offering for God… (1:2)

Although not readily obvious in translation, the Torah utilizes highly unusual language here. Rather than present the sensible scenario where one of you wants to bring an offering, it literally translates to when someone offers an offering of you, which is to say, literally of yourselves – אָדָם מִכֶּם כִּי־יַקְרִיב / אָדָם כִּי־יַקְרִיב מִכֶּם.

The Baal HaTanya notes that this reading suggests that at the earliest juncture, the Torah already indicates that as much it’s going to talk about animal offerings, it’s not about the animal at all; it’s about the part of yourself you’re willing to offer, and prayer would operate in much the same way – יַקְרִיב מִכֶּם.

R’ Jonathan Sacks teaches that the conventional notion of sacrifice isn’t really reflected in the Hebrew term – קרְבָּן. We think of sacrifice as giving something up when the Hebrew word actually means something more like drawing closer – קרב. You interact with the divine not with what you give up but by drawing close with what you have; in offering the material to God, you transform the material into the sacred.

God doesn’t need our stuff and can’t receive it in any tangible way; the Malbim teaches that all a person can ever offer is themselves, which mirrors precisely what the Torah calls for here – יַקְרִיב מִכֶּם. The Sfas Emes explains that the notion articulated here is that sacrifice and prayer are about aligning ourselves and resources to God’s broader plan; prayer isn’t secondary to sacrifice; it is the same.

While the form of seeking out the divine may have changed over time depending on the zeitgeist, the substance has remained constant. At the root of all mysticism is a desire to connect with the divine transcendence, and our sages have long identified the inner world of the heart as the battlefield of spirituality – עבודה שבלב. So we can read the Yom Kippur atonement ritual that seems odd to modern sensibilities, yet it maintains relevance to our prayers because the substance transcends the form of the performative aspect; that God forgives humans who want to make amends, goats and string or not.

It’s not the form of how it appears so much as it’s about the substance of how it is – אחד המרבה ואחד ואחד הממעיט ובלבד שיכוין לבו לשמים.

As Moshe said to his audience, our Creator is always close, quite different from other gods they might have heard of who can only be invoked with specific rituals – כִּי מִי־גוֹי גָּדוֹל אֲשֶׁר־לוֹ אֱלֹקים קְרֹבִים אֵלָיו כַּה’ אֱלֹקינוּ בְּכל־קרְאֵנוּ אֵלָיו.

The Izhbitzer suggests that our subconscious hearts and minds hope and pray all the time. When you whisper “Please, God,” hope for the best, or wish that things turn out okay, those unspoken but very real thoughts are prayers that bring tangible wisps of warmth into the world that affirm and sustain, from which things can and will eventually grow – קָרוֹב ה’ לְכָל קֹרְאָיו לְכֹל אֲשֶׁר יִקְרָאֻהוּ בֶאֱמֶת.

As the Kotzker said, where can we find God? Wherever we let Him in.

Sacrifice, like prayer, was always about the inner world of the spirit, about opening your heart and yourself to the universe.

לִדְבִיר בֵּיתֶךָ

Dvir has the same root as the word for speech – DBR / DVR CITE. It is a word associated with the threshold of the Holy of Holies in the Beis Hamikdash; the sanctuary is a place of communication, from Avraham to Moshe – vdibarti meil kapores

Hashem – desire my prayer; take it and elevate it into what it might be and ought to be. Take my one-sided prayer and make it suitable for the Holy of Holies; make it a two-sided dialogue.

Unanswered Prayers

Have you ever wanted something so badly that you just kept praying and didn’t stop?

Most people have had a time they desperately wanted something, that if they got it, they’d never ask for anything again; to resolve the issue, find the right one, make a recovery, for the thing to work out okay. People pray hard in those moments, with more intention and hope than all the other times the stakes aren’t so high.

Sometimes those prayers are fulfilled, and the perfect outcome materializes. There are countless books filled with such stories, and their popularity is a product of how inspiring they are and how they supply us with hope to not give up on our own dreams and wishes.

But what about all the other times when the hoped-for outcome doesn’t happen?

No one writes those books; no one would read those books. But it happens all the time.

It even happens to the best and brightest of us, to no less than Moshe himself. In his parting words to his people, he tells them how he prayed and prayed for God’s permission to enter the Land of Israel, the culmination of his life’s work and the only personal indulgence he ever asked for, but God bid him to stop. It wasn’t going to happen, and his prayers would remain unanswered; or at least answered in the negative, if that makes any difference.

Prayer isn’t a wish fulfillment scratch card game; unanswered prayers are a corresponding aspect of prayer that we must acknowledge, that some of them probably aren’t going to go exactly the way you’d like. For our intents and purposes, some prayers go to waste.

The Izhbitzer notes that all existence is wasteful. Entropy is part of all existence and our basic reality; the appearance of decay, randomness, uncertainty, and unwanted outcomes or outputs. Every interaction might have a desired or likely end goal or output, but there will be an inescapable by-product associated with it. Friction is a result of existing, where all effort takes a toll, the transaction tax of all things. In this conception, the Izhbitzer teaches, waste is not a bug; it’s a feature we need to reorient ourselves to.

Fruit and nuts have peels and shells, which we consider waste in terms of our goal of what’s edible; yet they’re fully functional in fulfilling their natural purpose of protecting the fruit. In reality, they are not waste matter in any real sense of the word; Parenthetically, this example deliberately utilizes the imagery of the shells and husks spoken of in Kabbalah – קליפה.

We are finite and limited; all we know is waste. You can be as energetic as you like, but in a couple of hours, you’ll be exhausted, your muscles will fatigue, and you will need to rest, eat, and sleep. When you sleep, your brain clears waste. When you eat and drink, your body will process the calories and nutrients, and you’ll need the restroom to pass waste matter. When you breathe, you breathe out waste gas, carbon dioxide. Our bodies and minds waste; all energy and matter eventually wastes.

It is significant that Pharaoh, the Torah’s great villain, claims to prove his divinity by pretending he did not pass waste; not producing waste indicates something genuinely supernatural, unlimited, and infinite.

The very first service of the day in the Temple was sweeping up the remnants from the day before:

וְהֵרִים אֶת־הַדֶּשֶׁן אֲשֶׁר תֹּאכַל הָאֵשׁ אֶת־הָעֹלָה עַל־הַמִּזְבֵּחַ וְשָׂמוֹ אֵצֶל הַמִּזְבֵּחַ. וּפָשַׁט אֶת־בְּגָדָיו וְלָבַשׁ בְּגָדִים אֲחֵרִים וְהוֹצִיא אֶת־הַדֶּשֶׁן אֶל־מִחוּץ לַמַּחֲנֶה אֶל־מָקוֹם טָהוֹר – He shall take up the ashes from the fire, which consumed the burnt offering on the altar, and place them beside the altar. He shall then take off his vestments, put on other vestments, and carry the ashes outside the camp to a pure place. (6:3,4)

The altar had a fire perpetually fueled with logs by crews round the clock, with a constant stream of sacrifices burnt in whole or in part. Slaughtering and burning animals is messy; there is waste, and the day would begin with a simple dust-sweeping ritual. Some ash would be scooped up and brushed into the floor cracks, becoming integrated into the structure of the Temple. The rest of the ash got carried to a designated quiet spot and deposited and buried, to be left in state. It wasn’t a competitive or glamorous job; it was janitorial and practical, starting the day by cleaning the workspace.

R’ Shamshon Raphael Hirsch notes that this ritual symbolizes how today was built on yesterday; we are yesterday’s children. We honor the past by starting the day with an acknowledgment, incorporating an aspect of it into our being, but most of it has to be left behind to move on and start the day fresh. We must build on and respect the past, but we cannot spend too much time and energy focused on the rearview mirror. Each day brings new challenges, obligations, and opportunities, and we must ultimately leave the past behind us.

The Izbhitzer suggests that this ritual acknowledges and affirms our unanswered prayers, the orphan prayers that get left behind. The day begins with a recognition that even the holiest efforts experience waste, friction, transaction tax, fatigue, and wear and tear. Nothing is lossless, even the best things. Something is always lost in translation; not everything can go the way we hope. But that doesn’t mean the efforts went to waste; the ritual itself refers to the uplifting of this waste – תרומת הדשן.

Some of our efforts and prayers turn to ash; unanswered prayers are a thing, and the Temple service began at dawn by sweeping and disposing of yesterday’s ashes.

Something might be wrong with the road we hoped to travel, or it might be perfect but not meant to be; the hopes and dreams of yesterday might not be the road we must ultimately take. For good reason, we pray on Rosh Hashana to be like heads, not tails. Memory and identity can be burdens from the past; you can live perpetually as yesterday’s tail and never live freely in the present.

There are places, people, and things that come into our lives and shape us for better and for worse; you can only move forward from the place and person you used to be. Those hard-won lessons are precious and something to be thankful for; uplifting of ashes. Be thankful, and let them go gently, so you don’t get stuck; disposal of ashes. Hold on to the things that deserve to be held on to, but hold on out of a renewed commitment to today and tomorrow – not because of inherited commitments from the past.

The thing you prayed for might have been the right thing to pray for yesterday, but today’s service calls for a fresh start or at least a fresh analysis.

We must cherish and honor our past hopes and dreams but ultimately let go and release them to face each day anew.

וְאִשֵּׁי יִשרָאֵל –

Although the fires of service evoke the image of the offerings of old and animal sacrifices, it also means the fires of Israel, the sacred imperishable spark of flame in every Jew.

There’s a Yiddish expression that powerfully captures a vast amount of wisdom in just a few short words: the pintele Yid. It literally means the dot of a Jew, the fundamental essence of Jewish identity, and is perhaps related to the concept of the incorruptible soul – חלק אלוק ממעל. This imagery articulates clearly and plainly that no matter how far you try to distance yourself, there will always remain some tiny spark that lies buried deep within.

The pintele yid, your soul spark, cannot be lost or extinguished; it can only ever lie dormant. Fanning one little spark, just a little can light a whole forest on fire; it will wait patiently for as long as it takes to reignite and burst into flame once again, even if it takes generations.

וּתְפִלָּתָם

We want God to want us as a people, but also our prayers and attempts at connection. In addition to the sacrifices and spark of every Jew, we want to answer their prayers as well – וּתְפִלָּתָם.

It is linked by the conjunctive and to the previous phrase, the fires of Israel. We want God to accept the fire and sacrifice of every Jew, the prayers that come with fire, and also the prayers that don’t – וּתְפִלָּתָם.

וּתְפִלָּתָם is our prayers, and וְאִשֵּׁי יִשרָאֵל is our passion and fervor.

וּתְפִלָּתָם is the set prayers of Shacharis, Mincha, and Maariv, and וְאִשֵּׁי יִשרָאֵל are the spontaneous prayers we all make in the middle of our days.

The Beis Hamikdash had a holy fire that came from heaven and never went out, and yet the law is that a kohen has to light his own fire. There are two types of spiritual awakening – isarusa dileila and dilsata CITE. There are times when a flame of religious spirit and excitement descends from on high, and other times when an awakening is human-generated and self-starting; it’s not beautiful or eternal, but it’s mine – וּתְפִלָּתָם.

We acknowledge our shortcomings; our fire might be weak, but it’s ours and all we have. It might just be a faint spark, but it’s enough  – וּתְפִלָּתָם.

מְהֵרָה בְּאַהֲבָה תְקַבֵּל בְּרָצון.

Lovingly accept it; my prayer may fall short of my ability, and my desire may be too small.

But when someone loves you deeply, it doesn’t matter.

Imagine a young couple dating and agreeing they are ready to get engaged. A week goes by, and another, and he hasn’t proposed. She simmered quietly until it was too much and asked him why he hadn’t proposed. He may truthfully say that he didn’t have enough money for the diamond ring he chose and was ashamed to propose, but he missed the moment because it didn’t matter; she still would have said yes.

When we show up with our weak spark, flawed prayers, and imperfect track record, we ask God to accept it for what it is with love.

This blessing asks for God’s love and desire; when you love someone for a particular reason, and the reason stops being the case, it can be hard to maintain that love. When people are together because they’re attractive, what happens as they get older and looks fade? Yet when a couple has a deeper desire and bond, that desire can carry them a lifetime together and beyond; marriage includes the occasional argument and getting angry and upset. But in a healthy marriage, the couple will apologize and repair the relationship; a disagreement or mistake won’t derail their overarching desire and commitment to love each other.

God calls avraham ohavi CITE

There are times we aren’t so loveable, but we can ask God to make it so that we are still loveable – מְהֵרָה בְּאַהֲבָה תְקַבֵּל בְּרָצון.

וּתְהִי לְרָצון תָּמִיד עֲבודַת יִשרָאֵל עַמֶּךָ – And may you always want the service of your people

This can be a request that God desires the best Yisrael has to offer, but it can also more broadly be a request that God wants all of our work, everything that all of us have to offer.

If a girl thinks she’s not intelligent, maybe her parents try to help her feel good about herself. As she gets to the end of high school, they might say it’s okay if she doesn’t pursue higher education; it’s not for everyone. They might be right and doing what they honestly believe is suitable for her, but there might be nothing more hurtful than communicating that they don’t believe in her, confirming all her doubts and insecurities.

It is defeatist to ourselves to think all we can ever do is mediocre.

There are three levels to humility: a person who believes he’s nothing, a person who thinks they’re worthwhile, and a saint who believes he’s nothing.

second naivete

Our work is only acceptable if you accept it with love.

  וְתֶחֱזֶינָה עֵינֵינוּ בְּשׁוּבְךָ לְצִיּון בְּרַחֲמִים – May our eyes see as you return to Zion.

The simple reading here is that we want our eyes to Zion; we want to be there.

On a deeper level, one of the things that breaks people is the inability to find meaning in their pain and suffering. You can sit at the doctor while they give you injections and shots, tolerating all manner of pain with the awareness that this is an essential and possibly life-saving treatment. And yet, if someone on the street pricks you with a needle in the same way, it’s entirely different.

We don’t just want to see Zion with our own eyes; we like to see the process of the return to Zion, tying each calamity to a concrete step forward. Suffering from pain, deadened by pain, we need to see why. We ask Hashem to show us how His plan unfolds and develops and how events bring us closer.

There are things we are not supposed to see; the archetype for this is Lot’s wife. Sodom was doomed, but Lot deserved to be saved, and his loved ones too. They were not worthy, but they still got to tag along. They were warned not to look, but Lot’s wife defied the command and was lost with the city. You don’t get to look or feel proud when you get saved without deserving it because it wasn’t on your merit.

We want to look and see Zion on our merit without needing to ride on someone’s coattails or claim pedigree. We want our work to contribute so we can lay eyes on it and say we merited it; we were a worthy generation.

הַמַּחֲזִיר שְׁכִינָתו לְצִיּון – Who cause his presence to return to Zion.

The blessing doesn’t say that God returns His presence to Zion but that He causes it to return. The Hebrew form of hifil, the causative, denotes a forceful action; God can force it to people or places that aren’t especially deserving, even if it doesn’t belong there yet.

Some parts of Jerusalem are the paradigm of Judaism at its very best: prayer, study, charity, hospitality, and healing the sick. But some parts aren’t super compatible; would we say it’s natural for God’s presence to be at home in that environment?

We can hope to be a worthy generation, but the demographics aren’t especially favorable. Assimilation rates and numbers don’t suggest a great outlook; there is only so much outreach and education one can do, there are only so many capable individuals, and there is only so much funding. But God’s presence will come home to a place that isn’t home and make it home once more – הַמַּחֲזִיר שְׁכִינָתו לְצִיּון.

Moreover, we believe that God can’t actually move physically. When we talk about God’s movement, when we say a person is not worthy of Hashem’s closeness, Hashem is no further away or less accessible than He was. He isn’t further away from the person; instead, it’s the person who experiences distance from Hashem – vaya merochok CITE. But God has never moved; God is with us in every moment, in Exile, in Jerusalem, and waiting at the site of the Makom HaMikdash. imo anochi btazara – CITe.

God is in it for the long haul, loving us when we aren’t so loveable, forcing a return to us even if we fall short.

That’s why it’s the beginning of our eternal and infinite gratitude.

Kabbalas Tefila – Meta-prayer; the Response to Prayer

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שְׁמַע קולֵנוּ. ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ חוּס וְרַחֵם עָלֵינוּ. וְקַבֵּל בְּרַחֲמִים וּבְרָצון אֶת תְּפִלָּתֵנוּ. כִּי אֵל שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלּות וְתַחֲנוּנִים אָתָּה. וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ. כִּי אַתָּה שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלַּת עַמְּךָ יִשרָאֵל בְּרַחֲמִים. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלָּה – Hear our voice, Adonoy, our God; spare us and have compassion on us, and accept our prayers compassionately and willingly, for You are Almighty Who hears prayers and supplications; and from Your Presence, our King, do not turn us away empty-handed, be gracious and answer us and hear our prayer for You hear the prayers of every mouth of Your people, Israel, with compassion. Blessed are You, Hashem, Who hears prayers.

Intro

Most of the blessings in the Amida are straightforward. Lord, please grant me wisdom; Lord, please grant prosperity; Lord, grant me health; and more generally, Lord, please help. We understand that that’s what prayer is.

Then we get to this blessing, and it’s not like that; this is a prayer for God to accept our prayers. It’s a prayer about itself: self-referential, tautological, and circular.

But if you ever stop daydreaming and find that you’re midway through your prayers, this is an excellent spot to pay attention.

שְׁמַע

Listen to our voice. Not hear, listen.

When the Torah describes the aftermath of the Exodus, it narrates how Yisro heard what happened and rushed to join up with Moshe and the Jewish People; hearing is passive, and listening is active. When someone pays attention to something, internal desire reaches outside themselves; when you hear something, it’s external that may or may not make a difference.

When Yisro heard what happened, it drove action and behavior; he paid attention and acted and behaved differently as a result – he listened.

We want God to listen, not hear

קולֵנוּ

When we pray, we say words, but we want God to listen past the words and hear our voice, the sound and tone, the pauses and stutters. The word for voice here literally translates as cry – קול – CITE.

We may not have been praying with deliberate focus and intent, and we may not understand that much, but no matter – hear our cry.

There’s a story of a father who came to Rav Shimon Schwab with a telegram from his son – “Dad, please send money.” The man bitterly complained about his demanding and ungrateful son, and Rav Schwab corrected him and reread it with deep feeling; “Dad, Please! Please, please, please! Please send money.”

Saying these words three times a day gets you close to a thousand times a year. Sometimes, the words fall flat, but occasionally, something is happening in your life that creates an urgency. They’re not the same bland, generic words as last week, so here and now, listen to my voice today.

When the Torah narrates the Jewish People’s experience in Egypt, echoed by the Haggadah and Seder, the Torah describes how the people groaned from their backbreaking labor – vayeianchu viyzaku vataal shavasam. Fascinatingly, the Torah describes what they did, that they groaned, but also what happened, that their cries rose to Heaven, and God heard them and considered them a stirring prayer.

They didn’t pray; they were sighing in pain and misery. And that was enough; those were the worthy prayers the story turns on.

Sometimes, we’re not praying; we’re crying and screaming. When rain gets cold, it turns to snow, but if it gets too cold, it won’t even snow; nothing will happen. Sometimes, even if that’s too hard, a person becomes numb from their experience. Sometimes, people can be so much pain that they can’t cry or speak anymore. Where is God in that moment? Why isn’t God doing more?

(Requires sensitive analysis)

And yet the Exodus story reveals that even proper words and thoughts are unnecessary; they screamed from their labor and God how hard it was for them.

שְׁמַע קולֵנוּ – Hear our cry, even if it isn’t a conventional prayer, even if it isn’t directed at Heaven or anywhere. See the pain, internal and external, and hear the voice that is in too much pain to cry.

ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ

hashem elokeinu

prayer without intention is like a body without a soul

hashem is kindness and compassion, elokeinu is din

חוּס וְרַחֵם עָלֵינוּ

Pity and compassion are different. Our bodies are physical and mundane matter, well designed but deeply flawed, like all things; pity our bodies with its weaknesses and predispositions. But our souls are designed for perfect, pure spirits; souls need mercy because souls can realistically always do better.

וְקַבֵּל בְּרַחֲמִים וּבְרָצון אֶת תְּפִלָּתֵנוּ

There are different ways to accept something.

When a teacher is excited to see your work, their desire suggests an expectation and belief that it will be high quality. When a teacher reluctantly accepts a submission with compassion and mercy, it indicates low-quality work.

There are times when everyone has prayed with all their heart and soul. You are not perfect, and no one is perfect, but those are perfect prayers, heartfelt, genuine, and earnest. Those are prayers God accepts with desire.

But then, some prayers are only acceptable with compassion and mercy. When a toddler presents their mother with a drawing of a car that’s just a scribbled mess, every good parent praises the child, thanks them for their thoughtful gift, and says how wonderful it is. Maybe it gets hung up on the fridge!

A parent who points out the unusual shape or proportions or the lack of wheels has done their child a terrible disservice that will probably cost many hundreds of hours of therapy down the line. Some interactions require compassion.

Of course, desire is better than compassion; it hurts if you tell a joke and only get a pity laugh. We want God to want our prayers; God desires righteous people or at least righteous prayers, but God can compassionately accept flawed people and imperfect prayers.

Mercy and strict judgment

The Kohen Gadol would enter the inner sanctum of the Beis HaMikdash on Yom Kippur, perform the ritual service, and say one single prayer, the only prayer ever uttered at Judaism’s holiest site. A lot of it was about rain.

Given the heavy agricultural dependency, we might reasonably expect the religious leader and representative of the entire generation to request the right amount of rain at the appropriate time and place, and it does.

But one line of the prayer confounds our expectations.

The prayer asks God to ignore the prayers of travelers who don’t want to get wet along the way -וְלֹא תִּכָּנֵס לְפָנֶיךָ תְּפִלַּת עוֹבְרֵי דְּרָכִים.

It’s arguably the most important day and ritual of the year; if we had to nominate one significant thing to pray for, we might think of several. But even if we have understood how rain is vital, why would ignoring travelers be the single most important thing we have to say about it?

The Alter of Kelm notes how powerful a sincere and heartfelt prayer must be to require counteraction by the Kohen Gadol on Yom Kippur in the Holy of Holies, even when it is transparently self-serving and contrary to the needs of the entire people at large. It may be selfish, but they mean it.

One of the most powerful phrases in the Torah is when God saw the young Yishmael dying in the desert. The Midrash imagines the angels arguing against divine intervention to save Yishmael because of the atrocities his descendants would commit, but they lose the argument because God evaluates things differently. God answers the boy based on where he is and the facts and circumstances as they are here and now – בַּאֲשֶׁר הוּא שָׁם.

god hears the sincere cry of jews in Egypt

karov hashem lchol korav asher yikraehuu – as long as it’s an honest prayer

esau is awful, but he lets out one cry, and that cry haunts us for millenia

Some prayers hurt us, both other people’s and our own. Esau and Yishmael’s prayers hurt the Jewish People for the rest of history; someone is praying for customers to come to them, not you, their team to win, not yours. Sometimes, the thing you so desperately want is actually going to be terrible for you.

We ask for God’s infinite mercy to also utilize strict judgment – protect us from the prayers that hurt us.

what if we daven for things that hurt us?

כִּי אֵל שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלּות וְתַחֲנוּנִים אָתָּה –

We ask God to hear the words, the prayers – תְּפִלּות. But we also ask God to hear more than that – וְתַחֲנוּנִים.

When a rabbi-looking fellow knocks on the door with a paper, you understand that he’s probably collecting for something, and if you’re in a charitable mood, you will answer and ask what he’s collecting for.

But if a young man, bruised and bleeding, taps faintly on the door, you don’t need to ask what happened because of a car crash or assault; it doesn’t matter; you know to call emergency services and that this person needs help.

The correct stance for prayer is to lean slightly with the head bent, right hand over the left hand, held together over your chest. The body language displays supplication, humility, respect, and deference.

We want God to see everything we don’t say – the groans, the emotions, even the silence – וְתַחֲנוּנִים.

The word for God used here is associated with God’s mighty kindness – אֵל. We ask God to kindly and powerfully listen, to find a suitable prayer where there isn’t one, or any prayer where there might not be.

R’ Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev once saw a Jew mumbling quietly in prayer and invited him over later that day. R’ Levi Yitzchak shook his hand and mumbled quietly to the man, who obviously didn’t understand. R’ Levi Yitzchak then spoke clearly and asked how he expected God to understand his prayers if he mumbled, but the man had a powerful rebuttal. A mother can hear her child crying from far away, and she can tell just from the cry whether her child is hungry, tired, or hurt.

Even if our words are slurred or stunted, listen with compassion – כִּי אֵל שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלּות וְתַחֲנוּנִים אָתָּה.

וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ – dont turn us away empty handed

A prayer without proper intention is like a body without a soul – CITE

But we believe that merging the word with thought and intent is an unstoppable combination

(needs more work)

But we acknowledge our shortcomings; if we can’t do it correctly and we didn’t say it right, or the magic words or the proper formula, please listen anyway, and please don’t turn us away empty-handed – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ –

(what does it mean for God to listen)

The Abrudraham compares this prayer to a starving beggar who dreams of a hearty meal; if he goes to the back of a restaurant, the staff might not give him a gourmet feast, but if they can give him some scraps and leftovers, that would be an excellent outcome for him as well. He doesn’t need much to be better off; there is a large spectrum in between, a range of possibilities between where he is and what he wants – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ –

Maybe I don’t deserve all my wildest dreams, perhaps I don’t have the merit, maybe it’s not possible. But, please, give me something – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ.

The Rosh Hashana prayers use imagery of banging the door down – dafaknu delasecha  CITE. We all need things, and if we can’t have what we need, let us have something in the alternative.

If they can’t be healthy, at least let the pain go away a little. If they can’t have a child, at least let them find the right treatments or adopt.

There are many paths in this world; if this door is closed, help me find the open one.

Sometimes the answer is no (needs heavy sensitivity and work)

When it comes to prayer, one of the common sayings is that God answers every prayer, but sometimes the answer is no.

This communicates that a prayer has not been ignored, and the person has been heard. But while this relieves the sense of being ignored, it creates a sense of rejection; it’s quite possibly a cruel thing to say to someone who desperately wants something.

It’s probably not correct, either. While the exact mechanics of prayer are unknowable, the very idea of prayer is incompatible with outright rejection.

The Ishbitzer suggests that our hearts and minds’ subconscious hopes and dreams are prayers; when you so much as hope for the best, or that things turn out okay, or even whisper “Please, God,” those thoughts bring vitality into the world that affirm and sustain life and growth.

This is a spiritualized version of the law of conservation of energy; energy can neither be created nor destroyed, only converted from one form of energy to another.

A prayer is something a human generates; it never goes to waste. The answer is never no, but the answer might be more like, not right now, or not like that – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ.

It is wishful thinking to believe that the universe molds itself to our wishes; the universe is mind-bogglingly complex and enormous. But maybe a prayer brings you one step closer; maybe your prayer will not work for the thing you hope or in the way you want; perhaps it gets stored up and will work for something else or someone else. Maybe your descendants, in ways you can never imagine.

We believe this in other contexts – your life and existence are the fruits of your ancestor’s prayers; the return of Jewish people to the land of Israel and the revitalization of the Torah after the Holocaust is the fulfillment of generations of dreams and prayers.

The answer is never no, but the answer might be more like, not right now, or not like that. God holds Esau’s prayer for two thousand years – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ.

Our prayers are meaningful, they matter – וּמִלְּפָנֶיךָ מַלְכֵּנוּ. רֵיקָם אַל תְּשִׁיבֵנוּ.

. כִּי אַתָּה שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלַּת עַמְּךָ יִשרָאֵל בְּרַחֲמִים

This prayer goes well beyond our personal prayer and includes the prayers of the People of Israel. Individual prayers aren’t individual; the Amida prayers are pluralized, as most prayers are.

As others pray and have prayed for us; we pray for others, even those who don’t pray at all – כִּי אַתָּה שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלַּת עַמְּךָ יִשרָאֵל בְּרַחֲמִים

שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלָּה

All kinds of prayers count, however poor or weak. Using the broadest definition of prayer, it even includes screaming, groaning, crying, and silence.

God has told us to turn to God, even if we don’t mean it or feel it; that’s the universe God created, and that’s how the system works. There is nowhere else to turn but God, so if we uphold our end, God must respond- שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלָּה.

In a certain sense, that’s God’s job. The postal service delivers post everywhere in the country or everywhere in the world. They deliver to people who don’t pay them; the sender or government pays for the post; they still deliver because that’s their job.

There can be no such thing as a prayer that is not good enough to count because it is defined by the receiver, not the giver.

When two people are talking at once, it is hard to follow what each says; adding more people talking quickly becomes impossible. But God, as the receiver of prayers, unbundles each voice, focusing on each individual prayer, the hearer of prayer, not prayers – שׁומֵעַ תְּפִלָּה / TEFILOS CITE.

You can be at the Western Wall with thousands of people at the top of their voices; God hears each voice, as God himself speaks, with a small, still voice.

The Yaavetz encourages us to be honest and truthful about what we want and care about. Do we care so deeply about the anonymous couple yearning for a child or the lone soldier we don’t know? It can be difficult to be invested in something you are detached and removed from. But this is the place to be honest about what matters to us; good parents want to know what their kids care about.

This is the place for that: anything, in whatever language.

Let it be real.

A person who prays in shul with a minyan at sunrise, reading every word with the proper intent, has done a Rabbinic mitzvah; a person visiting a hospital room who wishes the sick person better has performed a full-fledged Torah mitzvah. However technical, this cuts to the very essence of what prayer is; the Torah says to talk to God constantly – btzaar lecha – CITE

Whatever you want or need, whatever matters to you, this is the place to express it.

The Teshuas Chein (check) suggests that not only do our prayers and the prayers of all people stack, but God can create a scrapbook of prayers, editing, cutting, and pasting a prayer supercut from this word, that moment, those people; a masterpiece.

We talk about God answering and accepting prayers; we don’t mention outcomes or results. This blessing doesn’t ask for a yes; it doesn’t ask God to do our bidding. It asks only for God’s compassion, not to turn us away empty-handed. In the same prayer, I ask God to accept prayer in mercy and to reject the ones that won’t work out. Regarding outcomes for us and the people we love, we can only place our trust in God, Master of all.

A childless husband came to Rav Shimson Pinkus and asked for a blessing; he and his wife had tried every treatment, and nothing had worked. Rav Pinkus told him to return at 3 am, which he did. Rav Pinkus told him to get in the car, and they drove out to the desert, the middle of nowhere, with only the car headlights under the night sky. Rav Pinkus told the man he could not help him but that out there, with no disturbances, he could tell God what he really wanted. Rav Pinkus told him to get out of the car, that he’d collect him in half an hour, and drove off. The man prayed, and Rav Pinkus came back. When he saw the man’s face, he noticed the man’s face was regular; he wasn’t done yet and drove off again.

Instead of thinking about the baby he wanted this time, he thought much bigger. He started thinking about what it felt like not to have a child every time his poor wife walked through the park and teared up seeing children playing. He remembered the awkward shuffle whenever someone innocently asked them how many kids they had: every bris, every bar mitzvah. And the man accessed all his accumulated anger and pain; he ugly cried. Why God? Why does it have to be like this? It is unbearable!

Rav Pinkus returned to collect him and saw the mess on the man’s face. He was done. Within a year, he was the guest of honor at the bris.

(Is this a true story? Does it matter? Stories like this happen, even if it’s not often, even if it’s not to everyone)

A person can do everything right, pray right, learn right, do right, be right and good, with all the merits, customs, practices, and blessings. But if you don’t invest your story into the words of your prayer, you haven’t prayed with your most authentic self.

Your story is part of your prayer; hear my voice.

Malchus Beis David – Kingdom of David

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אֶת צֶמַח דָּוִד עַבְדְּךָ מְהֵרָה תַצְמִיחַ. וְקַרְנו תָּרוּם בִּישׁוּעָתֶךָ. כִּי לִישׁוּעָתְךָ קִוִּינוּ כָּל הַיּום . בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’. מַצְמִיחַ קֶרֶן יְשׁוּעָה – The seed of David, Your servant, speedily cause to grow and exalt his power with Your salvation, For Your deliverance we hope all day. and watch for Your salvation. Blessed are You, Adonoy, Who causes to sprout the power of salvation.

Placement

The order in which the Amida was drafted is significant.

This is the fifteenth blessing, and it’s about the restoration of the crown to the family of King David, which our sages liken to the moon; the symbol of the kingdom of Israel is the lunar cycle.

The blessing on the new moon is the first mitzvah the Jewish people ever received, while still in Egypt, midrash says hachodesh hazah yihye lachem – rosh chodesh.

Newness etc

Our sages identify three ancestors with the crown of royalty: Avraham, Moshe, and David. And yet, nowhere in his story is he ever a king over anything. Outside the Jewish world of the Torah, a king is a title given to the person who holds the highest rank in the feudal order, wields powers of government, and exercises sovereignty over lands and people.

Although Avraham was never a king in a conventional sense, Avraham was the first to be called king – CITE. In our world, a leader who stands for anything other than God has perverted the office of the monarchy.

Moshe is also called a king, and his story is more aligned with the conventional definition of the king despite never claiming or wearing a crown. After one the times the Jewish People complained against him, he lamented to God that he’d never so much as taken a donkey from them – CITE. The Chasam Sofer explains that it is the monarch’s prerogative to levy taxes, and especially a percentage of plundered war spoils; the Jewish People left Egypt fabulously wealthy between what they were able to carry from Egypt and what they were able to salvage from the Red Sea, and Moshe had never taken a thing from them. In fact, in alignment with the Torah’s definition of a king who stands for God, Moshe has occupied himself with repatriating Yosef’s bones to uphold an ancient promise.

One thing Avraham, Moshe, and David have in common is they are high in the trait of humility. Avraham compares himself to dust and ash – CITE. Moshe says he is nothing – nachnu ma CITE. Our sages say David was not out for himself – les ley migamei lo klum CITE, symbolized by the letters of his name not being enclosed.

King David’s entire life is improbable. He was a shepherd boy who was persecuted and chased until he became king; once he became king, he was subject to multiple wars and attempted revolutions, and his health deteriorated significantly as he aged. Nonetheless, he perseveres and authors Tehillim, the book of Psalms. He is called the sweet singer of Israel. He made Israel sing so sweetly and accomplished this by living for others. He suffered so much, yet through his belief and prayer strength, he still just wanted people to praise Hashem.

Taking the comparison of the crown to the moon further, there were thirty generations from Avraham to Chizkiyahu, the last king of the House of David. Chizkiyahu was deposed and exiled by Nebuchadnezzar, who put out his eyes, extinguishing the moon’s light. King David himself was the fifteenth generation from Avraham, when the moon is at the height of its power. The numerical representation of the number fifteen is God’s name – YA CITE.

A reference to David is a reference to the idealized perfection of the crown and the kingdom of Israel. At the blessing for the new moon, the blessing of renewal and vitality, the blessing says that David, king of Israel, is alive and well – david melech yisrael chai vkayam CITE.

אֶת צֶמַח דָּוִד עַבְדְּךָ מְהֵרָה תַצְמִיחַ – The seed of Your servant David, speedily cause to grow

One of the things that stands out in this blessing is that it prominently utilizes agricultural imagery – let it grow; this is deliberate. Our sages identify one of the names of Mashiach as Tzemach – growing; growth is one of Mashiach’s essential traits and qualities; his overarching mission is to cultivate growth in the world, much like a plant.

If someone said Mashiach arrived today, could we get up and leave without making any arrangements or plans? What about work? School? Who’s going to finish that project?

The notion of a sudden switch to a new way of being is jarring because instant transitions are difficult and don’t work well; psychologists have shown that suddenly switching tasks dramatically reduces attention and engagement from context switching.

The redemption process isn’t sudden; it’s gradual, like the moon’s phases or watching a plant grow. The moon waxes and wanes and lights up the darkness of our world. It’s not as bright as the sun, but the sun is too bright for us to observe directly. Yet when the moon reflects that light, it is tolerable, and that’s what the age of Mashiach is like: the greatest amount of light we can tolerate.

Fast or slow – מְהֵרָה תַצְמִיחַ

This prayer appears to have a contradiction or paradox at its surface; shall it grow slow and steady or quick and rapid?

As the famous quote goes, some things go gradually, then suddenly.

Sometimes, you can be stuck on a problem, simmering and stewing, and you stay stuck for a while, and then it suddenly clicks, and you know what to do – gradually, then suddenly.

It can take time to get to the point where we can put our ego aside and let go of attachments. But once you get there, it doesn’t take long – gradually, then suddenly.

Imagine hacking through a jungle for days on foot to get to a clearing, and then a plane takes you home – gradually, then suddenly.

We pray for organic growth; it is not fair to demand more of yourself than you are able, and we ask God to do the same. But once you reach that point, step up – gradually, then suddenly.

Rocketry technology is moving fast, but if you watch the famous space rocket launches, the overwhelming majority of the launch vehicle consists of main engine and boosters. They augment the space vehicle’s takeoff thrust and only last for the first few minutes of launch; at this point, they drop and fall back to Earth once the fuel is expended. Following booster separation, the rest of the launch vehicle continues flight; it is tiny compared to the fully assembled launch vehicle.

But that shouldn’t be surprising; inertia is a powerful force, so the greatest effort is spent getting started – kol hatchalos kashos CITE. It is much further from the upper atmosphere to the moon, yet the force of breaking free from gravity with momentum is enough to make it the rest of the way. The first stages of breaking free are the most difficult.

There are moments when we see ourselves as far from where we could be, falling short of our goals or potential, which remain out of reach. But after those first few steps, the rest of the way comes easier and requires far less – gradually, then suddenly.

He needs help

In the way that Moshe wasn’t a redeemer until he marched into Pharoah’s palace and defied him, Mashiach himself was not born as Mashiach; he was also someone who emerged. In a sense, this prayer is for his personal growth so he can become the person we need. This is thematically similar to the blessing we say for the righteous – al hatzaddikim CITE

avdecha

The criteria for a fully-fledged Mashiach are staggering; Jewish belief is that no less than the entire planet would recognize his greatness and declare their allegiance. He would be the most powerful person in the world and the most powerful man ever lived. And yet, his crown is the kingdom of the House of David, ani avdecha ben amesacha – CITE.

With all his greatness, he is still a servant; it’s not about him; he comes to serve.

A seed is tiny yet contains the blueprint of an entire tree and species in its most elemental form. King David made himself small, wholly dedicated to serving God; Mashiach, as the scion of David, is the same.

The Rambam suggests that Mashiach is someone we only recognize with hindsight after the fact; the prophet talks about how humble ones the time has come, if you dont believe, look at the light – CITE. The notion that Mashiach himself entertains the idea that some might not believe is revealing and suggests that it’s not as obvious as we might think.

The legendary Rabbi Akiva believed that Bar Kochba was Mashiach; he wasn’t, or at least could have been, but didn’t complete the task. The eligibility criteria are staggering; Mashiach must be powerful, peaceful, a world-class diplomat, and scrupulously observant, in addition to doing his work in a conventional and non-miraculous manner. The only way to know his legitimacy is once he’s accomplished all the work and created a new world order.

It can be frustrating when we speak of Mashiach, going as we do from one difficulty to the next. It seems that a lot of history has happened in the last century; one famous quote suggests that there are decades where nothing happens, and there are weeks where decades happen. Our sages suggest that human civilization will last six thousand years, a thousand years parallel to each of the Six Days of Creation; the utopian age of Mashiach corresponds to the seventh day, the Shabbos of history.

If the age of Mashiach is Shabbos, that makes the time preceding it Friday afternoon. In the same way, Friday afternoon is hectic and frantic; the pace and speed of the sixth millennium are unparalleled. The technological difference between Ancient Rome and the Middle Ages is relatively insignificant; there might be better agricultural techniques and metallurgy, but those cultures would substantially recognize each other despite being more than a thousand years apart.

Yet, compared to just two centuries ago, perhaps even two generations ago, human civilization has progressed exponentially in every field: education, healthcare, technology, and transportation. The technological explosion is already something our ancestors would believe to be magic. Could we explain to them a space rocket or that you can hold the world’s knowledge in your hand? Could we explain to them advanced medicine? The most incredible leaps of human technological progress have happened in living memory, and the pace is increasing. It’s Friday afternoon, almost Shabbos; the world is quickly getting ready.

When the prophet talks about the return of exiles on the wings of an eagle, we can understand that taking a plane to Israel is a plausible fulfillment of that vision. When our sages talk of Mashiach educating the world, we understand that rather than taking a sailship to the ends of the Earth, the power and scale of mass media and instant communication mean a viral video can do the job.

We are learning the secrets of the universe, and history is coming to an end. The world order of the past is not the one we have today, and even that is changing. Gradually, then suddenly. There is a vast network of roots, and one day, the shoots will burst through.

Our sages note that Mashiach can in its time i will hasten it b’ita achishena – CITE. But that’s also a paradox; will he emerge when he’s supposed to or before? Our sages teach that it’s both; redemption comes early for a worthy generation and, otherwise, right on schedule.

. וְקַרְנו תָּרוּם בִּישׁוּעָתֶךָ

Mashiach arrives with a great shofar, so we ask to raise the great horn of redemption.

But beyond the plain translation of horn, there is an embedded meaning of power and glory. The way horned animals use their horns to fight, a horn symbolizes power, glory, and strength. Horns are the most prized part of an animal, which is why hunters historically mounted them as trophies.

The kingdom of Mashiach will be defined by truth and kindness, wisdom and peace. Our world today has many redeeming qualities but many shortcomings as well. In a world of greed and lies, celebrities, consumption, and pollution, we ask to raise the flag of Mashiach. We can try to be humble, modest, and grateful, but it’s a battle we cannot win; the influences of the dominant culture are irresistibly powerful.

There will be no greater miracle than our world turning to focus on truth and kindness, wisdom and peace – וְקַרְנו תָּרוּם בִּישׁוּעָתֶךָ.

בִּישׁוּעָתֶךָ

The plain sense is that we depend on God for help and salvation; that’s always true.

But there is a more profound implication here: God must act to save Himself. Humans are created in the image of God and steward God’s world. To the extent that God wants something from our world, an out-of-step world is a disgrace to God’s honor; God must act for His own sake.

כִּי לִישׁוּעָתְךָ קִוִּינוּ כָּל הַיּום

Our sages teach that when we go to Heaven, they ask the person if they hoped and waited for salvation – tzipisa liyehoshua – CITE.

There are countless stories about the greats who lived with this daily. The Chafetz Chaim had a Mashiach go bag; all his essentials were good to go at a moment’s notice if Mashiach arrived. There’s another story about the Chafetz Chaim, who had made plans to go somewhere with his son-in-law, who didn’t show up at the time and place they had made up; someone told the Chafetz Chaim that he’s here in town, and the Chafetz Chaim jumped with excitement. Where? At your house! My house?! Running into the house, the Chafetz Chaim was disappointed only to find his son-in-law; when he heard “he’s here,” he thought Mashiach, not son-in-law.

A poor working Rebbi in America dreamed of moving to Israel, but life happens, and that isn’t something everyone gets to do. They wanted to have something for when they moved, so his wife had a special broom in their closet for when they moved to Israel; our sages teach that Israel has special dust you could kiss – you can’t use your ratty old American broom for that!

Even if we don’t deserve Mashiach out of merit, wishing and hoping for his arrival alone counts a long way towards it. We have faith that he will come, and we have hope in our faith – but faith is not knowledge that Hashem will send Mashiach, but more than that. Hoping for Mashiach to live every day to its optimum, that every day that passes us by, we are actively bringing Mashiach closer.

Action

When you want to get into a school, yeshiva, or job, you don’t sit back and hope. You apply! And you try to pull strings, make calls, leverage some influence. You don’t just hope, you act. Our spirituality operates in much the same way: what are you doing? How do your hopes and beliefs translate to action in the real world?

The Shaarei Teshuva notes how this isn’t simply a prayer for salvation through Mashiach but a much broader request for every kind of redemption we need, big and small – כִּי לִישׁוּעָתְךָ קִוִּינוּ כָּל הַיּום. As such, this is the perfect place to think about every challenge, difficulty, and problem; this is a paraphrase of the reference to all salvations – lishiuuascha kivisi hashem.

כָּל הַיּום

When did you last ask God for something outside of formal prayer? A natural, unstructured, organic prayer. For most people, it’s before a meeting, test, date, or doctor visit; in moments of crisis, we feel vulnerable and powerless against irresistible forces.

When was the last time you gave God an organic thank you? For most people, it’s when God fixed the crisis.

We cannot get through the day without the Creator unless we take everything in our lives for granted. Breathing, eating, digestion, everything to do with our health, loved ones, achievements; nekavim chalulim / shebchal eis erev vavoker CITE.

Taking this view, we shouldn’t ask for salvation when we need it; we should yearn for salvation every moment of every day – לִישׁוּעָתְךָ קִוִּינוּ כָּל הַיּום.

If that sounds demanding or needy, it’s because our premise is mistaken; God isn’t the God of hard times, but all times. God observes and supervises the long in-between moments where everything is slow, and nothing happens.

And that’s how redemption is – it grows slowly, not suddenly. Watching grass grow is painfully slow, and watching the moon shift phases is painfully slow. At any given moment, it doesn’t look like anything is happening.

When we beat ourselves up for not growing as fast as we want or could, this blessing reminds us that that’s what growing is like – slow. If you look up close, nothing is happening. But check in next week, next month, next year, in five years, ten years, and things can look very different.

It is worth taking the long view and intentionally planning what kind of partner, spouse, child, parent, or friend we want to be because although progress is slow, the process of growth is actively happening every moment.t

baruch ata hashem matzmiach keren yeshua

The blessing concludes by combining all three parts of blessing – growth, the horn, and salvation. Taking them together, this is a blessing for the things that are good about us to grow into our salvation.

Our sages suggest that angels first said this blessing when the Jewish People went through the Red Sea – matzmiach keren yeshua.

Our sages identify that moment, not one moment before; not at the burning bush, not at Moshe telling his people they would be saved, not at Moshe defying Pharoah, and not at the Ten Plagues. These could all conceivably be beginnings, yet are not the moment the angels sing about the beginning of salvation.

When we leave Egypt and impurity, that’s the end of something bad, which is great. But this blessing is not about removing the bad but elevating the good.

A horn is the thing an animal fights for its life and future with

A person with the ability for Torah who never follows through because of bullying
stopping the bully isn’t the beginning of his greatness.

(This contradicts the teaching of angels at the sea)

The moment the Jewish People see the last Egyptian die at the Red Sea, they are free, and that’s the moment they can start.

While immersed in negativity in the wrong environment, you haven’t broken through yet or begun to realize your potential. Mashiach is the paradigm that unleashes potential.

The word Mashiach is related to the word for Moshe, who is named for his adoptive mother drawing him from the water; Mashiach is just like Moshe – mash / Moshe CITE. Mashiach draws out human greatness and vitality – Mash Chai CITE.

We all have mitzvos and other things we try but don’t succeed at. On a personal level, we say to Hashem that we lay the groundwork, but we ask that Hashem nurture it and help us – because, as we said, we can’t help Hashem save us, and He doesn’t need us to. We can’t do everything on our own, on a personal level, or on a national level to bring Mashiach.

We can’t do it on our own. We need Hashem.

Three times a day, we ask for the things that are good about us to grow into our salvation. Live your life believing it can happen, and make the changes it would require if that were true.

Binyan Yerushalayim – Rebuilding Jerusalem

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וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם עִירְךָ בְּרַחֲמִים תָּשׁוּב. וְתִשְׁכּן בְּתוכָהּ כַּאֲשֶׁר דִּבַּרְתָּ. וּבְנֵה אותָהּ בְּקָרוב בְּיָמֵינוּ בִּנְיַן – עולָם.- וְכִסֵּא דָוִד מְהֵרָה לְתוכָהּ תָּכִין. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, בּונֵה יְרוּשָׁלָיִם And to Jerusalem, Your city, return in mercy, and dwell therein as You have spoken; and rebuild it soon, in our days, as an everlasting structure, and the throne of David, Your servant may You speedily establish therein. Blessed are You, Hashem, Who builds Jerusalem.

A link in the chain

One embedded assumption in prayer is a sense of deficiency or lack; we want something. Many blessings are intuitive; it’s obvious why we need wisdom, health, repentance, redemption, and prosperity. We know what those things are and what they mean; we understand that life gets complicated fast without them.

But what might Jerusalem rebuilt mean? It’s not something we have ever seen, and while we have many abstract ideas about what it could be like, it’s not a concrete concept we fully understand and relate to.

If nothing else, Jerusalem is being rebuilt right now. The amount of construction, investment, and redevelopment in Jerusalem is unprecedented.

But that’s not what we mean when we ask for Jerusalem to be rebuilt.

The land of Israel features in our books from the very outset of Jewish history. Jerusalem is the center going back to the beginning; it’s believed to be the center point of creation, the place Noah’s ark landed, the place Avraham bound Isaac, and the focal point of the religion for millennia. Jerusalem’s importance to Christianity is peripheral, and at least a thousand years later, its significance to Islam is also peripheral, and at least fifteen hundred years later. Jerusalem isn’t one of our holy places; it’s the only one, really. It’s not a new thing; it’s what generation upon generation of our ancestors were promised, yearned for, and dreamed of.

We might not fully understand what Jerusalem rebuilt is, but they did.

Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yakov counted on God’s promise for the Land of Israel; setting foot inside was the only thing Moshe ever wanted; it’s what Yehoshua prays for, what the exiles pray for, what Mordechai hopes for and works towards.

Some things are part of us that we don’t get to know. When grandparents live far away or overseas, it is difficult for the new generation to have any degree of familiarity with them, and this was especially true in the days before video or phone calls; snail mail was the best there was, and before that, even less. Even today, it is difficult to comprehend how life in pre-war Europe truly was, and that wasn’t even so long ago; there is a whole life and world that we will never know.

And yet, when a grandchild loses a grandparent they never knew, they’ll still be sad; because their parents are sad, they know what they lost. The loss of European Jewry is unfathomable for people born after the years of darkness and fire, yet we understand that the loss is enormous, and that for the people who did know, they lived with a void that never went away.

While our sadness isn’t precisely directed at the thing itself, we have a vague enough understanding to be directionally accurate, and we can also be sad by the transitive property, our awareness of the reaction by people who were deeply familiar with it.

We might not have a complete understanding of what Jerusalem was to fully understand what a rebuilt Jerusalem might be, but our ancestors did.

Jeremiah was so devastated at the loss of Jerusalem that he tried to stay in the smoldering ruins; the survivors had to force him away with them. There is a law to cover knives when saying the blessings after the meal; several blessings are about the loss of and rebuilding of Jerusalem, and one person was so distressed by grief that he stabbed himself.

It’s not a trivial blessing; someone living with grief always feels something missing, even as if life goes on. As life resumes, there may not be an unhealthy and constant preoccupation, but it’s always there.

One prayer won’t rebuild Jerusalem, but stacking them all together will.

וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם – What is the etymology of the word Jerusalem?

Jerusalem is a noun, the name of a place, but names in Hebrew aren’t like names in other languages, not just an arbitrary string of sounds. In Hebrew, names are meaningful, a concept called nominative determinism, the idea that a name describes some essential quality or predisposition.

As brunch is to breakfast and lunch, Jerusalem is a portmanteau, a blend of two other words that combine their meanings. The root words are seeing or fear and awe – YIRAH, and peace or perfection – SHALEM.

Taken together, the city’s name suggests that it is built on peace and fear of Heaven; it follows that when the inhabitants are no longer godfearing, or peace is fractured by hatred, the city can no longer stand.

וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם – Plural

world bridge, jacob’s ladder, axis mundi

The second explanation is that ירוּשָׁלַיִם is a plural word. This is because there are two Jerusalems. There is the ירוּשָׁלַיִם של מעלה – the Heavenly Jerusalem, in addition to the ירוּשָׁלַיִם של מטה – the Jerusalem on Earth. When we are worthy of it, the two Yerushalayim co-exist together, which is what occurs in times of peace and harmony. So we daven וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם – we want Hashem to reside in both, the של מעלה and the של מטה.

not yerushleim – it’s pluralized

there are two

the Jerusalem above, and the Jerusalem below

as above, so below

correspondence

King David designs Jerusalem to mirror his understanding of upper Jerusalem

if the lower one is full of sin and hatred and empty rituals, the city is sticks and stones and can be destroyed

we want our Jerusalem linked to the heavenly one

The order of the blessings is sequential and thematically follows each other.

The first letter, the vav, means “and” – it connects what precedes to what follows. There are several explanations of what this is connected to.

The first is that it is related to תְּקַע בְּשׁופָר גָּדול – where we ask Hashem to bring an end to the Exile so all the people can return to Israel, and we are now asking for the place to which we return, ירוּשָׁלַיִם עִירְךָ,  to be rebuilt.

conjunctive vav – and

vav literally means hook

connects to what came before

connect to teka bshofar

There third explanation, by R’ Yisroel Reisman, that וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם continues from עַל הַצַּדִּיקִים. The Yerushalayim of today, of bars, restaurants, and shopping, is not the Yerushalayim we daven for. We want the Yerushalayim of tzaddikim back.

עִירְךָ – Your City

The blessing is not simply about Jerusalem, but Jerusalem, God’s city; this suggests the possibility of a Jerusalem that isn’t God’s city. When it’s a Jerusalem that isn’t god-fearing or a Jerusalem of argument and strife, it’s not God’s city.

As long as communities fight each other over nonsense, call each other parasites or godless, and throw rocks and hate, that’s not the Jerusalem our ancestors dreamed of.

Some communities say a prayer for the State of Israel and call it the beginning of the flowering of redemption – REISHIS. Whether it is or isn’t, there’s only one way to find out; who knows if it’s the beginning before we see the end? But if we believe there’s an end, isn’t it plausible that this is what the beginning of the end might look like? Most of Jewish history is written in blood; modern antisemitism isn’t so bad when you compare it to massacres, ethnic cleansing, genocide, expulsions, and systematic persecution. If you showed most of the Jews of those times what life is like for the Jewish People today, they’d probably call that the beginning of redemption.

But it’s essential to understand that the Jerusalem of high-rise apartment buildings and the Jerusalem of boys and girls laughing and playing in the streets of Jerusalem are great, but they’re not the goal.

We don’t want the Jerusalem of apartment developers or the Jerusalem of fine dining; we don’t want the Jerusalem of judgment and hatred. We want the Jerusalem of holiness and spirituality, peace, and fear of Heaven – וְלִירוּשָׁלַיִם עִירְךָ.

it’s not just a place to be safe

this blessing makes clear that we want more than safety – we want god’s return

the return of spirituality and presence to the world

the way to safety is through spirituality

invest in security, but invest in education, charity, communal infrastructure

the world has been a scary place for a long time

maybe always

baal haturim

avraham has yitzchak and yishmael

torah says kings of yishmael before toldos yitzchak

baal haturim says the kings of yishmael will fall before Mashiach comes

בְּרַחֲמִים תָּשׁוּב – return with mercy

Jerusalem is associated with God’s presence; the prophet Jeremiah describes God’s departure from Zion in anger  – ki al api val chamosi hoysi li ir hazos.

This prayer asks not just for God’s return but for an undoing of God’s departure – mercy, not anger.

Our sages have long reflected on eschatology, the subject concerning the end of days, the end of history, and the utopian era of Mashiach. There are many prophecies, allusions, and interpretations of what they might mean. Taken together, they reflect the range of possibilities that Mashiach’s arrival could mean.

The most fundamental difference between approaches is that Mashiach’s arrival can be quick and easy or drawn out and painful, a smooth transition or a turbulent shift – רַחֲמִים or דין.

The resurrection of the dead, gathering the exiles, return to Israel, restoration of the monarchy, world peace, and an undying era of wisdom and enlightenment sound spectacular! But this is, perhaps, preceded by a cataclysmic world war and apocalypse beforehand; no one wants that.

We want the return in mercy – בְּרַחֲמִים תָּשׁוּב.

Moreover, this prayer maintains no false illusions about our greatness; it suggests an admission and recognition that we all have work to do. God will only come back in mercy when we act in mercy. When we care about our brothers and sisters and help them care for each other, we can ask God for compassion and mercy.

When you see someone make a mistake, you can judge them, write them off, or look at them with mercy – they’re not perfect, nor am I. God will only return in mercy when we act with mercy and can build a city of peace where mercy is the norm.

That’s not to say there would be no room for disagreements; every argument is about something, not nothing. There can only be a lack of dispute when there’s nothing to disagree about and nothing to fight for. But the Torah is something; as soon as morality and inclinations exist, there is a right thing to stand up for and fight about.

But there’s a way to disagree.

It’s sad and ironic that people who can be so meticulous about one mitzvah or several let others fall by the wayside; sometimes, the people who look like they keep the Torah the most are the most guilty of not respecting others. Hillel taught that the Torah’s Golden Rule is don’t do to others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you; R’ Akiva said it is to love your neighbor; Ben Azzai suggested it was that humans are created in God’s image. Someone rude or nasty to others, for the best reasons, hasn’t missed out on one mitzvah; they have missed the whole Torah.

pluralism

two jews, three opinions, one heart

וְתִשְׁכּן בְּתוכָהּ

Our people have said this prayer for centuries if not millennia; if we’re still asking for Jerusalem to be rebuilt, it hasn’t happened yet. We might not deserve it yet; we might not have prayed enough, or it might not be the right time.

But it’s not all or nothing. The Vilna  Gaon explains that God’s presence is not contingent on rebuilding Jerusalem.

When someone receives a terrible health diagnosis, they might track down the doctor doing cutting-edge medical research and clinical trials. Is it approved yet? Is it ready for testing? The answer might be no, and the patient will keep checking. Eventually, the patient might say he is happy to wait until human trials are approved, but it hurts today, so what can he do meanwhile to bridge until then?

The final redemption is excellent, and that might not be for right now, but God’s presence with us will take us pretty far – וְתִשְׁכּן בְּתוכָהּ

If our prayer isn’t answered in full, let it be answered in part; we might recognize it in the yeshivas, seminaries, shuls, and schools full of people from all over the world seeking to understand – וְתִשְׁכּן בְּתוכָהּ.

כַּאֲשֶׁר דִּבַּרְתָּ – you promised us!

we daven with that faith

We affirm that Hashem told us He would rebuild Yerushalayim, and we depend on this. It is not possible that Hashem would not keep His word.

We are saying that we have perfect faith in what Hashem told us.’

god speaks truth and straightness; world made with truth,

cite promises

וּבְנֵה אותָהּ בְּקָרוב בְּיָמֵינוּ – we want it in our day, in our lifetime

We do not want to wait until tomorrow or for our grandkids to see the day. We want Jerusalem rebuilt in our days, in our time.

But there’s something more to Jerusalem rebuilt in our days – בְּיָמֵינוּ; we want Jerusalem built with our days – בְּיָמֵינוּ.

When the Torah describes Avraham’s death, it says he died with all his days fully accounted for – וְאַבְרָהָם זָקֵן בָּא בַּיָּמִים; the Zohar takes this to mean that he literally died with his days, making every day count, with a similar teaching about Sarah, every day brimming with fullness – שְׁנֵי חַיֵּי שָׂרָה.

Every day has downtime in between moments. Eating, sleeping, resting, daydreaming. The greats are also human; they also do all those things, but they do them differently.

A student and sage both make a blessing and eat an apple; the student asks what makes the sage a sage. Says the sage, a student makes a blessing to eat an apple, and a sage eats an apple to make a blessing. Teachers often tell students to eat and play sports so they can study better; it’s something real.

Redemption is built with our merits; every good deed is a brick. Shir Hashirim talks about a palace made of incredible engineering and design – inside is paved with the love of the daughters of Zion – CITE. In this conception, redemption is a physical manifestation of the human connection to God and each other. Every nasty comment and selfish act destroys; every kind word and good deed builds. Perhaps we may even be able to point to our own bricks!

We ask that our days be fit for use to rebuild Jerusalem; use our days –  וּבְנֵה אותָהּ בְּקָרוב בְּיָמֵינוּ.

בִּנְיַן עולָם

There was a first Beis HaMikdash; there was a second.

We don’t want a third; we want the last. No one needs a temporary fix that will burn again; build one that will never disappear or be destroyed.

Build one that will last forever – בִּנְיַן עולָם.

But not just for all time – עולָם, but that will also be for the world, all people in all places – עולָם.

CITE

beisis beis tefila lechal hammim

lmelech al kol haaretz

– וְכִסֵּא דָוִד מְהֵרָה לְתוכָהּ תָּכִין

This prayer contemplates three things: Jerusalem, the Beis HaMikdash, and King David’s throne, and the throne is part of both. Only one person can sit in the Beis HaMikdash; the king descended from King David. One of the late kings of Israel, not descended from King David, sat down in the Beis Hamikdash, and the sages were too frightened to speak up; it was the beginning of the end.

This is the place of God’s presence; this is a prayer for the return of how things ought to be.

Peace. Seeing one another. Fear of Heaven.

There is a mystical teaching here as well. Many key figures in Judaism are identified with multiple names; each name suggests a different identity. One of Mashiach’s names is David; this identifies him as the rightful heir of the House of David. In this light, it’s not a prayer for the symbolic return of David but the literal occupation of the throne by David – וְכִסֵּא דָוִד.

Going a step further, the Arizal teaches that the word for throne is a codeword – כִסֵּא. This makes intuitive sense for the simple reason that God can’t sit down. When we use the word throne, we mean the thing that makes the person in it a monarch. In the eschatological teachings of our sages, there are two Mashiachs; everyone familiar with the concept knows of Mashiach ben David, but his arrival is prefigured by the groundwork of another Mashiach, Mashiach ben Yosef.

For many complex reasons, these individuals represent powerful archetypes of redemption. Still, a prominent element of this phase is that Mashiach ben Yosef paves the way for and enables the last redemption and dies in a great battle. In other words, we might see he is the thing that makes Mashiach ben David the monarch – כִסֵּא. On this reading, this prayer can be taken as a request to strengthen Mashiach ben Yosef, that he live – וְכִסֵּא דָוִד מְהֵרָה לְתוכָהּ תָּכִין.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, בּונֵה יְרוּשָׁלָיִם – Blessed are You, Hashem, Who builds Jerusalem

Interestingly, this blessing ends in the present tense, not the future tense, which further suggests that this rebuilding is already underway and ongoing; every act, prayer, mitzvah, kind word, and good deed every day is counted and shaped into a brick.

On the destruction of the second Beis haMikdash, our sages suggest the angels sang a song about how God chose Zion – CITE. Yet our sages suggest that at the culmination of the final redemption and Jerusalem rebuilt; the angels will sing the same song, how God chose Zion – CITE.

If you think about it, a song about choosing or desiring Zion makes sense as the song of Jerusalem rebuilt; but destruction is the opposite of those things, so why is it also the song of destruction?

Our sages teach that on Shabbos; we cease all creative work, one form of which is demolition, specifically for constructive purposes; we recognize that demolishing an old house to develop an apartment building is constructive.

When God was destroying, it was a reciprocal form of building, destroying the empty husk of a failed Jerusalem already lost to lay the foundation of the real thing, a place God’s presence would dwell – and the angels sang how God chose Zion.

Our sages teach that whoever mourns Jerusalem will merit to see it rebuilt. We can be the people who didn’t have any intention or the people who built Jerusalem.

Taking it all together

When God sends us debilitating problems, challenges, setbacks, failures, and depression; know that not always, and not for everyone, but the possibility exists that it can be a variant form of building Jerusalem, breaking it down to make it the way it’s supposed to be.

This phase, sometimes called the dark night of the soul, can be liberating on the other side, dissolving ego or attachments to things that don’t serve us.

May God see our prayers, see our pain, see us trying to build bridges, be proud of us, and see the mercy. May we be the generation to see redemption.

Tzadikkim – The Righteous

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עַל הַצַּדִּיקִים וְעַל הַחֲסִידִים. וְעַל זִקְנֵי עַמְּךָ בֵּית יִשרָאֵל. וְעַל פְּלֵיטַת סופְרֵיהֶם. וְעַל גֵּרֵי הַצֶּדֶק. וְעָלֵינוּ. יֶהֱמוּ רַחֲמֶיךָ ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ. וְתֵן שכָר טוב לְכָל הַבּוטְחִים בְּשִׁמְךָ בֶּאֱמֶת. וְשים חֶלְקֵנוּ עִמָּהֶם לְעולָם וְלא נֵבושׁ כִּי בְךָ בָטָחְנוּ. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, מִשְׁעָן וּמִבְטָח לַצַּדִּיקִים – Upon the righteous, upon the pious, upon the elders of Your people the House of Israel, upon the remnant of their scholars, upon the true proselytes, and upon us, may Your mercy be aroused, Adonoy our God. Grant bountiful reward to all who trust in Your Name in truth; and place our lot among them, and may we never be put to shame, for in You we have put our trust. Blessed are You, Hashem, Support and Trust of the righteous.

Overview

Everyone thinks to pray about the sick, the child in the community, the young mother, the rosh yeshiva, and the wounded soldiers.

But there are so many people we don’t typically give a moment’s thought to, the kind of people who might fall under the radar otherwise. These people are not especially visible, yet they contribute inestimable value to Jewish communities everywhere. They deserve our prayers and perhaps recognition and support, and it helps everyone when they have the things they need to continue their essential work.

עַל הַצַּדִּיקִים – the righteous

The root of the word for righteousness, Tzaddik, is Tzedek, conventionally translated as justice – צדק / צַדִּיק; a righteous person is someone who seeks out, pursues, and upholds justice.

In this prayer, we request not just reward but compassion and mercy for them – יֶהֱמוּ רַחֲמֶיךָ. It’s not easy to uphold justice and righteousness in public. Think of any rabbi or community leader in public view; they are constantly scrutinized and judged for everything they say and do. So we ask God to treat them with compassion and mercy, but it’s probably something we should offer such people as well.

You don’t have to be perfect to be righteous.

Righteousness and piety aren’t the same; piety and saintliness are more like justice and righteousness. Righteousness doesn’t mean perfection; our sages teach that apart from seven limited exceptions, there has never been such thing as a righteous person who never sinned or made a mistake – CITE.

The technical definition of a righteous person is someone whose merits outweigh their sins. It’s not a trivial status; to some extent, God is more exacting with righteous people.

However, the prophet Chabakuk uses a far more expansive definition of righteousness; a righteous person is someone who lives with faith – צַדִּיק בֶּאֱמוּנָתוֹ יִחְיֶה. That is to say, a righteous person is not defined by perfection but by the moments they choose to live with faith. This definition is broad enough to include someone who has made many mistakes but is simply trying to improve today.

R’ Shlomo Zalman Aurbach went a step further and suggested that there could be a notion of a righteous person in a particular regard – tzadik ldavar echad- implying the inverse idea of a person wicked in one specific regard.

וְעַל הַחֲסִידִים – Saintliness

A saintly person living with piety is someone who goes beyond the obligations of the letter of the law – חסִיד. It’s not someone who does an extra mitzvah but someone who does the mitzvah in an extra manner. Beyond the Torah’s specific obligations, a saintly person attempts to do the right thing, what he understands God would want him to do.

Our sages give an example of some workers who negligently broke a barrel belonging to Rabbah Bar Bar Channah, who seized their tools as collateral to repair the damaged property. The workers went to Rav, who instructed Rabbah Bar Bar Channah to return the collateral, and he did. The workers then complained that they worked all day without pay, and Rav instructed Rabbah Bar Bar Channah to pay them despite doing a lousy job. he did this because Rav explained that it was the right thing to do, above and beyond his legal obligations – לְמַעַן תֵּלֵךְ בְּדֶרֶךְ טוֹבִים וְארְחוֹת צַדִּיקִים תִּשְׁמֹר. כִּי־יְשָׁרִים יִשְׁכְּנוּ־אָרֶץ וּתְמִימִים יִוָּתְרוּ בָהּ (Mishlei 2;21,22).

There are specific criteria for such things; it’s not a free-for-all. If a man sees a woman drowning but won’t save her because he won’t touch a woman, he is wicked, not to mention stupid. Our sages note that fools can never be saints – אין עם הארץ חֲסִיד. A saintly person is someone who has learned enough to know how to behave.

However, the risk of being too careful about one thing can lead to lost opportunities with other things for another; in their quest to do the right thing, they may inadvertently do the wrong thing.

וְעַל זִקְנֵי עַמְּךָ בֵּית יִשרָאֵל – The wise

Like in English, the Hebrew word for sage has connotations of age. And yet, our sages teach that the word is a condensed word for someone who has acquired wisdom – ze kana chachma. This definition can mean anyone wise, from sages to scholars; the Haggada famously records how Rabbi Elazar ben Azariah was a sage while still a teenager.

But at the most basic and practical level, anyone who has ever taken responsibility for the community can freely confirm that worrying about the Jewish People is difficult and stressful; it ages you. In the plainest and most literal sense, evenlay leaders who build and run communal organizations become sages – זִקְנֵי עַמְּךָ בֵּית יִשרָאֵל.

On Shabbos, Jewish communities across the world say a prayer for the people who faithfully involve themselves in the needs of the community with faith, even when the community doesn’t recognize or appreciate them – עוסקין בצרכי צבור באמונה.

Sometimes, good people stand alone.

One of the most challenging parts of leadership is that it is lonely. Few know the struggles, late nights, calls, and meetings required by community involvement. The public sees a yeshiva or a charity, but who sees the human cost invested in the organization? The hours, the stress, the fundraising, the bureaucracy, the politics, and the people. It takes so much to build, mostly invisible and thankless work.

Moshe Rabbeinu is unanimously heralded as the greatest man of all, the faithful shepherd

who chooses Jewish People repeatedly, standing up to God on multiple occasions. Yet the people turn on him frequently, only ever a meal or two away from cursing him and wishing he’d never come along.

After losing his patience and hitting a rock instead of speaking to it, God determines that Moshe will not set foot in the Land of Israel; he will never cross the finish line of his life’s work. The punishment is severe for a crime that doesn’t seem so bad; this is an example of the exacting level of scrutiny the righteous and saintly can be held to.

Regardless, when the end came, Moshe asked God to change his mind, the one personal indulgence he asked for, the only thing he ever wanted for himself after a lifetime of public service and self-sacrifice, after putting it all on the line for his people. Apart from noting that God refuses, interesting in itself, we should notice that after all Moshe has done for the Jewish People, he stands entirely alone in his prayer, no one stands with him, and no one is fighting for him.

Leaders know too well that leadership is lonely. This blessing is a prayer for them, but they deserve our actual support as well; don’t let the righteous people in your circles stand alone.

וְעַל פְּלֵיטַת סופְרֵיהֶם – the remnant

This phrase can mean the weak scholars we have, who are pale shadows of the scholars of long ago. It can also be a reference to weak students who need extra assistance. It can also reference the people who rescue the remnant, people who work in outreach and conversion, and generally help people with their challenges and problems. More loosely, it can be refernece to the people who teach children and write books.

There is prestige in leading a yeshiva but little in teaching children how to read and translate; these roles are demanding and unglamorous, yet vital to our continuity.

וְעַל גֵּרֵי הַצֶּדֶק – the righteous converts

Righteous converts are people who are not born Jewish and choose to walk a new path and lifestyle and embrace Judaism.

People who are Jewish by choice, who choose Judaism over the culture of their birth, can be difficult for people born Jewish, for the simple reason that it makes them look bad. Keeping Shabbos is hard, keeping kosher is annoying, and Jewish education is so expensive; sure, that’s all true. But when you see someone who has worked harder and sacrificed so much more than anyone born Jewish, it makes any complaints or shortcomings look a little privileged. What excuse holds water next to someone who’s freely chosen, often at significant personal cost, the thing you’re complaining about?

Included in a convert or proselyte category is anyone missing a conventional support structure – someone in need, an immigrant, an orphan, older people, and the like. Taking care of these individuals is an obligation under the mitzvah to care for and love the stranger. This blessing is a prayer for these people to get the support they need; we must do our part, too.

וְעָלֵינוּ – and us too

How many people give a moment’s thought to the kinds of people in this prayer? And yet, our communities would collapse if not for them,  and that’s precisely why. They are the people who contribute to the community, not the kind of people you might think you are responsible for. These people deserve our prayers.

This prayer is essentially a request for good things for great people, an extra measure of mercy and good for those you might not have thought of.

And after that list, we squeeze ourselves in, too – וְעָלֵינוּ.

Me too, just a regular person trying to do my part. Be impressed with me, too!

יֶהֱמוּ רַחֲמֶיךָ ה’ אֱלהֵינוּ – overwhelm us with compassion and mercy

There is an orientation of compassion, a way of looking at the world and assuming the best. The Ramban suggests that whether you meet richer or poorer people, you should believe that they are worthy of your respect and have some qualities that you should look up to them for.

Taking a compassionate view of all these people, things can be so hard for them; we ask God to guard them against extra friction or judgment, from high stakes disgrace and mistakes – chillul Hashem. For all they contribute to the Jewish People, this is a small contribution back to them.

וְתֵן שכָר טוב –  give a good payback

As this blessing concludes, we ask God to grant a good reward to all the great people out there. But why ask for that? Is that not how the system works?

There are many different kinds of rewards, and they exist on a spectrum. This world, the World to Come, and the hereafter, short term and long term, and then a range of consequences.

Sometimes bad people get ahead and things go well for them, one form of reward – בִּפְרֹחַ רְשָׁעִים  כְּמוֹ־עֵשֶׂב וַיָּצִיצוּ כּל־פֹּעֲלֵי אָוֶן לְהִשָּׁמְדָם עֲדֵי־עַד. It is conceivable that a reward can be one good thing, just for a period of time, or just in this lifetime.

Our sages tell of the aftermath of the Golden Calf and suggest that Moshe argued that God was responsible for the consequences of giving the Jewish People so much gold on their departure from Egypt. Our sages compare it to a father who showers and freshens up his son, dresses him and gives him a good meal, then gives him a wad of cash and brings him to the entrance of a brothel; the father has set his son up for catastrophe.

Imagine a kind, sensitive person who works invisibly for years and suddenly becomes fabulously wealthy. Everywhere he goes, people chase him. They knock at his door day and night, call his house and office, wait for him in shul, and mob him at every event. It’s not hard to imagine, and it’s also not hard to imagine this kind and sensitive person becoming irritated and rude. In this example, wealth wasn’t a good reward; it spoiled and ruined the person.

Our sages teach that good deeds beget more good deeds and vice versa. We need the great people out there to have the resources, time, and energy to continue doing the good things they do, so we ask for a good and lasting reward, one that is tolerable and sustainable – וְתֵן שכָר טוב.

לְכָל הַבּוטְחִים בְּשִׁמְךָ בֶּאֱמֶת – to all who believe truly

The better you know someone, the more you understand whether you can trust them. Every time they keep their word, you trust them a little more; each time the check doesn’t bounce, you trust the next one. The kind of people who feel like they trust God are people who have spent time trying to understand God and trying to live with a genuine feeling of relationship with God – הַבּוטְחִים בְּשִׁמְךָ בֶּאֱמֶת.

People who live with that kind of trust get a good and lasting reward, but the good reward looks different to everyone. To some people, it’s wealth; to others, it’s wisdom or the World to Come. This should be kept private, but to some people, it can be a painful challenge that builds you up.

Imagine a scenario where someone has finished their work and asks the boss for more work, for the best case or deal to work on, the toughest sales pitch. It’s hard work, but the right challenge can stretch and push a person to greatness.

For the people who live with genuine trust in God, this can be a request for the things that help build them further.

וְשים חֶלְקֵנוּ עִמָּהֶם לְעולָם –

In a powerful affirmation of our spirituality, we ask for our place to be among the exceptional people.

The impact of leadership,  the refinement of saints, the wisdom of scholars, the determination of educators, and the bravery and conviction of converts.

Let me be like them.

לֹא נֵבוֹשׁ כִּי בְךָ בָטָחְנוּ

God is not a bank that can fold or a president who will leave office.

We will never be embarrassed.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה מִשְׁעָן וּמִבְטָח לַצַּדִּיקִים

This blessing closes by affirming that we can lean on and rely on God.

Leaning and relying are different; when you lean on something not there, you fall. In this prayer, we pray to lean on God and feel like something is there in the moments we need that – מִשְׁעָן.

Relying on God is something everyone talks about but is exceptionally difficult to practice and the realm of the greats – וּמִבְטָח לַצַּדִּיקִים. As a baby learn that mother doesn’t need to be in the room every second, we recognize a healthy development milestone; trust is greater than leaning, and is a spiritual milestone. In the moments that don’t feel like there’s much to lean on, we can only trust that things will work out – וּמִבְטָח.

Birkas HaMinim – Enemies, Informers, and Heretics

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וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה וְכָל הָרִשְׁעָה כְּרֶגַע תֹּאבֵד וְכָל אֹיְבֶיךָ מְהֵרָה יִכָּרֵתוּ וְהַזֵּדִים מְהֵרָה תְעַקֵּר וּתְשַׁבֵּר וּתְמַגֵּר וְתַכְנִיעַ בִּמְהֵרָה בְיָמֵינוּ: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ שׁוֹבֵר אֹיְבִים וּמַכְנִיעַ זֵדִים – Let there be no hope for informers and may all wickedness instantly perish; may all the enemies of Your people be swiftly cut off, and may You quickly uproot, crush, rout and humiliate the wicked ones, speedily in our days. Blessed are You, Hashem, Crusher of enemies and Subduer of the wicked.

Background and history

The Amida prayer, also known as Shemoneh Esrei, is named for the eighteen original component blessings. This blessing is the nineteenth and was a late addition to the received text.

The era of the Second Beis haMikdash was a time of significant cultural, philosophical, political, and religious change and upheaval. The age of prophecy had ceased, and the land of Israel was under foreign occupation, variously between the Persians, the Greeks, and the Romans, each bringing powerful influences with them. Multiple religious factions and sects emerged at this time, including the Pharisees, Sadducees, Essenes, Sicarii Zealots, and early Christians.

This period was marked by constant internal strife and civil war between competing factions; our sages highlight that even the sacred role of Kohen Gadol became a point of political and religious contention.

The end of this era is marked by the last of many Jewish-Roman wars, the Bar Kochba revolt. Roman rule was deeply unpopular among the Jewish population, especially after the destruction of the Second Beis HaMikdash. The Romans maintained a sizeable military presence across the province. They pushed unpopular changes, including the desecration of Jerusalem and the Temple Mount the building of a pagan shrine where the Beis haMikdash had stood.

Bar Kochba was a charismatic figure who captured the hearts and minds of the people; he led an uprising against the Roman Empire, with multiple initial rebel victories allowing for the establishment of a stable, independent Jewish territory that lasted several years. Bar Kochba was appointed leader of the provisional state and, as a result of his successes, was widely regarded as the Mashiach who would rebuild the Beis Hamikdash and permanently restore Jewish national independence and sovereignty.

Apart from popular support, Bar Kochba also had rabbinic support from no less than Rabbi Akiva, the legendary sage who was eventually executed as one of Judaism’s Ten Martyrs. Rabbi Akiva was the spiritual leader of the revolution,  proclaiming him as Mashiach, and actually gave Bar Kochba his name, rather than his actual name, Simon Bar Koziba, meaning “Son of a Star,” a reference to the Star Prophecy in Numbers 24:17: “A star rises from Jacob.”

But the revolution failed; Hadrian assembled a large army and launched an extensive military campaign, ultimately crushing the revolt, leading to a total defeat of Bar Kochba’s forces and catastrophic consequences for the Jewish population, with profound loss of life, extensive forced displacements, and widespread enslavement.

After losing many strongholds, Bar Kochba and the remnants of his army withdrew to the fortress of Betar, which subsequently came under Roman siege and was the site of their final defeat.

The Jewish resistance had provisions and would not give up; our sages teach that the saintly Rabbi Elazar, Bar Kochba’s uncle, was present, and people believed that his prayers shielded the city and that the fortress would not fall as long as he lived. Among the factions in the town were Samaritans, whose loyalty to the Jewish People was doubtful. One day, as Rabbi Eliezer was deeply immersed in prayer, a Samaritan came up and whispered something he could not hear; this was reported to Bar Kochba, who became suspicious. Under interrogation, the Samaritan would not share the secret he whispered and incriminated Rabbi Eliezer. Bar Kochva guessed that Rabbi Eliezer was negotiating peace with the Romans behind his back and killed his uncle. The people within the fortress lost their war spirit, and the Samaritans found it a relatively easy task to bring in the Romans, who massacred the defenders and went on a genocidal rampage, slaughtering Jews up and down the country. Our sages teach that the fortress was breached on Tisha B’av, the archetypal day of mourning, and describe the scale of suffering in colossal and monstrous terms, describing rivers of blood with body counts in the millions.

The Samaritan understood that Bar Kochba’s power was derived from prayer and righteousness, not skill, strategy, or strength; he recognized and believed in its power enough to understand that it had to be sabotaged, and everyone died. This is particularly shocking because it’s one thing not to share a belief and dismiss it but another to believe in it and still work to undermine it.

It was in this period of deep rift and division that this blessing was arranged.

Drafting

Our sages teach how Rabban Gamliel stood before the gathered sages in Yavneh and asked if anyone knew how to draft a prayer against the traitors among and all around them. This was challenging because it is different from every other prayer, which are all prayers for the benefit of our families, communities, and people. This is a prayer against something, a group, or an archetype that stands against us: the prayer is loaded with negative sentiment, wishing for the destruction of another.

Out of all the great sages alive, Shmuel haKatan stepped forward and volunteered to draft it.

There is a remarkable teaching nested within this teaching.

Our sages teach that Shmuel haKatan was worthy of being a prophet, except his generation did not merit prophecy; he is famed for one particular teaching: do not rejoice at the downfall of your enemy.

The person who introduces and embodies this teaching is the only person who could design this blessing; there is no joy to be had in destroying another; it is purely functional, neutralizing the destructive capacity of the enemy.

Other sources of this teaching

There are other illustrations of this teaching. When the Jewish People crossed the Red Sea and the almighty Egyptian army was drowned and vanquished forever, our sages teach that the angels tried to sing, and God would not allow them to. The destruction of the Egyptian military might have been necessary, but singing about it would be inappropriate, and any sense of joy is misplaced; in other words, do not rejoice at the downfall of your enemy.

So, instead of song, they share the sentiment of this blessing, as taught by the sage who eventually would draft it.

The Rambam teaches that although a parent can forgo their honor, a scholar cannot and must take revenge like a snake because mocking a scholar is mocking the Torah, not just the person and it is not the scholar’s honor to forgive. The imagery utilized here is to strike precisely like a snake; the archetypal snake of Eden is cursed to have no taste buds, so anything a snake eats is as bland as dust.

As the famous line goes, revenge is sweet. A scholar must not taste that sweetness; it can’t be personal. The correct action is to defend the Torah’s honor, not your own; in other words, do not rejoice at the downfall of your enemy.

Twelfth blessing

This is the twelfth blessing of the Amida. The number twelve in Judaism corresponds to the twelve tribes that constitute the united Jewish People. Since twelve is associated with unity, it doesn’t seem like a prayer for the destruction of the enemy matches the theme at all.

The bracha was inserted as the twelfth bracha – this parallels the twelve shevatim of Bnei Yisrael. With twelve tribes, we are a unity. The parallel runs deep – the history of the twelve tribes shows the danger of what takes place when they are fragmented. The split between the brothers is described in Bereishis 37:17 – the pasuk tells us that Yosef was told נָסְעוּ מִזֶּה – “They have traveled away from here” – Rashi remarks that the deeper meaning of the brothers had traveled from there is that they had left where Yosef was – הסיעו עצמן מן האחוה – “they had taken themselves from brotherhood.” (We can further add that they departed from זֶּה – which has the value of 7+5=12. They had left the idea of twelve brothers). Troubles begin when the idea of unity fragments.

Zusha

A story is told about Reb Zusha of Hanipol, whose humility was legendary. One day on his anonymous travels, someone bumped into him at a shul and yelled at him, thinking Reb Zusha was just another beggar. Later that week, the man heard the famous Reb Zusha was in town and was dismayed to find that this was the beggar he had screamed at. He came begging and crying for forgiveness.

Reb Zusha responded that as Zusha, he could happily forgive, but as an anonymous beggar, how could he forgive the abuse of a poor, simple Jew? He couldn’t forgive that.

Textual variants: לַמִּינִים וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים / וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים

The word for heretic in this prayer is MIN, named for a person called MANNI, who popularized the belief in dualism, the belief in two opposed powers or gods, or sets of divine or demonic beings that cause the world to exist. Another word for heretic is apikores, and adopted variant of Epicureanism, a highly influential school of ancient Greek philosophy that teaches that although the gods exist, they have no ongoing involvement in human affairs.

The Sefardic text reads לַמִּינִים וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים, whereas the Ashkenaz variant only reads וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים. The Sefardic text is original, and the Ashkenaz variant is censored because European Jewry lived in the shadow of the all-powerful Church for well over a millennium; there are many instances of Jewish self-censorship to prevent backlash or reprisal. Among others, references to Gentiles were frequently modified to AK” UM, meaning pagan, a definition that would exclude Christians, who are not pagans. The Sefardic communities did not live with the religious suppression that Ashkenaz Jewry suffered.

וְלַמַּלְשִׁינִים – And the informers

Aside from the incident of the Samaritan in Betar, our sages record many stories of Jews who turned on each other. In the last siege of Jerusalem, the city had a twenty-one-year supply of food and water and could outlast any siege. But there was a faction of zealots that didn’t want to stay behind the walls – קנאים‎ / בריונים. They wanted to fight, so they burned the supplies and provisions, forcing the city to fight. Jerusalem starved, Jerusalem fought, and Jerusalem was destroyed.

אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה – Let there be no hope

When people turn on each other, it’s because they hope for something, whether it’s power, money, or revenge. This is a request to neutralize their incentive, that any thought of gain is hopeless and empty – אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה.

This can be true on multiple levels. At the most basic level, this is a prayer to neutralize enemies of the Jewish People, external and internal. But beyond that, it can also be true of an aspect within ourselves.

Everyone gossips; it’s a sociological feature of human culture and can have certain critical positive functions. That being said, there are many rules about when it’s permitted, and most gossip is probably of the unauthorized kind. We gossip about others to hurt them, to take them down a peg or two, that they’re not better than you in any way – we have a right to correct that false impression!

We can direct this prayer internally to lose the hope of having the right to that. If you didn’t hope to feel better by gossiping, you wouldn’t do it – אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה.

There is no question of free will in this prayer. Praying to avoid the situation is a free exercise of your choice; you are choosing to avoid gossip, asking for help neutralizing an ugly aspect of your personality and behavior. Let the evil inclination have no hope  – אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה.

In a mystical sense, it can be a reference to the accusing angels, the divine prosecution in the Heavenly court – let there be no hope for them – אַל תְּהִי תִקְוָה.

וְכָל הָרִשְׁעָה כְּרֶגַע תֹּאבֵד  – and may all wickedness instantly perish

This prayer targets the notion of evil; it’s not a prayer for the destruction of individuals –  רִשְׁעָה not רשעים. It can be directed at ourselves, so if we say something wrong, let it be harmless and weak.

The prayer anticipates the destruction of evil in one moment, not in the sense of quickly, but in the sense that when a moment passes, it’s gone, irretrievably lost forever. There is a similar sentiment in the Rosh Hashana prayers – Ke’ashan tichleh

The moment of God’s revelation is the moment any proofs, theories, or disagreements are redundant; ambiguity is obliterated – תֹּאבֵד. We believe that in the days of Mashiach, the essence of evil would be eliminated.

וְכָל אֹיְבֶיךָ מְהֵרָה יִכָּרֵתוּ – may all the enemies of Your people be swiftly cut off

This prayer was drafted at the assembly in Yavneh. Yavneh is an acronym for wine, spice, candle, and separation, the Havdala ceremony that divides the sanctity of Shabbos from the mundane week – YUD BEIS NUN HEIH ETC.

Yavne holds a special place in Jewish history because of its contribution to Judaism’s recovery following the destruction of the Second Beis haMikdash and marks a crucial point in the development of the Judaism we know today.

The assembly at Yavneh was the preparation for the unprecedented that followed, and that continues to this day; it established separation for the Jewish People in exile.

This prayer is a request to separate and filter out the harmful elements and destructive influences we encounter.

וְהַזֵּדִים מְהֵרָה תְעַקֵּר וּתְשַׁבֵּר וּתְמַגֵּר וְתַכְנִֽיעַ – may You quickly uproot, crush, rout and humiliate the wicked ones, speedily in our days

These words seem pretty similar but specifically seem to use imagery of a tree: uproot, break, cast down, and humiliate, which are different from destruction and cutting off – תֹּאבֵד / יִכָּרֵֽתוּ. Something you’re acting on exists and hasn’t been destroyed; something that’s destroyed doesn’t exist and can’t be acted upon.

There is a lot of evil in our world. There always has been, and although we’re a little more civilized in some respects, there’s still plenty of evil out there. There is insatiable greed

and materialism; lawless violence; poverty; hunger; corruption; human traffricking; endless wars; pollution; and an assortment of other moral failings.

We ask for the destruction of evil; the root of these evils is often a distorted view of morality where people worship themselves or worship a god made in their image who hates all the same people they hate. The cure for both is a correct understanding of what is right and good, and we ask God for revelation that will make evil disappear; wickedness will collapse into nothing.

When we ask for enemies to be cut off rather than destroyed, it’s a reference to internal enemies, members of the Jewish People trying to hurt us. We ask for them to be isolated so they can’t hurt us. You are in grave danger if you’re standing in front of a tiger. But if there is a fence between you and the tiger and the tiger is confined to a zoo exhibit, you are not in danger at all; some things are only dangerous if they interact directly, but perfectly safe when isolated.

Evil in the Modern Wrold

One of the ugly developments in the post-Second World War order is the rise of global terrorism as an effective strategy, the use of intentional violence and fear to achieve political or ideological aims, mostly against innocent civilians.

One of the reasons it emerged as an effective strategy is because the days of conventional battlefield warfare are mainly in the past; most people don’t want to face the best armies in the world. But a lone gunman or suicide bomber is exceptionally difficult to spot; they leave such a tiny trail yet cause incredible damage and chaos. How many billions of times have people had to take off their shoes, coats, belts, and watches because of one crazy fanatic?

It’s not hard to learn how to make a bomb, buy a gun, or even pick up a knife or get behind the steering wheel. It’s not hard to think how many schools and shuls lack basic security. This line of thinking is scary; that’s the point. That’s why terrorism is such an effective strategy.

Who is the latest authoritarian strongman with a radical agenda posturing against global stability? At every time in recent history, there’s always been a fear of someone crazy enough to push the red button and launch the world into nuclear war, whether it was the US, Soviet Union, Russia, China, Iran, North Korea, or whoever comes next as well.

When we pray for our enemies to be cut off from us, to separate us from their ability to harm us, the words are real in the plainest sense. Whether it’s that they have no access to us, or their missiles are out of range, or they fail to develop their technology correctly, or their infrastructure collapses, it’s all the same – מְהֵרָה יִכָּרֵֽתוּ.

What’s more, other dangers are less obvious but still dangerously subversive; there are various movements committed to outlawing circumcision and shechita, and there are multiple global movements committed to demonizing and isolating the State of Israel and any company that does business there.

It’s all the same. Let them be cut off from us, don’t let them hurt us – מְהֵרָה יִכָּרֵתוּ.

Uprooting

Whatever their roots are, wherever their power base is, uproot it, whatever they’re relying on. Whether it’s money, political support, weapons, or misinformation that sustains the pipeline of people who become terrorists

Destroy

Even after they’ve been uprooted, they may still be dangerous, destroy them.

Cast down

People may no longer follow an idea, goal, or dream, but lone individuals can still carry out that idea. The Confederacy lost the American Civil War, but there are still people committed to white supremacy. The Nazis lost, but there are still people who believe in Aryan hatred.

When things break, they can still be fixed; we ask here to make these broken things unusable and not salvageable.

Humiliated

After asking God to eliminate any destructive capacity, we ask God to humiliate the idea itself. There are people who believe that killing a bunch of innocent people on a plane, train, or bus is a glorious thing that is the fast-track ticket to heaven. Imagine a person thinking of killing. A group of people innocent people in a plane. But what if instead, everyone agreed that was ridiculous? It would be humiliating to have that belief.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה׳ שׁוֹבֵר אֹיבִים וּמַכְנִֽיעַ זֵדִים – Blessed are You, Hashem, Crusher of enemies and Subduer of the insolent.

The first subject is hidden enemies – אֹיבִים. These are adversaries whose identities are unknown and seek our harm but are not yet active. The prayer asks for these enemies to be “cut off” or neutralized since their potential for harm is latent.

The second subject refers to the enemies in the open – זֵדִים. These adversaries are actively causing harm, and their impact is visible. The prayer requests that they be humiliated to counteract their influence.

Taking it all together

This prayer has layers that can be taken as references to external enemies, internal enemies, the parts of ourselves that are destructive, and the divine prosecution.

But beyond safety, there is also an aspect of how non-religious individuals might perceive Judaism. When people read stories about the Jewish community or misunderstand the inner workings, it has an effect. There is an impact when we tell stories about an experience at shul, yeshiva, camp, or the community.

This prayer is about much more than government informants; we can subtly lower people’s esteem for and opinion of Judaism without ever intending to. We influence people in our circles who influence people in theirs; we pray for the sharpness of these interactions to be neutralized, for bad influences to be unpopular and lose momentum, and that people shouldn’t seek advice or guidance from people with the wrong ideas.

People can think whatever they wish, but let them have no motivation to drag anyone else down; let them feel nothing to gain.

Unity and pluralism

NEEDS WORK

On the one hand, this bracha talks about unity; on the other hand, it talks about separation. The concept of unity doesn’t mean that a person says anything and everything is ok. Because then you haven’t united anything.

If unity means you can take every single person with every value they hold dear and say this is part of the Jewish value system, there is no unity. You have broken the thing itself that you’re trying to unite underneath. On the same bracha of 12, the same bracha of unity, and sometimes, for the sake of unity, we need separation. Sometimes, we must discern the difference between emes and what hurts ky. To understand the lifestyle that is working to produce well-committed Jews and the ideas, cultures, and lifestyles that produce Jews that couldn’t care less about their Judaism or their commitment to it.

Ultimately, what we are davening for is not the destruction of that thing but rather a way for that to work for a way back into their hearts. That’s why the bracha, we so carefully, just once, with only one person being able to make the bracha, remains in the position of the 12th.

The bottom line

Kibbutz Galuyos – Return of Exiles

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תְּקַע בְּשׁופָר גָּדול לְחֵרוּתֵנוּ. וְשא נֵס לְקַבֵּץ גָּלֻיּותֵינוּ. וְקַבְּצֵנוּ יַחַד מֵאַרְבַּע כַּנְפות הָאָרֶץ. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, מְקַבֵּץ נִדְחֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל – Blow a great shofar for our freedom, and raise a banner to gather in our exiles and gather us together from the four corners of the Earth.  Blessed are You Hashem, Gatherer of the dispersed of His people Israel.

Sequencing

The Return of Exiles is a prayer to return the Jewish People to the Land of Israel. It is the tenth blessing of the Amida and follows the prayer for sustenance. They follow each other because they overlap – we want to get by or do well, but we want it in the Land of Israel. One of the seven great miracles of Israel is only its productive best for the Jewish People, as borne out by history. Israel has been occupied by Greece, Rome, Saladin, Crusaders, Ottomans, British, and Arabs for centuries; only the Jewish People have been able to create an economy with abundance.

The power of ten

Ten is an interesting number because it is the base of the decimal system humans count with; every count of ten begins a new sequence of numbers. It includes what came before, nine, and adding one unit creates a new series. The concept of 10 individuals gathering to form a minyan is a prominent example of this concept, becoming one new thing in the way that a fist is different from and stronger than five fingers. It completed the series, including and elevating all the components that came before. The Return of Exiles necessarily consists of all of them.

Humans have been writing for at least five thousand years and counting far longer. It might surprise you that the numbers we use for counting are relatively modern, only a thousand or so years old. The concept of numbers is a relatively late development in human culture, and different cultures used a variety of numeral systems. In Hebrew, letters also have conceptual values as stand-ins for numbers. In Hebrew numerology, Ten corresponds to the letter YUD, the smallest letter, just the barest stroke of a pen.

In much the same way, relationship and togetherness can be characterized with a certain degree of smallness; disputes and friction are almost inevitably the product of the largesse of ego. To have relationships with each other, we need to check our egos at the door somewhere to avoid feeling challenged or threatened by others. When we feel whole within ourselves, we can get along with most people because we don’t feel threatened; we feel confident in who we are.

A little can contain a lot.

Although the letter yud is small, a little can contain a lot. The Gemara teaches that one of the other great miracles of Israel is that despite its relatively small size, it could contain an enormous amount. The Gemara even compares Israel to a deer – ERETZ HATZVI; if you skin a deer, it’s impossible to stretch the hide to fit back on again. Similarly, the land was always big enough to encompass its inhabitants, bending to accommodate us so long as people lived in peace with each other. The land rejects us when people violate the smallness that peace requires with animosity and hatred.

Here at the tenth blessing – the yud -, we ask God to gather the exiles once more.

According to legend, when the Jews went to Beis haMidkash for the holidays, everybody fit. The Gemara says that people squeezed in shoulder to shoulder, yet somehow everybody found room to bow on Yom Kippur. When people stand on ceremony, there’s no space to move. When people bend, there’s plenty of space for everyone.

Source of prayer

The Midrash teaches that the angels first said this prayer when Yosef revealed himself to his brothers. Our sages also note that Reuven and Binyamin did not participate in Yosef’s sale – Reuven had left the group, and Binyamin was a young child still at home; there were ten of them, and with Yosef’s return, they were ten once more.

We might expect the ideal model of the return of the exiles to be something like the End of Days or the return from Exile and the Second Beis Hamikdash, but it’s not. It’s as simple as friends and family making up and healing, burying the hatchet. That’s what redemption looks like, and that’s how ultimate redemption starts, human to human.

תְּקַע בְּשׁופָר גָּדול – Blow a great shofar

The prayer calls for a great shofar – בְּשׁופָר גָּדול. What’s the difference between a regular shofar and a great shofar? Is it extra large? This refers to a specific shofar; our tradition teaches that when Mashiach comes with the Final Redemption, it will be heralded by a great shofar. Our sages teach that at the Akeida, Avraham and Isaac found and offered a ram; that ram had two horns. These two horns are mythical artifacts, literally the stuff of legend; one was used at Har Sinai and heard worldwide – CITE, and the second was hidden away until the time Mashiach comes.

Vhaya bayom hahu yitaka bashofar gadol

Many Jewish people go to shul on the High Holy Days and listen to the shofar on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. But for everyone who comes and hears, so many still do not. At Har Sinai, our sages teach that every Jewish soul was in attendance; everyone heard the shofar. It’s not enough to blow our shofars for the people in attendance to hear; we need a great shofar that everyone not in shul gets to hear as well.

The first great shofar at Sinai was a powerful moment, but we still live in a deeply imperfect and unredeemed call. When the alarm clock rings, half awake and half asleep, you might hit the snooze button, but you wake up much better when it goes off the next time. The first great shofar is still tiny compared to the second one because we won’t go back to sleep with the second one.

What does the great shofar sound like?

R’ Tsadok HaKohen suggests that it doesn’t just sound like a regular shofar or a very loud one. It sounds like the accumulated cries of every Jew in history; the ones massacred by Romans; burned by the Church; butchered by Crusaders; gassed by Nazis; murdered by Palestinians. Every persecution, every tear of pain, and Teshuva will stack and accumulate. That sound will irresistibly penetrate the hearts of all Jews in all places. In this prayer, we contribute our cry to the great shofar of freedom to come.

לְחֵרוּתֵנוּ – for our freedom

Freedom doesn’t mean literal slavery, but we are enslaved. Slaves to death, slaves to things we should not be – our Yetzer hara is ruling over us. That shofar will herald our freedom. External things dictate what we do. We desperately want to be free.

R’ Shamshon Raphael Hirsch notes that we don’t simply pray for everyone to make aliya and move to Israel; it’s a shofar of Teshuva. A family gathering where everyone is there but everyone is awful to each other is missing the main thing: to be home and not have the thing that makes it home is a greater tragedy than exile.

וְשא נֵס – Raise up a flag

In any emergency, there are two types of people. There are the people who respond right away and the people who follow instructions.

In the context of redemption, this prayer speaks of two kinds of people: the people who respond to the sound of the shofar and others who need a flag. Some Jewish people are waiting to go home; others are perfectly at home in their host cultures, and that’s the people this is a prayer for, the people who need a sign.

Some people aren’t ready to see. We pray that they see it as the real deal.

What is a flag?

A flag is a patriotic symbol of who you are, what you believe in, and what you’ll fight for. Flags are also placed as indicators – some are used to show wind direction, and others positions indicate the mood – a half-mast flag symbolizes sadness or mourning. People who observe it can respond accordingly.

The Israeli flag utilizes blue stripes to symbolize the stripes on a tallis, the traditional Jewish prayer shawl, and a reminder of Heaven, and the Star of David is a widely acknowledged symbol of the Jewish people and Judaism.

The Union Jack of the United Kingdom combines the flags of the three united kingdoms of England and Wales, Scotland and Northern Ireland.

The Stars and Stripes banner of the United States is deeply symbolic. The stripes represent the original 13 Colonies, and the stars represent the 50 states of the Union. The flag’s colors are also symbolic; red symbolizes hardiness and valor, white symbolizes purity and innocence, and blue represents vigilance, perseverance, and justice.

Whether a company logo, sports team badge, family crest, or monarchy coat of arms, symbolism and imagery are utilized to convey identity. This is a prayer for clarity that what we are showing the rest of the Jews is something they should want to be a part of. This flag will represent a united Jewry and identify and distinguish us not just for ourselves but also the beacon that distant fellow Jews will be drawn back to. If everyone leaves exile, we will have inherently begun redemption.

Who waves the flag?

This prayer contemplates two waves of redemption: the ones who hear the shofar and those who see the flag. The first group is the ones who have to raise the flag and wave it. God doesn’t have a flag, and waving is something people do. We can’t ask God to do something we won’t do it.

The flag is for people in physical exile at the ends of the earth but also people in spiritual exile.

לְקַבֵּץ גָּלֻיּותֵינוּ וְקַבְּצֵנוּ יַחַד מֵאַרְבַּע כַּנְפות הָאָרֶץ – to gather in our exiles and gather us together from the four corners of the Earth

Some people are stuck – return them.

We pray for the gathering of our people from all four corners of the Earth. It’s not just about bringing us the Land of Israel; it’s about bringing the Jewish People together – יַחַד. Moreover, it’s not just a prayer for third party others for the distant people to return; it’s a prayer for ourselves, let us all be united. What would be the point if everyone was gathered but couldn’t figure out how to get along? We mustn’t forget that discord and division were the leading cause of the Exile.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, מְקַבֵּץ נִדְחֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל – Blessed are you, Hashem, Gatherer of the dispersed of His people Israel

When you ask God for something, you have to do your bit. If you’re crying crocodile tears, you shouldn’t be surprised that your prayers don’t seem to work; you may need to confront the reality that your prayers are wildly mediocre.

You won’t get the dream job you don’t apply to. You won’t get healthy if you don’t diet and exercise. You won’t pass the test if you don’t study the material. You won’t get rich if you don’t invest. Your relationship won’t be meaningful if you don’t give your partner attention. That’s the way the world works; if you expect your prayer to change that fundamental reality, you will likely continue to be disappointed.

If you are not good to people, asking God to bring them back is nonsense.

There are all sorts of reasons that people are distant from Judaism; observing the Torah’s laws is difficult. But sometimes, schools and yeshivas push people away; other times, it’s families. But some people get pushed away because of us, because of the way we behave, whether it’s a judgmental remark or hurtful comment.

Near and far, there are always people being pushed away.

Some people are so far away they might not even know they’re Jewish or might know they’re Jewish, and that’s pretty much it. There are so many stories of such people feeling a sudden flash of inspiration to learn, meeting just the right teacher, or picking up just the right book at just the right time; that’s all part of it – מְקַבֵּץ נִדְחֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל.

Something to consider is why it is that there are Jews in all four corners of the world. The Jewish People couldn’t live in Israel for a millennium or two, but they also lived scattered and dispersed worldwide; the consequence follows the cause. The Jewish People in Israel lived in strife and discord and were separated, but it follows that the inverse must be true as well. If baseless hatred breaks, then free love fixes.

There is a Kabbalistic teaching that all cultures and nations have redeeming characteristics and qualities; a function of the global Jewish diaspora is to pick up those traits through converts or cultural osmosis, the positive teachings we can absorb from them.

When God sends someone somewhere, they are meant to get something from it. The Jewish People had a significant presence in the cultural centers of leading civilizations,  from Babylon and Constantinople to Rome and Germany until today. There is a sacred duty to take the qualities we encounter in the world and bring them with us. It is a worthwhile thought exercise to consider the scenarios we find ourselves in and find something to take home that we didn’t have before.

We ask God to bring us home, to take us out of difficulty, to the place we want to be or are supposed to be. Part of exile is the sense of disorientation, confusion, and lack of clarity and direction. Part of the prayer here is a request to find the purpose and meaning of our journey – מְקַבֵּץ נִדְחֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל.

There is a custom around the High Holy Days of a prayer by a river that symbolizes casting our sins to drift away – Tashlich. The High Holy Days are associated with the attributes of Awe and Fear of judgment; they are followed by Sukkos and Shmini Atzeres, holidays of Love and Joy that celebrate the transformation of sin to merit, and water with the sins we cast off is drawn and offered in one of the most joyous rituals of the year.

The Chasam Sofer notes that the apparent implication of this sequence is that sin can take us places that perfect purity cannot – makom shebaal teshuva omeid. This is true not just of the sparks of redemption people experience along the way; it redeems and uplifts the very concept of exile itself.

We wouldn’t be so bothered if we recognized exile as a good thing. Wasting time and effort is depressing; there’s nothing wasted if we learn from our experience. Part of the prayer is to gather our own personal exiles.

Teka is a verb that means to blow, but it also means to drive something, like driving a peg in the ground. In this reading, it is not just a call to blow the shofar but a prayer to drive it firmly into us, to make it stick.

One sense of the prayer is to bring the Jewish People back and wake everyone up from their sleep and apathy, as well as waking them up to the threats they face. Another sense of the prayer is to bring the Jewish People together again; infighting kills, gossip, and slander kill.

We hurt ourselves and cause our own exile. We have to change ourselves and our culture of cynicism against other Jews. We need to stop labeling and love all Jews.

Chassidut, Sephardim, Ashkenazim. Do you pronounce it this way or that way? This much or that much? Who gets to be Rebbe? Rosh Yeshiva? Who receives the buildings? The organizations? It’s so petty and stupid. Focus on the 99% we can agree on rather than the narcissism of small differences.

Daven that it stops, but also make sure you stop it and put a stop to it when you see it.

If we could find the love in our hearts of k ish echad blev echad that resulted in the first shofar, we can do it again it will result in the second.

The bottom line

Teshuva; Return and Repentance, Making Amends

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הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבוֹדָתֶךָ וְהַחֲזִירֵנוּ בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה לְפָנֶיךָ: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ הָרוֹצֶה בִּתְשׁוּבָה – Return us, our Father, to Your Torah and bring us near, our King, to Your service; and bring us back in whole-hearted repentance before You Blessed are You, Hashem, Who desires penitence.

Return

One of Judaism’s signature beliefs is in our personal ability to do Teshuva and make amends.

Return and repentance are among the most beautiful and innovative beliefs in the Torah, and it’s hard to overstate their significance.

Everything lost can be found, and everything broken can be fixed and restored.

Teshuva and the personal ability to earn atonement and forgiveness are groundbreaking because, in the ancient world, humans lived in fear of their gods. You would try to do right by them in the hope that they would do right to you; you don’t offend them, so they don’t smite you. The relationship people had with their gods was explicitly transactional and, from a certain perspective, what we might call abusive. 

A popular aphorism states that home is the place where, when you go there, they have to let you in. Teshuva is the return to a religious home, even if you’ve never been there before.

R’ Jonathan Sacks likens it to the waves of diaspora immigrants who escaped to the Land of Israel. When Europeans, Yemenites, Moroccans, Russians, Mizrachi, and Ethiopians stepped off boats and planes into a land they’d never seen before, they knew they were home.

As Rabbi Nachman of Breslev put it, if you believe you can break, believe you can fix.

Take responsibility

As much as we believe God will forgive anyone, we also believe in the prerequisite requirement to show up and take responsibility. As R’ Jonathan Sacks teaches, forgiveness can only exist where repentance exists, and repentance can only exist where responsibility exists.

Responsibility is a uniquely human quality; it suggests a duty or obligation that can sometimes be burdensome and make you uncomfortable. The Rambam notes that reward and punishment only make sense if humans have moral agency and free choice, or in other words, responsibility. Without choice, it would be unfair and wrong for God to hold you responsible for bad things you did because you were incapable of choosing otherwise; responsibility only exists alongside the ability to decide how to act.

Taking responsibility is the theme of one of the most prominent prayers of the High Holy Days, as well as the span of days before and in between, the Viduy prayer, where everyone publicly confesses a litany of misdemeanors, sins, and wrongdoings while they beat their hearts. There is something beautiful about the entire Jewish people publicly taking responsibility, acknowledging their failures and weaknesses together, and publicly undertaking to do better, even if you’re alone or with total strangers.

It’s beautiful enough that many communities have the custom of singing the confession prayer in tune. It’s not the most upbeat song, but there is an element of happiness and joy in confessing our failings.

The confession isn’t a performative theatrical ritual; honestly acknowledging that you did something wrong is the only way you can begin to fix it. Beyond being a key technical component of repentance, confession is how we take responsibility.

Taking responsibility transforms how a slight is observed. If you go to a shopping center with piles of rubble, you won’t go back, but you’d feel differently if the store hung signs asking you to excuse their appearance while they undergo renovations scheduled for completion by April. The acknowledgment makes you more patient and forgiving that the experience was below expectations. 

If whatever is wrong isn’t your fault, then you can’t do anything differently next time, and nothing can change; it would be impossible to move on and heal from anything wrong with you. You can only do better next time if you can take responsibility.

If you’ve seen two kids playing rough until they get hurt, you know it doesn’t matter if it was a mistake; head injuries don’t require intention, and nor do the things we all do that wind up hurting others.

Accept responsibility for your actions. Be accountable for your results. Take ownership of your mistakes – including the ones that weren’t your fault.

There’s nothing easy about taking responsibility for yourself – it requires enormous reserves of honesty and strength to confront the realization that you are the one who’s been holding yourself back this whole time.

When you take responsibility for yourself, you can stop relying on others to take responsibility for you. You should want to take responsibility for yourself, your life, your family, your friends, your community, and all the people who need you.

A group’s long-term success depends to a large extent on its leader’s willingness to take responsibility for failure; our sages praise people whose words God concurs with, citing the time Moshe intervened to save the Jewish People after the Golden Calf, acknowledging his people’s responsibility for the calamity, and taking responsibility for protecting them.

The moment you take responsibility for everything is the moment you can change anything.

How do you get there?

In the Amida, there tend to be formulas and patterns.

One that keeps recurring is that the conclusion of each blessing mirrors the opening; Grant wisdom, the One who grants wisdom; Forgive us, the One who forgives, Heal us, the One who heals, Bless us, the One who blesses – סְלַח לָנוּ / הַמַּרְבֶּה לִסְלוֹחַ; רְפָאֵנוּ / רוֹפֵא חוֹלֵי עַמּוֹ יִשְׂרָאֵל; בָּרֵךְ עָלֵינוּ / מְבָרֵךְ הַשָּׁנִים.

This blessing deviates from the standard form; it closes with a request for God to desire our return, yet opens with a request for God to return us to the Torah – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ / הָרוֹצֶה בִּתְשׁוּבָה.

It suggests that connection to the Torah is at the heart of seeking Teshuva.

Our sages intuitively taught that uneducated people can never truly be saintly; it is impossible to be careful and particular with something you lack basic awareness and familiarity with – ein am haaretz chassid.

It follows that deep engagement with Torah is essential for a meaningful spiritual journey and genuine repentance. Our Sages teach that during pregnancy, an angel teaches a child all of Torah, which they forget at birth; in a sense, we’re asking for a return of what we once had – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ.

On a simple level, the path to teshuva can only be identified and illuminated through the Torah.  All people have different natural proclivities; some people are incredibly kind, and others are incredibly honest. It is absolutely possible to intuit your way into a key value of Judaism, but it’s essentially impossible to identify and perform Judaism’s key tenets without referring to the sources. As the Mishna in Pirkei Avos teaches, simple people can’t be meticulous – וְלֹא עַם הָאָרֶץ חָסִיד. If you don’t know how to get there, you probably won’t find your way by accident.

However, and most especially since the early Chassidic masters, the greatest sages have often been able to glean profound teachings and sparks of holiness from the simplicity and sincerity of the common folk. This dynamic suggests that while Torah knowledge is crucial, the heart and soul of everyday life and the unassuming wisdom of those less learned also hold valuable lessons. If these saints maintained airs of arrogance and superiority, they could not have lowered themselves enough to learn from these people.

As such, the journey of repentance is not solely about acquiring Torah knowledge but also about embracing an attitude of humility, recognizing that every individual, regardless of their level of scholarship, can contribute to our spiritual growth and understanding.

Embarking on a journey toward spiritual awakening demands more than merely following transient feelings or personal inclinations that feel good at the moment. There are so many divergent paths, and it is up to each individual to embark on the journey to explore its landscapes.

So we ask for help reading the map, the Torah – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ.

How does it get you there?

Apart from the Torah being the key instrument to identify pathways, the Torah itself can inspire us to make amends as well.

Our sages teach that when a person has lost their way, teach them some Torah, and the light it contains will guide them back. A similar teaching imagines God saying that He could forgive the Jewish people if they forgot Him but kept the Torah because it would ultimately lead them back.

Our sages teaching that Torah study can inherently refine and elevate us presents an intriguing paradox. Sure, engaging with the Torah links our soul with the divine, but there are plenty of Torah teachings that are abstract and arcane, distantly removed from the practicalities of everyday life, offering little in the way of direct transformation of our daily routines or behaviors. This suggests that our sages teaching operates in a far more modest fashion, and our request for help returning to the Torah is desperately necessary because the Torah won’t return us all by itself; we need help – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ.

The transformative power of Torah doesn’t operate on autopilot; it isn’t mechanical. Rather, it requires a conscious, deliberate effort to integrate its teachings into the fabric of our lives. The idea that Torah study alone can automatically reform us might be overly simplistic, overlooking the complex interplay between knowledge, action, and personal growth.

We seek more than academic study and retention of information. Far more than the particular information obtained from a learning session, the Torah has a potential restorative property that operates indirectly.

Some symptoms have to be treated directly – if you cut your finger, you need to clean and treat the wound. But some injuries are treated indirectly – you might treat back pain with exercise, an ergonomic chair and shoe inserts, or an ear infection with a course of antibiotics. If you’re struggling with a particular issue, tackle the issue.

Our approach to self-improvement and spiritual growth is similar; you can confront the symptom directly, identifying a specific negative behavior and resolving to stop it. This is akin to setting a boundary for yourself, a clear line in the sand, resolving not to do something anymore. It’s a necessary and effective strategy for immediate change, marking a critical first step in the journey of self-betterment.

However, there exists a more profound, transformative approach that goes beyond merely addressing the symptom. It involves recognizing that the negative behavior is not only undesirable but fundamentally beneath our potential. This perspective invites us to level up and grow to see ourselves as inherently capable of more than our missteps suggest. It’s an internal call to action: You’re better than that, and engaging in such behaviors is a disservice to your true self.

In this framework, it’s not about overcoming a flaw but transcending it entirely, cultivating a mindset where the negative behavior becomes alien to our nature, where the thought of succumbing to it again would be personally disappointing, letting and yourself down.

We pray for the connection and direction that can truly shape our lives, aligning and guiding us toward our highest and best selves and the fulfillment of our sacred potential – – וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבוֹדָתֶךָ וְהַחֲזִירֵנוּ בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה לְפָנֶיךָ.

Shlomo the baller

I am extremely competitive, and one my passions has always been basketball.

On the courts in the evenings, between my ability and intensity, the people I played with couldn’t believe when I would tell them that I am a rabbi. But there was one way I convinced them every time.

I asked them if they’d heard me swear.

My rosh yeshiva growing up said that playing ball is idol worship; I think he probably meant that losing control on the field is like idol worship, which is pretty accurate. Losing yourself to anger, pride, or even a game is a false idol.

One time, the Rosh Yeshiva came over to the best guy in yeshiva. He’d noticed a particular trait of arrogance creeping into the demeanor of a boy known for his sharp intellect and diligence. The Rosh Yeshiva pulled him aside and told him he was the best, a sparkling diamond, but that this behavior didn’t suit him. It was the best mussar I ever heard, and it wasn’t even to me, and it wasn’t even about anything in particular.

You’re a diamond! It wasn’t a reprimand but an affirmation of the boy’s worth and a call to align his actions with his true essence.

הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ – Father, return us

As the source of all existence, God is the Father of all things in the most literal sense; our sages refer to the Creator as our third parent.

One of the key features of the Torah’s characterization of the relationship between humanity and Creation is the role of a covenantal partnership, with mutual expectations and commitments central to understanding both parties’ roles.

As such, God expects us to observe the Torah, but to a certain extent, we can have the same expectation of God. Moshe successfully makes the argument to God that if humans are called to be godly and display compassion, then the Creator must do so as well. We can notionally assume that God adheres to the principles laid out in the Torah if it is to serve as a model for human conduct because if we are to emulate God’s ways, God, too, must act in a manner consistent with the teachings of the Torah. This reciprocity underscores a shocking dynamic that features prominently in the stories of our ancestors; just as we strive to live up to the Torah’s ideals, we might also hold God to the standards of justice, mercy, and righteousness that the Torah espouses.

Invoking our relationship to God as Father highlights the duties a father’s duty; the Torah requires fathers to teach their children Torah and its values – vshinantam lvanecha.

In this prayer, we ask for something similar: Father, we want to do the right thing, we want to make You proud, please make the time to teach me – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ.

Moreover, this dynamic captures a healthy approach to repentance and making amends. Whatever mistakes you’ve made, this phrase captures the fundamental belief in the enduring bond between Creator and creation, likening it to the unconditional relationship between a parent and a child; you might have let Father down a bit, but Father doesn’t give up on us, and you can still ask for some help, for what you need, always ready to welcome us back, eager for our return.

Despite our failings and transgressions, we ever remain children of God; the relationship is inviolable and cannot be tainted, affirming our intrinsic worth and potential for transformation and renewal.

We declare our hope and faith in the power of repentance, the act of coming home, returning, and rediscovering our true selves – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ.

לְתורָתֶךָ – to Your Torah

(!ed Shlomo – consider No True Scotsman fallacy)

We pray for assistance, for help returning to God’s Torah.

This phrase implies the surprising existence of a Torah that is not God’s.

Our sages reiterate that the main thing is not theory but practice; that study is only worthwhile when it leads to practice. The Chafetz Chaim notes that observing the commandments is only any good when we live in alignment with the divine attributes.

The Torah consistently self-describes in multiple places and voices as being a particular way; learning and living with that authentic understanding is in alignment with the divine intent – לְתורָתֶךָ.

Love your neighbour is the principle of reciprocity that is one of the foundations of all morality. Its ways are pleasant; God’s Torah is marked by a life of pleasantness, grace, peace, kindness, and moral integrity.

God’s Torah is perfect; it restores the soul and enlightens the simple – toras hashem temima. The meta-principle of God’s Torah is that it has transformative properties rooted in divine wisdom; it has the power to rejuvenate the spirit and imbue individuals with wisdom, guiding us towards a path of goodness, humility, and understanding.

The litmus test of whether it’s God’s Torah or not is whether our interactions make us kinder and more compassionate. Someone living by God’s Torah speaks the truth, is honest, just, and upright, committed to helping the oppressed and vulnerable, the widows and orphans in our communities.

The reality is that it is theoretically possible to engage with the Torah in a manner that does not reflect what it means to live by these values. There are individuals who study the Torah and are deeply flawed and in blind denial of those flaws. Despite their knowledge of the Torah, they may exhibit behaviors and attitudes that are deeply flawed, characterized by judgmentalism, arrogance, self-righteousness, or a lack of sensitivity and compassion. Such people are awful; that’s not God’s Torah.

That actually extends beyond Torah to many other things, too; there is a world of difference between knowing information and the wisdom of understanding how to put it into practice.

Bring us

Our heartfelt prayer to return to Torah is universal, ranging from the most distant soul who just learned their mother is Jewish to the most strictly observant bearded and hatted, and every point on the spectrum in between and beyond.

Ostensibly distant or close, every single one of us yearns for connection, a bridge that connects us all and brings us closer to our roots, traditions, and a sense of belonging.

People immersed in daily practices of Torah study also yearn for authentic connection to God’s Torah. Beyond strict observance and scholarly pursuits, they seek a deeper, more intimate bond with the Creator that transcends the performance of commandments.

Standing at the Western Wall, you can stand on clear panels and look down through the glass at the archaeological discoveries below. You realize that you’re at the place your ancestors stood, but you’re not actually standing in the place they stood at all; so close yet so far, a profound sense of proximity to, yet distance from, the sacred history of the Jewish People.

We cherish our heritage, touching ground that has been the focal point of Jewish prayers and dreams for millennia, yet we are also far, separated not just by physical layers unearthed by archaeologists but by the expanse of time and the evolution of tradition. We cannot stand where our ancestors stood.

On our mission to live a life of meaning and purpose, we may try hard to live according to our values and study Torah, and yet, we might still feel a sense of missing something crucial, of not quite reaching the spiritual heights of our ancestors or achieving the intimate closeness with God that we seek.

If that feels like you sometimes, just ask for a hand – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ אָבִינוּ לְתוֹרָתֶךָ.

Find your piece

This blessing doesn’t have a sequence of phased requests; it consists of one request with natural consequences. If we felt like children connected to Father’s Torah, we would live in God’s service in states of complete repentance.

The word Torah literally means instructions.

You might expect that everyone gets the same instructions; it would be weird if the flat-pack furniture company sent out custom instructions for every order.

But you are a human, not a coffee table, and you actually do have custom instructions.

The Zohar suggests that at the revelation at Sinai, every soul received a bespoke portion of Torah uniquely tailored to its level, needs, and spiritual mission; this teaching suggests that Torah is not a monolithic entity but a multifaceted revelation, encompassing myriad paths, missions, and directions, each designed to resonate with the individual soul, and what I am called to is not the same as what you are called to.

Understanding that each soul has its own Torah means recognizing that our engagement with Torah should be marked by personal growth, spiritual enrichment, and a clearer sense of direction in our lives. If we find ourselves learning without effect, it may be an invitation to seek out new approaches or aspects of Torah that align more closely with our innermost selves. It’s a journey of finding how the infinite wisdom of the Torah can speak directly to us, guiding us toward our unique path and mission.

In this light, the Torah becomes more than a text; it is a living, breathing guide that interacts uniquely with each soul. The challenge and beauty of Torah study lie in discovering how it speaks to you, how it moves you, and how it shapes the direction of your life. When we find that connection, we discover not just the Torah of our ancestors but the Torah of Hashem, a divine directive that continuously guides, nurtures, and transforms us. It is well worth taking the time to identify the parts of the Torah that engage you and set your soul on fire and to find the teachers and spiritual guides that understand you and can unlock your greatness.

When things feel stagnant and nothing seems to move you, it may signal a disconnect or misunderstanding in your engagement with Torah, indicating that you have not yet located your sweet spot.

But if the Torah is our instruction manual for living, it clearly outlines the free will and responsibility of our choices between good and evil, life and death.

Some things don’t need instructions at all; don’t put your hand in a blender, don’t slam your finger in the car door. Yet, applying the Torah’s teachings is not always straightforward. When you have a headache, you take a painkiller. One of the side effects of common painkillers is a headache! If the side effects were a guaranteed outcome, one might question the wisdom of taking the medicine at all.

If we could see with perfect clarity, who would ever make bad choices, who would ever choose the path of death? The reality is that humans are complex creatures in a complex world, clouded by uncertainty, biases, desires, and misunderstandings. People might have their interpretations of Torah, influenced by personal inclinations or societal pressures, and justify actions at odds with essential teachings.

If everything was crystal clear to us, we wouldn’t make mistakes, but it’s not crystal clear, and we do make mistakes. Our sages teach that at the gathering at Mount Sinai, the Creator instructed Moshe to ensure that the people would not touch the mountain, and Moshe felt like he didn’t need to because God’s command alone would suffice to keep them away; an instinctive recognition of its sanctity and a natural inclination to comply.

At a fundamental level, we are aware of certain moral absolutes that should not be crossed. If someone threatened to kill you unless you killed a child, that’s a boundary most people would intuitively recognize as unthinkable.

But the human capacity for rationalization and self-justification makes it possible, and sometimes all too easy, to twist textual interpretations and manipulate religious or moral arguments to serve personal biases or agendas. This trickery fools others, and some people even fool themselves.

Medicine doesn’t always work; the interactions of biology, chemistry, and diagnostics are complex. But gasoline will always catch fire. It’s a simple reaction by the very nature of its chemical structure; that’s what it is, that’s what it does, and that’s how it works. In fact, if you light something and it doesn’t catch fire, you can be sure it’s not gasoline!

Unbiased learning leads to natural learning; the Torah is a gift is a divine gift designed for human benefit and development, and God isn’t in the business of deceit or trickery. It’s designed to give us what we need. If we approach it with an honest attempt. A sincere approach without biases, prejudices, and preconceived notions will have a natural gravitattional pull toward the truths and lessons of goodness and kindness.

Storytime

When I lived in Jerusalem, I was walking on Rechov Bar Ilan one Shabbos, and an unfortunate soul drove his car up the road. A group of Yerushalmi Jews screamed and spat, “SHABBOS!!!” throwing rocks at the car.

I watched this exchange and, a few minutes later, approached the group and asked them about their own Shabbos observance. Rocks don’t have a functional use on Shabbos, and fall under the category of things that are set aside for Shabbos – muktzeh.

How could they throw rocks on Shabbos?

“Well, you see, we actually prepared these rocks before Shabbos! They are designated especially for throwing.”

They followed the laws of Shabbos scrupulously; there is no faulting them there. But they completely failed the laws of Moses.

Another Shabbos, I was nearby, and another car drove through the neighborhood. The most beautiful, sweet, Yerushalmi man was walking toward me with a beard as white as snow, and I wondered how he’d react.

He closed his eyes and stopped moving for a moment, and whispered to himself, “Shabbos, Shabbos.”

He was disturbed and didn’t want to condition himself to normalizing or desensitizing himself to it. But shouting and throwing rocks was not going to be effective, and being judgmental or hateful would probably foreclose any future opportunities for religious engagement as well.

וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבודָתֶךָ – and draw us near, our King, to Your service

Having asked our Father to return us to Torah, we follow up by asking the King to draw us closer to divine service.

This highlights a nuanced aspect of the relationship between humanity and the Divine, beyond the intimate father-son dynamic to encompass the broader, more complex sphere of obligation and voluntary devotion, God as our King.

In our spiritual and religious lives, there are different forms of labor or service, the voluntary and the mandated, the things we want to do, and the things we have to do. This reflects the inherent tension between our obligations and our desires, between the duties we are bound to perform and the acts of service we are drawn to out of love, passion, or personal conviction, as well as things we are supposed to do, but don’t enjoy doing – meleches avodas haBorei.

There are the things everyone has to do that are foundational aspects of Jewish life, and there are other things like a little more Torah study and some random acts of kindness and charity. The things we have to do ensure a basic structure to commitment and observance, and the voluntary acts of service allow for personal expression and deeper spiritual engagement. Both are essential.

We ask for the strength and dedication to fulfill our obligations and for the inspiration and desire to go beyond them, a balanced blend of blending commitment and passion, for the guidance and grace to navigate the complexities of religious life, obligation with love, in our continual effort to serve the Creator with all our heart, soul, and might – וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבודָתֶךָ.

The concept of “meleches avodas haBorei” – the work of serving the Creator – encapsulates two distinct forms of labor or service in our spiritual and religious lives: the voluntary and the mandated. This duality reflects the inherent tension between our obligations and our desires, between the duties we are bound to perform and the acts of service we are drawn to out of love, passion, or personal conviction.

King

R’ Chaim Brisker sharply asserts that a servant who only follows 99.9% of his boss’s instructions is not truly a servant at all. This principle, while exceedingly strict, highlights the depth of commitment expected in the traditional interpretation of our service to God.

If someone conforms to 99.9% of the Torah but has a self-serving agenda overall, are they serving God at all?

However, when we apply this concept to our relationship with the Divine, it is crucial to understand the nature of this dynamic not as characterized by coercion or unwillingness; there are no whips or chains.

Imagine living in a tyrannical regime rife with corruption and lawlessness. Eventually, the neighboring king can no longer tolerate the instability on his border and invades and overthrows the government. If the new king invests in building roads, schools, and public infrastructure, generally improving the well-being and prosperity of his subjects, he will be absolutely loved.

To this day, the British monarchy is beloved, providing a sense of national identity and stability. When the public perceives the monarch as benevolent and enlightened, they are proud to be subjects; that’s what happened at Mount Sinai.

There are so many rules, and they can be hard to keep. Kosher, Shabbos, gossip, honesty, modesty, and more. We want to be okay with humbling ourselves and acting properly, to love serving the Creator. We want to recognize the beauty and specialness of our beliefs and practices, finding connection and joy in them, to experience their richness and depth, to discover the intrinsic value and profound satisfaction that come from living in harmony with our heritage.

If you have a rebellious streak, this one is for you – וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבודָתֶךָ.

לַעֲבודָתֶךָ

What is God’s service?

This term is conventionally understood in two primary ways: as a reference to observance in general, encapsulating all aspects of Jewish life and law, or more specifically, as denoting prayer, the service of the heart, emphasizing that prayer is not just as a duty or ritual but as something that requires sincerity, concentration, and emotional engagement, underscoring the significance of seeking divine assistance even in our ability to pray effectively.

If someone grows up learning to only look left when you cross the road, that looking both ways is for crazy people, that person has no chance considering they have been taught to ignore a basic safety principle. When a family teaches poor life practices or distorted interpretations of Torah principles, the children are predisposed to follow the same path, underscoring the heavy responsibility parents hold in shaping their children’s understanding of the world and guiding their moral compass. One can only hope that free will shines through, that despite the challenges and predispositions resulting from their upbringing, they find the right teachers and influences, and use their capacity to question, learn, and ultimately choose their own path.

We all face the danger of absorbing or inheriting flawed perspectives and behaviors that can impact our moral direction and compromise our integrity with misguided principles. We affirm the necessity of divine grace to overcome the physical, spiritual, or emotional distances that separate us from the Divine – וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבודָתֶךָ.

Free will

Does asking for help violate the principle of free will?

As much as we believe in free will, there is so much we don’t get to choose: our parents, health, intelligence, and so on. Why weren’t you born to Medieval peasants in China?

The axis of free will in our lives is the specific point of choice at which our inclinations for good and bad are in equilibrium – nekudas habechira.

Choosing to ask for righteousness and to be free from negative influences is a profound exercise of free will that signals a desire to transform our inner world to be in alignment of our deepest desires with the values of integrity, and goodness. Beyond action and behavior; the aspiration to be a certain way, to cultivate a character that inherently leans towards righteousness, is both noble and challenging. It requires constant vigilance, self-awareness, and a commitment to growth.

The point of choice is not static; it shifts as we evolve, presenting new challenges and opportunities for growth – וְקָרְבֵנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ לַעֲבודָתֶךָ.

וְהַחֲזִירֵנוּ בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה לְפָנֶיךָ – cause us to return in complete repentance before You

We don’t want the deflated repentance of brokenness and low self-esteem. No, thank you!

We pray for a repentance that is complete, not only thorough but also transformative.

We want our repentance to be complete and unwavering, with a resolve never to revert back to previous misdeeds, where any inclination to repeat past mistakes is eradicated. This level is challenging, requiring not only a change in behavior but a fundamental shift in heart and mind – בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה.

We want our repentance to encompass us as complete individuals, emphasizing the holistic nature of wholesome repentance. We want more than superficial change limited to specific actions; we want to uplift our whole being — transforming every aspect of  life, in thought, emotion, action, and spirit – בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה.

In the same way it’s possible to study Torah and not live its values; it’s possible to practice values and not believe in them at all. Someone might avoid certain behaviors, like stealing, not out of any belief that it is wrong, but due to the desire to maintain social standing, ensure personal gain, or adhere to societal conventions. While resulting in outwardly acceptable behavior, this approach lacks the depth and sincerity that are central to Jewish life.

Is the staff member caring for special needs children because they are a kind person who cares about other people, or are they totally self-absorbed and it just looks really good on a resume?

We want to go far beyond compliance with social norms or strategic navigation of communal expectations, so we ask for help living the spirit of the law to its absolute maximum – וְהַחֲזִירֵנוּ בִּתְשׁוּבָה שְׁלֵמָה לְפָנֶיךָ.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ הָרוֹצֶה בִּתְשׁוּבָה

The interplay of Divine action and human agency is a core idea in Jewish thought, capturing the complex relationship between God’s sovereignty and individual free will.

Who moves first?

The question of who is acting, whether we learn Torah by our own initiative or are returned to it by God, and the necessity of asking for divine assistance all touch on this dynamic.

One of Judaism’s foundational principles is that while the Creator does whatever the Creator does, free will means we have the ability to want something and ask for help. Our sages teach that a voice echoes from Sinai every day, “Return, my wayward children!”

This teaching suggests that despite the constant and perpetual invitation to return, humans have to tune in and choose to listen and respond to that call. When we listen, the voice of Sinai sounds a lot like our moments of regret, yearning, conscience, and aspiration. God is always waiting, ever ready to welcome us back with open arms, but the act of returning is ours to undertake.

Our sages had the deepest respect for free will and the power of choice, teaching that the the universe leads us to the places we want to go – bderech adam rata leilech moichin oso CITE.

If you want to be a better person and you succeed, you succeeded because you wanted it, illustrating a fundamental truth about human agency and the power of desire. All a person has is their will, which is not merely a passive longing but an active force that shapse our spiritual and moral life.

This framework highlights the tremendous value of the intention behind our actions, the importance of conscious decision-making, and the power of our deepest desires.

As we affirmed in the blessing for wisdom, all we have is a choice between the right thing and the wrong thing; God does the heavy lifting, but you have to want the right thing. Our lives are just a semantic tree of decisions, each choice branching into subsequent decisions, creating a complex network of paths that define our lives. Every fork of choice represents an opportunity to exercise our free will, to choose actions aligned with our deepest values and aspirations, or not.

We can’t do it by ourselves. We can’t repent on our own, what if we learn the wrong Torah?

So we ask for help. We are trying, and that has to be enough, it is enough.

We come with humility and realism about the human condition and the complexity and challenges of truly understanding Torah and discerning the right path amidst life’s ambiguities and our own limitations.

When you set your mind to see the best in something, you will likely find what you are looking for. That’s true for relationships, as well as seeing the worst. Intention and perception wield enormous influence in shaping our experiences and outcomes. In the context of this prayer, this principle reveals a comforting and hopeful aspect of divine compassion: God’s desire for our return, even valuing the weakest attempt at teshuva.

As the blessing concludes, we praise God not for accepting our repentance, but for desiring it. We place deep trust in God’s mercy and understanding to find grace in our attempts to live righteously and learn Torah.

Our sages teach that those who have mastered repentance have standing that even the completely righteous do not; this teaching highlights the exceptional value of the sincere effort and struggle of seekers, even if the path is fraught with challenges and missteps.

Numerology

(!ed Shlomo – please explain this to me again)

There are 15 words in this blessing, which is the length of each half of the lunar cycle, with 15 days of a waxing crescent new moon and 15 days of a waning moon.

The lunar cycle represents from full illumination to complete darkness and back again, mirrors the spiritual journey of the Jewish People and the individual soul’s journey of renewal, resilience, and the fluctuating nature of life.

The moon wanes from full brightness to complete darkness, only to reemerge once again; we all experience periods of diminishment and resurgence, and renewal always lies ahead, within each person and community, regardless of the magnitude of challenges faced.

Here’s the thing.

Even though the moon looks smaller, it didn’t actually get smaller at all.

It was enormous throughout, and its size remained unchanged.

What changes is that in certain moments, you only see it partly illuminated.

It looks smaller when the Earth gets in the way; the earth can obscure the moon’s light, creating phases and eclipses. Physicality and material pursuits can overshadow our spiritual essence and impact our visibility and integrity.

speaks to the enduring essence and strength of the Jewish people. Despite periods of darkness or diminishment, whether through persecution, exile, or internal struggles, the intrinsic identity and vitality of the Jewish people, like the moon’s size, remain unchanged. What varies is the illumination—the visible expression of that inherent strength.

Within each of us is a part that doesn’t get blocked, the pintele Yid, where there exists a genuine desire for return and renewal, that yearns to reconnect with our highest self and with the Divine.

Arcane things

(!ed Shlomo – I don’t understand this very well, does it belong)

15 ingredients build mishkan

connects heaven to earth

world bridge

15 steps levites sang on on beis hamikdash

7 heavens and 7 spaces with 1 kisei hakavod

ata kadosh yoshev tehilos

15 is yud hey

hey is oepn and closing letter

yud is middle letter

people vasciallate

but in the middle is pure spirituality

the central axis is yud

the single point

pintele yid

This means although you have to do your hishdadlus and put the work in, essentially if you want something enough that it can be considered as you’ve done it. The Gemara (Megilla 6b) says “If a person says I have worked hard but have not found [success], don’t believe him. [If a person says] I have not exerted myself, and I have found [success], don’t believe him. [If he says] I gave it my all and I have found [success], believe him!”.  This is the only combination that works.  Since even a person’s work is Hashem, the only thing he has power over is his free will. This means if you take everything away – your guf, your talents, your abilities, the only thing you have control over is Hakol bidei shamayim chutz miyiras shamayim (Gemara Brachos 33b).  If a person really wants something enough it will happen.

Even when a person decides to do something, at every second Hashem has to give you the strength to continue doing that.

E.g. Let’s say you’re not religious, and you decide to wear a kippa.  You walk in the street and the mailman makes a comment. Then the postman makes a comment. Then you see people across the street who know you. At every second you are choosing to keep wearing the kippa/not remove it.

Same with our choices. At every second we’re making the decision. But it’s Hashem who is actually giving the strength.  Because all we are able to bring to the table is our ratzon.

That’s not to say anything is taken away from you – it’s still wholeheartedly your mizvah.  But understand, the mitzvah is not expressed in it’s doing, but rather in its desire. That’s the difference between us and animals. Humans are tzelem elokim.  Until we were created, only Hashem had the power to ‘choose what He wanted to do’ so to speak. Then we were created and the power was also given to us.  And just because Hashem has foreknowledge of my choices, it doesn’t change my bechira.  Hashem is above time – this is how He knows what decision I’m going to make. But it’s still my decision to make. If I hadn’t made that decision, He would still know, but in that case He would know I didn’t make that choice.

So we’re saying here that we don’t have the power to do real teshuva, it’s too hard. We don’t have the power or willingness or da’as to be able to decide what is toratenu and toratecha. But we’re trying to find it.  And that has to be enough.  And that must be enough. If you’re trying your best to find it that’s good enough.

Words in Bracha

There are 15 words in this bracha. And the concept of 15 is one with many ramifications. All of which relate to the essence of this bracha.

Another ramification of 15 comes from the mishkan being created with 15 ingredients.  The mishkan is an element that connects Earth to the heavens. When klal Yisroel lost their ability to connect directly to Hashem, Hashem allowed us to have a mishkan.

It goes further. There were 15 steps in the beis HaMikdash that led a person up from the other region to the inner region. The leviim used to sing on these steps. It was these 15 steps that led a person closer and closer to Hashem, with increasing purity.

A level above the beis HaMikdash, chazal tell us there are 7 heavens and 7 spaces between them.  The kisei HaKavod is the highest, 15th, level.

Through our teshuva, we bring ourselves back, from the earth to the mishkan, from the mishkan to the stairs, from the stairs to the kisei HaKavod.

One final step. 15 is divisible by 10 and 5.  The Hebrew letters that represent this are yud and hey.  The Talmud mentions that, (and the Gemara in Menachos 29b asks why), Hashem created this world, Olam HaZeh with the letter hey, and Olam HaBa with the letter yud.  We begin the bracha with the letter hey of hashiveniu.  We end the bracha with the hey of teshuva, and the exact middle letter is a yud.  Through the process of teshuva, and through our work in saying the 15 words of this bracha, we are able to go from this world, and attain Olam HaBa.  Despite a person constantly swinging from on element of Olam HaZeh and taivos, to another element, represented by the hey’s at the beginning and end of the bracha, all a person needs to recognise is that at his very core, in the middle of him, exists Olam HaBa.  At his very core is spirituality.

If you ever think there is some level that is beyond you, or you feel like you’ve been pushed away, recognise that your essence is pure and holy. That is the beauty and treasure hidden inside every Jewish neshama, and if you could only get the Earth out the way, you’d be able to see it in its full glory.

הָרוצֶה בִּתְשׁוּבָה:

Thank Gd that the Being I’m davening to is You, who wants to see even the tiniest aspect of teshuva as teshuva. How beautiful

The age of prophecy and revelation ended long ago; how do you ever know if you’re on the right track? That your mental model of the world isaccurate and precise? For a start, the self-awareness to ask the question is half the battle.

God doesn’t directly and openly communicate with us, but there are always little signs and indicators if we look for them. When we meet people who are able to open our horizons, when we read books and learn things that expand our consciousness, when we find ourselves in situations that challenge us, and we audit whether we have it right.

He opens our eyes to this. We just have to be looking.  We have to believe we have the coach.  It can’t be that Hashem gave us something we can’t figure out, because there would be no point in that. No-one writes a long work email to a vendor who doesn’t speak English; if God is talks to us in a language we don’t understand, we need to have the understanding to take it to someone to help interpret what it could. Maybe He’s telling you to go to da’as Torah for some guidance.  If you’re attempting to interpret the message l’sheim shamayim, you’ll figure it out, because you’re doing your best.

Aseh lecha rav

Freifel hutner story, god talks to us every day?

Birkas HaShanim – Prosperity

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בָּרֵךְ עָלֵינוּ ה’ אֱלקינוּ אֶת הַשָּׁנָה הַזּאת וְאֶת כָּל מִינֵי תְבוּאָתָהּ לְטובָה.
 בקיץ – וְתֵן בְּרָכָה בחורף – וְתֵן טַל וּמָטָר לִבְרָכָה
עַל פְּנֵי הָאֲדָמָה וְשבְּעֵנוּ מִטּוּבָהּ. וּבָרֵךְ שְׁנָתֵנוּ כַּשָּׁנִים הַטּובות. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, מְבָרֵךְ הַשָּׁנִים:
Bless [on] us, O Lord our God, this year and all its kinds of produce for good (From Passover to December fourth/fifth say: And give a blessing) (From December fourth/fifth to Passover say: Give dew and rain for a blessing) upon the face of the land and satisfy us with Your goodness and bless our year as the good years. Blessed are You, O Lord, Who blesses the years.

This blessing deals with issue of making a livelihood

בָּרֵךְ עָלֵינוּ ה’ אֱלקינוּ

One of the first things we must recognize is that our sustenance does not come by our hand. It’s obvious that you don’t generate your intelligence, or even your health. But we’re all capable of getting a minimum wage and putting basic necessities in our mouths, and it’s the easiest one to take credit for. In the capitalist culture of our day, capital is allocated capital where it is perceived as deserved, so if you make any money, you can feel quite confident that you have earned it.

But have you really?

Like all the prayers, the placement in the order of prayer correlates to something about its essential nature. This is ninth blessing, corresponding to the letter ט – closed on the bottom and open on the top, quite literally shaped like a cup or vessel. It reflects our duty to create vessels open to receiving blessings from Heaven, and it’s one of the harder things to do.

אֶת הַשָּׁנָה הַזּאת

It’s worth noting that we don’t ask God to bless us, or the year, but rather, to bless on us this year – בָּרֵךְ הַשָּׁנָה הַזּאת / בָּרֵךְ עָלֵינוּ ה’ אֱלקינוּ אֶת הַשָּׁנָה הַזּאת.

We have asked for wisdom, repentance, redemption, and health, and we now address our financial wellbeing. The other prayers aren’t requests for wisdom on us, but for our wisdom, etcetera.

But unlike wisdom and health, for example, your wealth is not an element of you – it describes you, but is not you. Some things are part of who you are, some things are just what you do

Wealth is not a part of you, or at least should not be. Perhaps when it becomes a part of you, it stops being the blessing we hope it will be.

Farming

The focal point of this blessing is quite clearly the seasonal agricultural cycle. It touches on the year, the crops, the dew, and the rain. And yet, the prayer concludes with God as Master of Years, when we might reaonably expect it be in keeping with the agricutlturl atheme; perhaos Master of Crops – mevarech hatevuah.

So for some essential reason, the year is different and more important than the object of agriculture.

There’s a minimum a person needs to be considered wealthy, or at least not poor. In our sages time, they benchmarked that someone who couldn’t buy their needs for the entire year is allowed to ask for charity.

Mevarech hashanim

Apart from the liquidity to buy what you need, part of financial wellbeing includes security, which is not the same thing. You can have nothing and live securely, and you can have everything and be utterly insecure. Someone worth hundreds of millions might lose a few million and get depressed and cut back on his charity.

We ask God to bless us with the security of knowing that we are going to be ok, to bless on us that this year and its crops will be ok, that if tomorrow’s wheat fails, we’ll live on something else.

Everyone else too

Part of the prayer is for ourselves, but part is for everyone else as well. We live in a globalized world that is intimately interconnected – if one supply chain fails, it has knock on effects everywhere.

A person can be accustomed to something, beneath which is unthinkable, hedonic adaptation.

We ask God to bless all the different kinds of things people count on to put food on the table, including the things we cannot fathom.

Theres a law to support someone who loses their business at the level they are accustomed to – Dei machsoro. These levels are artificial boundaries we give ourselves permission to enjoy, and we don’t need to justify them, the levels are subjective.

We cars, computers, and smartphones, and that doesn’t mean we’re spoilt. That’s just what people like us do! Our culture determines what is acceptable; you’re not wrong for getting pasta at restaurant when you could have made it at home for less.

Its ok to be comfortable, and we don’t have to give up things we are comfortable with. The trouble only starts when our comforts become a part of us. Sometimes people lose money and get terribly depressed at their loss, when in the objective sense, they’re the same as every one else now. But that doesn’t stop the fact that they lose something, it hurts. So we add a caveat that it be for the best – לְטובָה. Upon us, but not us – Aleinu.

Dew and rain

We adapt our prayers to the seasonal nature of agriculture, asking for rain and dew as blessings. Dew is the moisture that appears every day, and is always a blessing – vein bracha. On the other hand, we need to request that rain appear as a blessing – gishmei bracha – because it isn’t always.

Rain can be blessing or curse. Plants need the right amount of moisture at the right time. Too much rain ruins a crop, not enough rain ruins a crop, and rain at the wrong time ruins a crop.

Dew is gentle – its never the wrong time or wrong amount, so always a blessing

In the material world as well, a big windfall once a year isn’t great, and having a huge yield when your stores are full is not great. Investors can have a real problem when they have too much capital to deploy and no good opportunities to invest in.

We ask for the rain to be good so that everything about it be good as well. We hope to find financalal wellbeing, but getting it when you need it is important as well.

Al Pnei hadama not al hadama. The flood washed away topsoil

Truthful prayer

The Gemara tells a story of the legendary sage, R’ Chanina ben Dosa, who had a rpeutation that
all his prayers were answered in the affirmative. In one instance, R’ Chanina was walking with a candle in the rain, and he sighed that everyone was happy it was raining but he was sad – and the rain stopped. He got home with his candle, and sighed that everyone was sad the rain had stopped yet he was happy – and the rain resumed.

One of our core prayers affirms that God is close those who call on God truthfully – Karov hashem lchol korav lchol Asher yirauhu vemes. R’ Chanina’s core trait in prayer was to be truthful – he was telling the truth in both scenarios. In the first, he felt sorry for himself, and in the second, he felt sorry for others. It was the same problem, but defined in different ways – him as opposed to others.

One of the powers of a prayer is to help us define the problems before us, and perhaps helping us formulate them differently .

When R’ Chanina was caught in the rain, it may have been good for everyone but it wasn’t good for him, so he couldn’t truthfully pray for what they needed – it was a zero sum problem, where someone had to lose for someone else to win.

But problems don’t have to be zero sum; there are positive sum problems where everyone can win. Instead of my business canniballising from your sales, people can simply buy more from both! Far too often, we begrudge people success because it’s at our expense, when it really isn’t like that.

Al Pnei hadama

Reward and punishment is a cornerstone of Jewish belief – ani maamin. While we can’t really understand how it works – tzadik vra lo / schar mitzvah bhai alma leka, our sages suggest that plenty of good deeds have tangible effects in the real world that exist apart from the heavenly metaphysical part that is reserved for the hereafter.

Our sages use a metaphor of a heavenly treasury that awaits us when we pass on the to the world to come, and they were terrified of depleting it for currency to use in this world. Story of golden table leg.

Yakov katonti.

We don’t have to understand the divine financial system to understand that we’d prefer to have our blessings come from our own hands, from the good deeds we do as opposed to miracles or special favors – Al Pnei hadama.

We want our blessings to come from here, rather than squander the precious worlds we’ve built, and in harder times, we should remind ourselves that we’re not depleting what matters – keen kayemes Lolam haha.

וְשבְּעֵנוּ מִטּוּבָהּ

Asking God to satisfy us with goodness is a great sounding request that is actually pretty meaningless; God is good and everything God does is God, and we can still be miserable and unhappy.

It’s not a request for God’s goodness to satisfy us; it’s a request for us to be satisfied with the goodness God sends our way. It’s a prayer to not be needy and high maintenance, to be satisfied even if the world isn’t at our fingertips.

Some children will be overjoyed with a birthday cake and a toy, and others will have a tantrum if they don’t get to buy the entire store. It might be great to get everything you want – but you still want to person in the first example, not the second – Sabeinu mituvecha.

The Gemara talks about our great mother Sarah’s bread, and its legendary property of being blessed in people’s stomachs – mevarech bmeiav, a property also shared by the manna. (Double check).

There are times in our lives we just need some more than we’ve got, and other times where we need to be happy with less. Not to suggest that we need to settle for less – it is human nature to strive, and your spirit must always persist. But that being said, it is possible for people to need less, even if they don’t always want less.

There’s a certain amount that you need, and god can make that amount less – Sabeinu mituvecha.

וּבָרֵךְ שְׁנָתֵנוּ כַּשָּׁנִים הַטּובות

All too often, people often have selective memories, and fondly remember the good old days.

But we never seem to notice when we’re in them.

So we fervently ask to recognize the good times to be now, not to wait til later; prospectively today, not only in hindsight.

Our nature seems to be to have something and want more – Yesh mana ratza masayim

A poor man has something that kings do not. A poor man is only ever a few coins short of what he wants, and if a king can’t get what he wants, it must be very out of reach.

The more you have, the more you want. If you only need one bite today, you need one bite tomorrow; if you have five today, you need five tomorrow as well.

But in truth, good times in hindsight is a good blessing as well. It is entirely possible that in the ashes of misery, the seeds of the future are already growing underground, well on their way to blessings down the road – hazorim bdima Brian yiktzoru.

Even in hard times, you can be certain that there are blessings in play you will be able to look back on, even if they’re out of sight.

Refuah – Healing

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רְפָאֵנוּ ה’ וְנֵרָפֵא. הושִׁיעֵנוּ וְנִוָּשֵׁעָה כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה. וְהַעֲלֵה רְפוּאָה שְׁלֵמָה לְכָל מַכּותֵינוּ כִּי קל מֶלֶךְ רופֵא נֶאֱמָן וְרַחֲמָן אָתָּה. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, רופֵא חולֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל – Heal us, Hashem, and we shall be healed, save us and we shall be saved, for You are our praise. Bring complete healing to all our wounds, for You are God and King, the faithful and merciful healer. Blessed are You, Hsahem, Who heals the sick of his people Israel.

Health

Of all the prayers that might be hard to relate to, this isn’t one of them.

This subject triggers the strongest and most visceral emotions in people and is the one people can say with the most intensity and with good reason.

Health is the foundation upon which all other blessings rest.

A healthy person wants many things; a sick person only wants one.

Without health, all the blessings in the world fall flat. If you or someone you love is unwell, the richness of life dims, and everything else is background noise.

For most people, this blessing is usually the most relatable and straightforward blessing to connect with, reminding us of our shared vulnerabilities and hopes.

Eights and Healing

Our sages placed the blessing for health as the eighth blessing in the Amida.

The number eight is associated with circumcision, the obligation of which begins on the eighth day of birth. Circumcision is closely associated with our ancestor Avraham and is associated with healing.

The Torah describes how Avraham sat at the entrance to his tent under the scorching sun three days after his circumcision. During this vulnerable moment, he was visited by three angels, each bearing a different purpose. Among them was Raphael, the angel of healing, whose presence underscores a deep bond between the act of Bris and the divine aspect of healing.

The narrative of Avraham, sitting at the entrance of his tent under the scorching sun merely three days after his circumcision, provides a rich backdrop to this connection. During this vulnerable moment, he was visited by three angels, each bearing a different purpose. Among them was Raphael, the angel of healing, whose presence emphasizes the association between circumcision and healing.

The manifestation of divine healing in response to circumcision is deliberate and suggestive; there is no indication that if Avraham had broken his arm, he would have received this visit.

Circumcision is a powerful symbol, far more than an exterior sign on our bodies; Judaism’s initiation ritual for men symbolizes the action we are called upon to take to enhance our world, a living articulation of the covenant itself to elevate, refine, and improve the world around us. It suggests that our base instincts and desires can be controlled and subordinated to the meaning and purpose of life in service of the Creator.

When Avraham first practiced circumcision and committed himself to meaning and purpose, it introduced the power of divine healing into the world.

In a certain limited sense, there is a reflection of the similarity between circumcision and sickness, where if we can find meaning and purpose in sickness, we might discover healing.

(Or is it in our search for healing we might discover meaning and purpose in sickness)

Ancestors

A recurring theme in the stories of our ancestors is that they all frustratingly experienced the challenge of infertility.

We live in a world that, for all appearances, seems random. Unfortunately, things statistically occur for reasons we cannot understand. The best thing we can do is take our sage’s view and do what we can with our challenges.

But patterns tell stories; when a pattern emerges, that is something to take note of and consider. Our matriarchs were infertile in three separate instances, and they were not closely related. Our sages conclude from these stories that the Creator desires righteous prayers, the kind of prayers that emerge from moments a person progresses in their righteousness. In the moments we transform, the inputs in the Divine equation change; perhaps the outcome for the person you were before was this, and the outcome for the person you are becoming is that.

Avraham circumcised himself with commitment and was met with healing.

All our ancestors turned to the Creator for healing with commitments about the lives they would lead; their requests were eventually met with healing.

If their model is an example, sickness is a catalyst and stimulus that raises our awareness of our boundaries and limitations so that we turn to, connect with, and lean on the Creator; healing transcends the simple physical recovery and is intimately linked to spiritual alignment, reflecting a holistic return to spiritual health and alignment within the covenant.

We turn to the Creator for renewal and ultimate healing in every sense, for physical and spiritual well-being – רְפָאֵנוּ ה.

Magic of Medicine

In an age of unprecedented medical advancement, modern medicine’s feats look like what our ancestors would call magic and witchcraft. We can see inside the body and cure illnesses with potions. However, the advanced technologies and treatments present a spiritual challenge; our laparoscopic surgeries, understanding of microbes, and specialized therapies make it easy to overlook the divine role in healing.

Historically, limited medical knowledge meant that turning to God in prayer was often the only recourse in the face of illness; before the discovery of antibiotics in the twentieth century, a simple ear infection would be fatal three-quarters of the time.

Today, with the advances in scientific understanding in multiple fields, healthcare outcomes for everyone are dramatically better, even without turning to the divine. The reality is that people who don’t turn to God have excellent health outcomes; studies have failed to demonstrate that prayer improves health outcomes.

Doctors and nurses who dedicated their lives to science and medicine are heroes who save lives and deserve genuine and heartfelt thanks and appreciation.

While that is true, we must also remember that they are not the source of healing; we must see past the surface and recognize the angel’s name is Rapha-El – God is the healer. Doctors, nurses, science, and medicine are necessary and vital. Following what the experienced and trained professionals have to say is essential. Still, we must remember that they are tools, instruments, and vehicles for divine healing because only the Creator heals – ‘רְפָאֵנוּ ה.

Whatever Providence has in store does not negate human agency; the instruments of healing are not just tools of science but also instruments of divine will.

Part of what we must pray for is to access and encounter the right instruments and messengers at the right moment, whether it’s the right referral, the right advice, the right treatment – ‘רְפָאֵנוּ ה.

Every healing is a partnership between human endeavor and divine blessing, urging us to maintain humility and gratitude, regardless of the sophistication of our tools. Even as we marvel at the capabilities of modern medicine, we continue to recognize and honor the divine source from which all healing ultimately flows – ‘רְפָאֵנוּ ה.

Miracles 

A man once came to the Chazon Ish asking for a blessing to heal from a particular respiratory disease. The Chazon Ish blessed him and instructed him to move to a specific town, and he recovered. Years later, the Chazon Ish explained that there is a halachic debate about the status of an animal with this respiratory disease and whether it would survive or not; the Chazon Ish sent the man to the jurisdiction of the authority who ruled that the animal could survive, affirming life and the potential for recovery.

This story is an anecdote. It is not data or science. It isn’t good life advice. It might not be true. But it’s a reminder of where ultimate healing comes from when things line up and work out.

In the world of medicine and health, clinical precision and scientific evidence reign. However, the spiritual dimension also exists and invites us to see beyond the immediate physical remedies. It reminds us that while we pursue the best possible medical care, our hearts, and hopes should be aligned with a higher source of healing. Medical professionals and patients alike could say a short prayer before a visit, a simple acknowledgment that while humans can provide care, only the Creator can ultimately offer healing.

This approach does not diminish the value or necessity of medical expertise; rather, it enhances it by framing medical practice as a divine service, integrating faith with action, and encouraging a holistic view in which spiritual health and physical health are interconnected and the healing process is as much about the soul as it is about the body.

It’s not down to the right doctor, treatment, dosage, or timing. That could be how healing manifests, but that’s not where healing comes from.

Healing comes from one place – ‘רְפָאֵנוּ ה.

Let us be healed – וְנֵרָפֵא

When something is wrong, you can treat the symptom, or you can treat the cause. Treating the symptoms is acceptable and even necessary in the short run – because it hurts! Medicine is critical for immediate relief and comfort. But in the long run, you also need to treat the root cause of the systemic issue.

You can tape over the leak, paint the mold, and turn it off and on again. That’ll work until it doesn’t.

We aren’t seeking temporary relief from pain and discomfort; we seek comprehensive and holistic healing that restores balance and wellness at the most fundamental levels.

Let us be healed – וְנֵרָפֵא.

You have to want it

This blessing suggests that there are two parts to healing: God sending healing and our bodies receiving it – רְפָאֵנוּ ה’ וְנֵרָפֵא.

It does not follow that a person will be healed just because God sends healing.

Not everybody wants to be healed or safe; not everybody wants to do what they need to do to heal. Sometimes, people’s fear of the side effects, physical or psychological, outweighs the fear of the problems themselves. An older person might waste away alone because they are embarrassed to go out and be seen in a wheelchair. Someone might not want to go through chemotherapy and lose their hair.

The healing has been sent; it is right there and frequently works. But they might not want it. This reluctance is not just about vanity or superficial concerns; it often signifies a deeper fear of losing control, facing vulnerability, or confronting the reality of one’s mortality.

Beyond a straightforward request for healing, we pray for the strength to do what it takes to receive healing, for the ability to accept and undertake the course of action required for good health – וְנֵרָפֵא.

הושִׁיעֵנוּ וְנִוָּשֵׁעָה

We asked for the physical aspect of healing, where medicine and human effort play significant roles. We are partners in the healing process, where we utilize medical interventions and our bodies respond to them. This corresponds to God as Helper, where there is a partnership between the divine and the human; it is only helping when people are at least trying to help themselves – עוֹזֵר.

We then ask for salvation, for healing of the spirit in the times an individual’s capacity to contribute to their healing is diminished or nonexistent due to extreme frailty, psychological barriers like fear or depression, or simply the severity of the illness.

This corresponds to God as Savior, a more passive form of divine intervention where salvation is entirely dependent on God’s grace, reflecting situations where our efforts are insufficient, wholly reliant on divine deliverance – מוֹשִׁיעַ.

Sometimes, the biology of an illness will dictate the course of events regardless of the patient’s attitude and fighting spirit. These events are often beyond our control. However, patients with positive attitudes can better cope with disease-related problems and may respond better to treatments. Many physicians have seen how two patients of similar ages and with the same diagnosis, degree of illness, and treatment program experience vastly different results.

Medical professionals often observe that a patient’s will to recover can significantly influence outcomes and vice versa. It is not just the body that must be treated but also the spirit; a hopeful, fighting spirit can make the critical difference between recovery and deterioration.

For the times we might be exhausted without any fight left in us – הושִׁיעֵנוּ וְנִוָּשֵׁעָה.

Visiting

There is a special mitzvah to visit and extend aid to the sick. Many organizations work to support sick people and their visitors by providing logistical support like kosher food and tefillin. Our sages had much to say about the merits of this kind deed. Still, it’s self-evident that showing up for people you love and showing that you care and are invested in their recovery makes a positive difference and that abandoning them in their pain and hour of need is bad and wrong.

R’ Yitzchak Hutner was a Rosh Yeshiva renowned for his wit. Sick in hospital, a student came to visit his teacher and mentor. The great rabbi asked his guest why he had come, and the young man responded that it was a great mitzvah to visit the sick. R’ Hutner challenged his visitor in characteristic form, “Am I your Lulav? Did you come to shake me?”

The correct response should probably have been that he had come to visit his beloved teacher, demonstrating his emotional support and personal connection. While many mitzvos and rituals have an accompanying blessing to initiate the action, the Rashba notes that interpersonal mitzvos do not have such a blessing; making a blessing before helping another person would be dehumanizing, instrumentalizing a person into an object you do a mitzvah with, eroding the mitzvah entirely.

The Torah has a prominent spiritual dimension, but its interpersonal aspect is coequal, interdependent, and reciprocal. It can be easy to get carried away with the spiritual trappings of helping people without being concerned about the person.

The Alter of Kelm suggests that the most pristine form of kindness is not the person who helps others because the Torah says so; rather, it is the person who empathizes with the recipient and gives because he is moved by their needs. In this reading, charity and helping others is an extension of loving your neighbor. Most people don’t eat because it’s a mitzvah to protect their bodies; they eat because they feel hungry; the Alter says to treat the needs of another the same way. Don’t help people because it’s a mitzvah. Help people because you empathize with their pain to such a degree that if they are hungry, you are hungry, and when you are hungry, you eat.

Visiting the sick is not a halachic technicality or a simple social obligation. It is an act of spiritual and emotional support that is as vital to healing and recovery as any medicine and treatment; the presence of a visitor, their face, their smile, their stories, and their support can uplift the patient. Most importantly, the good wishes, hopes, and prayers you share are essential for healing; our sages teach that if you don’t pray for the sick person during your visit, you haven’t actually visited at all. Imagine the doctor coming in and checking the charts but not treating the patient!

If healing is in the hands of the Creator, doctors and medicine are tools, but so are everyone else; nurses, family, and friends are all instruments through which God’s healing can manifest. The doctor’s skill and experience will inform the treatment the body needs, but the whole person, the mind and soul, also needs healing.

We don’t need to check on the sick; sickness does not need supervision.

We visit to bring healing, sometimes in greater and sometimes in lesser forms. We lighten the mood, brighten the day, provide a welcome distraction, take their minds off things, and give them something to look forward to. And we wish them better!

If you’re visiting the sick, you’ve only done your job if tomorrow will be better because you came to visit today.

כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה

(!ed Shlomo – this needs heavy reworking for sensitivity and correctness. Why bad things happen, why bad things happen to good people, etc

Requires broader analysis of outcome distributions and probabilistic things

There is no silver bullet

People can do perfect treatment and die

People can be perfectly healthy and drop dead

Bad things happen to good people all the time)

We affirm that the Creator is the ultimate source of healing and salvation – כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

Beyond giving credit where it’s due, this touches on the relationship between human suffering, divine intervention, and gratitude.

We live in a world where sickness occurs in statistically predictable probabilities; that just seems to be how the world works.

When mature people are in pain, they ask why. When we ask why, we don’t necessarily mean the big global and universal why; we understand that the universe is much bigger than any of us. Moshe asked for this insight, which God said was beyond human comprehension. When we ask why, it is a search for meaning.

We believe that one of the qualities of sickness and healing is that they have the power and capacity to draw us closer to God and to cultivate an attitude of gratitude for life and health, not to take them for granted.

By affirming that the Creator is the ultimate source of healing and salvation, we actively engage with faith and reliance on Divine Providence by acknowledging that imperfections and pain can have a purpose; it neutralizes the sting of suffering ever so slightly and takes the edge off by framing illness within a larger, meaningful context. Perhaps if we have learned that lesson early enough, the pain itself becomes redundant, not because the physical discomfort necessarily ceases, but because its purpose as a catalyst for spiritual growth diminishes.

If a student doesn’t do their homework, it might be understandable for a teacher to give the student detention until they complete their work. If the student has done everything expected and gets detention anyway, the teacher is harsh and unfair.

We do not believe in a Creator who is gratuitously cruel or vindictive; there is always a lesson to be learned from our challenges, and there is always meaning to be found if we search hard enough.

While the emotional and existential struggles that come with pain and suffering are real, Judaism frames them within a context of growth and ultimate good, which can be a difficult yet powerful perspective where humans are actively engaged with Divine will and their challenges through prayer, reflection, and growth.

Why get sick

Only the Creator can grant health, but why create sickness?

This is an expression of the question of theodicy, the problem of evil. Why does a God who is good let bad things happen?

The question is far too good; it has stood the test of time.

It is a product of the simple and factual observation that our universe is a complex place that is hard to make sense of.

But what we affirm is that whether in sickness or in health, we will praise the Creator is the ultimate source of healing and salvation – כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

It remains true even when we are hurting, even in dark moments and hard times. However lofty and remote it might be to attain, our sages suggest we bless the Creator for bad times as well as good times כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

Sure, everyone is super thankful in the event of miraculous stories. But it’s entirely inadequate for leave gratitude for when everyone lives happily ever after; we mustn’t overlook the recognition of God’s hand in the middle of the storm before the story concludes. Even in the midst of hardship, the very capacity to endure and eventually overcome affliction is, in itself, a form of divine kindness that is worthy of gratitude – כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

The power of sickness to frame health is hard to overstate.

When someone is sick and recovers, is the recovery a miracle? Or is it that the body functioned normally before and does once again?

Sickness reveals the abundance of blessings we are showered with every single day, the continuous miracles without which we have nothing at all. For every day you and your loved ones wake up, for every breath, every sight, every scent, and the list goes on forever; count your blessings, be thankful, and do not take them for granted – כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

This blessing is about integrating recognition of God’s greatness and gratitude into every aspect of life, not just in challenging times of sickness or recovery, but also in everyday normalcy as well, to live with gratitude and an orientation of praise for every part of daily living – כִּי תְהִלָּתֵנוּ אָתָּה.

וְהַעֲלֵה רְפוּאָה שְׁלֵמָה לְכָל מַכּותֵינוּ

The Hebrew word for wound or strike carries deep symbolic weight, particularly when considering the Ten Plagues in Egypt – מַכּות.

In a broader context, it represents any form of affliction or injury that leaves a lasting impact, whether physically, emotionally, or psychologically.

When you bump yourself, the sharp pain may disappear quickly, but it will leave its mark as a bruise; most immediate symptoms are temporary but can leave more serious, more lasting effects. The experience of being sick can be similar, altering a person’s outlook long after the illness has passed; the aftereffects of an illness can be subtle yet profound.

This can manifest as increased caution, fear, or a shift in how one approaches life and makes decisions; the strike of being ill spills over into the psychological and emotional imprint it leaves. Sometimes, athletes aren’t the same after an injury; even after complete rehabilitation, they won’t push their bodies in the way they once did. Someone who has been seriously ill may become more cautious, perhaps overly so, affecting their quality of life and decision-making. They might also experience a shift in their worldview, seeing life as more fragile or themselves as more vulnerable.

Our prayers often include a plea for the healing of the soul alongside the healing of the body, acknowledging that the scars left by illness are not always visible and that the journey to recovery is not only about the physical cessation of disease but also about overcoming the fear and trauma that may have been inflicted.

When someone is sick, especially for a long period, they don’t just suffer physically. The isolation, the disruption to normal life, and the fear can lead to a profound sense of despair or feeling “cursed,” as if the sickness is a form of divine punishment or neglect.

So we ask God for an uplifting healing, a healing that lifts our spirits and makes up for what we have missed; our headspace needs healing too – וְהַעֲלֵה.

And we ask for healing that is complete, that cures physical symptoms and beyond, restoring balance to the mind and spirit as well as the body, recognizing that true recovery encompasses all aspects of a person’s being – וְהַעֲלֵה רְפוּאָה שְׁלֵמָה לְכָל מַכּותֵינוּ.

In moments we might otherwise feel forgotten or punished, we reaffirm that the Creator is faithful and merciful, that the experience of illness is a part of a larger, compassionate divine plan rather than a curse – כִּי כֵּל מֶלֶךְ רוֹפֵא נֶאֱמָן וְרַחֲמָן אַתָּה.

Statement

In our prayer structure, the formula typically includes the blessing itself, a statement summarizing the theme of the blessing, and then the formal closing of the blessing.

We have asked for healing in all its forms, and sum up why we have asked the Creator for healing; because that is what He does – כִּי כֵּל מֶלֶךְ רוֹפֵא נֶאֱמָן וְרַחֲמָן אַתָּה.

While prayer in general and the Amida especially have an inclusive approach that covers pretty much anything we could imagine, the prayer for healing just feels different when there is someone and something specific in mind.

The best time to pause and think about the specific people and things and add personal supplications or expressions is at the summarizing statement and before the closing of a blessing, where we define the Creator as the final address and recourse for what we need. Our prayers are customizable and flexible and allow for the individual expression of our needs and desires.

(ed! Shlomo – need help with this.

If God withholds things from us to build a relationship, then turning to God is part of the process of getting what we need.

When someone has trouble with fertility, digestion, or mental health, it all falls under the category of healing.

For all the stories of magical cures, magical healing, and old women having babies, there are many unfortunate stories of people who did not get those things. We need constant reminders that God is our trustworthy healer —rofei neeman.

Sometimes, the sickness is better than the healing. Sometimes, the healing isn’t worth being better. We pray for our healing to be the kind that makes us feel God’s compassion.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, רופֵא חולֵי עַמּו יִשרָאֵל – Greater Israel 

We conclude our prayer affirming that God heals all the sick of Israel.

Similar to the public prayer for healing on Shabbos, whomever we have in mind is part of our wider commitment to the collective well-being of the community, not just one person’s individual needs – בתוך שאר חולי ישראל.

Our sages consistently reinforce the sanctity and power of groups; almost all sacred gatherings require a group, from prayers and sacrifices to reading the Torah and weddings – כל דבר שבקדושה לא יהא פחות מעשרה. When we stand alone in prayer, we are evaluated on our own merits; by shifting the focus from individual suffering to a collective experience and standing with and for others, we are asking for communal healing and the greater good, and it is not about us at all.

Moreover, when sickness stops you from taking up your place for greater Israel, standing for the Jewish People in public service to the community in whatever ways you are meant to, then your healing isn’t a personal indulgence either and elevates our healing from elevates the act of seeking health from a personal matter to a communal and holy endeavor of national importance.

What if it was real

When someone is waiting for a kidney transplant, they mean their prayers.

If someone is applying to participate in an experimental breakthrough clinical trial, how persuasive would they be?

Our prayers hit differently when we believe them and say them like they’re true, whether for ourselves, our loved ones, or the needs of strangers. Our prayers for healing are true, whether for sickness or heartbreak; we must feel as passionately for others, showing empathy and support and recognizing their struggles as our own.

If you and the people you love are well, may you continue to be well. Be a tool that brings joy, happiness, and healing that uplifts others, and use this prayer as a conduit to bring God’s healing into the world.

God can save us, and God can help us. If you can do the work, doing the work can be good for you; being saved is a last resort, and you don’t want that.

We’d rather have easy, pain-free lives, but that’s not up to us; that’s not how the universe works. There are some kinds of pain we need to learn to live with – al korchach ata nolad etc CITE.

We live in a world where bad things happen for reasons we cannot understand. After the fact that we live in a world like that, the best thing you can do is take our sage’s view and do what you can with our challenges; see them as a growth opportunity, to introspect and use them as growth opportunities.

We don’t get to choose our ordeals, but our sages teach that when they come, we should introspect –  yefashfesh bmaasav. It’s cruel to say it to others, but in a certain sense, perhaps it is the only way to respond. We can’t know why bad things happen to us, but we can ask ourselves what we will do about it.

In a story about a deadly snake terrorizing a town, our sages concluded that snakes don’t kill people; sin does. This doesn’t work when directed towards others; the opposite of introspection is critical judgment. Our sages’ textbook example of hurtful speech is telling someone that their pain and suffering result from their sin. R’ Chaim Vittal teaches that it is beyond disgraceful to say to people that their suffering is because of their sins, whether in general or particular; it’s unknowable and entirely beyond human comprehension. That suffering could be something that substitutes for something worse or cleanses a person in some way by who they become as a result – yisruim shel ahahah.

Our sages teach that there’s an element of sin to our suffering. It doesn’t mean that anyone deserves their suffering, quite the opposite; it just means that sin is universal – ein tzadik ba’aretz. No one has the ability or wisdom to know how sin results in real-world consequences, but maybe it’s a little hook that opens the door, and that’s enough.

If you put up a steel fence around a property but leave a gap two feet wide, the fence might be bulletproof, but the perimeter isn’t secure. One point of failure, one single vulnerability that can be compromised, and there’s a way in.

No one is perfect; when people get sick, remind them it’s not their fault, and support them with love and understanding, and your prayers of course.

May you never know the pain of removing someone’s name from your prayer list because they have passed. May you only experience the joy in removing someone from that list because they have healed.

Hashem Sefasai Tiftach – Getting Out of Your Own Way

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אֲדֹנָי שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶךָ – My Master, open my lips, and my mouth will declare Your praises… (Psalms 51:17)

Mental orientation

In the physical space we inhabit, the preferable standard orientation for prayer is to face the direction of Jerusalem and the Beis HaMikdash. Across the world, shuls are conventionally designed this way, with the congregation facing Jerusalem. It makes sense; where we are in the physical or spiritual universe is relative to a fixed point, Jerusalem, the seat of the sacred.

If you’re somewhere unfamiliar and not sure which way Jerusalem is, the law allows you to simply direct your heart to heaven; your intention bridges the gap between physical reality and spiritual aspiration, and the prayer is just as good and counts just the same; . When you know where to go, head that way, and if you ever get disoriented, turn your heart to Heaven.

People make mistakes and lose their way. But the funny thing is, wherever you find yourself in the physical or spiritual universe, however off course, it’s actually not hard at all to course correct; you just have to turn the right way, and now you’re on the right track again, and God was never far away – כִּי לֹא תַחְפֹּץ בְּמוֹת הַמֵּת, כִּי אִם בְּשׁוּבוֹ מִדַּרְכּוֹ וְחָיָה, וְעַד יוֹם מוֹתוֹ תְּחַכֶּה לוֹ, אִם יָשׁוּב מִיַּד תְּקַבְּלוֹ.

The first step of making amends can be as simple as turning in the right direction.

Legs Locked

Amida literally means standing; the convention for the Amida is to stand upright with feet together for the duration of the prayer. The Rashba explains that keeping our legs locked symbolizes our dependence on the Creator, that we are stuck and totally helpless on our own, and that we move only with God’s assistance.

Context

(!ed does this belong in intro section on being honest about prayer?)

Understanding life’s complexities often hinges on grasping context, orientation, or perspective, which serve as foundational tools. Rather than defaulting to universal responses, life’s intricacies and nuances demand a more relative approach.

For example, our ancestor Avraham was renowned for his characteristic of kindness, which is why binding his son as a sacrifice presented a profound ordeal. The challenge wasn’t simply the act of sacrifice but the fundamental conflict it presented to Avraham’s character as well. In stark contrast, for most of Avraham’s Ancient Near East contemporaries, human sacrifice was perfectly normal and would present no challenge whatsoever.

Our actions, choices, and decisions are deeply influenced by our unique contexts, a principle that extends into the realm of prayer. It prompts us to consider not only the words we speak but also to deeply reflect on our identity, location, the Divine presence we address, and the intentions behind our prayers, highlighting the significance of context in shaping our spiritual expressions and choices.

אֲדֹנָי שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶֽךָ – Hashem, open my lips, and my mouth will tell your praises

אֲדֹנָי

It’s a foundational tenet of monotheism that there is one deity, the absolute and indivisible One God – Hashem Echad. The existence of God is enormously consequential to how we experience life in multiple ways. In particular, it means there exists a higher authority and that our lives unfold within the context of larger unseen forces working towards their own purpose in the universe, far beyond our comprehension. It means our lives play out on a gigantic canvas and that we matter.

While we can understand what it might mean for us that God exists, we are extremely far removed from what God is; about 60 percent of human genes have a recognizable counterpart in a banana! We may think a human is vastly different from a banana, but we are not, and we have many overlapping functions, like consuming oxygen.

The Ramchal explains that the nature of God is simply and entirely beyond our grasp, but we can readily understand how we experience God’s interactions. So, although there is one God, God also has many names, each describing a particular aspect or expression of God as experienced by humans in a given moment. But what we experience isn’t exactly what it is, only what it’s like; when we feel anger or pride, they are separate and distinct traits, but God isn’t human, so he doesn’t experience emotions as humans do. God isn’t moody or volatile; God doesn’t change. 

So while different expressions or interactions come from different places in humans, in God, they somehow originate from the same place, so much so that the Tachanun prayer quotes from Tehilim – בְּרֹגֶז רַחֵם תִּזְכּוֹר – in anger, remember compassion. This would be laughable to say to an angry person, an oxymoron almost, and yet it’s something we can ask God for, to remember compassion amidst anger. Because, for God, they come from the same place. 

In multiple places the Torah asks us to emulate God – אַחֲרֵי ה׳ אֱלֹקיכֶם תֵּלֵכוּ / וּבוֹ תִדְבָּק / לָלֶכֶת בְּכָל דְּרָכָיו / לָלֶכֶת בְּכָל דְּרָכָיו וּלְדָבְקָה בוֹ / וְהָלַכְתָּ בִּדְרָכָיו. It’s one of Judaism’s broadest and all-encompassing guiding principles, following God’s ways: imitatio Dei. God visited Avraham when he was sick, so we should visit the sick. God buried Moshe, so we should bury the dead. God is kind and merciful; we should be kind and merciful. But while aspirational and noble, it doesn’t entirely paint the complete picture. God is angry and jealous at times, so maybe we should get angry and jealous at times! The Ran explains that we can’t emulate God’s anger or jealousy because they are simultaneously imbued with love and compassion in a way we cannot emulate; we can only emulate what we can grasp. We know what love and compassion look and feel like, so those are the ones we copy.

אֲדֹנָי

YHVH describes God’s timeless and eternal being, and ELKM describes omnipotent power. Both are complex philosophically and a little remote from our daily lived experience, but אֲדֹנָי is the simplest – mastery. When Avraham was recovering from his circumcision and went out to look for guests, God sent three angels in the guide of men, and Avraham ran to greet them, showing them great deference and reverence, calling them his masters.

Rashi explains that mastery has a sacred and profane aspect, and different applications can illuminate different contexts. Are we slaves to the Master of the universe? It doesn’t feel that way. What’s compelling you to be observant right this minute? What will happen if you stop? If we can stop being observant right now and not get struck by lightning or cancer, are we enslaved? But if the sacred aspect is remote, the profane aspect certainly isn’t. Do we feel there is an external force that influences our lives? אֲדֹנָי is the most common usage and also the most genuine that exists in the sacred and the profane. Before understanding how to engage with God, the Almighty Master and Creator of the universe, we intuitively understand how to relate to God, the Master of health, the Master of children, and the Master of business. That universal access point is אֲדֹנָי

שְׂפָתַי

The simple meaning is lips, but it also means boundaries; when a baby Moshe could no longer be concealed by his mother, she left him on the banks of the Nile river – וַתָּשֶׂם בַּסּוּף עַל־שְׂפַת הַיְאֹר.

Our lips are the threshold that divides the interior body from the exterior and are the only external body part of our body made of the inside of our bodies – try running your tongue through your cheek and across your lips – your lips are a part of your mouth, not your skin. As the threshold between interior and exterior, our lips control and convey what is happening inside – or not. When our lips are closed, they form a rigid boundary, and there is no telling what the person is thinking or experiencing; you are limited to what’s happening facially and superficially at the surface. Perhaps we open our prayer by asking that our lips not be boundaries to what we’d like to say – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

But maybe there’s more to it than that. Imagine an educated and accomplished banker or lawyer, well-heeled and successful. If the market collapses and unemployment skyrockets, firms shut down and lay people off. Like everyone else, this poor man loses his job, and there are no jobs. But he hears the local municipality is hiring trash pickers. He shows up to the interview, gets the job and a nice high-visibility uniform, and gets a nice trash-grabbing tool, so he doesn’t have to bend down each time. Content that he has a job and conscious that he’s better off than most, he does it for a week. He takes a break and stands by the road on the sidewalk, leaning by a lamppost, watching the cars go by. A few minutes go by, and suddenly, a car is speeding way too close to the curb, and our friend has to leap out of the way to avoid getting injured. He picks himself up and dusts his uniform when, to his dismay, he sees his trash picker lying a few feet away, smashed to pieces in the commotion. In utter despair, the man falls to his knees and screams through tears with a heartrending look to the heavens, “Come on, God! Can I catch a break, seriously!? Please, please, God, help me fix my trash picker!” 

The story is quite obviously absurd. God can fix your trash picker, but God can get you a new one, help you find another job, or turn the entire economy around from depression to boom times. But the joke’s on us because we all regularly make this exact mistake! We have lists of things we think we want, all the outcomes we’re banking on, and every single one of those is a boundary we are putting up – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח

If you’ve ever seen a horse and carriage on the street, you’ll notice the horse’s harnesses always have blinders. These blinders are critical for road safety; they reduce visual distractions from the horse’s peripheral vision, enhancing the horse’s concentration and focus on the road straight ahead. Sometimes, focusing on the task ahead is imperative, but it’s not universally applicable. But there are plenty of times you must take the blinders off to think and see bigger than the problem!

In our prayers every morning, we thank God for opening our eyes, but that, too, is about so much more than physical sight; it’s about perspective and mental and emotional sight as well. When we put up our mental blinders and boundaries, we restrict ourselves from ever thinking bigger than the problem right ahead – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח

When your uncle asks what you want for your birthday, is the correct answer a pizza or a Ferrari? The right answer would depend on so many things, including how wealthy your uncle is and how generous he is. When asked what you want for your birthday, a Ferrari is wrong because the giver is limited. God has no limits, no boundaries; we do – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

If God were a genie in a magic lamp granting you three wishes, it’s the same effort to grant a wish for a Porsche as a potato. Now, God isn’t a genie, and God isn’t Santa Claus. But the point is, the difference between a Porsche and a potato isn’t in the giver; it’s in the recipient, in us, specifically in our boundaries, and all the things holding us back – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

The Gemara teaches that even when the executioner’s sword is on your neck, you still mustn’t give up hope that somehow things will turn around; when Moshe faced execution under Pharaoh, his neck turned miraculously hardened like stone. If we open ourselves up to the notion of taking down our boundaries, we’ll find that the bounds are endless – שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

וּפִי יַגִּיד תְּהִלָּתֶֽךָ – and my mouth will tell your praises

Like any language, there’s many ways to say something, and the word we use to describe the speech also describes something about the way it is said – like speaking, shouting, whispering. The word used for the speaking here is a harsh form of speaking, like telling an uncomfortable truth. Rashi on Ko sagid says dvarim kashim kgidim. It’s speech that has a certain sense of harshness to it. But the harshness isn’t directed at God; it’s at ourselves.

There are times we are a little too feel-good about God and religion (“Oh, you know why your wife has cancer and you lost your job? Because Hashem loves you!”). Sometimes, the truth and reality are harsh; they don’t always feel so good. It’s a harsh truth that God is not just the Master in general and my Master in particular – אֲדֹנָי. It is painful to admit that we are not completely in control and that, actually, we are almost entirely helpless.

Genetics drives a substantial part of healthcare predispositions and outcomes. Financial markets drive a substantial part of business fortunes. The family you are born into enormously impacts your character traits and emotional and mental composition.

Anyone with a smidge of self-awareness and intellectual honesty will readily admit that timing and luck played enormous roles in their successes. But the inverse is true as well; when we hear that someone loses their sanity or something tragic happens, is it something they did to themselves? Does anyone seriously think there is a 1:1 linearity between people suffering and their sins? You’d have to be incredibly cruel or immature to think so. They are called the less fortunate for good reason – it’s not a euphemism.

It does not feel good to lack control, and we develop sophisticated mental models to provide the illusion of feeling in control of our lives. Not being in control is something that happens to others! Someone else gets sick, someone else’s business is struggling, someone else’s marriage is facing difficulties… The harsh truth is targeted at ourselves, who think we have it together because your life is only ever one phone call away from going completely off the rails.

It takes nothing to ruin our health. The first substantive Bracha of the day for most of us is probably the blessing after the bathroom – אֲשֶׁר יָצַר:

אֲשֶׁר יָצַר אֶת הָאָדָם בְּחָכְמָה וּבָרָא בוֹ נְקָבִים נְקָבִים חֲלוּלִים חֲלוּלִים. גָּלוּי וְיָדוּעַ לִפְנֵי כִסֵּא כְבוֹדֶךָ שֶׁאִם יִפָּתֵחַ אֶחָד מֵהֶם אוֹ יִסָּתֵם אֶחָד מֵהֶם אִי אֶפְשַׁר לְהִתְקַיֵּם וְלַעֲמוֹד לְפָנֶיךָ – who formed humans with wisdom and created within him many openings and many hollows. It is obvious from the presence of Your glorious throne that if even one were to rupture, or if even one were to be blocked, it would be impossible to exist and stand in Your presence for a moment…

How many viruses are one mutation away from a global pandemic that never happens? The bubonic plague wiped out half of Europe in the Middle Ages. The Spanish Flu killed more people than the World War it followed. In recent memory, COVID lockdowns brought the world to a standstill, causing severe social and economic disruption around the world, and many lost loved ones.

It articulates clearly and concisely how it takes almost nothing to wreck our health. It takes virtually nothing to get into a deadly car wreck. Every time we face oncoming traffic, how do we know the driver across the painted stripe won’t get a surprise text message and be distracted for the one moment he needs to adjust the wheel by half a degree to avoid a collision? Of course, if we lived that way, we’d lose our minds – you’d never let your family leave the house! But if we peel back the illusion, we recognize how the entire canvas of our lives and everybody we love hangs on very fine threads, and they can unravel in a second. 

The grip you have on your life is a shorthand illusion you need to function properly, but it’s not the complete picture. The world is a big and wild place; we cannot tame it, and we cannot tame God. We live in a complex and non-linear world, and it’s scary and painful to admit we’re not in control – וּפִי יַגִּיד.

But once we have that orientation, the first thing we do after acknowledging our place and standing in the cosmos is to bow down.

We are quite puny, even in physical terms of space and time, which requires a painful and shocking cognitive shift in awareness. You are a delicate bag of organic matter on a tiny, fragile ball of life, hanging in the void of an incomprehensibly enormous universe, and all the things we love and cherish live equally tiny existences in the cosmos, and yet the tiniest thing could knock over your entire universe – וּפִי יַגִּיד.

Orientation in the universe

To be clear, we are not nihilists – we are anti-nihilists, and our lives matter. Humans matter, human life matters. But despite the folly of human conceits, we are not the self-important demigods we would like to believe we are. We are rudimentary creatures of blood and flesh, fumbling in ignorance, incapable of understanding, and quite puny in physical terms of space and time, which requires a painful and shocking cognitive shift in awareness.

Pale blue dot

Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there–on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.
— Carl Sagan

Three Steps

As we start the Amida, we take three steps back and then take steps forward, returning to our starting point. It might symbolize stepping away from the domain of the profane and stepping into the domain of the sacred. The Rashba explains that keeping our legs locked demonstrates that we can only move with God’s permission, so perhaps taking three steps backward and then forward, ending up right where you started, reflects something similar: that we are stuck without God.

It could mean taking a step back from where we were, gaining perspective, and then returning to our place with a new context, a recurring theme by now, the clarity and consciousness we need to face our challenges correctly and properly. By returning to where we were before, perhaps we are acting out what we hope to get from our prayer, seeing that God was right where I was, only I wasn’t where He was. I didn’t need to go anywhere to find Hashem, but I had to step away momentarily to see that God was always there. The Mona Lisa is heralded as the most significant artwork a human has produced; if you stuck your nose to the canvas, you wouldn’t be able to see the masterpiece for what it is. It’s cordoned off to the optimal vantage point, twenty feet away. Sometimes, you need to step back for a moment to gain perspective.

In the three steps we take back and then forward, we can feel stuck, unable to move forward, struggling, or overwhelmed. We might be back where we started, but we are tuned in now, turned to God, and our hearts are attuned.

Perhaps it also reflects that once we are attuned, we realize we haven’t moved at all, but if our hearts are tuned to Heaven, God comes to us.

Looking

R’ Menachem Mendel of Rimanov was traveling one day and encountered a young boy crying. He stooped down and asked the child what was wrong. The child tearfully explained that he’d been playing hide and seek with his friends, but no one came to find him. Even worse, they kept playing until it was time to go home, and no one noticed he was gone.

In the phase of history, we are currently in, God is hiding. But are we looking? What’s it like for God to hide and for us to not look? How many people in the world are looking for God?

And yet, hide-and-seek only exists with proximity; if we are questioning the absence of the Infinite, then we are already assuming its presence. The very moment the heart confronts the absence, it has encountered an irreducible trace.

Thunderbolt and lightning, very, very frightening

The Torah describes how amidst the thunderous cataclysm at Mount Sinai, the mountain was enveloped in progressive fields of darkness:

וַתִּקְרְבוּן וַתַּעַמְדוּן תַּחַת הָהָר וְהָהָר בֹּעֵר בָּאֵשׁ עַד־לֵב הַשָּׁמַיִם חֹשֶׁךְ עָנָן וַעֲרָפֶל – And you came near and stood under the mountain; and the mountain burned with fire to the heart of heaven, with darkness, clouds, and thick fog. (Devarim 5:11)

The Mishna Berura suggests that in the way Moshe had to break through these distortions to climb the mountain, we take three steps to walk through the three distortions symbolically. R’ Twersky suggests that we build distortion fields in our lives, barriers around ourselves to the divine, preventing us from seeing more in different ways.

Darkness blinds most of humanity, who don’t know there is anything to look for. But it’s easy to dispel darkness – you need to shine a little light, someone to show you the way, and then you see.

Cloud blinds us by obscuring things – it’s not dark, so you can still see faintly, but not in detail. We can recognize something out there, but we don’t quite see what it is, and we get lost for lack of clarity and focus, noticing but not recognizing things as they truly are. People can search for a lifetime, failing to realize they passed what they were looking for a long way back.

Fog blinds in a more sinister way. If you’ve ever driven in fog, you know to turn on your lights so people know you’re there. But the trouble with fog is that it doesn’t just mask what’s there; it also catches and reflects the light, and so while turning your lights on lets people know that someone is there, they actually can’t see anything distinct at all, only a blurry halo of light; because the fog doesn’t just distort what’s there, it also distorts the light, and the light ends up contributing to the poor visibility. Sometimes, the Torah and its ideas can be blinding – people with the light, yet it’s distorted—refracted and twisted, bent and corrupted light.

We all experience these kinds of blindness in our own lives; we all compartmentalize our Judaism. Even if it’s not like we keep every other Shabbos or Kosher on Thursdays, we are all complacent about things. Whether it’s blessings before or after food, praying, or praying with a minyan, we are all complacent about things we shouldn’t be complacent about, and that’s the blindness or distortion in our lives. But even more nefariously, there are mitzvos and ideals we aren’t complacent about, the things we take extremely seriously, and ironically, those can blind us to our shortcomings more than anything!

Retracing your steps

Perhaps taking three steps is the act of looking for God. If you’ve ever realized that you lost something, you search through the house til you find it, and unless interrupted, you’ll go back to where you started when you realized it was missing. But now you’ve found it. And when we find it – אֲדֹנָי שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

All that matters is that you try

What’s fascinating is that source of the open words of prayer were spoken by King David at his lowest point. He’d married Batsheva under morally problematic circumstances and could no longer experience prophecy. In this rock bottom moment of absolute failure, he begged God to open his lips – אֲדֹנָי שְׂפָתַי תִּפְתָּח.

There is an irony to David praying to pray, but it illustrates that there is no such thing as being unable to pray. King David honestly and truly felt that way – but he was wrong. He didn’t feel worthwhile, and he prayed to get there again.

It is of the highest significance that the archetype we channel to open our prayers is of someone who feeling bad and sad, rightly or wrongly. Bring your ugly feelings to your prayers, too – that’s the source of these words. Your thoughts and feelings are the rocket fuel that animates the words with life and meaning – they’re hollow and empty if you don’t infuse them with spirit and emotion.

Whose prayer does God listen to?

If you think need righteous and holy saints to pray for you and bless you, you might be surprised because the Torah plainly states otherwise.

In the story of Yitzchak’s life, the Torah recounts how his mother, Sarah, identified the older Yishmael as a corruptive influence on the young Yitzchak, and she sent Yishmael and his mother, Hagar, away from the family home.

The Torah tells how Hagar and Yishmael wandered, lost in the wilderness, until they ran out of water, and Yishmael slowly dehydrated. Knowing no one was coming to the rescue and with certainty that her son would die suffering, she cried out in complete and utter despair.

Completely and utterly miraculously, the Torah tells how Hagar received a vision of a nearby oasis, and she rushes to get the water she needs to save her son.

This seems to conform with our conventional understanding of prayer; the desperate mother crying for her suffering child.

But the Torah does not give credit to Hagar. An angel speaks with her and tells her that everything is going to be okay because the Creator has listened to the prayer – but Yishmael’s, not Hagar’s – כִּי שָׁמַע אֱלֹהִים אֶל קוֹל הַנַּעַר.

The story never ascribes an action or a word to Yishmael; he is a passive object in the story, the object of his mother’s prayers, the person acted upon, and not the actor.

A mother’s tears for her dying son did not move the heavens. But what moved the heavens was the voice of a dying boy, and he never even said a word! Perhaps, in his suffering, he cried or sighed, not even significant enough for the Torah to record it as an action he took.

That literally invisible moment of pain or sadness is what drives the entire story and goes on to shape history, and perhaps it should shape our understanding of prayer.

There are no requirements to pray properly; you just have to mean it, and you don’t have to be anyone or anything special. You can just be a kid, and you can just cry because it hurts.

The Midrash imagines the angels arguing against divine intervention to save Yishmael because of the atrocities his descendants would commit, but they lose the argument because God evaluates things differently. God answers the boy based on where he is and the facts and circumstances as they are – בַּאֲשֶׁר הוּא שָׁם.

The story of Yishmael teaches us that prayer isn’t confined to ritualized formalities, and maybe that’s partly why we read this story on Rosh Hashana.

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve done. You don’t need to know how to pray or understand the words.

Our sages conclude from the stories of our ancestors that God loves righteous prayers, righteous prayers, not prayers of the righteous.

You don’t have to be perfect to generate a perfect prayer. Our daily prayers affirm that God is close to the people who call on Him truthfully – קרוב ה’ לכל קוראיו, לכל אשר יקראוהו באמת. It is not beyond any of us to ask for help and truly mean it.

A sinner can feel cast aside, they’ve lost their way, walked the path away from God. But the funny thing is, wherever you are in the physical or spiritual universe, if you ever get lost, it’s actually not hard at all to course correct; you just have to turn the right way, and now you’re on the right track again.

The conclusion of one of the most moving parts of the prayers unambiguously says that even a person who sinned their entire life can still repent on his deathbed –כי לא תחפץ במות המת, כי אם בשובו מדרכו וחיה ועד יום מותו תחכה לו, אם ישוב מיד תקבלו.

Teshuva is not far

One of Judaism’s signature beliefs is in our personal ability to make amends – Teshuva. 

It’s hard to overstate the significance of this belief.

In sharp contrast, Christianity does not have a framework for humans to make amends; humans are born and remain in a state of sinfulness as a result of the corruption of original sin, which is the theological basis of Jesus’ death as an atonement.

Teshuva is a fundamentally different worldview. 

Teshuva and the personal abilities of atonement and forgiveness are groundbreaking because, in the ancient world, humans lived in fear of their gods. You would try to do right by them in the hope that they would do right to you; you don’t offend them, so they don’t smite you. The relationship people had with their gods was explicitly transactional and, from a certain perspective, what we might call abusive. 

But in a framework where atonement and forgiveness exist, God isn’t looking to catch you out at all, and the new possibility exists for a very different relationship – not just master and servant, but now something more like parent and child.

Why do we believe we have the ability to atonement and earn forgiveness?

Quite simply, we believe we can make amends because the Torah consistently not only emphasizes that God is not impartial; but that God is biased towards creation – וּבְטוֹב הָעוֹלָם נִדּוֹן /  עוֹלָם חֶסֶד יִבָּנֶה.

The priestly blessing explicitly talks about God’s preferential treatment; Rashi explains it as a wish for God to literally smile at us – יָאֵר ה’ פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ וִיחֻנֶּךָ, יִשָּׂא ה’ פָּנָיו אֵלֶיךָ.

As the Shem mi’Shmuel explains, God’s compassion amplifies the steps we take to make amends – ועֹשֶׂה חֶסֶד לַאֲלָפִים. 

The Torah speaks plainly about how compassion will drive God to personally gather up every lost soul and return and restore them from wherever they are:

 וְשָׁב ה אֱלֹהֶיךָ אֶת–שְׁבוּתְךָ, וְרִחֲמֶךָ; וְשָׁב, וְקִבֶּצְךָ מִכָּל–הָעַמִּים, אֲשֶׁר הֱפִיצְךָ ה אֱלֹהֶיךָ, שָׁמָּה. אִם–יִהְיֶה נִדַּחֲךָ, בִּקְצֵה הַשָּׁמָיִם מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ ה אֱלֹהֶיךָ, וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ – God will return your captives and have compassion for you; and will return and gather you from all the nations, wherever God has scattered you. (30:3,4)

Rav Kook teaches that the first promise is about a physical return to Israel, and the second promise is that God will also return us from the outer edge of the spiritual universe – קְצֵה הַשָּׁמָיִם. The Sfas Emes teaches that Hashem makes this promise regardless of whatever it is that brought us there to that spiritual wilderness – whether it’s upbringing, bad choices, or poor self-control – none of it matters – מִשָּׁם יְקַבֶּצְךָ / וּמִשָּׁם יִקָּחֶךָ.

The High Holy Day prayers prominently quote Ezekiel telling his audience, and us, what it will take to avert harsh judgment:

וְהָרָשָׁע כִּי יָשׁוּב מִכּל־חַטֹּאתָו אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה וְשָׁמַר אֶת־כּל־חֻקוֹתַי וְעָשָׂה מִשְׁפָּט וּצְדָקָה חָיֹה יִחְיֶה לֹא יָמוּת. כּל־פְּשָׁעָיו אֲשֶׁר עָשָׂה לֹא יִזָּכְרוּ לוֹ בְּצִדְקָתוֹ אֲשֶׁר־עָשָׂה יִחְיֶה. הֶחָפֹץ אֶחְפֹּץ מוֹת רָשָׁע נְאֻם אֲדֹנָי אלוקים הֲלוֹא בְּשׁוּבוֹ מִדְּרָכָיו וְחָיָה – Moreover, if the wicked one repents of all the sins that he committed and keeps all My laws and does what is just and right, he shall live; he shall not die. None of the transgressions he committed shall be remembered against him; because of the righteousness he has practiced, he shall live. Is it my desire that a wicked person shall die?—says the Lord God. It is rather that he shall turn back from his ways and live. (Ezekiel 18:21-23)

As R’ Jonathan Sacks notes, there is no mention of sacrifice, no mention of a temple, no magic ritual or secret; it’s never too late to change, God will forgive every mistake we’ve made so long as   we are honest in regretting it and doing our best to make it right.

As the Izhbitzer teaches, there are no mistakes, and the world has unfolded up to this moment as intended; which, quite radically, validates sin retroactively, although it should be clear that this teaching has zero prospective or forward-looking value. You are where you are supposed to be today, you were supposed to make that mistake; and now your task is to move forward from it. God is willing to let go of our mistakes; we needn’t hold on so tight.

As R’ Simcha Bunim of Peshischa points out, there’s nothing surprising about humans making mistakes and doing the wrong thing. The big surprise is that we don’t take advantage of our ability to atone and make amends every day – כִּי הַמִּצְוָה הַזֹּאת, אֲשֶׁר אָנֹכִי מְצַוְּךָ הַיּוֹם לֹא-נִפְלֵאת הִוא מִמְּךָ וְלֹא רְחֹקָה הִוא. לֹא בַשָּׁמַיִם הִוא / כִּי-קָרוֹב אֵלֶיךָ הַדָּבָר מְאֹד, בְּפִיךָ וּבִלְבָבְךָ, לַעֲשֹׂתוֹ.

The conclusion of one of the most moving parts of the prayers unambiguously says that even a person who sinned their entire life can still repent on his deathbed –כי לא תחפץ במות המת, כי אם בשובו מדרכו וחיה ועד יום מותו תחכה לו, אם ישוב מיד תקבלו.

It’s literally not possible to alienate yourself from the Creator Who permeates Creation. As R’ Akiva taught, God Himself cleanses us – וּמִי מְטַהֵר אֶתְכֶם, ‏אֲבִיכֶם שֶׁבַּשָּׁמַיִם, ‏… ‏מַה מִקְוֶה מְטַהֵר אֶת הַטְּמֵאִים, אַף הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא מְטַהֵר אֶת יִשְׂרָאֵל.

It’s not even difficult! Our sages authorize a wicked man to marry a woman on the condition that he is righteous, on the basis that he might have had a moment’s thought about changing for the better. The Minchas Chinuch notes that this potential thought doesn’t include the confession and follow-through required for complete rehabilitation, but the Rogatchover and the Brisker school suggest that the mere thought alone of doing better removes the designation of wicked from a person – because God is biased.

By designing creation with a framework that includes atonement, forgiveness, and Teshuva, God freely admits bias towards the children of creation. In fact, our sages say that a repentant can achieve what saints cannot.

God invites the children of creation to come home – שובו בנים שובבים. There is no need to hold yourself to a higher standard than God.

If you think you can probably be doing a little better in certain respects, you might be right and it could be time to raise your standards. 

It’s not hard, and it’s not far away. Creation has been designed for you to make amends, has been waiting for you to make amends.

Teshuva can be as simple as turning to face the right direction.

Hashiva Shofteinu – Justice and Generosity

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הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה. וְהָסֵר מִמֶּנּוּ יָגון וַאֲנָחָה. וּמְלךְ עָלֵינוּ אַתָּה ה’ לְבַדְּךָ בְּחֶסֶד וּבְרַחֲמִים. וְצַדְּקֵנוּ בַּמִשְׁפָּט. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, מֶלֶךְ אוהֵב צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט – Restore our judges as before and our counselors as at first. Remove from us sorrow and sighing, and reign over us quickly You, Adonoy, alone with kindness and compassion; and make us righteous with righteousness and justice, Blessed are You, Hashem, King, Lover of righteousness and justice.

Getting there together

This prayer has three elements: restoration of just leadership, removing sorrow and suffering, and asking for God’s rule. It’s not particularly obvious how one follows from another.

The Riva suggests a correspondence between the first half of the Amida and the second;  the first half is more personal requests, and the second half is broader and more abstract. The earlier personal request of a return to wholeness and teshuva parallels this request for the return of leadership and justice – הֲשִׁיבֵנוּ  / הָשִׁיבָה. The first blessing speaks about our narrow personal path, and this one is about the broader collective, where everyone makes their way back, and that only happens with good leaders and role models.

Good ol’ days

The Torah talks about the administration and enforcement of law and justice with an acknowledgment that the availability of quality judges will vary from time to time and place to place – הַשֹּׁפֵט אֲשֶׁר יִהְיֶה בַּיָּמִים הָהֵם. Our sages note that you can only use what’s available to you, and comparing the relative abilities of judges is pointless. Not everyone will be Moshe or Samuel, but the best leader available to you must be treated on par with them by necessity. The best you have might not be all that, but if he is the best available, then you must accept his authority and judgment.

Our sages teach us to respect the leaders we have; and here we are asking for judges like the good ol’ days – הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה. Doesn’t this prayer violate that sentiment?

It’s all relative.

Perhaps we aren’t just suggesting that we respect the leaders we have. On a certain level, the quality of a leader is determined by the quality of the followers.

When Moshe stood at Sinai to receive the Torah, God commanded him to stop and descend because his people had corrupted their ways, what with having forged a Golden Calf they were celebrating. The superficial explanation is that God sent Moshe down the mountain to stop the festivities. Still, on a deeper level, the potency of the leader is directly proportional to what the people deserve. When his people were eager and excited to receive the Torah, they empowered Moshe to climb the mountain of the Torah. But when they lost their way, their leader had no business staying in the clouds, so God told Moshe to climb down; his people weren’t where they needed to be for him to carry on.

And it goes the other way, too; we get the leaders we deserve based on merit and relatability. We don’t deserve to be led by a Moshe, but if he were here, we wouldn’t understand each other, which ties back into the link between this prayer for the return of great leaders and the return to teshuva. If we were better people, we’d deserve better leadership.

It’s important to highlight that we aren’t asking for better, which is to say different leaders; we ask for our leaders to be and do better, like the greats of our past – הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה

Guidance and Judgment

This blessing asks for the restoration of great judges and counselors – שׁופְטֵינוּ / וְיועֲצֵינוּ. While a judge imposes the law, a counselor advises and guides us through situations, and we need both in our lives. You always want good low and mid-level advisors who arm you with the information and perspective you need to make good decisions. But there are times when the best advice in the world doesn’t when you’re too biased, jaded, or stuck. In those situations, you need someone to tell you what you need to do.

But we should have no illusions that we need judgment and counsel in tandem. If you submit to someone imposing what you need to do too often, you might be doing the right thing, but you won’t be much at all. You need to take counsel and be sure to exercise your own judgment as well.

Groaning Ineptitude

In days gone by, a core member of communal leadership was a spirit guide, the prophet, or shaman. Our books talk about how people would regularly seek insight from the Kohen Gadol in his capacity as the oracle entrusted to consult the Urim v’Tumim, or kings taking instruction from prophets about who they had to be and what they had to be. These interactions don’t lend themselves to ambiguity; they give clear guidance and direction. If you needed direction, focus, and purpose, there was a designated place to go to get answers; you wouldn’t have to figure it out for yourself – הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה.

One of the defining features of the zeitgeist in our times is a sense of spiritual disorientation, the feeling of being orphaned from meaning and who we are, lost in this vast and chaotic space we inhabit. There is no designated place to go for answers, and we very much have to figure it out for ourselves – וְהָסֵר מִמֶּנּוּ יָגון וַאֲנָחָה.

But if the nature of the answers we seek looks different from our ancestors, the starting point of the question is very much the same. The Torah anticipates things being too difficult for us to determine on our own, and tells us to seek guidance – כִּי יִפָּלֵא מִמְּךָ דָבָר לַמִּשְׁפָּט / וּבָאתָ אֶל־הַכֹּהֲנִים הַלְוִיִּם וְאֶל־הַשֹּׁפֵט אֲשֶׁר יִהְיֶה בַּיָּמִים הָהֵם  וְדָרַשְׁתָּ וְהִגִּידוּ לְךָ אֵת דְּבַר הַמִּשְׁפָּט. Definitionally, if the Torah expects we will get stuck with questions from time to time, it necessarily requires us to think for ourselves.

There are times we get stuck and can’t find the answer, don’t understand our ordeals, and can’t unlock meaning in our painful experiences. Indeed, experiencing something that feels unfair is itself one of the most painful experiences without meaning to sanctify it – וְהָסֵר מִמֶּנּוּ יָגון וַאֲנָחָה.

It’s relative

While the nature of our questions and answers might be substantively different from those of our ancestors, it bears wondering whether there is a comparison to draw. We might suggest that our struggle is greater than theirs because our answers are shrouded with mystery in a way theirs were not.

But in all likelihood, there isn’t a comparison to draw in our struggle; ours is ours, and theirs was theirs. If you’re a diamond dealer, the tiniest cut or flaw adds or destroys enormous value. If you’re a real estate developer, a bump on the ceiling or a great coat of paint isn’t going to make a huge difference.

Our struggle might be bigger and more acute, but that doesn’t offer commentary on which is better or worse. Our sages remind us that God considers great the things we consider small and trivial and that being removed from the plugged-in switched-on state of our ancestors means that the value in our victories is enormous. They didn’t bring about a final redemption, but we still can. It’s not because we’re better than our greats but that our role takes place in concealment, darkness, and uncertainty.

First beginnings

Aside from the plain sense of this prayer requesting good judges, in a profound sense, it is also a request for better judgment. The Torah talks about the importance of establishing and maintaining a good justice and law enforcement system at our gates – שֹׁפְטִים וְשֹׁטְרִים תִּתֶּן־לְךָ בְּכל־שְׁעָרֶיךָ אֲשֶׁר ה’ אֱלֹהֶיךָ נֹתֵן לְךָ לִשְׁבָטֶיךָ וְשָׁפְטוּ אֶת־הָעָם מִשְׁפַּט־צֶדֶק.

The Kotzker read this as the need to exercise good judgment over our gateways and openings to the world – sights, smells, sounds, people, and ideas. Who or what are we letting into our lives, and does it live up to the ideals we once had? הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה

Our sages teach of a universal beginning that all children in the womb are accompanied by an angel that teaches them the wisdom and secrets of the Torah and the universe, only to promptly erase this experience upon birth. In our sage’s conception, this is a person’s first exposure to wisdom, your first identity and personality that predates everything else about you. The personality you have cultivated has been shaped by everything in your life, but it is a secondary judge or personality, influenced by your circumstances, gifts, struggles, and successes. Perhaps we are asking for our judgment to return to the state of idealism and clarity we once had – הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה.

Relevance

When Moshe approached the end of his life, he spoke with God about succession planning. It was important to him that the next leader of the Jewish People do a good job, and the way Moshe characterizes doing a good job is revealing, echoed as it is in the beautiful and uncommon blessing we say upon seeing a crowd of multitudes, praising God as the knower of secrets – חכם הרזים. Our sages explain this as acknowledging God’s greatness in knowing each of us in our complexity as individual hearts and minds. This is a subtle but vital point – God is great not because of the glory and sheer size of the crowd but because God can see each of us as distinct within the sea of all too forgettable faces; God can see the individual within the collective, and that’s what Moshe wanted in the next great leader.

A leader cannot be a one-size-fits-all because people are different and need different things at other times. But if the messaging has to be different, the attitude must be the same; every individual must be met as and where they are. R’ Chaim Shmulevitz advises that the only way a teacher can care about each student is to see them as their own children.

R’ Shlomo Freifeld ran a yeshiva that admitted students from the broadest and most diverse backgrounds. One student was a particularly bohemian free spirit and would occasionally tell the rabbi about his travels, living in the woods among native peoples and their folk religious experiences, and rather than smile and nod, the rabbi would engage substantively. One day, the student was early for a meeting with the rabbi and looked through his office bookshelf, perusing all the familiar tomes, Midrash, Mishna, Halacha, and spotted a colorful book among the usual collection; a book on native culture and folklore, their customs, rituals, and way of life. As unique as this anecdote is, it wasn’t unique to the rabbi; that’s the attitude and orientation it took to get through to each student who crossed his threshold.

הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה – Doesn’t everyone wish for teachers and mentors who care like that?

But it’s not fair

Experiencing something that feels unfair is itself one of the most painful experiences, with no meaning to sanctify the pain – וְהָסֵר מִמֶּנּוּ יָגון וַאֲנָחָה.

At the end of his life, the great Chafetz Chaim wanted to travel to Israel and applied for a visa to travel. The immigration office sent him from one department to another, ultimately determining that he needed to present a birth certificate as proof of identification. Of course, he was aged 90 and born in a small town in the 1800s in an age of political upheavals; he didn’t have a birth certificate, so they sent him to the Registrar of Births and Deaths to get one. But when he got there, the clerk told him that he could only issue a birth certificate with two witnesses to the birth. The Chafetz Chaim explained that he was 90 years old, everyone alive at his birth was long dead, and the requirement was a legal impossibility. The clerk apologized and said that his hands were tied – the rules are the rules, and there was nothing he could do.

Sometimes, the rules are the rules, and what passes for justice is actually experienced as injustice. Under Nazi rule, killing Jews was faithfully upholding the law, and helping or hiding Jews was a criminal offense.

When we ask for leaders who promote justice, we mean the real thing, not some internally consistent Kafka-esque nightmare.

Utilizing high office

A judge can be a judge, like a king can be a king. That’s great, and we’d be sitting pretty if everyone took their jobs seriously and tried to do a good job. But it’s possible to transform the entire position with the right attitude.

The Torah says that King David and King Solomon sat on the throne of God, which our sages take to be a unique description of how they weren’t in it for themselves. They dedicated their lives to using the position to establish greater religious access and make life better for their people, so they are characterized correctly as sitting on God’s throne, not their own because they channeled the powers of their office for God, not themselves. When our leaders act for us and for God rather than themselves, it’s the closest possible thing to living under God’s protection, like our ancestors in the wilderness – וּמְלךְ עָלֵינוּ אַתָּה ה’ לְבַדְּךָ בְּחֶסֶד וּבְרַחֲמִים.

Uncomfortably often, leaders and politicians start idealistically and nobly with the best of intentions, but before long, elections and realpolitik take their toll, and they become part of the establishment they wanted to change. Every first-term politician wants to be a reelected second-term politician, and their job becomes about retaining the seat of power and office, not the people they once so badly wanted to help. Perhaps part of the prayer is that our leaders hold onto that initial enthusiasm and perspective of wanting to make things better before the title and before exercising power – הָשִׁיבָה שׁופְטֵינוּ כְּבָרִאשׁונָה וְיועֲצֵינוּ כְּבַתְּחִלָּה.

Needs work

Hevei mitalmidei Ahron

Love peace, chase peace, draw them to torah

Peace is Ahron

But draw close to torah is moshe!

Why associate with Ahron?

If you’re the guy that fixes relationships, they love you!

Ahron’s skill was getting them to see through him

With kindness and mercy

We ask God to rule us exclusively in kindness and mercy – וּמְלךְ עָלֵינוּ אַתָּה ה’ לְבַדְּךָ בְּחֶסֶד וּבְרַחֲמִים.

Did you ever break something at home as a kid and get punished? Did your sibling ever do the same thing and get a different punishment? That is something that happens all the time. The same crime can receive a range of sentences based on things like previous offenses and the likelihood to re-offend, but also something as trivial as the judge having a bad day. Sometimes, an example must be made to deter others from doing the same, except that can very quickly stop being a consideration of justice.

But God can judge with mercy and kindness, righteousness and justice simultaneously.

God loves righteousness and justice.

This blessing concludes with something unique in the Amida – an affirmation of God’s love for anything, and we ought to take note. We don’t affirm God’s love for healing or wisdom, only for righteousness and justice, which is not to suggest that God doesn’t love those things, just not in the same way as justice.

It could reflect a teaching in Pirkei Avos that the world stands on three legs: justice, truth, and peace. Justice is one of the most important things, so that could be why God loves it, but there’s no reference to God’s love of truth and peace in the Amida.

This is an attachment of value to righteousness and justice in tandem – צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט.

God doesn’t operate our universe from a lens of strict justice nor a lens of mercy and kindness – דין / חסד. A universe of strict justice would have no tolerance for mistakes. Everyone who isn’t yet perfect – meaning everyone who ever lived – would get cancer or struck by lightning. It would be a dysfunctional, dead universe that could never grow or tolerate the wild freedom of life.

A universe of pure kindness and generosity would not be functional either – you’re supposed to give a child everything they need, sure, but if you’re thirty and your parents still dress you and feed you and read you stories, we understand that something terrible has happened. There comes a time to individuate, set boundaries, and establish yourself as an independent human with a distinct existence and identity. In a universe where God opens unlimited spigots, we would lose ourselves and drown with no conceivable sense of independence; that universe, too, would not grow or tolerate the wild freedom of life.

So, of necessity, our universe’s characteristics of justice and generosity temper each other and coexist in equilibrium, and God loves that – מֶלֶךְ אוהֵב צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט.

We need judgment and justice, and we need God’s kindness. Only with both can we have the space to do anything or earn God’s blessings and rewards. Outside of the season between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur, this is the only blessing of the entire year that concludes with God as the King because it is about justice and generosity, no less than exactly what enables God to be King of anything – מֶלֶךְ אוהֵב צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט.

Coexisting, not canceling.

While justice and generosity both exist, they don’t cancel each other out. The Torah demands that we judge justly and forbids showing a bias in favor of the poor or weak in law – לֹא תַעֲשׂוּ עָוֶל בַּמִּשְׁפָּט לֹא תִשָּׂא פְנֵי דָל וְלֹא תֶהְדַּר פְּנֵי גָדוֹל בְּצֶדֶק תִּשְׁפֹּט עֲמִיתֶךָ. Right is still right and wrong is still wrong.

But when King David would rule against a poor person if that’s what justice required, he’d call them back to offer some aid and support because that’s what generosity required of him – מֶלֶךְ אוהֵב צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט.

God loves both. In the moments we experience justice, God also sends a measure of generosity to tolerate the justice. It would be impossible and unfair for the two never to balance out eventually, and hopefully, we are lucky enough for the generosity to come first. Our sages teach that God delivers the cure before the sickness, but that can be hard to see in the moment, so we ask for generosity before justice – מֶלֶךְ אוהֵב צְדָקָה וּמִשְׁפָּט.

It’s ubiquitous in our stories but not always in our lives.

Moshe grows up as Pharaoh’s step-grandson; when he receives his mission, he is well placed to take it because everyone knows him, and he understands them. Yosef is sold into slavery and climbs his way up the social circles of Egyptian aristocracy; when his family reappears in their time of need, he is uniquely situated to save them. Esther was queen for a while before Haman showed up and caused trouble; she is well placed from the beginning, the cure before the sickness, but can we doubt that she cried to herself every night until it all made sense?

But it’s not always linear.

The Jews were evicted from Spain in 1492, the year Columbus discovered America, arguably the greatest haven for Jewish life since biblical times; we know that, but those Jews did not. The Holocaust is the worst calamity to befall the Jewish People in millennia, but the State of Israel was born out of the ashes; the cure came at an enormous cost and far too late for the millions who were lost. Who is to say what the cure is? It’s not obvious, and that certainly doesn’t justify the pain, but perhaps it helps us make a little sense of it.

We don’t believe in the Mother Teresa-esque sanctification of pain for its own sake, and we don’t always get the eureka moment where everything fits together into a cohesive narrative with a great reason for everything that ever happened to you. But there is something for us to look for, a challenge to seek meaning in our experiences.

God loves justice and generosity, and we ought to cultivate the temperament, too. As the great Viktor Frankl wrote, what helps give us the strength to withstand anything is meaning and purpose.

The combination of justice and generosity helps us live and grow in the long term, the purpose of creation. The universe is big and complex, but we understand that when you need to punish a child, you must also explain why they’re getting punished so it doesn’t feel gratuitously cruel, and they will know better next time.

The bottom line

Geula – Redemption

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רְאֵה בְעָנְיֵנוּ. וְרִיבָה רִיבֵנוּ. וּגְאָלֵנוּ גְאוּלָה שְׁלֵמָה מְהֵרָה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ. כִּי קל גּואֵל חָזָק אָתָּה. בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, גּואֵל יִשרָאֵל – Look, please, upon our affliction, and defend our cause: and redeem us speedily with complete redemption for the sake of Your Name; because You are a Mighty Redeemer. Blessed are You, Hashem, Redeemer of Israel.

Redemption 

When we hear redemption, we typically think of Mashiach and ultimate redemption.

But there are specific blessings for that, gathering the exiles, rebuilding Jerusalem, restoring the house of David, and restoring the order of sacrifices; this is about a more generalized form of redemption.

Transcending a mere call for empathy, we request divine acknowledgment of suffering, hinting at a redemption that is both existential and spiritual rather than solely the physical redemption of Jews from exile. There is a broader continuum of redemption that runs deep into our personal lives and involves difficult circumstances, internal transformations, and enlightenment, a redemption of spiritual or existential suffering, the kind that transcends geographical or physical constraints.

The other blessings articulate a request for ultimate redemption; this is the blessing for every redemption we need between here and there.

רְאֵה בְעָנְיֵנוּ – Our pain

Lord, please see our pain.

Who doesn’t want their pain acknowledged?

The word for affliction and pain here also encompasses the concept of poverty בְעָנְיֵנוּ / עני. This extends beyond the surface-level interpretation of poverty as a lack of financial resources and probes deeper into the existential dimensions of insufficiency and lack.

Our sages teach that a wealthy person is someone happy with what they have. This aphorism profoundly associates wealth with contentment and fulfillment rather than an abundance of material possessions. Our sages didn’t define someone happy; they defined someone wealthy, making a piercing observation that the experience of wealth is more defined by your relationship with what you have than how much you accumulate.

This redefinition of wealth challenges the conventional metrics of material success and prosperity, suggesting that the essence of wealth lies in the subjective experience of contentment and vice versa. If you have everything but aren’t satisfied, you are poor and miserable and have nothing at all.

Our sages suggest that if you can buy whatever you want or need, that isn’t wealth. It’s not a question of price sensitivity; it’s something more profound. Human desire is inherently unbounded; whatever you have, there is always something bigger that’s out of reach, something you can’t have.

It’s impossible to have everything you want, but it can be a real blessing to want what you have, and if you want what you have, you will always have what you like.

The nature of this world is insufficiency; everyone needs things. Everyone needs health, money, love, fertility, happiness, success.

We ask God to see us in our poverty, in our lack and insufficiency, our experience of pain for all the things we need but don’t have, emotional, spiritual, or physical, acknowledging the vast spectrum of human desires and pain that can arise not just from the absence of material goods but from unfulfilled aspirations and unmet needs.

The yearning for things we don’t have or the conditions we wish were different can be a source of torture; this is especially true when these desires touch on fundamental aspects of our well-being, such as health, love, or a sense of belonging.

Moreover, this invites a deeply personal and subjective view because our sense of lack is rooted in self-perception rather than an objective lack. The experience of pain is real; whether the source is real or imagined, our subjective experiences of pain and inadequacy are as impactful as any physical affliction.

When someone thinks they’re not good enough when you’re perfectly great, if they have body image issues but are perfectly attractive, does it matter what anyone else thinks?

Our perceptions, beliefs, and feelings shape our reality, often as powerfully as the material conditions of our lives. Our feelings about poverty or wealth are subjective, shaped by our attitudes toward what we have and lack. People who see themselves as poor, regardless of their actual circumstances, live within the constraints of that perception, which can limit their ability to appreciate their existing blessings and capacities.

Recognizing that our human experiences are deeply subjective, we ask God to see our pain, acknowledging our suffering from our internal point of view – רְאֵה בְעָנְיֵנוּ.

The fight

R’ Moshe Feinstein commented on the shocking assimilation statistics of American Jewry in his day as a reflection on the generational shift in perception and commitment to Jewish life and values. He suggested that despite witnessing their parents’ enormous self-sacrifice for the sake of Jewish observance, with so many men and women refusing to work on Shabbos at a time that meant losing their jobs every single week, children in such homes only ever saw the downside of the sacrifice; they heard their parents sigh how hard it was a to be a Jew, and absorbed a narrative emphasizing the hardships of Jewish life, possibly at the expense of experiencing its depth, beauty, and meaning.

It’s not enough to fight the fight; we must also have the right mentality.

As with all our prayers, we pray in the plural, not the singular, for my pain, among everyone else’s.

Sometimes, the thing that’s bothering us isn’t what bothers us; it is just a symptom, and the surface manifestation can mask a deeper, more complex issue. We may aspire for goodness and to do the right thing, but in practical reality, we live with a disconnect and inconsistency. We ask God to see our pain, but also within it, inside and past it as well – בְעָנְיֵנוּ.

In the modern landscape, we live in a world where our sense of personal and collective self is under relentless the omnipotent forces of media and consumer culture overtly and subconsciously everywhere we turn. This environment is meticulously crafted by highly skilled professionals in marketing and technology, whose work, though often aimed at engagement and sales, inadvertently fosters a culture of comparison and inadequacy. Every advertisement, product, screen, and social media platform is optimized to capture attention and instigate desire, urging us toward an unending pursuit of more. This constant exposure creates a pervasive atmosphere where comparisons with others become routine in daily life. This leads to widespread feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction that form a significant aspect of human pain in our day.

This phenomenon is not merely a side effect of modern commerce and technology but a reflection of deeper societal values that equate personal worth with material success and visible achievement. In this context, the relentless barrage of idealized images and narratives amplifies our insecurities, highlighting what we lack compared to the polished, curated lives presented in public.

These forces are so powerful that they crowd out reality, and people struggle to internalize positive affirmations or recognize their value, regardless of their accomplishments, which speaks to a deeper, internal source of discomfort and dissatisfaction.

This inadequacy is not rooted in who we are; we ask God to see past the surface and see the root cause – בְעָנְיֵנוּ.

Redemption from stuckness

As the Jewish People prepared for the Exodus, God had Moshe instruct them to take Egyptian gold and silver. Our sages teach that this was partly as reparations money for years of enslavement but mostly in fulfillment of God’s promise to Avraham that his descendants would leave Egypt not just as a free people but with great wealth as well.

Significantly, God sought their enrichment before they arrived in the Land of Israel. By providing the Jewish People with material wealth before they entered the land, God made it clear that the beauty and value of Israel were not to be equated with material prosperity, preemptively countering any mistaken notion that the worth of the Promised Land, and by extension the worth of the redemption itself, could be measured in gold and silver. It was a lesson in priorities, emphasizing that the fulfillment of God’s promises of redemption lies beyond the material realm.

This contrasts with many religious and secular visions of utopia, which often imagine their ideal state in terms of physical and material abundance. As the Rambam clearly states, our sages never dreamed of the Messianic age in material terms of wealth or power but simply for the removal of subjugation from foreign powers and influences, for the freedom and opportunity for spiritual and religious fulfillment, heralding an age of universal enlightenment.

The bloody pages of Jewish history show how the Jewish People have been the mistreated subjects of one abusive regime or another time and again. Removal of subjugation is powerful.

The notion extends beyond the political or nationalistic realm and also encompasses broader freedom from subjugation to foreign ideologies that distract or detract from the core values of Judaism. Even without direct engagement, the surrounding culture and prevailing ideologies exert an influence on individual and collective consciousness.

Like the fish swimming in the ocean, oblivious to what water is, we are utterly immersed in a foreign world, saturated and shaped by ideologies we cannot even name.

The Baal Shem Tov teaches that exile means forgetting.

The complexities of modern life are a minefield to navigate, with material temptations, societal pressures, and existential challenges, and the mediocre values and second-rate ideologies taking their toll physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

We can walk out of Egypt with all the gold and silver, all the trinkets and shiny things. But that has nothing to do with the promised land.

The journey to redemption lies in our ability to live with purpose and compassion and in the wisdom that the true measures of wealth and success in our lives and communities are in our commitment to our values and to each other.

 וְרִיבָה רִיבֵנוּ – the fight of your life

Who are you fighting?

Some battles are easy in the sense that it’s clear who the enemy is.

In historical warfare, the battlefield was orienting because it subliminally communicated massive amounts of information instantly and straightforwardly. Both sides would face off in lines in sharp and distinct uniforms, sometimes as starkly as blue versus red. The lines were clearly drawn: us against them. It was clear who your allies and enemies were, who stood by your side, and who opposed you. Both sides would line up, facing each other, with the objective for the invaders being to push forward and for the defenders to push back, attempting to move this frontline in their favor. This battle line is clear-cut, with each side trying to gain ground, literally inch by inch if necessary. If they’re shooting at you, shoot them back. Easy.

Ideally, moral decisions would be straightforward, with right and wrong clearly marked.

But modern warfare and morality aren’t like that.

In modern warfare, combatants regularly blend into the civilian population, wearing plain clothes instead of uniforms. The enemy is not easily identifiable; they’re hidden among the very people you’re trying to protect.

The danger is enormous because the enemy is hidden in plain sight. The threat can be right under your nose, and you don’t realize it until it’s too late; how do you win a fight you don’t realize you are in?

This scenario mirrors the subtle and often deceptive nature of the evil inclination. It’s not externalized as an obvious adversary, a little red demon on your shoulder, but is a shadow aspect of the self integrated and interwoven within our thoughts, impulses, and desires, making it challenging to discern.

Even worse, what if the enemy intercepts signals intelligence and corrupts allied command instructions, and you take friendly fire? What if they act under a false flag and intentionally misrepresent their allegiance?

In fact, one of the more recent developments is cyber warfare, in which the attacks are not physical but digital, completely invisible to the naked eye, and occur with the technology integral to our daily lives. That’s actually a lot like what the battle for morality is.

This battle requires vigilance, strategy, and the development of an internal moral compass. Cyber security experts employ firewalls, encryption, and continuous monitoring to protect against unseen digital threats; we must cultivate awareness, self-reflection, and positive habits to safeguard against negative influences. Torah study, learning, prayer, good deeds, and acts of kindness act as our spiritual firewall, encrypting our hearts against infiltration and ensuring continuous monitoring of our ethical health.

Where is the battlefield? Do you show up? Do you know who you are fighting? How well-trained and equipped are you?

This isn’t just our fight – רִיבֵנוּ.

It is the fight for our very self – רִיבֵנוּ.

More than that, because of the scope and severity of the danger, it follows that one of the most influential arms of the military is intelligence, the scouting and reconnaissance of the battlefield. We ask the Creator to see our weaknesses for clarity and insight about where the true frontlines lie, beyond the superficial struggles we might openly acknowledge – רְאֵה בְעָנְיֵנוּ. וְרִיבָה רִיבֵנוּ.

Look within

Our sages prized the idle chatter of righteous people because even then, they speak about important ideas.

In his old age in the frozen Eastern European winter, the revered Chafetz Chaim shared that he struggled to resist the temptation to sleep in late because he was old. To counter this, he would say the evil inclination was far older than the Chafetz Chaim, so perhaps the evil inclinations could rest a while longer, and the sage could go to prayers.

The evil inclination is not an external other, but the saintly rabbi recognized the urge as an external other, alien, and not true to himself.

When a child learns to ride a bike, the challenge isn’t just the physical act of pedaling and balancing but also overcoming the fear of falling. Fear is real, whispering doubts and creating excuses. It’s too hard, I’m too tired, I might fall. Recognizing these fears as obstacles to be overcome rather than intrinsic truths is the first step in conquering them and part of learning to ride a bike.

You need to identify the objective and battle line and target the enemy. Is the reason what you think it is, or are you lying to yourself? If you don’t think about this regularly or are uncertain, you are in grave danger because the enemy doesn’t wave a bright fluorescent flag.

Engage in self-dialogue with your shadow, identifying, understanding, and confronting it and recognizing its presence as separate from your highest and true self. It is essential to be honest with yourself to identify the real motives that drive your actions and decisions, cultivate self-awareness, and question your justifications and rationalizations. Without this recognition and understanding, we are in constant danger of being led astray by our desires and impulses.

R’ Eliyahu Dessler illuminates this concept with the metaphor of a battle line, the axis of choice, pinpointing where our real choices lie – nekudas habechira CITE.

In this framework, our freedom to choose originates from a specific context, shaped and informed by our individual experiences and backgrounds. For instance, someone raised in an observant Jewish environment and attending reputable yeshivas probably won’t face fundamental decisions about keeping kosher, observing Shabbos, or marrying someone Jewish. Their battles of free will might revolve around enhancing their Shabbos observance, improving their attention during prayer, or how much time they dedicate to Torah study. In contrast, someone born to an assimilated family who does a Pesach Seder and goes to shul on Yom Kippur but otherwise goes to public school and has no Jewish education will have a fundamentally different Jewish experience, where keeping Shabbos and kosher, and marrying Jewish are only distant and remote possibilities.

While free will is a universal endowment, its application is uniquely personalized. It reflects our position in a complex universe with a vast continuum of spiritual and ethical possibilities.

It has been said that life is like a deck of cards; the hand you’re dealt is determinism, and how you play is free will. You don’t control your initial trajectory in life, like birthplace, family, and early education, but for the vast majority of people, the essence of free will emerges in how we navigate these predetermined aspects of our lives, eventually seizing control of our paths through self-education and personal decisions. The axis of choice is where the essence of our free will and personal growth is truly tested and manifested, pinpoints where the battle line truly is, and reminds us that the frontlines of our moral and spiritual journey are dynamic.

Part of asking God to fight our battles suggests asking for help with discernment, recognizing which struggles we can face and which are beyond our capacity. What is and what is not your fight? What is above your capability? Are you asking too little of yourself?

In a sense, that is the meta-fight, the fight that is bigger than and supersedes all other fights and requires honesty, humility, and maturity.

Poverty is a blight on the world for various reasons, but one of them is that the stress and struggle it causes from the limitations of material resources significantly diminishes the capacity to dream and hope; they become unable to aspire and ultimately fail to realize their potential.

(!ed Shlomo – needs a killer example)

There are fights we are too poor to recognize, too weak to fight. There are Chabad houses worldwide, and there are hospital kosher meals and visits, sure, but how many of us truly and deeply love all other Jews? It’s one of the most basic fundamentals that we often fail to champion, and we aren’t getting it right consistently enough. Does it take a wave of terrorism, a war, and global antisemitism to be a little kinder to each other? When Neturei Karta is in the media rubbing shoulders with people who would gladly eradicate us, it reminds us all too easily what it looks like when Jews turn away from the suffering of other Jews.

It’s easy and normal to identify with people most comfortably like us, segregating and preferring our homogenous thin slice of people just like us from our narrow continuum of camps and schools. While it’s certainly better than nothing, it comes at a steep price, and it’s sad we settle for so little.

The diversity of practice, belief, and opinion in Jewish life today is a strength and a challenge. The phenomenon known as the narcissism of small differences suggests that the more a community shares in common, the more likely the people in it are to engage in interpersonal feuds and mutual ridicule because of hypersensitivity to minor differences perceived in each other.

Loving fellow Jews is a core value of Judaism, a principle that calls for an embrace of unity that transcends the often superficial boundaries that frequently separate us. We must look past the distinctions and disagreements that lead to fragmentation within our community: Zionism, this custom, that rabbi, the other belief, whatever. The common ground we share is overwhelmingly similar: heritage, Torah, values, and destiny. We can and must cultivate a more inclusive, compassionate, and united Jewish community.

That is a hard fight we’ve historically underperformed.

It’s not too late to show up now.

 וּגְאָלֵנוּ גְאוּלָה שְׁלֵמָה מְהֵרָה לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ – Redemption from where we’re not supposed to be

Not all redemptions are complete.

Far more often, you just live to fight another day.

In dire circumstances, that’s a plausible enough redemption, sure.

But ideally, we long for a complete redemption, one that restores us from all forms of displacement, be it physical, spiritual, or existential, bringing us from all the places, states, or conditions we are not supposed to be in.

The word for complete is cognate to the word for peace, a lasting state of perfect harmony – שְׁלֵמָה / שָּׁלוֹם.

We don’t want a temporary respite; it doesn’t do much good to be stuck where you are ten years from now with the same struggles as today. A complete redemption is not a grace, singular event that sweeps the globe; if exile is complex, then so is redemption. We pray for a comprehensive and multifaceted holistic redemption that touches individuals and communities at the grassroots level, that is a permanent and lasting lived reality that transforms the world from the bottom up, an enduring redemption that leaves no possibility for backsliding or relapse to exile of any kind.

As with all our prayers, but perhaps most of all, this is not a magical request for divine intervention, a quick fix, or a deus ex machina-style solution that miraculously resolves our troubles while we passively observe. It’s quite the opposite; this prayer explicitly requires an interface – us. To get unstuck, it asks us to actively engage for profound, lasting transformation, considering what we’re lacking, what we’re fighting for and against, and what redemption looks like. For all the redemptions we so badly need, this prayer needs intensity.

Our prayers are at their most potent when accompanied by a balanced common-sense approach to problem-solving. When someone has terminal cancer, and the doctors say they can no longer help, it is far too late to turn to prayer, and any prayers that follow are low-quality and hopeless by definition. The sensible thing to do is to pray from the very beginning for a smooth healing process through the hands of the doctors and treatments.

Part of our prayer is for our efforts to work, that when we show up for our battles, we succeed. Praying for our actions to bear fruit, for the strength and wisdom to navigate life’s challenges and perhaps win, is an acknowledgment that the divine assistance we seek is meant to bolster our resolve and efforts, not replace them.

Do it quick or do it right

One aphorism suggests that you can do it quickly or you can do it right, but not both.

We’re frequently confronted with the choice of achieving our goals quickly, with the risk of imperfection, or taking a deliberate, slower approach to ensure the desired outcome is achieved correctly; we understand that there are tradeoffs between competing values and priorities.

But while this dichotomy is true of humans, it’s not true of the Creator; nothing is harder than anything else, and there is no opportunity cost. 

Although the exception, there are stories of instantaneous and total transformations, times people desperately wanted something, that if they got it, they’d never ask for anything again; to resolve the issue, find the right one, make a recovery, for the thing to work out okay. People pray hard in those moments, with more intention and hope than all the other times the stakes aren’t so high. Sometimes, those prayers are fulfilled, and the perfect outcome materializes.

The tumor disappears by the next scan. They meet the perfect person just as they’d given up. They make the big sale just as they are about to go out of business.

There are countless books filled with such stories, and their popularity is a product of how inspiring they are and how they supply us with hope to not give up on our own dreams and wishes. We have to be careful with these stories because they suffer from survivorship bias, the error of mistaking a visible success as representative of a larger group.

These miraculous stories have a place. Although extraordinary, they highlight the broader principle that our efforts and prayers take place on a vastly bigger landscape than we can imagine. Human endeavor is one modality of redemption; a tumor can be shrunk with chemotherapy and removed by surgery, which would be a very successful outcome. Stories of a sudden and miraculous recovery don’t negate the value of human efforts, such as medical treatment; rather, it complements them. These stories remind us that in our pursuit of redemption, we are not acting alone, and our efforts are augmented, guided, and supported in ways that may not always align with our expectations of speed or method.

We have to go slow and steady, but sometimes the magic happens suddenly all at once.

Pick your battles

We can ask God to fight our fights, sure, but which fights, though?

Our sages teach that achieving victory in the war for the soul is beyond our grasp without Divine assistance; the only way to attain meaningful and lasting triumph in life’s overarching struggles for spiritual and moral integrity is with Divine support. Our prayers affirm that God is our shadow, ever-present and mirroring our actions and intentions, inseparably following every move and guiding the way – hashem tzilcha CITE

The fight and the victory can look a lot of different ways; the answer to our prayers requires openness to both.

When someone loves to consume alcohol to the point of excess and becomes severely ill, they might have a moment of revelation in the throes of this crisis, leading to drastic change. From being entirely enslaved by addiction, the individual finds the strength to break free, achieving a state of liberation that once seemed unattainable. This transformation may seem sudden, like a miraculous overnight change, but it’s deeply rooted in the recognition of a power greater than oneself—a turning point where divine assistance and personal resolve converge.

God can fight our fights, but we must label them as fights. Don’t see it as a struggle; see it as a constant war for your soul, and you are either winning or losing. You need to see yourself capable of fighting, or you won’t last long. If you’re in the fight, it is at least possible you might find an unexpected reservoir of strength and the divine support necessary to transcend our limitations and challenges.

When we internalize the truth that God acts with us, we are empowered to face our battles with renewed strength and hope.

We can count on the Creator to fight our battles, but we have a great responsibility to show up to the right fights. An easy pitfall is to hate the sinner, not the sin, resulting in many of the negative interactions people have with otherwise observant people—Ohavei hashem sinu ra CITE.

Rebbetzin Batsheva Kanievsky was famously loving and patient. One time, a mixed group of less-affiliated young adults came to visit. One young woman was dressed below the expected standards, and a hotheaded young man from the neighborhood rushed over and shouted at her for the nerve she had to visit such a holy place dressed so disrespectfully!

Uncharacteristically, Rebbetzin Kanievsky immediately jumped to her feet and defended the visitor’s dignity over the boy’s inappropriate reprimand and screamed at the man to leave at once, that he was no longer welcome in her home. Later that night, she cried to her husband, blaming herself, wondering what she might have done wrong to have experienced somebody abusing an innocent visitor to her home.

The young man picked his battle, and the saintly woman picked hers.

R’ Baruch Ber Lebowitz reported that the first time he saw somebody violate Shabbos in public, he cried, and the second time, too. But the third time, it didn’t bother him as much anymore, and he didn’t cry; when he noticed that he was already becoming desensitized to the spiritual decline around him and in himself, he cried for that.

Pick your battles and choose how you engage. The essence of our spiritual battles lies not in ostracizing or humiliating others but in upholding our values with love, grace, and understanding.

A prerequisite to asking God to fight your fights is first picking your battles.

לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ – In your name

We turn to the Creator for our needs; it’s worth taking a moment to honestly consider if what we’re asking for is a want or a need and what our intentions are.

Do you want a big house to show off your expensive stuff? Or would you use it to host fundraisers and guests?

When you want something for personal reasons, it is a question of deserving and right. But when you need something in God’s name, it shifts the entire paradigm of our requests and struggles from a self-centered perspective to God at the center with us as support. When our requests are for the things we need to help align our actions with a higher purpose that transcends ourselves, fulfilling them isn’t about our personal desires or what we believe we deserve; it’s about glorifying God and upholding the sanctity of God’s name – לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ.

We then enter a realm where the usual considerations of merit and personal worthiness recede. Engaging in battles for God’s name means that our struggles, whether they be personal, communal, or global, are not fought for selfish gains and personal glory but for the sake of upholding and spreading divine values.

The Shem mi’Shmuel notes that while the ultimate reward is reserved for the next world, if what we seek is a means to that ultimate end, then this world is absolutely the domain to ask for those means – לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ.

If the things we do and the things we need are not merely acts of self-indulgence but essential components of self-care that give us the bandwidth and capacity that enable us to serve a higher cause with greater energy and dedication, they become sacred acts and essential tools in our efforts to make an impact – למענך / אני עבדך.

More profoundly, our sages teach that everything in this world, including our efforts and resources, is essentially collateral in God’s grand design, that nothing we have is an end in itself, and everything is a means to contribute to a higher purpose – הכל נותן בערבון.

We might as well recognize that and shift our perspective on our needs, deeds, and possessions and use them in service of God and humanity – לְמַעַן שְׁמֶךָ.

כִּי קל גּואֵל חָזָק אָתָּה – Strong redeemer 

God’s strength is most profoundly manifested not in punishment or destruction but in redemption and deliverance, especially when it is underserved by human standards. This engages the imagery of using effort to overcome a more obvious outcome.

The Zohar notes that the Jewish People in Egypt were on the 49th level of spiritual malaise, just one notch off rock bottom, the point of no return, and did not deserve to be saved. Rav Kook notes that this explains a particular dimension to the imagery of God’s mighty and outstretched arm; it was not a demonstration of power against the oppressors but, more significantly, an act of grace towards the Jewish People, a forceful intervention and emergency rescue of a nation that had stumbled and was about to fall off a cliff – בְּיָד חֲזָקָה וּבִזְרֹעַ נְטוּיָה.

God does not require more power to move a grape than a galaxy, and there is no difference between ten plagues and a thousand. But God’s strength is exercised in the act of redemption precisely because it overcomes justice, which would otherwise demand that consequences play out. Strength is revealed in choosing to redeem rather than to condemn, to liberate rather than to punish – גּוֹאֵל וחָזָק אָתָּה.

Mort, particularly, the Exodus story illustrates that God can redeem forcefully, and urgently if necessary. Sometimes, the ostensibly right time is still too late. There are situations where drawing things out or delaying might lead to irreversible damage; you can find yourself in an ordeal too long or stay stuck because you haven’t done the required work, but waiting like that for too long would be catastrophic.

For the times we might not really deserve it, and for the times we need to find the emergency exit, we can turn to God, the strong redeemer – כִּי קל גּואֵל חָזָק אָתָּה.

גּואֵל יִשרָאֵל – Redeems

This blessing is neither a commemoration of past redemptions nor a hopeful prayer for redemption in the distant future.

It’s a blessing in the present tense that concludes with the affirmation that the Creator is constantly and presently an ongoing source of deliverance and strength, actively engaged in our lives, addressing our pain and our needs – גּואֵל.

After Yakov’s all-night struggle with an angel, he earns the title Yisrael, “one who struggles with God and prevails;” to be Jewish is to be a fighter, to master our demons, and to stand for what is right and good for the sake of peace. And yet, in no way did Yakov earn a clear-cut victory at all; it was a stalemate that Yakov was injured in and survived, but our sages say that the dust that was kicked up from this contest rose to Heaven.

R’ Tzvi Meir Silberberg highlights that our sages herald the dust that was kicked up and went to Heaven; the dust, not the victory. The dust, the energy expended on the struggle, is what matters. Our victories are personal, and although we don’t always get to choose whether we win, we always control whether we go down without a fight.

The act of enduring the struggle and engaging in the fight defined Yaakov’s victory. As our history has taught us well, victory does not always lie in overcoming but sometimes in the perseverance and resilience to continue fighting against the odds.

In our moments of darkness, God is more than the redeemer acting on behalf of the Jewish People. In such moments, we can turn to the Creator to rekindle the spark within us and redeem the courageous spirit of Yisrael, the fighter, when our resolve wanes and our capacity to fight dims.

In moments of despair or exhaustion, when we feel we cannot pick ourselves up, when the prospect of rising again and re-entering the fray seems impossible, God can awaken the fighter within us, the element of Yisrael that enables us to rediscover our resilience and determination and reveal deeper reserves of courage, capacity, and spirit to face our challenges – גּואֵל יִשרָאֵל.

Closing 

We ask God to see our pain and the things we lack, the physical deficiencies, and the emotional and spiritual voids.

The Haggadah talks about the turning point of the Exodus, how God saw the Jewish People’s pain and affliction – Vayar es anyeinu CITE

Our sages understood that their pain transcended physical hardship and reflected the deep anguish of their oppression; beyond forced labor and enslavement, one of the results of the Egyptian government’s dehumanizing policies was that people stopped having children, one of the categories of people that might be considered a living death.

Consider that the Creator promised the world to Avraham, and Avraham openly questioned the value of such a promise with no children to leave anything to.

There is an explicit prayer for good sense, good health, and finances; while there isn’t one that directly asks for children, it’s implicitly contained in this one. It is our families that we find redemption, the culmination of a promise made to Avraham long ago.

This is the point in your prayers to think about the people who are desperate to have a child.

This is the moment to think about everyone who needs a bit of redemption, whether it’s personal struggles, health, money, love, fertility, happiness, or success.

This is the time to spare a thought of empathy and solidarity for everyone fighting battles of the spirit, the quiet, often unseen fight of their lives. Don’t wait for cracks to appear before offering compassion and support.

God didn’t just redeem the Jews way back when; God redeems Yisrael today.

Story (!ed Shlomo – cut?)

A boy was about to marry a gentile, and I davened to find the words he needed to hear, and I persuaded him not to.

 

Selicha – Atonement and Forgiveness

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סְלַח לָנוּ אָבִינוּ כִּי חָטָאנוּ. מְחַל לָנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ כִּי פָשָׁעְנוּ. כִּי מוחֵל וְסולֵחַ אָתָּה (ספרד: כִּי קל .טוֹב וְסַלָח אָתָּה:). בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, חַנּוּן הַמַּרְבֶּה לִסְלחַ – Pardon us, our Father, for we have sinned, forgive us, our King, for we have transgressed; for you are a good and forgiving almighty. Blessed are You, Hashem, Gracious One, Who pardons abundantly.

The link between repentance and forgiveness 

In the previous blessing, we prayed for repentance. We follow it up with a request for forgiveness.

Although they are thematically linked and echo similar themes, they are distinct phases on the path of spirituality, each with its own unique features and requests.

In the prayer for repentance, we acknowledged the distance from where we could be and asked for help finding our way. We requested divine assistance through the Torah, the road to repentance, emphasizing the process over the destination.

This blessing takes the next sequential step along the continuum. It delves deeper into the heart of the atonement process, not merely seeking the means to repent but imploring God to accept this repentance.

This distinction underscores a vital, often overlooked aspect of spiritual return: humans have an essential role in initiating, but this must be mirrored by the divine prerogative to embrace it. Our actions, though necessary, require divine favor to achieve their intended spiritual fruition.

This bilateral relationship is a universal constant in any discussion about the Creator, as articulated in the form of a covenant. God can say not to eat from the tree, but will the humans listen? Humans can pray and attempt to please God, but will God be receptive? This dynamic is a feature of all relationships, and our relationship with God through the lens of our Tradition is no different – Retzei Na Bimnuchaseinu.

The blessing for atonement captures this dynamic, presenting repentance as a partnership where the sincerity of our efforts meets the grace of God’s acceptance. This blessing, therefore, is not merely a sequel to its predecessor but a complementary counterpoint that teaches that while we can choose to turn a new leaf, the completeness of our effort still rests in God’s hands. It reminds us that our earnest efforts still need the divine seal of approval to get to the promised land.

It is possible to do teshuva and for God to reject it – there are times in the prophets when it is too little, or too late – navi quote about ignoring korbanos – Chazon?

When you hurt somebody you love, you feel bad for hurting them. You would apologize and try to make amends, but it doesn’t follow that the person has to accept your apology or that the relationship can be fixed. A good apology represents the first step: admitting wrongdoing and acknowledging fault for the hurt caused. It is a necessary act of vulnerability and humility, reflecting a desire to mend what you broke. But it is the leap of faith that we take when we have a relationship with another, and part of the apology must affirm the space for the other to respond how they choose.

The apology is distinct from forgiveness. The response is not guaranteed; repentance and forgiveness require separate prayers for Divine assistance.

Importance of forgiveness

(!ed cut this?)

Our prayers are structured in a hierarchy – we don’t just show up and freestyle with everything we want and need. The opening prayers affirm the destination of our prayers, the Almighty Creator. The following prayer is for holiness and separation, sacred distinction, which orients and designates our lives with purpose and imbues them with meaning. The following blessing is about wisdom and understanding, expanding our consciousness; everything that follows is what you want, but your consciousness is fundamentally your essential self and what you are.

Still abstracted from our daily wants and needs, we ask for teshuva and forgiveness. It’s the sixth Bracha, six corresponding to the letter ו. The letter is shaped as a straight line with a hook on the top, and the word literally means hook. The letter is used as a hook, the conjunctive “and,” and links things that might otherwise drift apart. The concepts of repentance and forgiveness are the hooks that stop us from drifting too far for too long.

Keeping teshuva in mind

We believe in our ability to make amends because the Torah consistently emphasizes that God is not impartial but biased in favor of creation – וּבְטוֹב הָעוֹלָם נִדּוֹן / עוֹלָם חֶסֶד יִבָּנֶה.

Our sages anticipated that someone might exploit this perspective, sinning with the intent of later repenting because there’s no downside to doing whatever you please if God is forgiving – Echteh vashuv CITE

This mindset, which exploits God’s compassionate and forgiving nature as a pretext for wrongful behavior, challenges the essence and integrity of the repentance process and brings to light a profound ethical and spiritual dilemma within the framework of repentance.

Repentance is a sacred mechanism that enables growth, healing, and renewal, facilitating genuine return and transformation. However, our sages warn that this mentality is doomed to fail; when premeditated as part of the sin itself, it loses all its transformative power, not as a punishment, but as a natural consequence of its misuse. That’s just not how it works. One of the critical elements of the process of repentance is sincerity, a genuine reckoning with one’s actions, and a heartfelt desire to change, without which repentance is an empty and hollow gesture.

If humans could theoretically exploit repentance as a mechanism for sin, it would undermine the fabric of ethical living. It would suggest that you can always avoid consequences and that actions do not truly matter, eroding personal responsibility and the sanctity of moral choice.

Repentance holds a place of immense honor and importance because it embodies the possibility of redemption and the belief in the capacity for change. It is a gift, not a loophole.

And yet, in asking for repentance and forgiveness every time we pray, don’t we open ourselves up to this accusation, effectively making our entire lives consciously aware that God forgives our sins and going about with our lives anyway, counting on that forgiveness, undermining the effectiveness of repentance? 

Ultimate echteh vashuv 

Our sages teach that a select few things predate Creation, one of which is the abstracted ideal of repentance.

The notion of something pre-existing Creation challenges our understanding of time and causality.

If repentance predates Creation, it is not part of Creation and, therefore, not subject to the space and time of our universe or its constraints, including entropy and decay. If repentance predates Creation, it also suggests that the capacity for repentance is not merely a response to human sinfulness but a fundamental aspect of the divine plan woven into the very fabric of existence. Repentance is not an after-the-fact solution; it’s baked into the fabric of the creation process, so redemption is structurally possible from the outset. Creation without repentance could not recover from failure or setbacks; there is no growth and, therefore, no life; it is static and stagnant. Repentance predates existence because the Creator anticipated it was the only way life could emerge, change, and become.

Complex things emerge from the simple things that precede them. Similarly, repentance as an abstract conceptual category had to predate Creation because there would otherwise be a filter that stops the complexity of Creation from emerging.

As a counterexample, splitting the Red Sea was miraculous but part of Creation, deeply rooted in the preexisting conditions, such as water and wind, that made such an act possible.

Repentance is like air and sunlight, essential elements for life that predate their utilization by living beings. Humans cannot exist without air and sunlight and cannot exist without the preexistent phenomenon of repentance. Repentance doesn’t exist in time, so it can unwind the effect of time and entropy; we can repair our mistakes, leaving only the lesson we have learned.

What if we didn’t need teshuva

God created the universe with the predominant attribute of kindness, with the attribute of justice featuring intermittently.

Who needs justice at all? What if we lived in a utopian universe of endless love and forgiveness?

On deeper reflection, such a world paradoxically negates the very essence of kindness. Without the counterbalance of justice and severity, unconditional kindness loses its meaning. In such a world, human actions would bear no consequence, leading to a reality where moral choices have no significance and individual existence lacks autonomy and purpose.

Morality rises from the framework of justice; the absence of judgment renders human deeds meaningless, as there is nothing to distinguish between good and evil, right and wrong. The moral equivalence of all actions, regardless of intent or impact, would dissolve the foundation of ethical living; kindergarten teacher or serial killer, it’s all the same.

Judgment makes the things we do matter and makes humans responsible, and that’s why we need repentance.

On Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, as much as the books of life and death are open in judgment and fate hangs in the balance, we say the blessing, thanking the Creator for bringing us to this moment, joyful affirmation that our deeds matter. Our actions matter; our existence has meaning and purpose. Judgment affirms that we are beings capable of moral choice, entrusted with the responsibility to justify our existence and earn our place in the world.

One of the most well-established psychological pathologies is when a parent over-sheltered and overprotected their children, undermining and crippling their development. Instead of encountering the world and being strengthened by it, they’re weakened by the suffocating protection, and when they eventually do go out into the terrible world, they cannot function as adults; they are only adult children.

Sheltering people from all their issues and never teaching boundaries or consequences is catastrophic for healthy development. It’s not kindness at all. In part, because the child never learns, but more fundamentally, because the child never really exists, they never have an identity or existence independent of the parent. Nothing they do has any meaning because they can’t really do anything; it’s all a reflection of the parents.

A similar pathology can be seen in the phenomenon of addiction when the person with an addiction is entirely dependent on an external substance and loses their identity, becomes incredibly destructive, and ignores all consequences.

Judgment matters. It adds a moral dimension to our existence, that we are either worthy or unworthy, ascribing meaning and value to what we do, whether positive or negative. It’s what lets us stand for ourselves.

Justice justifies our place in the world, so by necessity, God must sit in judgment. Yet, a world governed solely by strict judgment would be equally untenable, an existence so rigorous and unforgiving that no human could endure. Did you waste a few minutes of your day? Did you take your vision for granted for a moment? Who could stand up to that kind of scrutiny? What could be good enough for absolute justice? No one and nothing is perfect; perfect is impossible.

Because of this dynamic, justice is configured to be subordinate to and wrapped in kindness, and repentance is there from before the beginning that allows for human fallibility. It is a testament to the Creator’s foresight and mercy, ensuring that even when we stray, the path back to alignment with divine purpose is always open. Before we could fail, the bridge to reconciliation and redemption was lovingly laid.

The universe is designed for us to learn from our mistakes.

What is sin?

Sin is a Christian idea – see Bashevkin Sinagogue

 סְלַח לָנוּ אָבִינוּ כִּי חָטָאנוּ

In Jewish thought, the approach to sin is nuanced and diverges significantly from the Christian concept of sin.

R’ Avraham ben haGra illuminates this distinction by explaining that the word means something like missing the mark or what we would call a mistake. In fact, in modern Hebrew today, that’s how sports commentators describe when a player misses a shot – חָטָא.

This interpretation shifts the focus from an inherent moral failing to an error in aim or execution, underscoring the human propensity for mistakes rather than an intrinsic wickedness.

When you walk through the crowded streets in Israel and brush past someone, you would say excuse me. And if you speak Hebrew or understand polite Hebrew speakers, that’s what you say – Slicha. It’s mild and respectful, not too heavy-handed, casual, albeit sincere, apology for a minor, unintended transgression.

We do plenty of things wrong that, while mistaken, were not born of malice or deliberate intent to harm; we can take a milder, gentler approach to those human moments of error through the lens of a child’s relationship with a forgiving parent.

Father, we’ve made some mistakes, please excuse us –  סְלַח לָנוּ אָבִינוּ כִּי חָטָאנוּ.

 מְחַל לָנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ כִּי פָשָׁעְנוּ

In contrast, some of our misdeeds are willful or negligent, carrying a higher degree of culpability. When disregarding the consequences or where the outcome was quite foreseeable if we’d given it a little more thought, a more formal request for forgiveness is appropriate, and familiarity isn’t enough to lean on.

As one of the prophets asks, If I am Father, where is My honor?

When a parent forbids their son from driving their car, but he takes it one night against explicit instructions and crashes it, there is a lot to fix.

The first aspect of the apology must address the tangible damage, the act of smashing the car, acknowledging the physical and material harm caused, and admitting the direct consequences of the violation.

However, the second, deeper aspect would speak to disrespect and violation of trust inherent in the act of disobedience. By disregarding the father’s rule, the child disrespects the father’s authority in the particular instruction and disrupts the hierarchy that defines their relationship in general.

Seeking forgiveness for our transgressions, we approach God apologizing for our misdeeds and for the underlying disrespect towards the Divine. Recognizing God as our Father and King in our plea for forgiveness reaffirms the proper dynamics and acknowledges the sovereignty and authority of the Divine. Pardon us, our King, for we have transgressed –  מְחַל לָנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ כִּי פָשָׁעְנוּ.

I remember someone in yeshiva telling the rabbi he didn’t feel like praying, and the rabbi told him he had to anyway.

There will be days when you are not in the mood, but part of having responsibilities is showing up anyway. Commitment and discipline are essential, even in the absence of immediate desire or motivation. Look past temporary feelings of reluctance or hardship and recognize your agency in shaping your life.

Sometimes, life can be a car crash. It’s easy but lazy to say that life is hard. But every person who wants something different from their performance than what they’re getting is doing something to perpetuate poor outcomes. It’s much harder to take extreme ownership, look in the mirror, ask yourself what you could be doing better, and do those things, but we will ultimately have to answer for how we devote our time and attention.

Better to give it some thought sooner rather than later –  מְחַל לָנוּ מַלְכֵּנוּ כִּי פָשָׁעְנוּ.

כִּי קל טוֹב וְסַלָח אָֽתָּה

Bad things happen. Bad things happen frequently. Bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen for what appears to be no reason at all.

Our sages teach that when bad things happen, they can serve as a form of cleansing, rectification, or micro-punishment for wrongdoing. The Yom Kippur prayers acknowledge that adversity and suffering can be corrective – V’lo Al Yidei Yissurim V’Chalayim Ra’im CITE.

However, it is critical not to take this teaching too far or in the wrong way.

This only works when directed inward with introspection; the Rambam’s universal guidance on how to respond to bad things is to search our ways and repent because bad things happen in a climate and environment, and perhaps we can identify the factors that make them more likely to occur in a given context and change them.

This doesn’t work when directed towards others; the opposite of introspection is critical judgment. Our sages textbook example of hurtful speech is telling someone that their pain and suffering is a result of their sin.

(!ed Shlomo – linearity discussion)

If there is one counterexample, a single data point, and one good person that didn’t deserve their suffering, then the conclusion that people get what they deserve cannot be correct. You don’t have to look too hard. In a world of pediatric cancer wards, earthquakes, and special needs summer camps, it’s transparent nonsense that people deserve their suffering. Worst of all, this absurd perspective blames people for their own suffering, as though it’s their fault. It is one of the greatest comforts to hear that they don’t deserve it.

We live in a world where bad things happen for reasons we cannot understand. After the fact that we live in a world like that, the best thing you can do is take our sage’s view and do what you can with our challenges; see them as a growth opportunity, to introspect and use them as growth opportunities.

While we live in a world where bad things happen, we affirm that the nature of the Divine is rooted in forgiveness, goodness, and kindness – כִּי קל טוֹב וְסַלָח אָתָּה.

Beyond exemption from consequences, our ultimate hope and prayer are for a form of forgiveness imbued with kindness and compassion rather than being mediated through corrective measures.

We request forgiveness as an expression of the Creator’s goodness, yearning for a spiritual and moral correction that is positive, uplifting, and healing rather than a negative one that is painful and diminishes the human spirit – כִּי קל טוֹב וְסַלָח אָתָּה.

This perspective does not negate the reality or necessity of consequences; rather, it is a prayer for our mistakes and the divine response to them to be opportunities for genuine improvement and enlightenment, guided by a benevolent hand rather than through hardship. It reflects a trust in the Creator’s profound capacity for forgiveness, guided by infinite goodness – כִּי קל טוֹב וְסַלָח אָתָּה.

Empowering

In asking for forgiveness, the request acknowledges and affirms that God alone has the power of forgiveness and that you are accountable to and responsible to God. Relating to God as a sovereign, we ask for a pardon, accepting God’s authority.

When you want someone to feel smart, you can tell them they are smart. But far better than that, you can present them with a question or problem that they solve, and the result of how they feel means far more than a simple statement.

In asking for forgiveness, we inherently acknowledge that the power to forgive rests with God. This is a declaration of God’s ultimate authority over moral and spiritual realms, recognizing His sovereignty as the judge and benevolent ruler of the universe. It’s an acceptance that our actions are subject to divine scrutiny.

Owning it

Our sages regularly used metaphors to explain abstract concepts in language and imagery we would recognize as familiar.

When life on earth ends, our sages imagine the soul summoned to something equivalent to a heavenly tribunal with prosecution, defense, and final verdict. The prosecuting angel, whose job is to scrutinize human action and draw attention where necessary, is called Satan or Sanegor. It is not malicious or vindictive; it is a divine entity in good standing, fulfilling its core protocol in the same way as the sun shines. 

Part of the power of this imagery is that it is accessible. Everybody understands that there are things we’d rather keep concealed or hidden from our friends, and the prospect of our embarrassing and shameful secrets being exposed is terrifying. 

And yet, sunlight is the best disinfectant. When we confess our actions, apologizing and asking forgiveness from God directly with a personal appeal, the prosecution is preempted, and there are no secrets to reveal. We bypass the whole theatre and spectacle of a heavenly tribunal, asking for clemency, a pardon straight from the Source of the law. 

Our daily prayer is part of our daily check-in with our Father in Heaven, and it is far less formal than the ceremonies of Rosh Hashahan and Yom Kippur.

The preemptive appeal of our prayers reflects the divine nature and the dynamics of judgment and mercy. It acknowledges that while there is a structured process for evaluating human actions, the ultimate source of law and justice is the Creator, and like a monarch or president, possesses ultimate discretion to grant clemency, to forgive, and to grant mercy beyond the confines of any structured process.

Reward and punishment

(!ed Shlomo – cut this section? Off-topic and too abstract. I also don’t think the conclusion is good enough. Or it needs a much deeper treatment on non-linearity and complexity.)

One of the thirteen principles of faith put forward by the Rambam and broadly accepted as mainstream is the belief in reward and punishment, which is that God rewards good people and punishes bad people.

There isn’t any discussion about whether the sky is blue or fire is hot; it speaks for itself. The fact that there is an article of faith that we must take on belief suggests that the belief does not speak for itself and is not self-evident. We believe it, but we live in a world that doesn’t look like it.

One might argue that a linear universe governed by straightforward principles and predictable outcomes reflects Divine wisdom and control. In a linear world, moral choices are clear; if we make amends and do better, everything will be okay. Many people believe this, and we should let them!

But for everyone else, this is an age-old problem thinkers have engaged with and been troubled by – theodicy, the problem of evil. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Or, to frame it differently, why don’t bad things happen to bad people? After all, it’s the central premise of the High Holy Days.

The question is far too good; it has stood the test of time.

Our sages teach us that while troubles and ordeals compensate for misdeeds and wrongdoing, we should not expect a reward for our achievements in our lifetimes – schar mitzvah bhai alma leka.

Although the commandment itself has no reward in this plane of existence, there is a present reward for effort and the tangible effect that good deeds have in the external world. But the principal reward for the root of the Torah’s commandments transcends our worldly existence and underscores a fundamental belief in the inherent value of these commandments as sacred actions that align us with divine will, contributing to the fabric of the universe in ways that our current state of existence cannot fully comprehend.

Ultimately, the universe is much more complex than we can grasp.

חַנּוּן הַמַּרְבֶּה לִסְלחַ – God forgives us abundantly.

R’ Levi Yitzchak of Berditchev told a parable about a child who asked his father for a sweet, and his father gently replied that it wasn’t time for a treat. Undeterred, the child loudly recited the blessing anyway; not wanting the child’s blessing to go to waste, the father yielded and gave him the snack – Bracha lvatala. 

The child is not cheating or compelling his father; the child cannot force or coerce the father, who does not have to say yes. He didn’t want to give his son a snack, but then he changed his mind.

In the dynamic between Creator and Creation, we affirm that the Creator abundantly forgives; it’s a feature, not an exploit. Repentance and forgiveness are not manipulative; they provide a theological insight into how God encourages us to approach and engage with the hope and expectation of forgiveness. This doesn’t diminish the sincerity or the necessity of genuine repentance but highlights the overwhelming nature of divine mercy and the lengths to which God will go to facilitate our return to Him.

After the debacle with the Golden Calf, our Sages imagine God putting on a tallis like a prayer leader, teaching Moshe how to make amends, teaching him the Thirteen Attributes of Mercy by which God governs the world, word by word, to be invoked when in need of forgiveness, modeling, leading, and facilitating the attitude of seeking reconciliation and the prioritization of forgiveness and mercy.

Repentance isn’t cheating the system; it’s not a hack. Repentance is not a loophole to be exploited but a fundamental characteristic of divine love and justice, the system working as intended. Our world is designed with the explicit purpose of maximizing our opportunities for growth and making amends with grace and abundance – חַנּוּן הַמַּרְבֶּה לִסְלחַ

Ordeals and obstacles aren’t there to hurt or trip us up; they are catalysts and stimuli to respond. Mountains are there to be climbed; within every challenge lies an invitation to ascend, to reach new heights of understanding, compassion, and resilience.

Abundance

When children play, they sometimes hurt each other or fight. But they make up and are best of friends again moments later, and all is forgotten. When grown-ups fight, it’s much uglier. Hopefully, the wrongdoer apologizes, and hopefully, the receiving party accepts the apology, forgives, and lets go of their anger. But humans can be resentful; they don’t always forget, and they might not be friends again.

God’s forgiveness isn’t like that.

It’s abundant and gracious.

With repentance, transgressions aren’t just erased. They can also be recategorized based on motivation. When motivated by fear, intentional sins are downgraded to accidents and oversights; when motivated by love, sins can become merits. It’s intuitive; how a person adapts past mistakes materially affects how you incorporate the lessons learned to be a better person.

It’s not magic; it’s common sense. When you hurt a loved one, you are afraid of damaging the relationship and double your efforts. When you confront grief and pain in a relationship in a healthy and constructive manner, it can propel you to a new place that you weren’t previously able to access, and you can directly say that what brought you closer was the mistake: you have made order out of chaos.

It’s a bit like learning to ride a bicycle. The first time you lose your balance, you fall and hurt yourself. Maybe next time, you wear a helmet and pads and slowly learn how to keep your balance. If you focus on how bad falling hurts, you’ll never learn to ride the bike. But once you learn to keep your balance, you forget about falling, and maybe you don’t need the pads anymore. You now know how to ride a bicycle.

R’ Meir Shapiro teaches that this is why honey, not sugar, is the centerpiece of the holiday imagery. Honey is kosher despite being a product of non-kosher origins, and maybe you get stung. It’s complex, not simple. But doesn’t that sound a lot like repentance? You made mistakes that weren’t so kosher; maybe they stung a little and weren’t so simple, but you can learn and grow from them all the same – you’ve made something kosher from something that’s not.

This sheds deeper light on the previous blessing, which affirmed that God desires our repentance. Our sages teach that the repentant soul reaches spheres beyond even the truly righteous; they have a deeper expression of spirituality, having tasted the darkness and emerged with more authenticity and a richer human experience. They reveal a light from within darkness that is incomprehensible to someone who has never known darkness.

Don’t forget

Humans need forgiveness.

If you’ve made the mistakes everyone has and you have a conscience, you cannot walk around carrying the heavy burden of guilt forever. So we need forgiveness, and we can be cleansed and relieved, becoming finer and greater for it.

But we must remember that forgiveness is ultimately God’s domain; we believe in personal accountability. We don’t get to forgive ourselves cheaply and move on, absolving ourselves of doing the word of making amends.

It’s too easy to justify and excuse ourselves. One of the common pitfalls is judging others freely but being the greatest lawyers for our own mistakes. While toxic guilt and shame are wrong, it’s also not your place to forgive yourself freely; our world has a moral or spiritual dimension that we are not the master of.

After the Golden Calf, Moshe prayed for forgiveness for the people on the very first Yom Kippur, earning forgiveness, which God reveals in a way that suggests that Divine forgiveness is responsive, initiated by human seekers, and mirrors the degree of input – Vayomer Hashem salachti kidvarecha.

This reinforces the dynamic relationship between humanity and the Divine, emphasizing that forgiveness is not automatic but must be sought with sincerity and humility. There is no forgiveness unless we ask, and there is no forgiveness unless we mean it, recognizing our wrongdoing and wanting to mend our ways.

When people aren’t sorry for disregarding you, it makes a relationship pretty much impossible. To whatever extent we seek forgiveness, we need to match it with depth and sincerity in our words, the thoughts and intentions behind them, and the actions we take to manifest our repentance as well.

Repentance predates everything, repentance enables thing. The universe is ordered for repentance; it would be the silliest thing for God to make excuses and forgive people who aren’t repentant, granting cheap grace to all. It would erode the foundations of justice and morality entirely, core functions of existence, and that’s why we need forgiveness.

Collective Responsibility

Our sages teach that the Jewish People are responsible for each other and that any prayer not said in the name of all the Jewish People is not a prayer.

The legendary prophet Shmuel taught the power and necessity of communal repentance, the collective ownership of misdeeds, and a communal approach to seeking forgiveness –  Vayomer chatanu lifanecha.

Taking responsibility alone transforms how a slight is observed. If you go to a shopping center with piles of rubble, you won’t go back, but you’d feel differently if the store hung signs asking you to excuse their appearance while they undergo renovations scheduled for completion by April. The acknowledgment makes you more patient and forgiving that the experience was below expectations. 

Although Shmuel was speaking to a generation that had strayed far from the ways of their ancestors, Shmuel understood that God primarily judges those who refuse to acknowledge their sins, not just for our actions but also for how we relate to and feel about them.

If whatever is wrong isn’t your fault, then you can’t do anything differently next time, and nothing can change; it would be impossible to move on and heal from anything wrong with you. You can only do better next time if you can take responsibility.

The concept of seeking forgiveness for everyone, collectively rather than individually, brings to light the communal dimension of sin and forgiveness. It’s not about apologizing to others but with them because we are deeply interconnected.

Final thought

In the era of redemption, of Mashiach and the Third Beis HaMikdash, it is conceivable that the most righteous saint of the era might be a wicked person who has undergone profound repentance,

 

Binah – Wisdom and Understanding

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אַתָּה חוֹנֵן לְאָדָם דַּעַת וּמְלַמֵּד לֶאֱנוֹשׁ בִּינָה: חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ חָכְמָה בִּינָה וָדָּעַת בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ חוֹנֵן הַדָּעַת – You graciously grant man with wisdom and teach humans understanding. Grant us, from You, with knowledge, understanding, and prudence. Blessed are You, Hashem, Who grants us with knowledge.

The First Request

The Amida is broadly divided into three sections; the first section consists of praise, the second of personal requests, and the third of thanksgiving and appreciation.

The request for wisdom and understanding is the very first request, and it’s important to consider why that might be the case. It precedes any request for peace, prosperity, health, happiness, family, or redemption.

Wisdom is what makes us human

Our sacred texts consistently record how every element of the cosmos praises the Divine simply by its mode of being; these are gathered together beautifully in a compendium called Perek Shira. Their very existence as part of much larger ecosystems testifies to the connection, majesty, and grandeur of creation that binds the universe together, each according to its nature, galaxy clusters and molecules, heaven, and earth, night and day, wind and rain, lion and gazelle.

But while every creation participates in this universal chorus just by existing, only humans possess consciousness, the ability to choose their mode of praise, establishing a unique responsibility and privilege, framing human prayer and praise as an act of deliberate intention set against a backdrop of a world in constant, albeit involuntary, worship.

Humans self-identify as homo sapiens sapiens, which means wise or knowledgeable man, to distinguish themselves from other hominids and animals; we are the only species with higher intelligence that has articulated knowledge, self-representation, and self-consciousness. Humans alone possess the mental faculties to choose to recognize the Creator, to decide whether or how to articulate and express a prayer we can comprehend in our own thoughts and words; wisdom is a defining trait of what it is to be human, what it means to be created in God’s image.

It follows that wisdom is the first thing we must ask for.

Wisdom is what makes you you

Wisdom is what makes us human in general; your personal blend of wisdom gives rise to your consciousness and makes you distinctively and uniquely you.

Humans have a generalized commodified need for health, food, shelter, love, and happiness, but your consciousness is hyper-personal; there will only ever be one you. Someone else can experience all the same facts in their life, be born to the same parents, have the same upbringing, and perhaps even be your twin; they still wouldn’t be you. As our sages teach, the notion of boundaries, distinctions, and separation can only emerge as a function of understanding – HVDLA MINAYN CITE

Your consciousness is the definitive marker of your uniqueness, the intimate essence that distinguishes you as irreplaceably you. Our consciousness remains intensely personal—a singular occurrence in the expanse of existence.

How many people live half-consciously, never thinking about who they are and where they’re going? As Socrates said, the unexamined life is not worth living. Asking for higher consciousness and deeper self-understanding is asking to be more you, and it’s the first and most important thing to ask for.

Relationships are built on understanding

The building blocks of relationships are the understanding of the people in it.

Closeness and connection between individuals hinge on mutual awareness and recognition of oneself and one’s counterpart. Personal relationships flourish when each party genuinely understands and appreciates the essence of the other, grounding the relationship in authenticity and presence.

Imagine a man and woman on a date. She tells him her name is Sarah, she’s from California, and she is vegetarian, and he falls in love with her. But what if her real name is Rachel, she’s from New Jersey, and her favorite food is chicken wings? The facade of her false identity isn’t simply an obstacle to forming a relationship with this man; the relationship he thinks he is in never existed at all, and his understanding of the person he thinks he loves isn’t real.

Inverting the dating metaphor, imagine a man in a serious yeshiva, only for serious guys. But in reality, he is casual; he comes late, leaves early, frequently steps out for a coffee and a smoke, and is always on top of the nightly sports and weekend plans. If a young woman wants to marry someone committed to their learning, she might or might not see through him; he might be enrolled in a serious yeshiva and on the Torah production line, but he is actually deeply unserious about his lifestyle and is entirely out of sync with the track he has put himself on. To the extent he is unaware, the problem is more acute, and he lacks self-awareness and a relationship with himself.

Our prayers have the capacity to articulate and build a bridge of connection and relationship with the Creator. To the extent that is possible, it is only real to the extent our understanding of the relationship is grounded in truth and reality; any deceptive foundations or lack of authenticity will preclude the possibility of genuine connection and meaning. Prayer requires the elements of clarity of self-awareness and the earnest desire to comprehend the Divine.

Without one of these, a relationship is impossible.

Structure of the prayer

The request prayers conform to a particular format. They opening with the request, and close by affirming that only God is capable of granting our requests – סְלַח לָנוּ אָבִינוּ כִּי חָטָאנוּ / כִּי מוחֵל וְסולֵחַ אָתָּה, רְאֵה נָא בְעָנְיֵנוּ וְרִיבָה רִיבֵנוּ / כִּי אֵל גּוֹאֵל חָזָק אָתָּה, רְפָאֵנוּ / כִּי אֵל מֶלֶךְ רוֹפֵא נֶאֱמָן וְרַחֲמָן אָתָּה.

This blessing doesn’t conform to that formula and inverts it. It opens by affirming that God grants humans wisdom and closes with our request – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן / חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ.

Our prophets imagined a Heavenly court, with prosecution and defense teams, where the respective merit or obligations of any particular thing are carefully measured and weighed.

Our prophets imagined a metaphor of a Heavenly Court system, a meticulous balance of justice where the merits and obligations of each soul are weighed by justice and compassion, prosecution and defense. Central to this celestial tribunal is the role of the accuser who challenges our entitlements, pushing back against our requests. Far from being an obstacle, this adversarial presence is a fundamental aspect of our spiritual ecosystem, intended not to thwart us but to propel us toward growth and self-improvement.

Our souls originate from a realm of completeness, where our needs and desires are instantaneously fulfilled; the Creator saw fit to create a world that demands our participation and struggle, a place where our efforts are intrinsic to our spiritual and personal development. This dynamic ensures that our achievements are not merely handed to us but are the fruits of our labor and perseverance, enriching our journey with purpose and meaning.

Our sages suggest that a person may deserve something, yet the prosecuting angels can interfere with their ability to receive. This emphasizes the complexity of divine justice, where effort, merit, and celestial advocacy intertwine, reminding us that our engagement with the world and our pursuit of righteousness are integral to navigating the challenges laid before us; the value of our endeavors lies not solely in their outcomes but in the growth, character, and resilience we develop through the process of striving.

We open the prayer with a simple and undeniable statement of fact, not a request; the angels cannot object – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן.

It is a strategic spiritual maneuver that opens our requests with facts that even the prosecuting angels, celestial advocates usually inclined to challenge, cannot dispute.

And yet, if such a strategy can compel even the prosecuting angels to concede, why is it not employed more frequently?

There is a very good reason to avoid shortcuts, both spiritual and every day. There are frameworks for how the world works, with obstacles that exist for good reason. These obstacles aren’t punishments; they are structural features that stimulate opportunities for growth and development when capitalized on. They stop people from getting things they don’t deserve; they force people to act and become the things they are supposed to be in order to deserve them. Genuine achievement requires effort, struggle, and perseverance, fostering a deep sense of fulfillment and worthiness.

These challenges are divinely placed to ensure that we engage in the necessary work to evolve and refine ourselves, aligning with the virtues and character we are meant to embody; it would be counterproductive to the purposes of creation to circumvent the things the very things that support growth.

Knowledge, wisdom, and understanding stand apart in the pursuit of personal and spiritual growth, underscoring why it is the first request and deviates from the normal structure of prayer. Unlike shortcuts, which bypass the essential processes necessary for genuine development, knowledge directly contributes to and enriches these processes. It serves not as a detour but as a critical path toward understanding, growth, and enlightenment.

Knowledge provides the groundwork upon which wise and informed decisions can be made. It equips individuals with the understanding needed to navigate complex situations and make choices that align with their values and goals. True knowledge inspires growth, introspection, critical thinking, the questioning of assumptions, internal expansion, and self-awareness. When facing life’s obstacles, knowledge acts as a tool for empowerment rather than avoidance. It enables individuals to confront challenges with a deeper understanding of their context and potential solutions, thereby transforming obstacles into opportunities for learning and advancement. A more compassionate approach to interactions with others and a greater appreciation for the complexity of the human experience. The journey toward personal and spiritual fulfillment ensures that growth is an ongoing process marked by curiosity and a relentless pursuit of understanding.

Knowledge is the very essence of the journey itself.

Granting freely – חונֵן

A grant is a gift bestowed by an entity for a specific purpose linked to a public benefit. The essence of a grant is an investment in potential; it’s an acknowledgment that the recipient possesses the vision, skill, or plan necessary to achieve meaningful outcomes but lacks the resources to realize these objectives.

For example, a person unable to afford school tuition fees may be given a grant if the school deems their attendance beneficial. When something is granted, it means it was not due or owed; the recipient is evaluated and found to have quality and needs a little help – חונֵן.

A grant is a unilateral act; it is not bilateral in the way a loan is given, with the obligation on the recipient to repay. A grantor does not expect repayment of the grant, but there is something else the grantor expects. A grantor usually sees the recipient as capable of doing something, and the grant is what enables the recipient of rising to the challenge. People who aren’t up for the challenge will not receive the grant; a large part of grant seeking is demonstrating aptitude and desire for what the grant is supposed to help you become.

We acknowledge the Creator’s role in generously providing us with abilities, insights, or resources that we, by our own merits, might not have obtained.

The Hebrew word for granting is cognate to the word for free chinam CITE. These associations capture how our consciousness and faculties are unconditional gifts, blessings that come without prerequisites.

It also shares a common root with the word for charm and grace – chen CITE. Grace is a quality that endears someone or something to others. It’s an almost ethereal attribute that makes a person or action pleasing, often in a way that transcends rational explanation. When we attribute chen to a person, we recognize in them a divine spark of favor that elicits a positive response from those around them.

The intriguing dynamic between these concepts illuminates how grace operates in the realm of human interaction and perception. Two individuals might perform the identical action yet be received entirely differently by those around them. One might be seen as charming or endearing, eliciting a warm response, while the other’s identical action might be perceived as annoying or obnoxious, lacking the same grace in the eyes of the beholder, highlighting the ineffable quality of grace that allows an individual to find favor in the eyes of others, seemingly without effort. It’s not merely about the actions we undertake but the manner in which these actions are perceived, shaped by an intangible grace that can sway judgments and responses.

To humans – לְאָדָם

In most languages, there are different words to describe people, with slightly different connotations. There are more casual and more idealistic terms with different connotations: dude, guy, man, person, individual, human. Generic terms tell us little about who a person is, but more idealistic terms suggest far more; there is a world of difference between a good dude, which may suggest someone fun to hang out with, and a good human, a label that suggests that a person embodies the highest ideals of what a human being looks like.

Hebrew uses similar language to describe the way a person can be – אָדָם, אֱנושׁ, and ISH, among others.

The baser word for human is typically associated with the mortal, fallible, and vulnerable aspects of human nature – אֱנוֹשׁ. It underscores the fragility and transient nature of human life, reflecting on the limitations and weaknesses inherent in our existence.

The higher word for human in this blessing is inherited from Adam, the primordial first man, a word that captures a powerful duality. The word for human is related to the word for earth, the raw matter our bodies are made of – אֲדָמָה; and yet it is also connected to the most idealistic and aspirational aspect of human nature, our unique capacity to reflect divine attributes, to create, to reason, and to exercise moral judgment – אֲדמֶה, literally, “I will compare to” or “I will emulate.”

The Hebrew name of our species recognizes human complexity. We are, at once, beings of the earth, bound by our physical and moral limitations, and yet, we are also beings with the potential for divine emulation, capable of transcending our material origins through creativity, morality, and spirituality. This dialectic serves as a reminder of our humble beginnings, our vulnerabilities, and our ultimate aspirations to reflect higher, divine qualities, defining the scope of human endeavor.

Humans possess the capacity and potential to go in both directions, either static as earth or vibrant and life-affirming like God. Living up to the greatness we are capable of requires wisdom and understanding to identify and make quality choices to realize our tremendous capabilities, and we can’t do it alone – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן לְאָדָם דַּעַת.

The dynamic between aspiring to be godly yet being creatures of the earth captures the profound ebb and flow of human spiritual and moral life, an oscillation that reflects our ongoing struggle between our higher aspirations and our earthly origins. While wealth and health can come and go from one day to the next, wisdom is a more enduring gift, a divine spark that, once ignited within a person, remains with most people until late in life, even when misused.

The sanctity and permanence of consciousness and wisdom suggest that it operates with different parameters, quite unlike our other blessings. In spite of our ability to misuse God’s gifts, God doesn’t withhold from us and gives freely. We can use the same skills to figure out how to help the most people or get the most money from the government. We can use the same bargaining skills to negotiate fair terms or crush our counterparts. Life isn’t just about struggling to get what we want; an essential component of the challenge is how we get there and what we do with it once we get it.

The flip side of creating humans and hoping for the best is that sometimes, we let God down and use our gifts and talents incorrectly, but God doesn’t take it away – the gifts aren’t conditional. People can use their intellects to deny God’s existence, and God allows it.

On a deeper level, Creation wasn’t a one-off event at the beginning; it is consistently sustained and renewed every moment—HMCHDSH OLAMO BETUVO—which suggests that our blessings and gifts are renewed every moment as well. So not only does God allow us to keep our blessings when we squander them, but God gives them to us anew and believes in our ability to change!

God grants us the ability to think in the way we want to – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן לְאָדָם דַּעַת.

Knowledge – דַּעַת

The Torah opens with humanity’s awakening in the Garden of Eden and the incident with the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. The name itself suggests knowledge of the link between good and evil, the connection between them and their conclusions, death and ruin, or goodness and eternal life in this world and that next.

The blessing contains 17 words, the numerological value of good – tov CITE. Wisdom and goodness are inextricably linked; all our requests for blessings and goodness follow from our understanding of self-understanding, who we are, and how we hope to use our blessings.

The blessing contains 68 letters, the numerological value of life – chaim CITE. This blessing is the gateway to all worlds, to life in this world, the next world, and our inner world.

The Chiddushei Harim notes that consciousness is ephemeral; it is not something you can identify in the human anatomy. Philosophers and neuroscientists grapple with the mind-body problem and that hard problem of consciousness; you can identify every part of the body and its function, but not the mind. How does physical matter generate the subjective experience? Your eyes are how you see, and your nose is how you smell, but how does everything come together to make you you?

The most cutting-edge equipment can identify every physical part and describe how it functions, but no one can point to anything and say there, this is you; only the Creator does that – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן לְאָדָם דַּעַת

The Rambam suggests that the ultimate form of knowledge is to know that we do not know – תכלית הידיעה שלא נידע. This profound statement captures a central theme in Jewish philosophy and in the broader realm of epistemology, the study of knowledge, emphasizing the outer boundaries of human understanding in the face of the divine.

This teaching suggests that the highest form of wisdom a person can achieve is the recognition of their own limitations and the vastness of the unknown. It humbles the human intellect, positioning true wisdom not in the accumulation of facts or assertions of certainty but in the humble acknowledgment of our finite capacity to comprehend the infinite.

Acknowledging what we don’t know invites us into a space of intellectual humility and openness,  which becomes a foundation for inquiry, reflection, and growth. It challenges us to question, explore, and remain perpetually open to learning and revising our understanding of the world and the Divine. This approach to knowledge not only honors the complexity and mystery of creation but also aligns with the Jewish tradition’s emphasis on lifelong learning and the pursuit of wisdom.

One of the greatest weaknesses a person can have is thinking you have all the answers, being a know-it-all. If you know everything, what do you have left to learn? It’s a blind spot, and no one is immune to this, from sages and scholars to scientists and parents; you have to pay attention to the data.

Presuming to have all the answers underestimates the unknown, uncertainty, and complexity of our universe. When a person adopts a mentality that assumes absolute certainty it limits the scope of inquiry and discovery. True inquiry is based on the understanding that knowledge is provisional and subject to refinement or even overhaul in light of new information.

Wisdom is freely given, which ties into the humility necessary for continual learning. The moment an individual presumes they have reached the pinnacle of understanding, they effectively close themselves off to further learning. This stance is antithetical to the very essence of wisdom, which thrives on curiosity, openness, and the recognition of one’s own limitations; the ultimate form of knowledge is to know that we do not know.

Our place in it

We embrace the tools and understandings of science; when we look within with microscopes and into the beyond with telescopes, we enter a shared space of inquiry and wonder that transcends cultural, religious, and personal boundaries. These instruments, symbols of human curiosity and the pursuit of knowledge, allow us to peer deeply into the fabric of the universe, from the minuscule building blocks of life to the vast expanses of the cosmos. Yet, what we perceive through these lenses can vary profoundly, influenced by our backgrounds, beliefs, and philosophical perspectives.

When we look at nature when we gaze upon the moon and the stars, we see not just celestial bodies obeying the laws of physics, but intertwining our observations of physical phenomena with awe and spirituality, we recognize the markers of the Divine glory with the Creator’s signature flair:

כִּי־אֶרְאֶה שָׁמֶיךָ מַעֲשֵׂי אֶצְבְּעֹתֶיךָ יָרֵחַ וְכוֹכָבִים אֲשֶׁר כּוֹנָנְתָּה׃ מָה־אֱנוֹשׁ כִּי־תִזְכְּרֶנּוּ וּבֶן־אָדָם כִּי תִפְקְדֶנּוּ – I behold Your heavens, the work of Your fingers, the moon and stars that You set in place what is man that You have been mindful of him, mortal man that You have taken note of him…

This reflection encapsulates a profound sense of humility and wonder in the face of the natural world, acknowledging the vastness of the universe and questioning the place of humanity within it. It’s a moment of recognizing both the grandeur of creation and the intimate relationship between the Divine and humanity. Fully compatible with the scientific exploration of the universe, it embraces and enriches it with a layer of meaning and purpose. The same tools that unlock secrets of the physical world also open pathways to spiritual insight and contemplation.

There’s a famous existential comic that depicts a boy shouting into the night sky, “I’m significant!” but as he remarks in the next panel, he “screamed the dust speck.” This poignantly captures the paradox of human existence, the tension between our apparent insignificance in the vast cosmos and our innate sense of self-importance and meaning. This imagery evokes the humility and awe inspired by our understanding of the universe’s enormity, as well as a defiant assertion of individual worth and identity in the face of such an overwhelming scale.

In a similar comic, he stares at the night sky with a friend, who admires the view, “What a clear night! Look at all the stars. Millions of them!” And the boy replies, “Yes, we’re just tiny specks on a planet particle, hurling through the infinite blackness…” They stand together for a few moments, and the boy says, “Let’s go in and turn on all the lights.”

The universe is a much bigger place than it was just a few centuries ago. There’s more than one continent, the world isn’t flat, the world isn’t in the center of the universe, isn’t the only planet, only solar system, only galaxy, and it goes on. It’s a lot grander, it’s a lot bigger, but it’s also a lot more frightening and alienating in some sense. Because the cosmos has become so vast, it’s so easy to think of humans as trivial specks on a trivial speck on some misbegotten end of a galaxy, among hundreds of millions of other galaxies, to see ourselves as nothing in the span of time.

This realization can be humbling or even unsettling, as it challenges our perceptions of centrality and importance. And yet, seeing the same galaxy as everyone else, we aren’t intimidated by our smallness and our place in the universe because we know the greatness we are capable of, the divine image that is localized in this corner of the universe and nowhere else – אַתָּה חוֹנֵן לְאָדָם דַּעַת.

Prayer and wisdom are both necessary, but neither are sufficient

The Rambam suggested that if a person wants to know the Creator, they should study creation and contemplate its beauty, complexity, and interconnectedness.

Yet Rav Moshe Meiselman commented that for all the time he spent in science labs, he never once heard his peers see the beauty, complexity, and systematic unity of the sciences and conclude that there is a Creator. He suggested that the missing ingredients were prayer, humility, curiosity, openness, recognition of their limitations, and the desire to see beyond them.

The sages of Alexandria asked R’ Yehoshua how to become wise; he said to work less and study more. They countered that many people had tried and hadn’t become wise; R’ Yehoshua thought for a while and responded that they must also pray for wisdom.

The story records the full exchange; study alone isn’t the answer but must be accompanied by prayer for success.

He took a practical approach to achieving goals; you have to put in concrete and tangible efforts that make sense.

If there’s a big exam, probability distributions conclusively demonstrate that people who know the material usually pass; people who don’t study typically fail. You might pass or fail, and the test might never ultimately matter in the fullness of your life as it unfolds.

But you won’t ever know that sitting in the room, staring at the paper, scratching your head, searching for the answer. If you want to learn something, it’s not going to happen if you don’t open a book and dedicate the time to learn. You can pray until the heat death of the universe with the loftiest intentions, but it just doesn’t work like that. God can’t do it for you; you need to sit down and do the work; that was the sage’s first answer.

His second answer doesn’t override the first answer; it modifies it with a caveat. You can work forever and spend all your time on something, and get everything completely wrong, make the wrong connections, draw the wrong conclusions, and go down rabbit holes that lead nowhere. God can’t do it for you, and you also can’t do it by yourself.

You need to put in the work, and you need to pray for everything to come together right.

וּמְלַמֵּד לֶאֱנושׁ בִּינָה – teach humans understanding

We ask God to teach humans to understand things, to understand each other – וּמְלַמֵּד לֶאֱנושׁ בִּינָה.

Since the late nineteenth century, pyschology has developed a framework to conceptualize the unconscious mind, a revolutionary epiphany that we take for granted today; the idea that your perceptions and your actions and your thoughts are all informed and shaped by unconscious motivations that are not fully under your voluntary control.

It is not possible to make someone understand something; Socrates said that he could not teach anything, he could only make them think. When the newly crowned King Rehoboam asked his court for advice on taxation policy, his senior advisors suggested that tax cuts would show goodwill to citizens and earn favor and loyalty, but his newly appointed advisors, his friends, and cronies, suggested a harsher tax on his people to assert his authority without compromise. He did not see the wisdom in what his senior advisors had recommended, but it was right in front of him and made perfect sense.

Knowledge doesn’t come from others, and it doesn’t come from ourselves either; if we miss the wisdom that’s granted to us, we ask God to teach us so we can absorb it וּמְלַמֵּד לֶאֱנושׁ בִּינָה.

Beyond our structured attempts at learning, there exists a more profound, often inexplicable, mechanism through which knowledge and understanding are imparted. When flashes of inspiration and sudden insights pop into our minds, where does that information come from? It comes from the unconscious teacher, in a broader, more cosmic sense; the universe seeding ideas and revelations within us, often when we least expect, and often as a product of prayer – וּמְלַמֵּד לֶאֱנושׁ בִּינָה.

Even when wisdom is taught or shared, some students may not perceive its depth or value immediately, if at all. Knowledge, when shared, plants a seed, an idea that might lie dormant until the right conditions or moments awaken it, underscoring the challenges and mysteries inherent in the transmission of knowledge and insight, a journey that can be as unpredictable and mysterious as it is deliberate.

חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ – Grant us, from You

There is plenty of wisdom in the world, but we want the Creator’s wisdom – כִּי־ה’ יִתֵּן חכְמָה מִפִּיו דַּעַת וּתְבוּנָה / תוֹרַת־פִּיךָ.

Our sages were secure in their belief that there is wisdom and knowledge to be found outside of the Jewish people, the idea that God disperses knowledge throughout humanity, which invites us to recognize and respect the insights and advancements made by various cultures.

But, while all wisdom comes from the Creator, the wisdom we pray for is the kind that comes directly from the Creator, not mediated indirectly through third parties – חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ.

Imagine a king hosting a royal banquet with many guests. There are countless food options, and his young son comes to sit on his lap. The child can have any dish in the room, but he will only eat off his father’s plate. The food is all delicious, and everyone is having a great time, but the intimate nature of the source is what makes the interaction desirable due to its direct association with his father; it’s not from the serving platter, it’s my Dad’s!

In Moshe’s final speech to his people, he calls the Torah he leaves them their wisdom and understanding – וּשְׁמַרְתֶּם וַעֲשִׂיתֶם כִּי הִוא חָכְמַתְכֶם וּבִינַתְכֶם לְעֵינֵי הָעַמִּים אֲשֶׁר יִשְׁמְעוּן אֵת כָּל־הַחֻקִּים הָאֵלֶּה וְאָמְרוּ רַק עַם־חָכָם וְנָבוֹן הַגּוֹי הַגָּדוֹל הַזֶּה.

God gives humans the ability to understand things and make discoveries, expanding knowledge and developing wisdom, especially in recent times. All the great scientists, doctors, jurists, philosophers, and teachers have wisdom; few have Torah, God’s wisdom. The wisdom of that world is marvelous but will never satisfy us; we crave God’s wisdom – חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ.

This distinction doesn’t diminish the value of secular knowledge or the contributions of those outside the Jewish world. Instead, it highlights the unique nature of Torah wisdom as a divine revelation that offers not just knowledge but a comprehensive way of understanding the world, guiding ethical behavior, and connecting with the divine, integrating spiritual insights, moral guidance, and a deep sense of purpose.

At this point, it is statistically evident that the Jewish People feature disproportionately among Nobel prize-winning scientists; there is something about our cultural practices that leads to outsized outcomes, something that makes us wise.

But something that has been clear for far longer is that while wisdom can be found globally, the Torah alone has been a source of values, morality, and spirituality that has revolutionized the planet – חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ.

It’s not an overstatement; apart from the obvious influences of Christianity and Islam that have conquered much of the world, the bedrock of the modern political theory in the West is also borrowed from the Torah. The notion that republics are the only legitimate regimes begins with the Torah’s institution of a constitutionally limited monarchy; the idea that the state should maintain an egalitarian distribution of property is mandated by the Torah through Shemitta and the Jubilee; the belief that if humans are free then they need a free society within which to exercise that freedom.

Greece and Rome were two of the jewels of classical antiquity, the height of civilization in their day, and two of the greatest in human history. And yet, for all their remarkable contributions, many of which still shape our world today, one of their main forms of sport and entertainment was the amphitheater, where people would take the family and meet their friends and buy tickets and drinks to watch slaves hack away at each other in a fight to the death. For everything Greece and Rome have in their favor, their glorification of brutality and oppression is disgraceful to decent people with ethics and morals who value peace and human dignity as ideals – Jewish ideals, the Torah’s ideals – חָנֵּנוּ מֵאִתְּךָ.

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חָכְמָה דֵעָה בִּינָה וְהַשכֵּל (ספרד: חָכְמָה בִּינָה וָדָּעַת) – with knowledge, understanding, and prudence

The blessing concludes with a progressive sequence of the acquisition and purposeful application of wisdom that is both deeply spiritual and intensely practical toward creation and fostering deeper connections within it.

Knowledge represents the foundational level of wisdom, the accumulation of facts and observations about the world around us – חָכְמָה. The word itself is a composite that can be broken down into its component parts, literally, the power of “what” – KOACH MAH CITE. The power of asking questions showcases the best of human curiosity and openness to what is behind what can be observed.

Understanding takes acquired knowledge and delves deeper, seeking to uncover the underlying principles and reasons – בִּינָה. It is the intellectual process of connecting dots, much like realizing the existence of gravity from observing an apple fall. Understanding is the domain of asking “why” and “how,” pushing past the surface to reach a more profound understanding of the mechanisms behind what we observe. This stage transforms raw data into meaningful insights, enabling us to grasp the complexities of the world in a more structured and enlightened way.

Connection is the culmination of this process, representing the connection or intimate relationship that results from applying our knowledge and understanding – דָּעַת. It is the word used to describe the intimacy between Adam and Eve; it is the deep, almost existential connection we forge with the knowledge we’ve acquired and understood. It’s the stage where knowledge and understanding are not just intellectual exercises but are integrated into our being, connected to conclusions and outcomes, and influencing our actions, decisions, and relationships.

The progression outlines a holistic approach to wisdom that suggests that true wisdom is not merely about collecting information or even understanding it in depth but about integrating this understanding into our lives in a way that deepens our relationship with the Creator, with others, the world around us, the people we love, and with ourselves.

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, חונֵן הַדָּעַת – Blessed are You, O Lord, Who grants us with knowledge

When we ask for the capacity to make the right decisions, strength of character, and the ability to follow through without excuses, we are seeking more than just favorable circumstances; we are asking to be endowed with qualities that define our essence. This is a prayer for internal transformation, for the wisdom to see the world through a lens shaped by divine guidance, and for the fortitude to act upon that vision with integrity and resolve.

Acknowledging that this wisdom is from the Creator emphasizes the recognition that our ability to discern, decide, and act rightly is not solely a product of our own making but a reflection of divine grace. It is a humbling acknowledgment that the best of our qualities and our most inspired decisions are also gifts and not something to take credit for and feel superior about.

In praying for God’s grace in granting wisdom, we admit our fallibility; we’ve all made bad decisions, and we count on divine assistance for improvement and learning. We pray not for knowledge as information but for wisdom as the capacity to practically apply that knowledge in ways that align with our highest moral and spiritual values and take us in the direction we hope.

A healthy mental composition and the ability to reason and think clearly are big blessings that should not be taken for granted. We pray to be more ourselves, more consciously, intentionally, thoughtfully, smarter, wiser – בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, חונֵן הַדָּעַת

Kedushas Hashem – Sacred Separation – Unlikeness

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אַתָּה קָדוֹשׁ וְשִׁמְךָ קָדוֹשׁ וּקְדוֹשִׁים בְּכָל יוֹם יְהַלְלוּךָ סֶּלָה: כִּי קל מֶלֶךְ גָּדוֹל וְקָדוֹשׁ אָתָּה: בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’ הָקל הַקָּדוֹשׁ – You are holy and Your Name is holy and holy beings praise You every day, forever. For a great and Almighty King— great and holy—are You. Blessed are You, Adonoy, the Almighty, the Holy One.

Intro

This blessing closes out the opening section of the Amida that corresponds to our ancestors. Aside from the overarching theme of our ancestors in general, there is also a specific blessing corresponding to each Patriarch in particular, each embodying unique attributes that laid the foundations of our spiritual identity – אלקינוּ וֵאלקי אֲבותֵינוּ. אֱלקי אַבְרָהָם. אֱלקי יִצְחָק. וֵאלק יַעֲקב.

We open with Avraham’s blessing, Avraham the first, for whom kindness was first and foremost, mirroring and tapping into the Creator’s predominant mode of interacting with the universe. We follow this up with Yitzchak’s blessing, the embodiment of strength or might, the manifesting of determination and resilience during the Akeidah, linking him to the concept of resurrection of the dead as a symbol of ultimate power.

This blessing praises God’s sacred separation and is associated with Yakov, who is identified with the traits of truth and beauty, synthesizing his forebears’ attributes, integrating kindness and might in harmonious balance, where the sacred finds expression in life.

Yakov is holy

In Moshe’s parting speech to the Jewish People, he comments that there is no one like the God of Yeshurun, a term of endearment for Israel associated with Yakov that highlights uprightness or straightness.

Our sages suggest an alternative reading: no one is quite like God, but who is? Yeshurun – that is, Yakov. The Midrash defends this reading by noting a comparison: God stands alone, and Yakov also stood alone at the river when he wrestled with an angel, a defining moment that led to his transformation into Yisrael – ויותר יעקב לבדו / ונשגב ה’ לבדו.

A common adjective or verb is a simple function of how language works. Two people can speak, but it doesn’t suggest they are similar! Moreover, the simple reading makes sense that there is no one like God, which we affirmed in the first blessing – מִי כָמוךָ בַּעַל גְּבוּרות וּמִי דומֶה לָּך.

Quite profoundly, our sages teach that the common terminology is not coincidental but intentional, inviting us to consider an association between the Creator and our ancestor Yakov; the Creator is unparalleled and is entirely alone and unique, but so is Yakov in many respects, both in his experiences and in his spiritual journey.

There is one particular sense in which Yakov stands alone that marks a point of departure from his fathers and enables the bold claim of the Midrash. In the narratives of our ancestors, the chapters of Yishmael and Esau serve as narrative counterpoints to the archetypes of our ancestors, representing potential divergences from the spiritual ideals their fathers exemplified. In a certain respect, Yishmael and Esau can be seen as metaphoric husks surrounding the fruit, symbolizing the challenges and externalities that can envelop and obscure the core spiritual legacy.

The question of whether God creates spare or side characters in the form of individuals like Yishmael and Esau invites us to consider the broader purpose and potential within every human being and the complexities of spiritual development. The Torah portrays Avraham’s path as one of becoming a journey and uses fatherhood as one of the symbols of this theme. Initially childless, Avraham’s path gradually unfolds with divine purpose and transformation. The birth of Yishmael before Yitzchak is not a detour but a critical phase in Avraham’s evolution, symbolizing the trials, growth, and preparatory work necessary before reaching the point of readiness to father Yitzchak, the child of promise. Yishmael, therefore, is not disposable but plays a significant part in the narrative that shapes Avraham and the unfolding divine plan.

Similarly, the birth of Esau alongside Yakov is laden with symbolic potential and intention. Far from an extra, Esau represents a path that, while ultimately divergent from Yakov’s, carries its own lessons. Our sages suggest that Esau had the potential to be Yakov’s partner and might yet be; every individual is born with potential and purpose. Divergences from these paths are not indications of worthlessness but are integral to the human experience and spiritual journey; this teaching ought to shift our perspective of the Torah’s characters from being merely protagonists or antagonists to embodying the complex interplay of choice, potential, and the divine plan.

Regardless, Yakov stands apart from Avraham and Yitzchak in this regard. He established perfect continuity in the holistic and integrated spiritual legacy he left his children, underscored by his family’s adherence to his path. Yakov’s life and legacy distinguish him and suggest a direct, undivided transmission of values and divine connection, symbolizing the ideal of a seamless continuation, a culmination of the spiritual trajectories set forth by Avraham and Yitzchak, achieving a synthesis where Yakov distilled their core spiritual essence without any of their associated encumbrances.

Being Holy

The word “holy” means dedicated or consecrated to God or a religious purpose or sacred. It’s an abstract term that is hard to relate to in a modern setting.

When something is sacred, it is imbued with a sense of holiness, transcendence, or the divine. It stands in contrast to the profane, which represents the ordinary, mundane aspects of life. The sacred reveals an utterly different order of reality from that we encounter daily. It is characterized by its wholeness, its significance as being wholly other, and its capacity to provide orientation and meaning to human existence.

For religious people, an encounter with the sacred enables individuals to perceive the ultimate reality or truth, and the manifestation of the sacred establishes a fixed point, a center, the axis around which ordinary living revolves. Judaism has sacred times, like Shabbos and the Chagim, sacred spaces, like Jerusalem and the Beis Hamikdash, and sacred actions, like mitzvos. These sacred elements create a framework through which it becomes possible to encounter God, history, and the community in a way that transcends the mundane aspects of daily life.

A classic example in Jewish law is when someone sets aside an animal or contribution from their personal property, designating it as a sacrificial offering in the Beis HaMikdash. This act of separation transforms the object from the moment of consecration; this designation alters its interaction with the world, imbuing it with a sacred purpose that elevates its status long before the fulfillment of the holy purpose. This act is called consecration, and the formerly profane has now become sacred and holy, existing in a state of heightened potential that transcends ordinary use or function – מקדיש / הקדש.

A sacred object is not inherently inaccessible or otherworldly but is interwoven with the fabric of daily life; a consecrated sheep in a field is still just a sheep in a field but must be treated differently. Maintaining the sanctity of the sacred in the mundane world requires attention, responsibility, and reverence. To treat something holy in a profane manner is not merely a violation of a commandment but a profanation of the sacred itself; if someone were to shear the sheep for wool or slaughter it for meat, it would be a crime of embezzlement or misuse, disrespecting and desecrating the sacred- מעילה.

Unlike-ness – אַתָּה קָדושׁ וְשִׁמְךָ קָדושׁ

God is sacred; God is holy; God is separate.

The intrinsic nature of the Divine is a concept that transcends mere separation from the mundane or profane. In this context, holiness does not imply a hierarchical superiority but rather a state of being that is fundamentally different and inaccessible to human comprehension. This understanding of holiness challenges us to reconceptualize our approach to the divine and the sacred, not in terms of elevation or spiritual hierarchy, but as a recognition of the profound otherness and incomprehensibility of the Divine essence.

And yet, the Torah itself suggests that despite the infinite gap between Creator and Creation, the sacred is a tantalizing link that bridges a relationship between the Divine and humanity – קְדֹשִׁים תִּהְיוּ כִּי קָדוֹשׁ אֲנִי. At first glance, any comparison to God is paradoxical. What compares to the Creator?

Holiness cannot mean something entirely separate from Creation; humans are deeply integrated with and part of Creation, so any notion of human holiness must emphasize the potential to reflect divine attributes within the constraints of our embodied existence.

It suggests that our pursuit of holiness is not about aspiring to leave the human condition behind but infusing our very human lives with values and actions that reflect a commitment to something beyond ourselves. Rather than emulate the incomprehensible, this means acting with attributes and behaviors that align with the Divine will, such as justice, compassion, and integrity, sanctifying our lives and the world around us.

When someone detaches from the world, they might imagine emulating God. Ironically, the attempt to act like God feels satisfying but utterly fails. If it seems evident that our nature and God’s nature are different, the Torah nonetheless reinforces the difference between our holiness and God’s because there is a ceiling capping ours; as the very following words affirm, only God detaches like that – קְדֹשִׁים תִּהְיוּ כִּי קָדוֹשׁ אֲנִי.

The prophet opens the book of Isaiah with a lengthy rebuke in God’s name to a self-righteous generation that constantly came to the Beis HaMikdash in prayer and sacrifice, always careful to observe Shabbos and the holidays. But the prophet says that God was disgusted, sick of their performative holiness, that their spirituality was self-serving and not about serving God at all. It was entirely hollow, and God didn’t want it.

It’s easy to get caught up and obsessed with purity and spirituality; it’s a seductive and sinister pitfall because it feels like giving yourself up to God, with all the trappings of religion and spirituality. But the prophet saw through their actions and recognized the self-indulgence that underlay it all; his words stand for posterity and tell us today that spirituality can be as self-indulgent as any other vice.

Separate

The Creator is unique, wholly unlike anything we are familiar with, unlike anything we can experience or imagine – אַתָּה קָדושׁ.

And just the way the Creator is unique, the Creator’s names are unique as well, unlike the way names work in every other context – וְשִׁמְךָ קָדושׁ.

Typically, and especially in Hebrew, a name is more than a label and captures the essence of its bearer; in the Creation story, Adam names the animals, an act signifying not only dominion but a profound understanding of their inherent nature. God’s essence and name don’t conform to this principle; they are different from the kind of holiness or sanctity we are familiar with, fundamentally distinct, wholly other, entirely alien, and ultimately incomprehensible, not accessible to human cognition and language.

God doesn’t have a name in the conventional sense. Our sages teach that at Moshe’s first encounter with the Creator at the burning bush, he asked to know the Creator’s name, and the Creator declined to answer. Instead, the Creator offered a fluid identity, preferring to be associated with actions and deeds, a dynamic state of constant becoming.

God’s essence is beyond our comprehension, so the names and descriptions we use to refer to the Divine are necessarily limited. They do not describe God as He is in His essence but as we experience Him. This limitation of human vocabulary means that our language about God is always metaphorical or analogical, pointing toward the Divine without fully encapsulating it. This teaching reminds us that our understanding of God is ultimately shaped by our limited perspective; the sharp contrast to our lives, the utterly different order of reality that this touches upon, is what we call sacred – אַתָּה קָדושׁ וְשִׁמְךָ קָדושׁ.

The holy ones praise every day forever – וּקְדושִׁים בְּכָל יום יְהַלְּלוּךָ סֶּלָה

There is continuous, daily praise emanating from those considered holy.

It could be a reference to the angels, the righteous and saintly people, the Jewish People, or perhaps all of these. Whichever it is, it leads to the humbling realization that, no matter how earnest or refined, even the most spiritually elevated among us are faint and insignificant on the grand cosmic scale.

This opens up a key aspect of the divine-human interaction in general and prayer in particular. The significance of the praise offered by the holy ones is not found in the magnitude of their holiness but in the fact that God desires, loves, cherishes, and values this praise. It’s not the comparative size or quality of the praise or its source that matters, but the relationship it signifies, a relationship in which the Infinite chooses to engage with and delight in Creation in a way that transcends the vast differences in our natures.

This suggests that what makes our praise meaningful is not its ability to enhance God’s glory but its capacity to express the depth of our yearning and mutual desire for connection with the Creator, the longing of the created to touch the Creator, the finite to reach for the Infinite.

Filters

One of the defining features of the human experience is that when we encounter something we can’t understand, we have a natural predisposition to curiosity that leads us to attempt to figure it out. Faced with a complex puzzle, we will approximate and estimate as best as we can with analogy, metaphor, and narrative to get closer to understanding what lies before us; it’s not a limitation but a fundamental aspect of how we interact with the world.

So, for instance, we can’t understand the Creator, but we use human anatomy and emotions as metaphors to describe interactions with the divine that are beyond our full comprehension. God’s essence does not change; it is beyond time and not subject to the flux of states or emotions. Yet, in our attempt to grasp the nature of divine justice or interventions, we draw upon what is familiar as a close proxy for what we experience.

The proxy isn’t quite what it is but an attempt to describe what it is like.

In a certain sense, everything we think is great or sacred is filtered and interpreted through the lens of familiar concepts and experiences; our descriptions and analogies are filters through which we interpret qualities that lie beyond our direct comprehension. Every great person we look up to as a spiritual leader and role model, a source of wisdom and virtue that is otherwise beyond our direct understanding, has a lineage of teachers of their own, extending further and wider than we can imagine.

As R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch observes, Judaism’s heroes are not hermits on hilltops or scholars in ivory towers; they actively drive positive change in their communities by publicly living out the Torah’s teachings – צַדִּיקִם בְּתוֹךְ הָעִיר.

The teacher you have, the teacher you know, is great, is wise, is inspiring, is fantastic, is holy. That’s enough to understand the concept. The teachers you look up to and respect are not perfect, but they embody the paradigm of the sacred: the different order of reality they live for, the wholesomeness they live with, and the meaning and purpose they live with and teach. They are part of the community, in the community, but not too caught up in the petty parts of community life.

The people we look up to praise God every single day – וּקְדושִׁים בְּכָל יום יְהַלְּלוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Every day forever 

Forever isn’t a long time; it’s a concept that transcends time, something eternal, without end.

This sense of forever isn’t like that.

The word here is associated with the word for path – סֶּלָה / מסלה. The people who walk this path understand that our spiritual journey is an ongoing process of continuous movement, growth, praise, and discovery. You have walked this path; you are one of the holy ones.

This journey is inherently personal and unique for each individual, marked by different starting points, challenges, and rates of progression. The emphasis, therefore, shifts from the destination to the journey itself, where the act of moving forward, of engaging in this spiritual walk every day, becomes the essence of what it means to exist for always.

There is no state of perfection to reach, no endpoint beyond which there is nothing else to seek or to learn. What makes the difference is recognizing that the process itself, the daily steps we take on our individual paths, with all the bumps and scrapes, are what connect us to the timeless – וּקְדושִׁים בְּכָל יום יְהַלְּלוּךָ סֶּלָה.

Closing

בָּרוּךְ אַתָּה ה’, הָקל הַקָּדושׁ – Blessed are You, O Lord, the holy God.

In the first blessings, we have praised God’s might and power, refracted through God’s predominant attribute of kindness. This blessing concludes by blending might and power, kindness, and separation – הָקל הַקָּדושׁ.

(!ed Shlomo – this section needs work)

This touches on a key point in Jewish thought, the apparent contradiction of transcendence and immanence. If the Creator is totally separate and removed from Creation, how can the Creator also be deeply present and concerned with Creation?

The answer lies in how the Creator’s kindness is not like human kindness; it has an aspect of detachment and separation as well. The Creator can have deep and intimate engagement and involvement with our universe but can remain transcendent.

God is in the world, and God participates in the world, but unlike how we do. The world does not consume God; God is not immersed in it like we are. We cannot affect God, change God, or manipulate God. God is in the ugly moments and places, illustrating God’s ultimate separation and unlikeness. God can be amidst difficulty, evil, pain, and suffering and not be impacted by it. That’s separation, unlikeness—a part of and yet apart from. Together, yet detached.

We conclude the blessing with wonder at the complexity and depth of God’s might, in the ability to remain utterly holy and transcendent while also being the ultimate source of kindness, involvement, and care for Creation – הָקל הַקָּדושׁ.

Not so separate

In a military setting, a general would never fraternize with enlisted soldiers; it would be wildly inappropriate to violate the boundaries of discipline and respect, so both must maintain distance. When decision-makers form close bonds with the people whose lives are in their hands, it clouds their judgment and changes how they think, for better or for worse.

The Chasam Sofer critiques asceticism and the nature of spiritual purity, challenging a fundamental assumption. A monk who withdraws from the world, depriving his body of food, drink, warmth, companionship, or speech, may appear to embody a form of holiness through separation and avoidance of worldly temptation. There is a school of thought that espouses this view, but sanctity achieved through withdrawal raises the question of whether any form of mastery over one’s environment and desires has been attained.

Quite arguably, does it not show the exact opposite?

Is it more difficult to remove oneself from the temptations and trials of the world or to live within the world, experiencing its pleasures, challenges, and complexities, without being spiritually compromised?

Is it harder to fast, be silent, shut your eyes, and avoid the world? Or is it harder to eat kosher and follow all the laws, to speak to everyone you normally would without a word of gossip, and engage the world with your eyes open and look away from the negative influences that inundate us all? If the only way to show restraint is to withdraw from the world, you aren’t in control at all.

This reinforces how the sacred is not merely a matter of physical separation or avoidance of the profane but a dynamic engagement with the world in a manner that is both conscious and controlled, not inherently inaccessible or otherworldly but interwoven with the fabric of daily life. Living with sanctity, the world can be familiar but not indulgent, and we can enjoy what life has to offer without being dominated by it. Sanctity comes from the ability to navigate the complexities of life, making conscious, controlled choices that reflect spiritual values and discipline.

Judaism doesn’t ask us to pull back from the beautiful world the Creator made us or to neglect the incredible equipment we have been given to appreciate it; it asks us to engage but not indulge. Enjoy your food but in this way. Talk all you like, but not about that. Fall in love, but with your spouse. Judaism’s conception of holiness is control and mastery, not indulgence.

The measure of holiness is not in how far one distances oneself from the world but in how one can be in the world but not of it. This balance allows for a more challenging and meaningful sanctity, as it demands constant awareness, choice, and discipline. It represents a holiness achieved not through isolation but through the deliberate sanctification of everyday existence.

Our sages tell of Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi, a leading sage at a time of transition and upheaval. He was fabulously wealthy and had fresh fruit and vegetables on his table all year round in an era when importing was prohibitively expensive. Despite having fresh culinary delights daily, he swore that he never took an ounce of pleasure from this world.

At face value, this story makes no sense if holiness and sanctity are associated with abstinence and asceticism. But if they are associated with how to interact and separate from objects, control, and mastery, then it’s a far more modest and realistic claim; he could sit at a full table, make the blessings, partake, and perhaps even enjoy the food, but with no gluttony. He didn’t crave it; he wasn’t a slave to his desire. He could sit at a full table of fine food, immersed in an environment of materialism, and consume without being consumed, engaging with the material world in a way that was governed by spiritual values and discipline, utilizing it for blessings – קדושה.

Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi’s deathbed declaration highlights a path of holiness that is characterized by a deliberate and conscious engagement with the world. His ability to enjoy the world’s offerings without being ensnared by them illustrates a mastery over the self that is deeply rooted in spiritual awareness and discipline. This approach advocates for a life where the physical and the spiritual are not in conflict but are integrated, with the physical world serving as a vehicle for spiritual expression and growth; history has given him the title of Rabbeinu HaKadosh – the holy.

In Judaism’s conception of holiness, a righteous person is separate from and unlike other people in that the world does not suck them in. They can eat and enjoy a steak but don’t lust for it. They understand that food nourishes and sustains our bodies, giving us health and strength, and that flavor and texture are merely biological adaptations that reward us for taking care of our bodies. They have separated themselves from the other aspects of food.

(!ed Shlomo: following paragraph example is questionable for correctness and sensitivity)

Imagine hosting two guests, both recovering from alcoholism, unknown to you, and you offer them a drink. One of them gently refuses outright and states that he has overcome his alcoholism and no longer drinks. The other graciously accepts one drink and no more informing you that he has rehabilitated himself. The person who is more in control is, perhaps counterintuitively, the person who can moderate themselves to one drink without relapse. This is so difficult to do, which is precisely why it displays more control. When you can have one drink without indulging and getting consumed by it, that’s holiness, a mode of being unlike what is familiar.

In a certain, limited sense, that’s a reflection of how God interacts with the universe, intimately engaged with the world and its inhabitants the Creator’s presence permeates all of Creation, entirely unaffected by it – melo chal haaretz kevodo.

At the same time, the Creator will not be affected or diminished by this engagement; we cannot control, force, manipulate, or tamper with God in any way, and God can be present for the good parts and the bad parts kadosh kadosh kadosh / shochen btumasam.

This dynamic highlights a complex aspect of the relationship between the Creator and Creation. Even in the moments when life seems devastatingly harsh or unfair from our perspective, it is guided by a comprehensive vision that transcends human understanding; there is a plan. A healthy human will struggle to put the people they love through difficult times. It is challenging for a loving parent to stay the course when enforcing necessary discipline; how do you make your children sad when you love them and would give them anything to your dying breath? Where a human might crack under pressure or be swayed by emotions, God’s judgment and actions are informed by an all-encompassing perspective, God holds the objective, separate, macro view,  seeing beyond the immediate to the ultimate good that is often beyond human comprehension – הָקל הַקָּדושׁ.

This does not negate the pain or suffering people experience in any way, but it does offer a framework within which to understand the role of such experiences in a broader divine context. It suggests that God’s separateness allows for a kind of engagement with the world that is both deeply compassionate and fundamentally unswayed by the fluctuations of human affairs. God’s unique ability to be separate yet fully present in the intricacies of Creation invites us to recognize that every aspect of existence is enveloped within God’s overarching vision of goodness and purpose.

The Ohr HaChaim observes that Avraham and Yitzchak, identified with kindness and might, must overcome or dispel certain imperfections or challenges as part of the divine plan to pave the way for Yakov, the embodiment of truth. Each contributed essential qualities, but it was Yakov’s synthesis of them, in combination with his discernment of when to exercise them, that distinguished him as a person of balance and discipline; he embodied what was best in each of them, which allowed him to weather a life immersed in difficulty and loss, yet he was not consumed by it.

Where strict justice would require might or where kindness would require softness, Yakov’s characteristic of truth allowed for a detached, impartial, and more objective response to what the circumstances called for, calibrating a moderate path. He could be inundated with challenges and difficulties but could be detached enough to act properly.

There is a vast difference between helping and enabling; helping too much deprives individuals of the opportunity to learn, grow, and become self-reliant. The act of helping appears to be kind but does not align with the deeper truth of what is genuinely beneficial for the person in the long run.

The truth is that we need to face challenges. Learning how to do homework, study, budget, stay healthy, and develop skills is hard but good. The critical factor is balance. If you always do someone’s homework for them, give money to someone who spends irresponsibly, ignore or cover up bad behaviors, and shield someone from consequences, are you really helping them in the long run?

When people need help, you should help them. But if it ever gets to a point where they stop putting in the effort, it would be an inappropriate expression of kindness to enable them; they need to learn how to get by on their own, and a virtue has become a vice. The proper response is to ease the immediate strain and ultimately let them struggle until they succeed.

God can make our troubles disappear instantly and remove all disease, death, and financial problems in the world. Everyone could find their soulmate and have children, and no one would ever fight with their family. But that doesn’t seem to be the universe we live in, and it’s precisely because the Creator is kind yet detached.

The universe is a lot bigger than our personal wish lists. Beyond our own lives, God is concerned with the Jewish People’s future, the world’s safety and security, and the well-being of the environment and all its creatures, the solar system, the Milky Way, the smooth operation of the universe, and everything in it and how all the parts move together; the Creator’s separation and unlikeness is what enables kindness and connection.

It is axiomatic that we need to face our challenges, and we can only pray they are of the ordinary kind. The attribute of truth is how the Creator can be dispassionately detached from the local pain with no misplaced softness. Without being harsh or kind, our lives unfold in just the way they need to – הָקל הַקָּדושׁ.

You’re not better

There is a crucial distinction between negative liberty, the freedom from, and positive liberty, the freedom to. Negative liberty means freedom from restrictions placed on you by others; positive liberty means freedom to control and direct your own life, consciously make your own choices, create your own purpose, and shape your own life.

The trouble with negative liberty on its own is that we are inevitably enslaved to someone or something, even if it’s our conscious habits or subconscious instincts. Someone with negative liberty can do as they please, like someone on infinite vacation. They may have a good time first but will eventually become enslaved to some form of addiction, desire, or laziness. They aren’t free; they are lost. True freedom requires positive liberty and taking responsibility for yourself by committing to an idea or purpose, such as a diet and workout regimen for good health. However forced it may seem, making those choices is the highest expression of freedom, and you ultimately only stand to benefit in the long run.

The Midrash suggests that freedom not only exists in the responsibility of service to God, but it is also the only way ever to be truly free. When the Torah says that God carved the Ten Commandments, the Midrash suggests we alternatively read it as liberation through the Ten Commandments – חָרוּת עַל־הַלֻּחֹת / חֵרוּת עַל־הַלֻּחֹת. We earn freedom through the Torah’s framework by assuming responsibility for our lives and destiny. It’s an externally imposed responsibility to be more human, kinder, and compassionate, but it bestows ultimate positive liberty, freeing us from slavery to our worst inclinations.

God offers us positive liberty, the freedom to take control of our lives and realize our fundamental purpose. We can’t give anything to God, which means that we are the only beneficiaries of the relationship between God and us – it’s the only thing that allows us to be free because we can utilize our freedom to thrive, tapping into our highest and best selves and making our lives matter. God offers humans positive liberty and, through it, cosmic significance.

If we do not serve God, even if we have rid ourselves of all desires and possessions, it’s still entirely possible to be self-righteous and self-serving and truly believe they are holy and above it all. Yet King David would dance like a madman in front of the Torah, and when his wife said he was disgracing himself, he replied that the only disgrace would be if he didn’t disgrace himself before the Torah. He didn’t think he was too dignified or important to revel in the Torah celebration. Being able to let go of his self-consciousness and self-absorption demonstrated that he worshipped God, not himself, the ultimate expression of freedom.

It’s essential to be able to detach, even from your own self-image. When a person is arrogant, they are subservient to their self-image; they won’t do the correct thing because it’s beneath them.

Everyday holiness

R’ Elchanan Wasserman remarked that his teacher, the Chafetz Chaim, was a people person and loved to chat with his visitors. But for all the people he spoke to, for all the time he spent talking, he avoided the pitfall of gossip; he retained control and mastery of his speech.

It’s lazy and cliche to say the world is struggling with immorality and impurity or that our generation is bad and weak. Humans have always been human, and those things have always existed, the prophets had plenty to say a long time ago already.

But what is certainly true is that the modern world has gotten a lot more efficient. With abundant opportunities to indulge, endless waves of materialism, consumption, and instant gratification, it’s just too easy to be consumed. Has anything you could ever dream of ever been more accessible than right now?

In an era marked by unprecedented connectivity, the virtue of balance and tolerance emerges not just as a moral ideal but as a foundational pillar. Beneath the interconnected expanse lies a pervasive spiritual malaise, a symptom of our collective inability to moderate the very connections that bind us. This malaise manifests as massive overindulgence, an addiction to the ceaseless consumption of information, experiences, and materialism, leading us away from meaning and what matters.

It’s not foreign ideas, images, media, or substances in particular that are the issue, but a deeper, more insidious problem, the inability to disengage, to recognize when abundance turns to excess. The failure to establish boundaries and say “enough” entangles us in a stranglehold, stripping away sanctity and self-respect from our lives. It’s not a function of the world we engage with but of the relentless grip of unchecked desires.

The world needs holiness, and humans need the sacred. The spiritual practice of navigating the world with wisdom and discernment is what allows us to find balance in an age of excess.